The Pain of Fatherhood Being a father can be a profound source of joy, but it also comes with its own unique set of challenges and pains. From the sleepless nights and financial burdens to the weight of responsibility and worry for their children's well-being, fathers often face a complex mix of emotions. One of the most significant pains of fatherhood is the struggle to balance providing for the family with being present for every moment. Fathers may feel torn between working hard to ensure financial stability and missing out on precious time with their children. Additionally, societal expectations can place pressure on fathers to be strong providers and role models, sometimes making it difficult for them to express vulnerability or seek help when needed. This can lead to feelings of isolation or unspoken pain. Despite these challenges, many fathers find that the love and connection they share with their children make every struggle worthwhile. By acknowledging the difficulties and embracing the emotional depth of fatherhood, dads can build stronger, more authentic relationships with their kids and find greater fulfillment in their role. The pain of fatherhood is real, but so is the immense reward. Through openness, support, and understanding, fathers can navigate the complexities of parenthood and create lasting bonds with their children. JB WORLD

My Father's Day Tribute to every Father in this compound. Brothers, in this Father’s Day, stand tall in the 'quiet pride' of shaping souls. You are imprinting your character upon your children—a work demanding courage, not convenience. Feel the 'weight of your love': the strength to hold close and the wisdom to correct; the presence that anchors and the balance that elevates. May this holy calling ignite in you a 'fervent responsibility'—to shepherd them toward their divine purpose, under the gaze of God and man. Fatherhood is not taught in theory but forged in the fire of daily sacrifice. 'Trust becomes your anchor'. Lean into the Lord’s wisdom as you navigate uncharted waters—learning parenthood 'while living it'. Let your heart seek His guidance relentlessly, so your children emerge as testaments to your faithfulness: godly, unwavering, and ablaze with light (Proverbs 22:6, Matthew 5:16). You are not merely raising children. You are cultivating legacies. Walk in that truth.

*Dear parents and upcoming ones,,,* *What are the other alternatives for yelling?* Children who have a positive relationship and healthy communication with their parents often adopt good behavior and want to make their parents happy. while Yelling at a child is not the best way to correct bad behavior. Here are some other parenting strategies that may help: -- *Leave the conflict zone.* Stepping or walking away from the room for a few seconds can give you time to calm down, reassess the situation, and think about what can be done instead of yelling. -- *Recognize the triggers.* Yelling doesn’t happen out of the blue. It is usually a response to a specific behavior or stress. Self-awareness can help you make better choices and avoid yelling. -- *Encourage your child to express their emotions* . When your child does something wrong, try talking to them about their emotions and encourage them to share how they’re feeling. Doing this can help your child develop a respectful attitude and understand how you feel about their bad behavior. -- *Address bad behavior calmly but firmly.* When your child misbehaves, avoid saying hurtful things that could demoralize them. Maintaining eye contact with your child when talking to them about acceptable and unacceptable behaviors creates a strong communication bond. -- *Implement consequences and leave out the threats.* Children feel threatened when their parents yell or punish them. Instead of yelling when your child misbehaves, implement consequences for their actions. The consequences don’t have to be severe. They can be something simple, such as taking away toys, giving them a time-out, or reducing screen time. Always remember, whatever you do to a child he or she does not forget, will either impact them positively or negatively, and their tomorrow maybe affected too as well as their parenthood time. May God give you knowledge and guidance during your time and moments with thy family 🙏🏻💞

In 2019, 61-year-old Cecile Eledge from Nebraska made an extraordinary sacrifice by giving birth to her own granddaughter. Her son, Matthew Eledge, and his husband, Elliot Dougherty, had struggled with infertility and longed to start a family. After exploring various options, they turned to in vitro fertilization (IVF), and Cecile offered to be their surrogate, despite having gone through menopause. After thorough medical evaluations, doctors determined she was healthy enough to carry the pregnancy. The egg used was donated by Elliot's sister, while Matthew's sperm was used for fertilization. Cecile became pregnant and, on March 25, 2019, gave birth to a healthy baby girl named Uma Louise Dougherty-Eledge. Weighing 5 pounds, 13 ounces, Uma's arrival marked a deeply emotional moment for the family. Cecile’s selfless act allowed her son and his husband to fulfill their dream of parenthood, strengthening their bond in a truly remarkable way.

THE BEST WAY TO BE A FATHER 1. BE THERE: ✅The biggest failure as a man is having a child and rejecting that child, abdicating your responsibility as a father, being quick to have sex and quicker to run away when pregnancy comes. Too many children are hurting because of a father who is alive but has disowned them, it makes the child grow feeling unwanted and unloved, it dents the child's self esteem and some become adults with a constant feeling of rejection. If you have a child, be there; no matter how bad things are between you and the mother of the child- be there; you owe it to your young one. 2. TELL YOUR DAUGHTER SHE IS BEAUTIFUL: ✅The first man to compliment a girl should be her father, the first man to take note of her beauty should be her dad. A girl should grow up convinced she is beautiful and feeling like a king's princess that even when boys and men try to woo her saying she's beautiful she responds "I know, dad has been telling me that for years". Too many girls fall for preying men because they are desperately looking for affection, they have daddy issues and had no encounter with a male figure who genuinely loved them before the preying men noticed their boobs and hips; so they fall prey to men who use compliments and give attention as a carrot to lure to a trap that leads to hurt. 3. MODEL MANHOOD TO THE SONS: ✅A boy comes into the world as a naive student who will absorb what the male figures around him teach. He can be taught the right way to be a man or be misled. He learns how to treat females whether good or bad from the men around him. He should learn proper manhood from the father. The father should model how best to treat and respect females, how to love as a man, how to work, how to provide, how to be a man of integrity. 4. EAT WITH YOUR FAMILY: ✅ Food brings people together, one of the greatest show of security to a child is when the dad makes time to share meals. 5. BE THE SPIRITUAL LEADER: ✅ The father should be the High Priest. He should lead the child/ children towards living a Godly life, he should be seen praying, reading God's word, living out a Godly life, loving. The child should be given a Godly foundation that will shape a stable future and the father should be seen submitting to the God who gave the child life and who makes parenthood possible. 6. LISTEN: ✅ A child with a father who loves to listen grows in confidence. When a child feels he/she can tell daddy anything, no battle will intimidate the child. Sometimes you don't have to say much, just sit back and pay attention. The first need of love is to be listened to, to be treated like how you feel and what you have to say is important. 7. GIVE ADVICE: ✅ A father should be there to offer counsel whether solicited or not. Children cry for direction. As a father, be involved in the process of the seeking of answers. Be open about your mistakes, your childhood, your lessons and your expectations of the child. Give advice not as a dictator whose word is final lest you isolate yourself from the child because the child can do what you ask yet fear and despise you; but help the child understand why you are insisting on your way, help the child understand your reasons, train your child to think through solutions; this way, he/ she will grow up with the self-sufficient capacity of making sound and wise decisions. 8. BE PRESENT: ✅ The father's presence should be felt, too many fathers have left parenting to the wife. The best test of love is the giving of time, do not fail this test. 9. REFRAIN FROM THROWING MONEY AT THE PROBLEM: ✅ No matter how rich you are, fatherhood is not done by throwing money at issues. When your child complains of your absence, when problems arise, when dealing with your child becomes a handful and you feel you have no time; don't use money to silence or appease the child. Fatherhood is a hands on approach, it will not be easy but its fruits are sweet. Don't escape through your ATM. Material things can contain a child for a while, but soon the child will look around and see empty things but no love from dad. 10. SHOW UP: ✅ Make daddy appearances; show up at your child's sports day, birthday, parent's day, graduation or any other special day. Make random visits to what your child cares alot about even if for a few minutes. Meet your child's friends briefly, let your child feel daddy's loving eyes are watching over me.

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