DEFINITION OF EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE (EI)

Emotional Intelligence (EI) is the ability to perceive, understand, manage, and regulate one’s own emotions as well as recognize and influence the emotions of others. It involves self-awareness, self-control, motivation, empathy, and social skills.

Daniel Goleman popularized EI and identified five core components:

1. Self-awareness

2. Self-regulation

3. Motivation

4. Empathy

5. Social skills

High emotional intelligence helps individuals build better relationships, reduce stress, defuse conflict, and improve job performance.

50 KEY ISSUES ABOUT EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE (EXPLAINED)

1. Self-Awareness – Knowing your emotions, strengths, weaknesses, and drives.

2. Self-Regulation – Controlling or redirecting disruptive impulses and moods.

3. Internal Motivation – Being driven to achieve beyond external rewards.

4. Empathy – Recognizing and understanding others’ emotions.

5. Social Skills – Managing relationships and building networks effectively.

6. Emotional Recognition – Ability to identify emotions in oneself and others.

7. Emotional Expression – Expressing emotions clearly and appropriately.

8. Emotional Management – Keeping emotional reactions in check.

9. Impulse Control – Resisting or delaying an emotional or behavioral reaction.

10. Self-Confidence – A strong sense of self-worth and capabilities.

11. Adaptability – Flexibility in dealing with change or unexpected obstacles.

12. Stress Management – Handling stress without becoming overwhelmed.

13. Optimism – A positive outlook that helps overcome obstacles.

14. Emotional Resilience – Recovering from setbacks and emotional distress.

15. Conflict Resolution – Managing and resolving disputes constructively.

16. Active Listening – Fully concentrating and understanding before responding.

17. Non-Verbal Communication – Reading body language and emotional cues.

18. Building Rapport – Creating a positive connection with others.

19. Trustworthiness – Being reliable and maintaining integrity.

20. Self-Motivation – Initiating tasks and pursuing goals persistently.

21. Managing Feedback – Giving and receiving feedback positively.

22. Empathetic Listening – Understanding emotions behind the words.

23. Handling Criticism – Receiving negative feedback constructively.

24. Patience – Tolerating delays or problems calmly.

25. Influence – Persuading others while respecting their viewpoints.

26. Teamwork – Collaborating with others toward a common goal.

27. Leadership – Inspiring and guiding others with emotional sensitivity.

28. Emotional Detachment – Knowing when to detach emotionally for objectivity.

29. Personal Responsibility – Owning one’s emotions and actions.

30. Awareness of Others – Sensitivity to others' emotional states and needs.

31. Mindfulness – Being present and aware of emotions in real-time.

32. Emotional Triggers – Recognizing what provokes strong emotional responses.

33. Emotional Vocabulary – Using precise language to describe feelings.

34. Perspective-Taking – Seeing situations from others’ emotional viewpoints.

35. Emotional Contagion – Understanding how emotions spread in groups.

36. Mood Management – Maintaining a healthy and productive emotional state.

37. Cultural Sensitivity – Respecting emotional expressions in diverse cultures.

38. Boundary Setting – Knowing emotional limits and asserting them respectfully.

39. Dealing with Rejection – Handling emotional pain without collapse.

40. Balancing Emotion and Logic – Making decisions that respect both.

41. Compassion – Responding to suffering with understanding and care.

42. Apologizing Sincerely – Recognizing wrongs and expressing remorse.

43. Appreciating Others – Showing gratitude and valuing emotional contributions.

44. Emotional Coaching – Helping others manage their emotions effectively.

45. Emotional Maturity – Consistently behaving in emotionally appropriate ways.

46. Regulating Emotional Climate – Shaping group emotional tone positively.

47. Dealing with Toxic People – Navigating manipulative or overly emotional individuals wisely.

48. Encouragement – Offering emotional support to boost morale.

49. Handling Uncertainty – Coping emotionally with ambiguity and change.

50. Personal Development – Constantly working to improve emotional capabilities.

*Let the lessons of Good Friday guide your heart towards kindness.*

*Jesus gave His life for us today, let’s give our time to reflect on Him, learn to give our talent and resources in serving His Kingdom.*

*May your heart be filled with forgiveness, just like Christ’s.*

*Let’s remember the love that hung on the cross for us.*

*Good Friday is a reminder that even in pain, there is hope.*

*May this day inspire us to live with purpose and compassion.*

*Today we remember the one who gave everything for love.*

*May your faith be renewed and your soul comforted today.*

*Let’s carry the spirit of Good Friday into every day of our lives.*


*This Good Friday, may we all learn to love without limits.*


*Let today be a day of reflection, peace, and quiet strength.*

KIDDWAYA VISITS BSUTH, PAYS MEDICAL BILLS FOR THOUSANDS AND SUPPORTS UNDERPRIVILEGED STUDENTS

In a remarkable display of compassion and generosity, billionaire son and philanthropist, Kiddwaya, paid a surprise visit to the Benue State University Teaching Hospital (BSUTH) two days ago, bringing hope and relief to countless families in need.

On April 15, 2025, Kiddwaya, accompanied by his team, cleared medical bills for thousands of patients who had been struggling to afford their treatment. The unexpected gesture sent waves of gratitude across the hospital as patients and their families, many of whom had lost hope, finally found relief.

But his kindness didn’t stop there.

Kiddwaya also extended his generosity to the educational sector by offering to pay school fees for several underprivileged students at Benue State University. This move not only eased the financial burden on these students but also served as a powerful motivation for them to continue pursuing their academic goals.

Many residents and well-wishers have since praised the initiative, describing it as an inspiring act of service and a testament to Kiddwaya’s deep connection to his roots. For years, the philanthropist had spoken about putting Benue on the map, and through this selfless act, he demonstrated his commitment not just in words, but in action.

The visit has sparked renewed conversations about the importance of giving back to one’s community, especially among those with the means to do so.

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Compassionate and forgiving God, I'm sure you listened to Judas' and Peter's confessions of sorrow as you have listened to mine. Thank you for your love and patience with me and help me be a better person in the future. Amen.

A Scripture for us today

Lamentations 3:22-23 (NIV)
“Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.”

Henry Darby, a high school principal from South Carolina, took on overnight shifts at Walmart — not for himself, but for his students. He worked from 10 p.m. to 7 a.m., then headed straight to school, all to raise money for students struggling with poverty, homelessness, and other hardships.

He never asked for recognition. In fact, he tried to keep it quiet. But when his story came to light, it touched hearts across the country. Walmart donated $50,000 to support his mission, and countless others were inspired by his selfless example.

Mr. Darby reminds us what leadership really looks like — compassion, humility, and action. He didn’t just talk about change; he became the change.

Let’s all try to be a little more like Mr. Darby. The world needs more people like him.

Ayatollah Khamenei:
For what sin they were killed...

These unimaginable crimes show the true nature of the wolfish, child-killing Zionist regime. There is no cure for this but its annihilation and destruction.

Imam Khamenei
July 23, 2014

April 5th marks the Palestinian Child's Day, serving as a poignant reminder of the injustices they have endured for over seven decades.

https://english.khamenei.ir/news/11158

#Gaza #Palestine

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Why are sanctions becoming less effective?

Masoud Barati, author of The Economic War and expert in the field of sanctions

https://english.khamenei.ir/news/11602

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Today, nations [worldwide] are of course opposed to and object to the maliciousness being carried out by the Zionist regime, and they show their resistance in any way they can.

Imam Khamenei
March 21, 2025

#Gaza #Palestine

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Imam Khamenei’s message of condolence following the passing of Hujjat al-Islam wal-Muslimeen Nayeri, a distinguished judge of the judiciary

Imam Khamenei, the Leader of the Islamic Revolution, issued a message of condolence following the demise of Hujjat al-Islam wal-Muslimeen Nayeri, a distinguished member of the Judiciary and a judge who had spent his life serving the people.

The text of the Leader’s message is as follows:

In the Name of God, the Compassionate, the Merciful

I extend my condolences on the demise of Hujjat al-Islam wal-Muslimeen Haj Sheikh Hossein Ali Nayeri, an active member of the Judiciary and a judge who had served the people. He had served in the Judiciary from the beginning of the Revolution until years later, and he was the brother of two glorious martyrs. My condolences to his honorable family, friends, and colleagues. I pray for God’s mercy for him.

Sayyid Ali Khamenei
Farvardin 16, 1404
[April 5, 2025]

https://english.khamenei.ir/news/11603

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What people in West don’t know about Palestine; and what happens if they do?

Mojtaba Darabi, researcher and journalist

https://english.khamenei.ir/news/11604

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The remarkable movement of Iranian nation on Quds Day

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US proxy regime

Mohammad Ali Hassannia, expert in West Asia affairs

https://english.khamenei.ir/news/11599

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The West has shown that during these many centuries when they have spoken of human rights and such, they have only been lying. This war [in Gaza] has shown and proven this. No one talk about "Western civilization" anymore!

Imam Khamenei
Oct. 23, 2024

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Two days ago we celebrated mother's day, come to think of it who is a mother?

A mother is someone who nurtures, cares for, and provides love and support to a child. This can be biological, adoptive, or even in a chosen family dynamic. A mother isn’t just defined by giving birth but by the role she plays in a child's life—offering guidance, protection, and unconditional love.

Characteristics of a mother

A mother is often characterized by a mix of emotional, psychological, and practical qualities. While every mother is unique, some common characteristics include:

1. Unconditional Love – A mother’s love is deep, unwavering, and not based on conditions. She cares for her children regardless of their flaws.

2. Nurturing Nature – She provides emotional and physical support, ensuring her children feel safe, loved, and cared for.

3. Patience – Raising children requires immense patience, from teaching life lessons to handling tantrums.

4. Selflessness – A mother often puts her child’s needs before her own, sacrificing time, sleep, and personal desires for their well-being.

5. Strength and Resilience – She remains strong through challenges, whether emotional, financial, or personal, to support her family.

6. Guidance and Wisdom – A mother imparts life lessons, values, and knowledge, helping her children navigate life’s ups and downs.

7. Protectiveness – She instinctively protects her child from harm, whether emotional or physical.

8. Compassion and Empathy – Understanding her child’s feelings and struggles, she provides comfort and reassurance.

9. Dedication and Hard Work – Whether she’s a stay-at-home mom, a working mother, or balancing both, she is committed to providing a better life for her child.

10. Forgiveness – Even when children make mistakes, a mother forgives and continues to support them.

While these characteristics are common, motherhood looks different for everyone. Some mothers may express love through actions rather than words, while others may be more emotional.

What do you think defines a mother best?

Let's have your opinion on this

WHAT ARE THE RESPONSIBILITIES THAT COMES WITH YOUR RIGHTS AS A NIGERIAN

As a Nigerian, along with your rights, you also have responsibilities that help maintain a harmonious and functioning society. Here are some key responsibilities that complement your rights:

Civic Responsibilities
1. *Obey the Law*: Respect and obey the laws of Nigeria, including those related to taxation, traffic, and public order.
2. *Pay Taxes*: Contribute to the development of Nigeria by paying your taxes and duties promptly.
3. *Participate in the Democratic Process*: Exercise your right to vote, participate in public debates, and engage with your elected representatives.
4. *Respect Public Institutions*: Treat public institutions, such as courts, schools, and hospitals, with respect and dignity.

Social Responsibilities
1. *Respect the Rights of Others*: Recognize and respect the rights and freedoms of fellow Nigerians, including those from different ethnic, religious, or cultural backgrounds.
2. *Promote National Unity*: Foster a sense of national unity and cohesion by embracing Nigeria's diversity and promoting peaceful coexistence.
3. *Protect the Environment*: Contribute to the preservation and protection of Nigeria's natural resources and environment.
4. *Support Vulnerable Groups*: Show compassion and support for vulnerable groups, such as children, women, and people with disabilities.

Personal Responsibilities
1. *Be a Good Neighbor*: Maintain good relationships with your neighbors and contribute to the well-being of your community.
2. *Take Care of Your Health*: Prioritize your physical and mental health by adopting healthy habits and seeking medical attention when necessary.
3. *Pursue Personal Development*: Continuously seek knowledge, skills, and personal growth to enhance your contributions to society.
4. *Be Accountable*: Take responsibility for your actions, apologize when necessary, and make amends for any harm caused.

Community Responsibilities
1. *Participate in Community Development*: Contribute to the development of your community through volunteer work, community service, or participation in local initiatives.
2. *Support Local Institutions*: Strengthen local institutions, such as schools, hospitals, and community centers, by providing resources, expertise, or volunteer services.
3. *Foster Community Cohesion*: Promote social cohesion and inclusivity within your community by organizing or participating in community events and activities.
4. *Protect Community Resources*: Help protect community resources, such as public facilities, parks, and natural resources, for future generations.

By embracing these responsibilities, you'll not only exercise your rights but also contribute to the well-being and prosperity of Nigeria.

Welcome to April

As you step into this new month, let each day be a reminder to reflect on your actions and align your life with your core values. Embrace every challenge as an opportunity to grow in wisdom and strength. May you learn from past mistakes, cultivate compassion, and nurture the discipline needed to forge a path of integrity. Let self-awareness and honest introspection guide your decisions, transforming every setback into a stepping stone toward a better you.

In the spirit of progress and renewal, may this month be a call to commit to your personal journey of improvement. Seek out the lessons in every experience, and allow patience and perseverance to shape your actions. Let your heart remain open to change and your mind receptive to growth, knowing that each day offers a new chance to honor your true self and to uplift those around you.
Happy New Month

A youngster asked his grandfather -
"Grandpa! How did you people live before with -

No technology
No aeroplanes
No internet
No computers
No dramas
No TVs
No aircons
No cars
No mobile phones?"

Grandpa replied:
"Just like how your generation live today -

No prayers
No compassion
No honor
No respect
No character
No shame
No modesty"

We,
the people born between 1950-1970, or by extension 1977-1986.
are really the blessed ones ...

Our life is living proof.

While playing and riding "rented" bicycles in our youth,
we never wore helmets.

After school,
we played until dusk; we never watched TV.

We played with real friends,
not internet friends.

If we ever felt thirsty,
we drank public tap water not bottled water.

We never got ill sharing the same glass of juice with four friends.

We never gained weight eating plates of rice and eba everyday.

Nothing happened to our feet despite roaming barefoot.
Very few had shoes !.

We never used any vitamin supplements to keep ourselves healthy.

We used to create our own toys and play with them.

Most parents were not rich. They gave love .. not worldly material things.

We never had cellphones, DVDs, play station, XBox, video games, personal computers, internet, chat -
but we had real friends.

We visited our friend's home uninvited and enjoyed their meals with them.

We holidayed with relations & Relatives lived close by, so family time was enjoyed.

We may have been priviledged to appear in black and white photos but you can find colourful memories in those photographs.

We are a unique and most understanding generation,
because we may be the last generation who respected & listened to our own parents.

AND also the first generation who have to listen to their own children.

We are a LIMITED edition !
Enjoy us.
Learn from us.
Treasure us.

My mission in life is not merely to survive,but to thrive and to do so with some passion,some compassion,some humor, and some style....and that is the best way to live an honorable life.