"Effort and courage are not enough, without purpose and direction."!!!

25 SURE SIGNS YOU ARE READY FOR MARRIAGE


Marriage is not for boys and girls. It’s for adults—emotionally, spiritually, mentally, and financially. Many people walk into marriage unprepared and end up walking out confused. So before you say “I do,” here are 25 signs that you are truly ready for a lifelong commitment:

1. You are emotionally stable.
You're not ruled by anger, lust, jealousy, or insecurity. You know how to express emotions in healthy ways.

2. You’ve dropped d€structive habits.
You no longer struggle with addictions, irresponsibility, or patterns that could damage your future home.

3. You have a strong spiritual foundation.
You can hear God's voice, discern His will, and walk in obedience.

4. You are mature in age and mindset.
Ladies, you’re at least 23. Men, you’re at least 25. Not just biologically grown but mentally mature.

5. You are financially responsible.
You have a job, a business, or steady income that can sustain you and a family.

6. You live independently.
As a man, you don’t live off your parents. You pay your own bills and live in your own space.

7. You know how to care for others.
As a woman, you can manage yourself and others with joy—not with stress or complaints.

8. You love children.
You don’t just tolerate kids; you look forward to nurturing the next generation.

9. You’re domestically skilled.
Cooking, cleaning, and organizing are not strange to you—they’re part of your daily life.

10. You can thrive far from your family.
You're not emotionally dependent on mummy and daddy to function or make decisions.

11. You take full responsibility for your life.
You own your choices and can deal with the consequences maturely.

12. You are not controlled by your parents.
You honor them, but your life isn't dictated by their preferences.

13. You don’t yield to peer pressure.
You do what's right, even when it's unpopular.

14. You’re $exually disciplined.
You can say NO to premarital $ex—not because you’re forced, but because you value purity.

15. You honor authority.
Ladies, you're respectful and submissive—not just to a man, but to God and legitimate authority.

16. You respect women.
Men, you love your mother, honor your sisters, and treat every woman with dignity.

17. You understand money.
You know how to earn, save, invest, and manage finances without being reckless.

18. You are generous and kind.
You give with joy—not grudgingly. You're not stingy with your time, love, or money.

19. You are faithful.
You're not dating two or three people “just in case.” You're loyal and intentional.

20. You are purpose-driven.
You know what God has called you to do, and you’re taking steps daily to get there.

21. You desire to build others.
You're not just looking for someone to make you happy—you want to help your spouse fulfill destiny.

22. You have control over your $ex drive.
Your body doesn't control you—you control your body.

23. You have healed from past relationships.
You’re not bitter, wounded, or suspicious. You’ve forgiven, grown, and moved forward.

24. You’re willing to learn and grow.
You’re teachable, open to correction, and you seek wise counsel.

25. You understand that marriage is ministry.
You see marriage as a place to serve, grow, and honor God—not just to be loved or have sex.

Marriage is not an emergency. It’s a journey that requires maturity—physical, emotional, spiritual, financial, and psychological. Don’t rush into it because of pressure, age, or loneliness.

Wait until you’re ready. You’ll thank yourself later.

May God grant you the wisdom to prepare and the grace to build a godly home when the time comes.

Share this with a single friend who’s serious about preparing for a purposeful marriage

STRATEGIC VISION

Do you notice that some words sound louder than others in your conscious awareness? Different seasons require different things. In summer, it brings warm temperatures, which means you must do different things than in winter, affecting many of your activities and clothing. The environment influences behaviour based on factors outside of your control; however, you need to adapt to make things work better. You won't grab a winter coat or prepare for frost, as the season doesn't demand that of you. Instead, you will adjust other patterns of behaviour accordingly. That word resonates outside of yourself, but your inner conditions and how you navigate must coexist with the environment. This might seem like a minor strategy we don't think much about; we simply adapt.

It is so normalised to do what is required; if not, we would face many consequences. Because the environment demands that we adapt, we are inherently equipped to adjust to life situations using laws and principles from a critical mind. How much more should we train this part of our mind to think strategically in resolving problems? Sometimes, it isn’t the first idea that comes to mind; we need to teach our minds to think critically.

One way to develop your mind to think strategically is to start with a small problem you might see around you, such as environment design, to help your habits align with living a high-yielding lifestyle or using your time wisely knowing when your energy levels are at their peak for tasks that might not otherwise suit you. When do you have less mental or physical energy? When is your spirit alert? Is it only at certain times? How can you become more sensitive to these shifts? When is the best time to convert your spiritual or mental energy into the outcomes you want to create in your life? Have you taken the time to plan specific tasks? What subjects will you focus on?

An unplanned life is like having the wrong clothing in your wardrobe for the season or having no firewood and freezing at sub-zero temperatures because there was no preparation. If you want to use time more productively, it’s better to sit down and allocate a couple of hours a week to prepare exactly what you’re going to target and when. Your targets should align with your purpose for creation. Was a dolphin made to fly through the air? Was a seagull created for the snow? Was an ant designed to live in human beds? Just by natural design, they fit in alignment with the vision the creator of their design put for them.
Yet humans have a free will we could spend three hours scrolling social media platforms we could laze in the sun we could seek out entertainment we could trade our time in the uncle Sam system to pay a mortgage or we could find the original blueprint for our life’s that we did not create but the creator of his creation does not make people to live for themselves he created them for himself and for his purpose.

Everyone, even Adolf Hitler, was created by God and for God, yet from his life story, we can see that he walked in alignment with an evil agenda that did not come from the creator of his design. This highlights a contrast between Mother Terrasa, who united creation with the creator and Adolf Hitler, who divided. What we must also observe is that the kingdom of light always unites and the kingdom of darkness always divides. Why am I highlighting this? It reveals that when we live out of alignment with our purpose, we are divided, as we are living in alignment with other attitudes of the heart, such as seeking comfort, satisfying emotional needs, or taking the lowest-yielding path of instant gratification. When we live in alignment with our purpose, we unite with God's will and practice delayed gratification, using the things that cost us our life, time, and resources to build the kingdom.

If there is a purpose for the garden worm, the caterpillar, the lightning, the sun, the soil, and everything that was made, how much more is there a purpose for every human being? Never give in to the delusion that you were created to sit in a church pew listening to someone preach until you make heaven, that is one of Satan's greatest deceptions he uses to stop the advancement of the kingdom.

Everything starts small, even your gifts and talents; they do not begin as fully developed, but rather as a word that may sound loud within your spirit. God has hidden so many capacities in us that you can only discover them through work. Einstein was obsessed and possessed by some ideas that never left his mind. I do not know the length of time it took him to discover the equation E = mc^2, which represents the energy equivalent of mass times the speed of light squared. The only reason I can write that equation is because Einstein passed through this world and did not yield to his flesh nature; he lived in a higher dimension, the mind. Yet, he tapped into a spiritual law that was hidden in nature; the only reason we cannot see into the dimension of the spirit could be explained by this equation. Yet right around us is another realm that cannot be seen on the material level because the faster you speed up energy and mass, the more it becomes invisible. Yet, we are dealing with two kingdoms: one that seeks to unite creation and one that seeks to divide it.

If we start with the book of Genesis and proceed to Revelation, both kingdoms are highly strategic. God had a strategy even before the fall. He created people to fulfil the path to the coming Christ. Satan started with a strategy but tempted Eve at the fall, just using words, images, and suggestions. Then he perverted God’s plan and will by causing Cain to murder his brother Abel. Right now, we are in a strategic era of the gospel of the kingdom being preached to all, nations and we all know that this vision will come to pass not because I said it, it is written, we are just positioned in the time of the dispensation of the calendar of God to fulfill his vision. The strategy of the church must be beyond the four walls into every territory and cause the light of the culture of heaven to unite creation with the creator by discovering our purpose for creation we bring godly alliances with man and God just by our obedience as God has given us grace and apostleship to fulfil this vision. What words are resonating loudly in your spirit, you hear, to reunite creation with the creator in time and space, connecting them to eternity.

Written by Rochelle White

IPOB PRESS RELEASE
9th July, 2025

RE: ANYONE COMPARING MAZI NNAMDI KANU TO A COWARDLY CONTENT CREATOR NEEDS PSYCHIATRIC EVALUATION

The attention of the Indigenous People of Biafra (IPOB), under the supreme leadership of Onyendu Mazi Nnamdi Kanu, has been drawn to an utterly deranged and disgraceful narrative gaining traction among the intellectually bankrupt, in which cowards and charlatans—masquerading from foreign comfort zones as so-called “freedom fighters”—seek to compare Mazi Nnamdi Kanu to a self-proclaimed content creator and certified coward.

Let us state it categorically: anyone foolish or mentally impaired enough to draw such a comparison needs urgent psychiatric intervention. Comparing the indomitable Mazi Nnamdi Kanu—who has endured extraordinary rendition, solitary confinement, torture, and a seven-year political and legal onslaught—to a coward who publicly denied Biafra in open court is the height of lunacy.

MAZI NNAMDI KANU STANDS FOR DISCIPLINE, SACRIFICE, AND INTEGRITY
Unlike criminals hiding behind the mask of activism, Onyendu Mazi Nnamdi Kanu has always emphasized discipline, non-violence, and moral clarity in the Biafra restoration project. His record speaks for itself:

He wrote and spoke against criminality in the name of agitation.
He personally instructed his lawyer, Barrister Maxwell Opara, to travel to Finland to convey his displeasure over the atrocities being committed in his name. The coward in question refused to meet him.
He issued a handwritten directive from DSS detention ending the Monday sit-at-home policy—but was brazenly disobeyed by those intent on profiting from the blood of Biafrans.
In yet another remarkable act of responsibility, Mazi Nnamdi Kanu invited Benjamin Madubugwu, his former co-acussed and cellmate in Kuje (2015–2017), to visit him at the DSS dungeon. The purpose of that visit was simple: to deliver a personal message to Biafrans, declaring that no Igbo person had a hand in his abduction and rendition, and that all forms of criminality in the name of Biafra are evil and unacceptable.
That message—like every other instruction from our leader—was deliberately ignored by these impostors and opportunists.

THE THINGS MAZI NNAMDI KANU FORBIDS — ALL VIOLATED BY A COWARD IN HELSINKI
Let the records reflect that Mazi Nnamdi Kanu publicly forbade the following acts, all of which were later carried out by the cowardly fraudster now desperately seeking attention:

No Biafran should form a government in exile.
No Biafran should form an army or armed group.
No Biafran currency should be printed or sold.
No Biafra identity card should be created.
No Biafran passport should be printed or circulated.
Yet this Helsinki-based attention-seeker, lacking discipline or ideological clarity, violated every single one of these directives while claiming to “fight” for Biafra. Biafra is not a fantasy. It is not a YouTube show. It is not a plaything for criminals and cowards who find joy in extorting their own people.

How can any sane person declare a “government” in a barbing salon in Helsinki without the consent of the people? Is this how revolutions are led? Is this what Biafran republicanism has been reduced to?

BLOOD ON HIS HANDS — AND HE BOASTS OF IT
The man being falsely compared to Mazi Nnamdi Kanu once boasted openly that he killed Ikechukwu Ugwuoha, the IPOB Biafraland Coordinator. Who does that? What manner of beast celebrates the killing of fellow Biafrans? That some gullible followers still fawn over such a coward is the greatest disappointment to our leader and all those who gave their lives for Biafra.

IPOB REMAINS WHITER THAN WHITE — CLEANER THAN CLEAN
Let it be known to all that IPOB has nothing to do with the so-called “Biafra Government in Exile.” We are not part of that criminal syndicate. We do not endorse or recognize it. We do not kill, extort, or run rackets in the name of Biafra.

The inability of the Nigerian state to sustain any legitimate charge against our leader, despite multiple amendments and desperate media propaganda, is proof of the purity of our struggle and the discipline of our leadership. The Kenyan High Court has already declared his abduction unconstitutional. And despite all the torture and manipulation, Mazi Nnamdi Kanu remains unbroken—because he is fighting a just cause.

Let the world understand that when the dust settles, Mazi Nnamdi Kanu shall speak again, and the enemies within and without shall be exposed.

Biafra is not a hustle. Biafra is not for cowards. Biafra is not content for clicks.

COMRADE EMMA POWERFUL SPOKESPERSON/MEDIA AND PUBLICITY SECRETARY FOR IPOB.

#FreeMaziNnamdiKanuNow
#BiafraReferendumNow
#SelfDeterminationIsNotCrime

“Let your afternoon be filled with purpose, not pressure. Progress, not perfection.” #larryB'spen

HOW TO BE POOR AND HOW TO GET RICH — The Choice is Yours
If after 4 years in a higher institution you’re still roaming the streets looking for a job, you need to hear this: you’ve failed—monumentally.
Let’s stop pampering mediocrity. We’re in a country where truth sounds like hate because too many people are emotionally allergic to accountability.
How do we explain that someone who studied Business Administration is now begging a secondary school dropout for job opportunities?
How do we have graduates of Agriculture going hungry, when food is gold?
Here's the bitter truth: poverty is not always a curse from the devil; often, it’s a system we’ve bought into with our mindset, our ego, and our excuses.
Let’s break this down:
1️⃣ Pride: The Graduate Mentality Trap
We want soft life. AC offices. Clean suits. Titles. But reality doesn’t pay you for your degree; it pays you for value.
Artisan jobs are dying. In 10 years, Nigeria may have no more plumbers, welders, painters—everyone is chasing office jobs. Yet, the ones creating generational wealth are those with tools in their hands and solutions in their heads.
Being a graduate shouldn’t stop you from picking up a skill. The world is changing, but are you?
2️⃣ Get-Rich-Quick Syndrome
Everyone wants to hammer, but no one wants to suffer.
There was a lady in my former church who kept disturbing me about venturing into tech because she heard I make good money. What she didn’t see were my 7 years of trials, the 2 years of no clients, the cancelled N2M deals, the sleepless nights, the rejections.
You want what people have, but can you handle what they went through?
Wealth takes time. 5 to 7 years of focused grind—minimum. Stop starting today and expecting harvest tomorrow. That’s not entrepreneurship; that’s fantasy.
3️⃣ Lack of Mentorship
We spend millions to learn how to drive. But who teaches us how to make money, live purposefully, or build wealth?
When Dr. Stephen Akintayo charges for mentorship, people cry scam. Yet they spend the same amount on phones, parties, and clothes. Poverty thrives where knowledge is undervalued.
Mentorship is not free—it demands money or service. But it shortens your journey by years. Find someone ahead of you and serve your way into wisdom.
4️⃣ The “Only Me” Mentality
We compete instead of collaborate. We want to outshine, not uplift. But the wealthiest communities—like the Jews—grow as a unit.
Africa needs to understand: teamwork will take you farther than talent.
5️⃣ Lack of Integrity
Our handshake is not worth a promise. We lie, we cheat, we scam—then pray for breakthrough.
We must return to honesty, accountability, and trust. You can’t build lasting wealth without a name people can vouch for.
6️⃣ The Mentality Problem
Survival Mentality: Just eating and breathing is not the goal of life.
Receiver’s Mentality: Always collecting, never creating.
Hunter’s Mentality: Eat today, die tomorrow. No long-term vision.
7️⃣ The Bandwagon Effect
You start what’s trending, not what’s purposeful. That’s why we have failed forex traders, half-baked tech bros, and abandoned POS kiosks everywhere.
Purpose is personal. You must find your lane, not just follow the noise.
8️⃣ False Priorities
We put all hope in:
God (without work)
Classroom education (without skills)
Government (without responsibility)
Faith without works is dead. Education without action is useless. Government without personal accountability is hopeless.
9️⃣ Mindset is Everything
Until your mind changes, your life can’t. You cannot carry a poor man’s mentality into a rich man’s future. Wealth starts from within.
Environment Shapes Destiny
Your location can limit your vision. Surroundings influence success. You can’t live in a dump and dream of a palace without mental relocation first.
Move. Change your crowd. Redesign your inputs.
Until you break these chains, you will remain exactly where you are: educated, frustrated, and broke.
The choice is yours.
Be poor. Or rise. Your future is not a prophecy; it’s a decision.

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Like this post
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HOW TO BE POOR AND HOW TO GET RICH — The Choice is Yours
If after 4 years in a higher institution you’re still roaming the streets looking for a job, you need to hear this: you’ve failed—monumentally.
Let’s stop pampering mediocrity. We’re in a country where truth sounds like hate because too many people are emotionally allergic to accountability.
How do we explain that someone who studied Business Administration is now begging a secondary school dropout for job opportunities?
How do we have graduates of Agriculture going hungry, when food is gold?
Here's the bitter truth: poverty is not always a curse from the devil; often, it’s a system we’ve bought into with our mindset, our ego, and our excuses.
Let’s break this down:
1️⃣ Pride: The Graduate Mentality Trap
We want soft life. AC offices. Clean suits. Titles. But reality doesn’t pay you for your degree; it pays you for value.
Artisan jobs are dying. In 10 years, Nigeria may have no more plumbers, welders, painters—everyone is chasing office jobs. Yet, the ones creating generational wealth are those with tools in their hands and solutions in their heads.
Being a graduate shouldn’t stop you from picking up a skill. The world is changing, but are you?
2️⃣ Get-Rich-Quick Syndrome
Everyone wants to hammer, but no one wants to suffer.
There was a lady in my former church who kept disturbing me about venturing into tech because she heard I make good money. What she didn’t see were my 7 years of trials, the 2 years of no clients, the cancelled N2M deals, the sleepless nights, the rejections.
You want what people have, but can you handle what they went through?
Wealth takes time. 5 to 7 years of focused grind—minimum. Stop starting today and expecting harvest tomorrow. That’s not entrepreneurship; that’s fantasy.
3️⃣ Lack of Mentorship
We spend millions to learn how to drive. But who teaches us how to make money, live purposefully, or build wealth?
When Dr. Stephen Akintayo charges for mentorship, people cry scam. Yet they spend the same amount on phones, parties, and clothes. Poverty thrives where knowledge is undervalued.
Mentorship is not free—it demands money or service. But it shortens your journey by years. Find someone ahead of you and serve your way into wisdom.
4️⃣ The “Only Me” Mentality
We compete instead of collaborate. We want to outshine, not uplift. But the wealthiest communities—like the Jews—grow as a unit.
Africa needs to understand: teamwork will take you farther than talent.
5️⃣ Lack of Integrity
Our handshake is not worth a promise. We lie, we cheat, we scam—then pray for breakthrough.
We must return to honesty, accountability, and trust. You can’t build lasting wealth without a name people can vouch for.
6️⃣ The Mentality Problem
Survival Mentality: Just eating and breathing is not the goal of life.
Receiver’s Mentality: Always collecting, never creating.
Hunter’s Mentality: Eat today, die tomorrow. No long-term vision.
7️⃣ The Bandwagon Effect
You start what’s trending, not what’s purposeful. That’s why we have failed forex traders, half-baked tech bros, and abandoned POS kiosks everywhere.
Purpose is personal. You must find your lane, not just follow the noise.
8️⃣ False Priorities
We put all hope in:
God (without work)
Classroom education (without skills)
Government (without responsibility)
Faith without works is dead. Education without action is useless. Government without personal accountability is hopeless.
9️⃣ Mindset is Everything
Until your mind changes, your life can’t. You cannot carry a poor man’s mentality into a rich man’s future. Wealth starts from within.
Environment Shapes Destiny
Your location can limit your vision. Surroundings influence success. You can’t live in a dump and dream of a palace without mental relocation first.
Move. Change your crowd. Redesign your inputs.
Until you break these chains, you will remain exactly where you are: educated, frustrated, and broke.
The choice is yours.
Be poor. Or rise. Your future is not a prophecy; it’s a decision.

If this message stirred something in you, do this:

Like this post
Drop a comment that says “I choose wealth!”
Share with someone who needs this brutal truth
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10 WAYS TO AVOID CHEATING ON YOUR PARTNER

Over the past week, issues about cheating has been on discus. People are discussing and arguing about the best way to treat their cheating partners. Some said, to divorce, others said, to cheat back and some are of the opinion that forgiveness is the best option.

There's a saying that, "Prevention is better and cheaper than cure". So, it's better to avoid and prevent cheating on your partner than to start looking for a way to handle cheating.

Many people have cheated on their partners unintentionally. They don't want to cheat but they fell into it unintentionally because they were careless and failed to be on the lookout.

1. Decide That You Will Not Cheat

Until you decide to do or not do something, you haven't started. Decision is the starting point of all achievements. Without decision nothing can be done. So, you must make this decision.

Even before you marry, you will have to make this decision that you are not going to cheat on your partner no matter what. Daniel in the land of Babylon purposed in his heart, he decided that he won't defile himself with the king's food. So, you too must decide not to cheat on your partner(Daniel 1:8).

2. Shut Your Eyes

After you got married or entered a relationship, you will keep seeing people more beautiful, handsome, richer, endowed and romantic than your partner and if your eyes are still open, the chances are high that you will cheat.

As a guy, shut your eyes against any other lady than your woman. As a lady, shut your eyes off every other man. King David saw a man's wife bathing and he lost all his senses. He slept with the woman and even kill the woman's husband! Close your eyes and look away(see 2 Sam 11:1-12; Job 31:1)

3. Avoid Sharing Your Problems With The Opposite Sex For Pity And Sympathy.

When I was in the village, there was this woman that was an expert in sharing her problems with the aim of securing pity and sympathy from people and as well as cash. Whenever you see her, expect one complain or another.

So, avoid sharing your problems with others especially the opposite sex for pity or sympathy. If it's not solution you're looking for, avoid the sharing stuff. Problems have a way of bonding people. You will become emotionally entangled.

4. Avoid Too Much Play With The Opposite Sex

Cheating doesn't just happen, it starts little by little. Little play here and little play with the opposite sex and before you know it, emotions are developing to the point it becomes uncontrollable.

Playing with the opposite sex while you're married or have a partner that you are in a relationship with is like when a lion and a goat is playing. You know what that means. Oga, that girl that whenever you see her, chemical reaction begins to take place in your body, the early you avoid her the better, the same is applicable to you, madam. You can't walk on fire and won't get burnt!

5. Limit Communication With The Opposite Sex

Communication is the blood of relationship, without communication relationship suffers. Communication fosters intimacy and understanding in a relationship. It keeps the fire burning.

So, limit communication with the opposite sex. When you don't have something really important to discus, avoid all those unnecessary discussions. It will lead to something else.

6. Be Committed And Devoted To Your Partner

When you're committed and devoted to something, you will have little or no time for something else, it will take your time, energy and resources. So, be committed and devoted to your partner.

When you're committed and devoted to your partner, you will have little or no time for someone else, you'll have time for your partner. Be Committed and devoted.

7. Think About The Consequences

As a married woman, what do you think will happen if your husband should catch you while you're sleeping with another man? Ask yourself the same question as a man, what will happen if your woman should catch you cheating on her? Think about it.

Also, think about the effect your cheating will have on your partner. Think about how heartbroken, devastated and traumatized your partner will be. Think about the lost of trust and confidence your partner will have for you.

Cheating can end your marriage. It can make your partner to commit suicide. You will lose the trust, love and confidence of your partner. Does cheating really worth all these? Think about it.

8. Avoid The Company Of Those That Don't Value Fidelity.

Proverbs 13:20 says that, when you follow the wise, you'll become wise and when you will follow fools, you shall be destroyed. Who you follow determines what follows you. Who you company with determines what accompanies you.

So, avoid the company of those that are not faithful to their partners, avoid those that don't respect their marital vows and and the sacredness of marriage. It's just a matter of time before you join them. Bad company corrupts good character.

9. Value What You Have

When you don't value what you have, you will treat and abuse it. When you don't have value and respect for your partner, you will cheat on the person. What you value, you cherish, guide, protect and care for.

If you value your partner, you will cherish him or her, you will care about his or her feelings. Place a premium value on your partner.

10. Love Your Partner

Love is a strong force that can either compel you to do or not to do something. When you truly love your partner, you won't like to cheat on him or her. The love will constrain you from doing such(see 2 Corinthians 5:14-15).

Remember : Let me stop here. If really you are serious about being a faithful partner, with these 10 points you are good to go. God bless us all.

. THERE IS PURPOSE IN YOUR PAIN,STRENGTH IN YOUR STRUGGLE, AND GRACE FOR YOUR GROWTH

Discover Your "Why":

Your "why" is the core reason behind everything you do—it's the foundation on which your goals stand and the source of true meaning in your actions. It represents the deep, personal motivation that fuels your dreams and ambitions, giving them life beyond just tasks or outcomes.

When you clearly identify your "why," you uncover the values, passions, and beliefs that drive your journey. This understanding becomes a powerful tool that helps you push through obstacles, stay focused when distractions arise, and bounce back stronger after setbacks. It’s not just about reaching a destination; it’s about embracing a purpose that makes every step meaningful.

Your "why" acts as both an emotional compass and a philosophical anchor. It links your daily efforts to your core principles and long-term aspirations, ensuring that your pursuit of success is not just effective but also deeply fulfilling and sustainable. In essence, knowing your "why" transforms your path into a purposeful journey of growth, resilience, and lasting achievement.

HOW TO HANDLE FIGHTS IN A RELATIONSHIP....✍🏾

1. Know that it is normal for two people in love to disagree, offend each other, fall short, or misunderstand each other.

2. Always remember how much you love and need each other. Remembering this will give you the incentive to resolve any conflict between you two. Don't throw away true love because of a passing storm.

3. Know each other's temperaments. If you are a hot-tempered person, tell your partner/spouse so that your partner/spouse will prepare incase you spark off. But work on your temper still.

4. Agree how to handle fights before fights emerge. A nation develops a constitution to guide its operation, partners/spouses agree on what to do to guide in relations.

5. Don't let the fear of fighting or disagreeing with your partner/spouse keep you two from confronting each other and expressing your feelings.

Too many are tired, bored, frustrated or angry in their relationship/marriage but pretend all is well because they are afraid of talking about heavy and uneasy stuff with their partner. Slowly their relationship/marriage collapses, you can't pretend for long.

6. Before you confront and blame your partner/spouse, analyze the situation and see if you have played a role in causing the problem.

7. When a fight between you two is approaching or something happens that inflames tempers, walk away, cool off. Don't talk in anger. Cool down then talk rationally.

8. Remember you are in the same team. Fighting your partner/spouse is fighting what you two have, which in effect is fighting yourself.

9. Avoid insults. Hold and control your tongue, hurtful words only complicate matters, once they are spoken they can't be taken back.

10. Don't be tempted to use the information your partner/spouse shared with you in trust to get your way. Don't use the secrets your partner/spouse shared with you to attack or intimidate your partner/spouse.

11. Don't disclose matters to a third party. Solve the matter the two of you. Don't gossip about the short comings of your partner/spouse to your family or friends. Don't air your dirty linen in public. Cover each other from outsiders as you two remain naked to each other.

12. Pray together. Prayer clears up the air, restores love and order, brings unity of purpose and reminds you that God is watching and you both are God's children.

13. When talking about the matter, fully talk about it, look for its root cause, lay everything on the table. A problem that is not fully addressed or understood will keep recurring.

14. Give each other a chance to speak. None should feel silenced.

15. Be mindful of your body language. You may not insult but your partner/spouse is paying attention to your body language. Don't sneer, click or show contempt.

16. Never use your child/children to settle scores in a cold war with each other. You are both loved the same by the child/children.

17. Conclude the matter quickly. The longer tension exists between you two, the more dangerous it grows.

18. Accept responsibility. Being mature doesn't mean you won't do wrong or fall short; it means that when you do mess you are wise enough to apologize. Say sorry if you are on the wrong, forgive when you are wronged.

19. Come up with a way forward to prevent the matter from happening again or from causing much damage in the future.

20. Hug. Kiss. Make up. Make love.

21. Laugh about it. Find comedy in your difficult times. No storm lasts always. You two will come out through it closer and stronger. Stay focused, your love is worth fighting for, not fighting each other.

HOW TO HANDLE FIGHTS IN A RELATIONSHIP....✍🏾

1. Know that it is normal for two people in love to disagree, offend each other, fall short, or misunderstand each other.

2. Always remember how much you love and need each other. Remembering this will give you the incentive to resolve any conflict between you two. Don't throw away true love because of a passing storm.

3. Know each other's temperaments. If you are a hot-tempered person, tell your partner/spouse so that your partner/spouse will prepare incase you spark off. But work on your temper still.

4. Agree how to handle fights before fights emerge. A nation develops a constitution to guide its operation, partners/spouses agree on what to do to guide in relations.

5. Don't let the fear of fighting or disagreeing with your partner/spouse keep you two from confronting each other and expressing your feelings.

Too many are tired, bored, frustrated or angry in their relationship/marriage but pretend all is well because they are afraid of talking about heavy and uneasy stuff with their partner. Slowly their relationship/marriage collapses, you can't pretend for long.

6. Before you confront and blame your partner/spouse, analyze the situation and see if you have played a role in causing the problem.

7. When a fight between you two is approaching or something happens that inflames tempers, walk away, cool off. Don't talk in anger. Cool down then talk rationally.

8. Remember you are in the same team. Fighting your partner/spouse is fighting what you two have, which in effect is fighting yourself.

9. Avoid insults. Hold and control your tongue, hurtful words only complicate matters, once they are spoken they can't be taken back.

10. Don't be tempted to use the information your partner/spouse shared with you in trust to get your way. Don't use the secrets your partner/spouse shared with you to attack or intimidate your partner/spouse.

11. Don't disclose matters to a third party. Solve the matter the two of you. Don't gossip about the short comings of your partner/spouse to your family or friends. Don't air your dirty linen in public. Cover each other from outsiders as you two remain naked to each other.

12. Pray together. Prayer clears up the air, restores love and order, brings unity of purpose and reminds you that God is watching and you both are God's children.

13. When talking about the matter, fully talk about it, look for its root cause, lay everything on the table. A problem that is not fully addressed or understood will keep recurring.

14. Give each other a chance to speak. None should feel silenced.

15. Be mindful of your body language. You may not insult but your partner/spouse is paying attention to your body language. Don't sneer, click or show contempt.

16. Never use your child/children to settle scores in a cold war with each other. You are both loved the same by the child/children.

17. Conclude the matter quickly. The longer tension exists between you two, the more dangerous it grows.

18. Accept responsibility. Being mature doesn't mean you won't do wrong or fall short; it means that when you do mess you are wise enough to apologize. Say sorry if you are on the wrong, forgive when you are wronged.

19. Come up with a way forward to prevent the matter from happening again or from causing much damage in the future.

20. Hug. Kiss. Make up. Make love.

21. Laugh about it. Find comedy in your difficult times. No storm lasts always. You two will come out through it closer and stronger. Stay focused, your love is worth fighting for, not fighting each other.