• HOW LONG SHOULD A COURTSHIP LAST?

    One of the top questions I receive from singles preparing for marriage is this:

    👉🏽 “How long should a courtship last?”

    Let’s talk about it—honestly, practically, and spiritually.

    FIRST: What is Courtship?

    Courtship is not casual dating or emotional experimenting.
    It begins when a mature single man, after prayer and divine conviction, proposes marriage to a woman—not for fun or trial—but with the clear intention to marry.

    Likewise, the lady must also have her own personal conviction before accepting his proposal. Courtship is not built on pressure, fantasy, or romance alone—it must be rooted in spiritual clarity and maturity.

    SEVEN AREAS TO PREPARE BEFORE YOU START COURTSHIP

    Before you even say “yes” or “let’s start a relationship,” you must be prepared.

    ❗️Here are 7 non-negotiable areas of personal readiness:

    1. Spiritual Preparation
    Give your life to Christ. If Jesus is not at the center of your life, He cannot be the foundation of your marriage. Without Christ, the storm will sweep your home away.

    2. Physical Preparation
    Marriage is not for teenagers or people still hiding under their parents’ roof. Be ready to leave and cleave—physically and emotionally. You need your own space.

    3. Financial Preparation
    Don’t enter courtship jobless or financially irresponsible. Learn how to make, manage, and multiply money. Love without money quickly turns sour.

    4. Emotional Preparation
    Heal from past wounds. Stop carrying baggage into your future. If you’re easily jealous, insecure, moody, or manipulative, work on yourself first.

    5. Mental Preparation
    Educate your mind for marriage. Read books, attend seminars, and gain godly knowledge about family life. Ignorance will c0st you.

    6. Social Preparation
    Can you relate well with people? Do you know how to communicate, resolve conflicts, and build community? You will need all of these in marriage.

    7. Moral Preparation
    Live a life of integrity and $exual purity. Self-control before marriage prepares you for faithfulness within it.

    A WARNING TO SINGLES: COURTSHIP IS NOT A SECRET AFFAIR

    If your partner says:
    “Don’t tell your pastor.”
    “Keep this from your parents.”
    “Let’s hide our relationship for now…”

    That is a red flag. Run.

    Healthy courtships are accountable, not hidden. Your pastor or mentor should be aware, and both sets of parents should bless your journey. Secrecy invites danger. Courtship is not a game. It’s a sacred preparation.

    SO, HOW LONG SHOULD A COURTSHIP LAST?

    Minimum: 6 Months
    Maximum: 2 Years
    (Exceptions: financial delay, parental objection, or health challenges.)

    Here’s why:

    Less than 6 months is too short to truly know someone. It’s risky.

    More than 2 years can breed temptation, compromise, boredom, or unnecessary emotional strain.

    Courtship should not be rushed, but it also should not be dragged endlessly.

    What Should Happen During Courtship?

    ❗️Deep and honest conversations about life, vision, and expectations.

    ❗️Pre-marital counseling with a trusted mentor or pastor.

    ❗️Family visits and open discussions about background, values, and boundaries.

    ❗️Prayer, fasting, and studying God’s Word together.

    ❗️Agreement on issues like finances, $ex, children, ministry, and more.

    Courtship is not a time to cuddle and go on endless dates.

    It is a time to discern, discover, discuss, and decide.

    Final Thoughts for Singles:

    Don’t chase a fast wedding; pursue a solid foundation.

    A one-month courtship can c0st you a lifetime of regret.

    A 10-year relationship doesn’t guarantee success either. It’s not just about time—it’s about truth, trust, and preparation.

    Spend more time praying, learning, and growing—before and during courtship.

    Marriage is not for the unprepared.
    Courtship is for the mature.

    🙏🏽 May God grant you wisdom, clarity, and success in your marital journey
    HOW LONG SHOULD A COURTSHIP LAST? One of the top questions I receive from singles preparing for marriage is this: 👉🏽 “How long should a courtship last?” Let’s talk about it—honestly, practically, and spiritually. ✅ FIRST: What is Courtship? Courtship is not casual dating or emotional experimenting. It begins when a mature single man, after prayer and divine conviction, proposes marriage to a woman—not for fun or trial—but with the clear intention to marry. Likewise, the lady must also have her own personal conviction before accepting his proposal. Courtship is not built on pressure, fantasy, or romance alone—it must be rooted in spiritual clarity and maturity. 📍SEVEN AREAS TO PREPARE BEFORE YOU START COURTSHIP Before you even say “yes” or “let’s start a relationship,” you must be prepared. ❗️Here are 7 non-negotiable areas of personal readiness: 1. 📍Spiritual Preparation Give your life to Christ. If Jesus is not at the center of your life, He cannot be the foundation of your marriage. Without Christ, the storm will sweep your home away. 2. 📍Physical Preparation Marriage is not for teenagers or people still hiding under their parents’ roof. Be ready to leave and cleave—physically and emotionally. You need your own space. 3. 📍Financial Preparation Don’t enter courtship jobless or financially irresponsible. Learn how to make, manage, and multiply money. Love without money quickly turns sour. 4. 📍Emotional Preparation Heal from past wounds. Stop carrying baggage into your future. If you’re easily jealous, insecure, moody, or manipulative, work on yourself first. 5. 📍Mental Preparation Educate your mind for marriage. Read books, attend seminars, and gain godly knowledge about family life. Ignorance will c0st you. 6. 📍Social Preparation Can you relate well with people? Do you know how to communicate, resolve conflicts, and build community? You will need all of these in marriage. 7. 📍Moral Preparation Live a life of integrity and $exual purity. Self-control before marriage prepares you for faithfulness within it. 🚩 A WARNING TO SINGLES: COURTSHIP IS NOT A SECRET AFFAIR If your partner says: ❌ “Don’t tell your pastor.” ❌ “Keep this from your parents.” ❌ “Let’s hide our relationship for now…” That is a red flag. Run. Healthy courtships are accountable, not hidden. Your pastor or mentor should be aware, and both sets of parents should bless your journey. Secrecy invites danger. Courtship is not a game. It’s a sacred preparation. ⏱️ SO, HOW LONG SHOULD A COURTSHIP LAST? 🟢 Minimum: 6 Months 🔴 Maximum: 2 Years (Exceptions: financial delay, parental objection, or health challenges.) Here’s why: 📍Less than 6 months is too short to truly know someone. It’s risky. 📍More than 2 years can breed temptation, compromise, boredom, or unnecessary emotional strain. Courtship should not be rushed, but it also should not be dragged endlessly. 📍What Should Happen During Courtship? ❗️Deep and honest conversations about life, vision, and expectations. ❗️Pre-marital counseling with a trusted mentor or pastor. ❗️Family visits and open discussions about background, values, and boundaries. ❗️Prayer, fasting, and studying God’s Word together. ❗️Agreement on issues like finances, $ex, children, ministry, and more. Courtship is not a time to cuddle and go on endless dates. 👍It is a time to discern, discover, discuss, and decide. 💡 Final Thoughts for Singles: Don’t chase a fast wedding; pursue a solid foundation. A one-month courtship can c0st you a lifetime of regret. A 10-year relationship doesn’t guarantee success either. It’s not just about time—it’s about truth, trust, and preparation. Spend more time praying, learning, and growing—before and during courtship. Marriage is not for the unprepared. Courtship is for the mature. 🙏🏽 May God grant you wisdom, clarity, and success in your marital journey
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  • Man's justice system says "ignorance is not excuse" but God's own says "The times of ignorance God overlooked" He's a merciful God
    Man's justice system says "ignorance is not excuse" but God's own says "The times of ignorance God overlooked" He's a merciful God ❤️ 🙏
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  • "No amount of evidence will ever persuade an idiot." – Mark Twain

    Twain’s sharp wit exposes the futility of reasoning with the willfully ignorant. This critique emphasizes the importance of open-mindedness for true understanding and intellectual growth.

    #Philosophy #Truth #Ignorance #MarkTwain #CriticalThinking #Wisdom
    "No amount of evidence will ever persuade an idiot." – Mark Twain Twain’s sharp wit exposes the futility of reasoning with the willfully ignorant. This critique emphasizes the importance of open-mindedness for true understanding and intellectual growth. #Philosophy #Truth #Ignorance #MarkTwain #CriticalThinking #Wisdom
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  • Ignorance is the reason we are disunited in this world, yes. But it disguises itself in form of religion, tribalism, sectarianism and anything that differentiates one group from the other. We are all the same in this world. We are all gifted and unique, unique in the sense that our area of specialization vary, yet we are one people. Perspective also matters because i may be seeing 9 while you're seeing 6. From another angle, another person will be seeing it as 1. meanwhile, we are looking at the same figure. Respect other people's perspective instead of arguing over things that can't be changed!
    Ignorance is the reason we are disunited in this world, yes. But it disguises itself in form of religion, tribalism, sectarianism and anything that differentiates one group from the other. We are all the same in this world. We are all gifted and unique, unique in the sense that our area of specialization vary, yet we are one people. Perspective also matters because i may be seeing 9 while you're seeing 6. From another angle, another person will be seeing it as 1. meanwhile, we are looking at the same figure. Respect other people's perspective instead of arguing over things that can't be changed!
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  • Pls take note

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    some will even call you or chat you on WhatsApp that you are eligible for loan with their company and you rush to give them your information .....this thing's are wrong

    Ignorance of the law is no excuse

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    Pls take note Palmpay and Opay don't give loan Opay partnered with Okash and sometimes with easimoney Palmpay partnered with Flexi Credit I hope you get it now, for those asking So when you see list of banks accounts attached to your bvn Pls visit each bank to close the account with them Yes, you have the right to close your account and no bank can deprive you of such right We nedd to be very careful with how we submitt our information out some will even call you or chat you on WhatsApp that you are eligible for loan with their company and you rush to give them your information .....this thing's are wrong Ignorance of the law is no excuse Abeg remember to buy my ebook as i dey promo for 5k only Contact Atanda on WhatsApp 08023235829 to get your own soft copy
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  • If you have any Loan app or ever used loan app on your phone before
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    Just know that you are in trouble

    The trouble may not surface today, but it will surely surface someday
    This are the list of loan apps that follows CBN directives and they are approved by CBN and you will never see them engage in defaming their customers

    1. Carbon
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    3. Branch
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    They will never defame you cos they have physical office and you can SUE them if the need arise.

    But you see others
    Especially those ones wey their app no even dey playstore
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    Somebody shout ONE CHANCE

    You are in BIG trouble for patronising them cos you have successfully submitted your information to dabaru ppu

    This is what will happen to you now or later

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    This is why you now hear cases like
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    Pls visit your bank today
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    To know if you are safe or not

    Ignorance of the law is no excuse
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  • If we bring not the good courage of minds covetous of truth, and truth only, prepared to hear all things, and decide upon all things, according to evidence, we should do more wisely to sit down contented in ignorance, than to bestir ourselves only to reap disappointment
    If we bring not the good courage of minds covetous of truth, and truth only, prepared to hear all things, and decide upon all things, according to evidence, we should do more wisely to sit down contented in ignorance, than to bestir ourselves only to reap disappointment
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  • _Sentiments may make us act in bad faith, and the fate of everybody and posterity is put at risk._

    *_If we can calibrate well our action, we will come out with attitude that will represent the expectations of majority._*

    _Every man must reflect the diversity of his experience and exposures, for the benefit and betterment of his immediate family and friends._

    *_Clearly, no one will claim total ignorance of what he wants and why he wants it, though the reasons may be selfish or general._*

    _When things are bad, there are victims and when things are better, there are beneficiaries._

    *_Remember, no matter what happens, your life is your call. What happen around you is your call, don’t lose guard, take charge._*

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  • *12 POVERTY HABITS THAT WILL KEEP YOU BROKE & IRRELEVANT AS A MAN*

    *Men — poverty isn’t bad luck. It’s a pattern. And the bitter truth is that most broke men are the architects of their own misery. Let’s unpack this like men:*

    2️⃣ NEVER LEARNING NEW THINGS
    If the last valuable thing you learned was in school, you’re already outdated. Men who refuse to evolve become relics. Self-education feeds the wallet — ignorance empties it.
    *12 POVERTY HABITS THAT WILL KEEP YOU BROKE & IRRELEVANT AS A MAN* *Men — poverty isn’t bad luck. It’s a pattern. And the bitter truth is that most broke men are the architects of their own misery. Let’s unpack this like men:* 2️⃣ NEVER LEARNING NEW THINGS If the last valuable thing you learned was in school, you’re already outdated. Men who refuse to evolve become relics. Self-education feeds the wallet — ignorance empties it.
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  • DUNAMIS SEEDS OF DESTINY A DAILY DEVOTIONAL BY DR. PASTOR PAUL ENENCHE.

    DATE: SATURDAY, 28TH. JUNE, 2025.

    TOPIC: SAVING THE PROMINENT WITH EXCELLENCE.

    SCRIPTURE: Ye are the light of the world. A city that is set on an hill cannot be hid. Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven. MATTHEW 5:14,16.

    THOUGHT FOR THE DAY: Not everyone speaks, and people listen; but when you excel, you become a voice that cannot be ignored.

    It has been confirmed that God is not willing for any soul to be lost (2Peter 3:9). It is not the will of God for the rich, the poor, the wicked, etc. to perish. Every lost sinner in hell is an irreplaceable loss to God. For every soul that is lost in hell, something inside God is irreplaceably lost. Why? Because God breathed into man the breath of life for man to become a living soul; and every sinner you see has an investment of the breath of God in them.

    Now, it is important to note that the rich and influential are a part of what we call the un-reached people group. You can easily preach to your classmates, neighbours in your neighbourhood, etc. but when was the last time someone sat a governor, a president, a senator, or a billionaire down, and preached to them? The rich, the influential, people on top are highly unreached by the gospel. And because the right people don’t have access to them, the wrong people connect them to the occults. But there is an answer.

    Now, how do we reach these people and bring them to the kingdom, so they don’t get eternally lost? They can be reached at the frequency of excellence and distinction. It takes the excellent to reach the prominent. Excellence and distinction in life give a person both voice and influence on earth. Not everyone speaks and people listen; but when you excel, you become a voice that cannot be ignored (Ecclesiastes 9:16). It takes people who are up to talk to others who are also up in life.

    Beloved, be angry with mediocrity. Ask God for help to do what it takes to rise to the top so you can minister the gospel to lost souls in high places.

    Remember this: Not everyone speaks, and people listen; but when you excel, you become a voice that cannot be ignored.

    ASSIGNMENT(S):
    1. Make up your mind to be stand out by excellence; build yourself to such a level that no one can claim ignorance of your relevance.

    2. Reach out to the prominent, people in authority and preach the gospel to them even as God helps you to function at their level.

    3. Pray for the salvation of lost souls including the prominent, those in authority.

    PRAYER: Lord, baptize me with the Spirit of excellence. Help me to reach out to lost souls that are unreached and let them be convicted by the power of the Holy Spirit, Lord in Jesus’ Name.

    FOR FURTHER UNDERSTANDING, GET THIS MESSAGE: The Profit of Excellence and Distinction Part 6

    DAILY BIBLE READING: Proverb 1-3

    QUOTE: Anywhere there is distinction, there is audacity. Culled from Be Wise & Rise! By Dr Paul Enenche.

    AMAZING FACT: Frogs can breathe through their skin as well as their lungs.

    PROPHETIC DECLARATION/WORD: The Lord en-grace you to rise to the very top in your life’s endeavours in Jesus Name.
    🍒🌽DUNAMIS SEEDS OF DESTINY A DAILY DEVOTIONAL BY DR. PASTOR PAUL ENENCHE. DATE: SATURDAY, 28TH. JUNE, 2025. TOPIC: SAVING THE PROMINENT WITH EXCELLENCE. SCRIPTURE: Ye are the light of the world. A city that is set on an hill cannot be hid. Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven. MATTHEW 5:14,16. THOUGHT FOR THE DAY: Not everyone speaks, and people listen; but when you excel, you become a voice that cannot be ignored. It has been confirmed that God is not willing for any soul to be lost (2Peter 3:9). It is not the will of God for the rich, the poor, the wicked, etc. to perish. Every lost sinner in hell is an irreplaceable loss to God. For every soul that is lost in hell, something inside God is irreplaceably lost. Why? Because God breathed into man the breath of life for man to become a living soul; and every sinner you see has an investment of the breath of God in them. Now, it is important to note that the rich and influential are a part of what we call the un-reached people group. You can easily preach to your classmates, neighbours in your neighbourhood, etc. but when was the last time someone sat a governor, a president, a senator, or a billionaire down, and preached to them? The rich, the influential, people on top are highly unreached by the gospel. And because the right people don’t have access to them, the wrong people connect them to the occults. But there is an answer. Now, how do we reach these people and bring them to the kingdom, so they don’t get eternally lost? They can be reached at the frequency of excellence and distinction. It takes the excellent to reach the prominent. Excellence and distinction in life give a person both voice and influence on earth. Not everyone speaks and people listen; but when you excel, you become a voice that cannot be ignored (Ecclesiastes 9:16). It takes people who are up to talk to others who are also up in life. Beloved, be angry with mediocrity. Ask God for help to do what it takes to rise to the top so you can minister the gospel to lost souls in high places. Remember this: Not everyone speaks, and people listen; but when you excel, you become a voice that cannot be ignored. ASSIGNMENT(S): 1. Make up your mind to be stand out by excellence; build yourself to such a level that no one can claim ignorance of your relevance. 2. Reach out to the prominent, people in authority and preach the gospel to them even as God helps you to function at their level. 3. Pray for the salvation of lost souls including the prominent, those in authority. PRAYER: Lord, baptize me with the Spirit of excellence. Help me to reach out to lost souls that are unreached and let them be convicted by the power of the Holy Spirit, Lord in Jesus’ Name. FOR FURTHER UNDERSTANDING, GET THIS MESSAGE: The Profit of Excellence and Distinction Part 6 DAILY BIBLE READING: Proverb 1-3 QUOTE: Anywhere there is distinction, there is audacity. Culled from Be Wise & Rise! By Dr Paul Enenche. AMAZING FACT: Frogs can breathe through their skin as well as their lungs. PROPHETIC DECLARATION/WORD: The Lord en-grace you to rise to the very top in your life’s endeavours in Jesus Name.
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