• A LONG READ

    How do we choose the people we fall in love with?

    The Romantic answer is that our instincts naturally guide us to individuals who are kind and good for us.

    Love is a sort of ecstasy that descends when we feel ourselves in the presence of a benign and nourishing soul, who will answer our emotional needs, understand our sadness and strengthen us for the hard tasks of our lives.

    In order to locate our lover, we must let our instincts carry us along, taking care never to impede them through pedantic psychological analysis and introspection or else considerations of status, wealth or lineage.

    Our feelings will tell us clearly enough when we have reached our destiny. To ask someone with any degree of rigour why exactly they have chosen a particular partner is – in the Romantic world-view – simply an unnecessary and offensive misunderstanding of love: true love is an instinct that accurately and naturally settles on those with a capacity to make us happy.

    The Romantic attitude sounds warm and kind. Its originators certainly imagined that it would bring an end to the sort of unhappy relationships previously brokered by parents and society. The only difficulty is that our obedience to instinct has, very often, proved to be a disaster of its own.

    Respecting the special feelings we get around certain people in nightclubs and train stations, parties and websites and that Romanticism so ably celebrated in art appears not to have led us to be any happier in our unions than a Medieval couple shackled into marriage by two royal courts keen to preserve the sovereignty of a slice of ancestral land. ‘Instinct’ has been little better than ‘calculation’ in underwriting the quality of our love stories.

    Romanticism would not at this point, however, give up the argument quite so easily. It would simply ascribe the difficulties we often have in love to not having looked hard enough for that central fixture of Romantic reverie: the right person. This being is inevitably still out there (every soul must have its soulmate, Romanticism assures us), it is just that we haven’t managed to track them down – yet.

    So we must continue the search, with all the technology and tenacity necessary, and maybe, once the divorce has come through and the house has been sold, we’ll get it right. But there’s another school of thought, this one influenced by psychoanalysis, which challenges the notion that instinct invariably draws us to those who will make us happy.

    The theory insists that we don’t fall in love first and foremost with those who care for us in ideal ways, we fall in love with those who care for us in familiar ways. Adult love emerges from a template of how we should be loved that was created in childhood and is likely to be entwined with a range of problematic compulsions that militate in key ways against our chances of growth.

    We may believe we are seeking happiness in love, but what we are really after is familiarity. We are looking to re-create, within our adult relationships, the very feelings we knew so well in childhood – and which were rarely limited to just tenderness and care.

    The love most of us will have tasted early on was confused with other, more destructive dynamics: feelings of wanting to help an adult who was out of control, of being deprived of a parent’s warmth or scared of his or her anger, or of not feeling secure enough to communicate our trickier wishes.

    How logical, then, that we should as adults find ourselves rejecting certain candidates not because they are wrong but because they are a little too right – in the sense of seeming somehow excessively balanced, mature, understanding and reliable – given that in our hearts, such rightness feels foreign and unearned.

    We chase after more exciting others, not in the belief that life with them will be more harmonious, but out of an unconscious sense that it will be reassuringly familiar in its patterns of frustration. Psychoanalysis calls the process whereby we identify our partners ‘object choice’ – and recommends that we try to understand the factors semi-consciously governing our attractions in order to interrupt the unhealthier patterns that might be at play.

    Our instincts – our strong undercurrents of attraction and revulsion – stem from complicated experiences we had when we were far too young to understand them, and which linger in the antechambers of our minds.

    Psychoanalysis doesn’t wish to suggest that everything about our attractions will be deformed. We may have quite legitimate aspirations to positive qualities: intelligence, charm, generosity… But we are also liable to be fatefully drawn towards trickier tendencies: someone who is often absent, or treats us with a little disdain, or needs to be surrounded all the time by friends, or cannot master their finances.

    However paradoxical it can sound, without these tricky behaviours, we may simply not be able to feel passionate or tender with someone.

    Alternatively, we may have been so traumatised by a parental figure, we cannot approach any partner who shares qualities with them of any kind, even ones disconnected from their negative sides. We might in love be rigidly intolerant of anyone who is intelligent, or punctual or interested in science, simply because these were the traits of someone who caused us a great deal of difficulty early on.

    To choose our partners wisely, we need to tease out how our compulsions to suffering or our rigid flights from trauma may be playing themselves out in our feelings of attraction. A useful starting place is to ask ourselves (perhaps in the company of a large sheet of paper, a pen and a free afternoon) what sort of people really put us off.

    Revulsion and disgust are useful first guides because we are likely to recognize that some of the traits that make us shiver are not objectively negative and yet feel to us distinctly off-putting. We might, for example, sense that someone who asks us too much about ourselves, or is very tender or dependable, will seem extremely eerie and frightening.

    And we might equally well, along the way, recognize that a degree of cruelty or distance belong to an odd list of the things we appear genuinely to need in order to love. It can be tricky to avoid self-censorship here, but the point isn’t to represent ourselves as reassuring, predictable people, but to get to know the curious quirks of our own psyches.

    We’ll tend to find that some ostensibly pretty nice things are getting caught in our love filters: people who are eloquent, clever, reliable, sunny can set off loud alarms. This is vital knowledge. We should pause and try to fathom where the aversions come from, what aspects of our past have made it so hard for us to accept certain sorts of emotional nourishment.

    Each time we recognize a negative, we’re discovering a crucial association in our own minds: we’re alighting on an impossibility of love based on associations from the past projected onto the present. An additional way we can get at the associations which circulate powerfully in the less noticed corners of our brains is to finish stub-sentences, that invite us to respond to things that might charm or repel us about someone.

    We get to see our own reactions more clearly when we write things down without thinking too much about our answers, catching the mind’s unconscious at work.

    For instance, we can deliberately jot the first things that come into our heads when we read the following:
    • If I tell a partner how much I need them, they will…
    • When someone tells me they really need me, I…
    • If someone can’t cope, I…
    • When someone tells me to get my act together, I …
    • If I were to be frank about my anxieties …
    • If my partner told me not to worry, I’d…
    • When someone blames me unfairly, I …

    Our honestly described reactions are legacies. They are revealing underlying assumptions we have acquired about what love can look like. We may start to get a clearer picture that our vision of what we are looking for in another person might not be an especially good guide to our personal or mutual happiness.

    Examining our emotional histories, we see that we can’t be attracted to just anyone. Getting to know the past, we come to recognise our earlier associations for what they are: generalisations we formed – entirely understandably – on the basis of just one or, hugely impressive, examples.

    We’ve unknowingly turned some local associations into strict rules for relationships. Even if we can’t radically shift the pattern, it’s useful to know that we are carrying a ball and chain. It can make us more careful of ourselves when we feel overwhelmed by a certainty that we’ve met the one, after a few minutes chatting at the bar.

    Ultimately, we stand to be liberated to love different people to our initial ‘types’, because we find that the qualities we like, and the ones we very much fear, are found in different constellations from those we encountered in the people who first taught us about affection, long ago in a childhood we are starting at last to understand and free ourselves from.

    The Counsellor
    A LONG READ How do we choose the people we fall in love with? The Romantic answer is that our instincts naturally guide us to individuals who are kind and good for us. Love is a sort of ecstasy that descends when we feel ourselves in the presence of a benign and nourishing soul, who will answer our emotional needs, understand our sadness and strengthen us for the hard tasks of our lives. In order to locate our lover, we must let our instincts carry us along, taking care never to impede them through pedantic psychological analysis and introspection or else considerations of status, wealth or lineage. Our feelings will tell us clearly enough when we have reached our destiny. To ask someone with any degree of rigour why exactly they have chosen a particular partner is – in the Romantic world-view – simply an unnecessary and offensive misunderstanding of love: true love is an instinct that accurately and naturally settles on those with a capacity to make us happy. The Romantic attitude sounds warm and kind. Its originators certainly imagined that it would bring an end to the sort of unhappy relationships previously brokered by parents and society. The only difficulty is that our obedience to instinct has, very often, proved to be a disaster of its own. Respecting the special feelings we get around certain people in nightclubs and train stations, parties and websites and that Romanticism so ably celebrated in art appears not to have led us to be any happier in our unions than a Medieval couple shackled into marriage by two royal courts keen to preserve the sovereignty of a slice of ancestral land. ‘Instinct’ has been little better than ‘calculation’ in underwriting the quality of our love stories. Romanticism would not at this point, however, give up the argument quite so easily. It would simply ascribe the difficulties we often have in love to not having looked hard enough for that central fixture of Romantic reverie: the right person. This being is inevitably still out there (every soul must have its soulmate, Romanticism assures us), it is just that we haven’t managed to track them down – yet. So we must continue the search, with all the technology and tenacity necessary, and maybe, once the divorce has come through and the house has been sold, we’ll get it right. But there’s another school of thought, this one influenced by psychoanalysis, which challenges the notion that instinct invariably draws us to those who will make us happy. The theory insists that we don’t fall in love first and foremost with those who care for us in ideal ways, we fall in love with those who care for us in familiar ways. Adult love emerges from a template of how we should be loved that was created in childhood and is likely to be entwined with a range of problematic compulsions that militate in key ways against our chances of growth. We may believe we are seeking happiness in love, but what we are really after is familiarity. We are looking to re-create, within our adult relationships, the very feelings we knew so well in childhood – and which were rarely limited to just tenderness and care. The love most of us will have tasted early on was confused with other, more destructive dynamics: feelings of wanting to help an adult who was out of control, of being deprived of a parent’s warmth or scared of his or her anger, or of not feeling secure enough to communicate our trickier wishes. How logical, then, that we should as adults find ourselves rejecting certain candidates not because they are wrong but because they are a little too right – in the sense of seeming somehow excessively balanced, mature, understanding and reliable – given that in our hearts, such rightness feels foreign and unearned. We chase after more exciting others, not in the belief that life with them will be more harmonious, but out of an unconscious sense that it will be reassuringly familiar in its patterns of frustration. Psychoanalysis calls the process whereby we identify our partners ‘object choice’ – and recommends that we try to understand the factors semi-consciously governing our attractions in order to interrupt the unhealthier patterns that might be at play. Our instincts – our strong undercurrents of attraction and revulsion – stem from complicated experiences we had when we were far too young to understand them, and which linger in the antechambers of our minds. Psychoanalysis doesn’t wish to suggest that everything about our attractions will be deformed. We may have quite legitimate aspirations to positive qualities: intelligence, charm, generosity… But we are also liable to be fatefully drawn towards trickier tendencies: someone who is often absent, or treats us with a little disdain, or needs to be surrounded all the time by friends, or cannot master their finances. However paradoxical it can sound, without these tricky behaviours, we may simply not be able to feel passionate or tender with someone. Alternatively, we may have been so traumatised by a parental figure, we cannot approach any partner who shares qualities with them of any kind, even ones disconnected from their negative sides. We might in love be rigidly intolerant of anyone who is intelligent, or punctual or interested in science, simply because these were the traits of someone who caused us a great deal of difficulty early on. To choose our partners wisely, we need to tease out how our compulsions to suffering or our rigid flights from trauma may be playing themselves out in our feelings of attraction. A useful starting place is to ask ourselves (perhaps in the company of a large sheet of paper, a pen and a free afternoon) what sort of people really put us off. Revulsion and disgust are useful first guides because we are likely to recognize that some of the traits that make us shiver are not objectively negative and yet feel to us distinctly off-putting. We might, for example, sense that someone who asks us too much about ourselves, or is very tender or dependable, will seem extremely eerie and frightening. And we might equally well, along the way, recognize that a degree of cruelty or distance belong to an odd list of the things we appear genuinely to need in order to love. It can be tricky to avoid self-censorship here, but the point isn’t to represent ourselves as reassuring, predictable people, but to get to know the curious quirks of our own psyches. We’ll tend to find that some ostensibly pretty nice things are getting caught in our love filters: people who are eloquent, clever, reliable, sunny can set off loud alarms. This is vital knowledge. We should pause and try to fathom where the aversions come from, what aspects of our past have made it so hard for us to accept certain sorts of emotional nourishment. Each time we recognize a negative, we’re discovering a crucial association in our own minds: we’re alighting on an impossibility of love based on associations from the past projected onto the present. An additional way we can get at the associations which circulate powerfully in the less noticed corners of our brains is to finish stub-sentences, that invite us to respond to things that might charm or repel us about someone. We get to see our own reactions more clearly when we write things down without thinking too much about our answers, catching the mind’s unconscious at work. For instance, we can deliberately jot the first things that come into our heads when we read the following: • If I tell a partner how much I need them, they will… • When someone tells me they really need me, I… • If someone can’t cope, I… • When someone tells me to get my act together, I … • If I were to be frank about my anxieties … • If my partner told me not to worry, I’d… • When someone blames me unfairly, I … Our honestly described reactions are legacies. They are revealing underlying assumptions we have acquired about what love can look like. We may start to get a clearer picture that our vision of what we are looking for in another person might not be an especially good guide to our personal or mutual happiness. Examining our emotional histories, we see that we can’t be attracted to just anyone. Getting to know the past, we come to recognise our earlier associations for what they are: generalisations we formed – entirely understandably – on the basis of just one or, hugely impressive, examples. We’ve unknowingly turned some local associations into strict rules for relationships. Even if we can’t radically shift the pattern, it’s useful to know that we are carrying a ball and chain. It can make us more careful of ourselves when we feel overwhelmed by a certainty that we’ve met the one, after a few minutes chatting at the bar. Ultimately, we stand to be liberated to love different people to our initial ‘types’, because we find that the qualities we like, and the ones we very much fear, are found in different constellations from those we encountered in the people who first taught us about affection, long ago in a childhood we are starting at last to understand and free ourselves from. ©️The Counsellor
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  • Believe in yourself, because there is nothing else you can do to make your life better.
    Believe in yourself, because there is nothing else you can do to make your life better.
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  • RED FLAGS: How to Shift From Low-Value to High-Value Activities That Leads to Money & Influence

    Many people are not broke because they are lazy, they are stuck because their daily actions are low-value.
    Low value actions or activities daily cannot lead to influence and high income.

    Here is how (10 strategies to apply) to shift from low value activities to high value, money making, influence building moves starting today.

    Most people wake up into distraction and hustle into nothingness.

    They stay “busy” doing what keeps them broke, obscure, and overworked.

    In this quick strategy content, I’ll show you how to restructure your daily life around high-value activities that actually lead to influence and income.

    This is not theory. I use this, and I have restructure the lives of hundreds of clients through this and more.

    Let's get started.


    1. Audit Your Day Like an Investor
    Write down what you did for the last 3 days.
    Categorize every activity into the following:

    $0 activity
    $10/hr task
    $100/hr move
    $1,000/hr decision

    Then ask: Why am I doing what’s keeping me small?

    Clarity before strategy.

    This will help you see where you are dedicating most of your time and energy that is either leading to zero impact or high impact.


    3. Identify Your Income-Triggering Activities
    Many people are clueless about this.

    There are only 3 that matter:

    1. Value Creation (what you produce, teach, or offer)

    2. Offer Placement (where/how you sell it)

    3. Relationship Building (clients, partners, mentors) Everything else must serve these three.

    Note: I am currently hosting Gentlemen of Impact, Influence & Income Summit.

    Day 1 was yesterday.

    Day 2 is today at 8pm GMT+1.

    Here is link for day 1: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vidm_X-6YWE&t=3s
    Zoom details to join for day 2 and day 3 at 8pm GMT+1

    Meeting ID: 883 5775 0906 Passcode: 0000

    Join the Gentlemen WhatsApp group: https://chat.whatsapp.com/HEH7vZ35YHO5nwnCJl66VY

    4. Combine “To-Do” Lists with “Power Blocks”

    I don't just have a to-do list. I have times within the day I block to focus on these core things. I put my phone on flight mode. I am writing this content during my block time.
    Stop reacting all day.

    Let's say you are in business...
    Design 3 Power Blocks per day:

    - Creation (content, product, value)
    - Conversion (DMs, calls, offers)
    - Connection (follow-up, networking)
    You’ll get more done in 3 blocks than most do in a week.
    Try it and come share your testimony (smiles).


    7. Put Your Value in Circulation Daily

    Post your value.

    Pitch your value.

    Publish your value.

    DM people about your value.

    Do something daily that puts your value in front of people.

    No circulation, no money.

    Visibility is a money magnet. You can’t get paid in silence.
    Comment "I hear you Sir."

    Free: If you want to elevate your value, download my free value ascension course for free here: https://stan.store/Joybert


    10. Make Boldness a Daily Practice
    Boldness is a skill and it’s profitable. One of my mentor taught me this.

    - Make the uncomfortable ask.
    - Show up when it’s inconvenient.
    - Sell before you feel “ready.”

    Your money will never grow beyond your courage.

    To read all the strategic actions click: https://javnyuyjoybert.substack.com/p/red-flags-how-to-shift-from-low-value

    Comment “High Value” if this challenged you.

    Dr. Joybert Javnyuy
    I Help Experts & Institutions to Extract, Package & Monetize Specialized Value | Book Me to Train, Coach & Speak |

    To read all the strategic actions click: https://javnyuyjoybert.substack.com/p/red-flags-how-to-shift-from-low-value
    RED FLAGS: How to Shift From Low-Value to High-Value Activities That Leads to Money & Influence Many people are not broke because they are lazy, they are stuck because their daily actions are low-value. Low value actions or activities daily cannot lead to influence and high income. Here is how (10 strategies to apply) to shift from low value activities to high value, money making, influence building moves starting today. Most people wake up into distraction and hustle into nothingness. They stay “busy” doing what keeps them broke, obscure, and overworked. In this quick strategy content, I’ll show you how to restructure your daily life around high-value activities that actually lead to influence and income. This is not theory. I use this, and I have restructure the lives of hundreds of clients through this and more. Let's get started. ✅ 1. Audit Your Day Like an Investor Write down what you did for the last 3 days. Categorize every activity into the following: $0 activity $10/hr task $100/hr move $1,000/hr decision Then ask: Why am I doing what’s keeping me small? Clarity before strategy. This will help you see where you are dedicating most of your time and energy that is either leading to zero impact or high impact. ✅ 3. Identify Your Income-Triggering Activities Many people are clueless about this. There are only 3 that matter: 1. Value Creation (what you produce, teach, or offer) 2. Offer Placement (where/how you sell it) 3. Relationship Building (clients, partners, mentors) Everything else must serve these three. Note: I am currently hosting Gentlemen of Impact, Influence & Income Summit. Day 1 was yesterday. Day 2 is today at 8pm GMT+1. Here is link for day 1: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vidm_X-6YWE&t=3s Zoom details to join for day 2 and day 3 at 8pm GMT+1 Meeting ID: 883 5775 0906 Passcode: 0000 Join the Gentlemen WhatsApp group: https://chat.whatsapp.com/HEH7vZ35YHO5nwnCJl66VY ✅ 4. Combine “To-Do” Lists with “Power Blocks” I don't just have a to-do list. I have times within the day I block to focus on these core things. I put my phone on flight mode. I am writing this content during my block time. Stop reacting all day. Let's say you are in business... Design 3 Power Blocks per day: - Creation (content, product, value) - Conversion (DMs, calls, offers) - Connection (follow-up, networking) You’ll get more done in 3 blocks than most do in a week. Try it and come share your testimony (smiles). ✅ 7. Put Your Value in Circulation Daily Post your value. Pitch your value. Publish your value. DM people about your value. Do something daily that puts your value in front of people. No circulation, no money. Visibility is a money magnet. You can’t get paid in silence. Comment "I hear you Sir." Free: If you want to elevate your value, download my free value ascension course for free here: https://stan.store/Joybert ✅ 10. Make Boldness a Daily Practice Boldness is a skill and it’s profitable. One of my mentor taught me this. - Make the uncomfortable ask. - Show up when it’s inconvenient. - Sell before you feel “ready.” Your money will never grow beyond your courage. To read all the strategic actions click: https://javnyuyjoybert.substack.com/p/red-flags-how-to-shift-from-low-value Comment “High Value” if this challenged you. Dr. Joybert Javnyuy I Help Experts & Institutions to Extract, Package & Monetize Specialized Value | Book Me to Train, Coach & Speak | To read all the strategic actions click: https://javnyuyjoybert.substack.com/p/red-flags-how-to-shift-from-low-value
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  • *Did You Know You Have a Second Heart in Your Legs?*

    Sounds crazy, right? But it’s true — your calf muscles are often called your "second heart"... and the reason is nothing short of amazing.

    Every time you walk, climb stairs, or even just stand up, those powerful leg muscles spring into action — squeezing, contracting, and pushing blood back up to your chest, fighting gravity the whole way.

    That’s right — your legs are literally pumping life back to your heart.

    And this hidden power does so much more than we give it credit for:
    Keeps your blood flowing smoothly
    Prevents dangerous blood clots
    Reduces swelling, varicose veins & that heavy-leg feeling
    Slashes your risk of deep vein thrombosis

    But here’s the catch Sit or stand too long? That “second heart” goes silent. Blood pools. Pressure builds. Trouble brews.

    That’s why every single step you take isn’t just movement… it’s medicine.
    Your body needs that motion — not for vanity, but for survival.
    Don’t wait for symptoms. Start walking
    🔥 *Did You Know You Have a Second Heart in Your Legs?*🫀🦵 Sounds crazy, right? But it’s true — your calf muscles are often called your "second heart"... and the reason is nothing short of amazing. Every time you walk, climb stairs, or even just stand up, those powerful leg muscles spring into action — squeezing, contracting, and pushing blood back up to your chest, fighting gravity the whole way. 💥 That’s right — your legs are literally pumping life back to your heart. And this hidden power does so much more than we give it credit for: ✅ Keeps your blood flowing smoothly ✅ Prevents dangerous blood clots ✅ Reduces swelling, varicose veins & that heavy-leg feeling ✅ Slashes your risk of deep vein thrombosis But here’s the catch 👉 Sit or stand too long? That “second heart” goes silent. Blood pools. Pressure builds. Trouble brews. 🚶‍♀️ That’s why every single step you take isn’t just movement… it’s medicine. Your body needs that motion — not for vanity, but for survival. ⚠️ Don’t wait for symptoms. Start walking
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  • Which one is harder for you?

    A. Letting go
    B. Being patient
    C. Staying consistent

    Drop your answer

    #LifeCheck #BeHonest
    Which one is harder for you? A. Letting go B. Being patient C. Staying consistent Drop your answer 👇 #LifeCheck #BeHonest
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  • Who Gave Arthur Eze Ozo Igbo Ndu Title?

    Prince Arthur Eze is widely celebrated and once honored with the title Ozo Igbo Ndu—“Savior of Igbo Life.” But does this title reflect the true economic impact of his business on Igboland? Who is he actually saving( Onye Ka Ona Azo)?

    Let’s look at the facts:

    Arthur Eze is a native of Ukpo, Anambra State.But his flagship companies—Atlas Petroleum International and Oranto Petroleum—are not located in Igboland.

    *The corporate headquarters is in Abuja (12 Chari Close, Maitama) While technical base is in Lagos (Lekki Phase 1). His companies operate across Africa, but not from the East, and there’s no known major office or industrial presence in the Igbo homeland.

    So we must ask; Can someone whose business contributes more to Abuja and Lagos than to Igboland truly be called Ozo Igbo Ndu?

    True economic salvation comes from those who build, invest, and empower directly within the region. Titles must reflect action. So i ask again , Onye Ka Ona Azo ?

    I am Awuzie Frankline - Just asking Honest question. Na God dey save my life now biko

    Who Gave Arthur Eze Ozo Igbo Ndu Title? Prince Arthur Eze is widely celebrated and once honored with the title Ozo Igbo Ndu—“Savior of Igbo Life.” But does this title reflect the true economic impact of his business on Igboland? Who is he actually saving( Onye Ka Ona Azo)? Let’s look at the facts: Arthur Eze is a native of Ukpo, Anambra State.But his flagship companies—Atlas Petroleum International and Oranto Petroleum—are not located in Igboland. *The corporate headquarters is in Abuja (12 Chari Close, Maitama) While technical base is in Lagos (Lekki Phase 1). His companies operate across Africa, but not from the East, and there’s no known major office or industrial presence in the Igbo homeland. So we must ask; Can someone whose business contributes more to Abuja and Lagos than to Igboland truly be called Ozo Igbo Ndu? True economic salvation comes from those who build, invest, and empower directly within the region. Titles must reflect action. So i ask again , Onye Ka Ona Azo ? I am Awuzie Frankline - Just asking Honest question. Na God dey save my life now biko 😂
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  • There is no door that mercy of God cannot open. As you rise up this beautiful afternoon, I pray for you and household All Angels of help and mercy shall rise up and work for you in Jesus name. Every door of blessings, joy, happiness, prosperity, salvation and good thing shut against you are opened for you now in Jesus mighty name.
    Your life will attract mercy and favour and you will find grace in the sight of God and men.
    Your story will change for good. Almighty God will give you a new song, the Lord will allow something better to come out of your present situation.
    The prophetic power that operated in the valley of dry bones will re-unite you with your lost glory, helper and joy in Jesus name. Every opposition you have been encountering in the past is forming a chapter of your success story in Jesus mighty name.
    Declare with me: O Lord, help me never to give up because of the political and economic situations in our nation. I will make it because God is by my side.
    Good afternoon and do have a glorious and peaceful
    Happy weekend.

    .
    There is no door that mercy of God cannot open. As you rise up this beautiful afternoon, I pray for you and household All Angels of help and mercy shall rise up and work for you in Jesus name. Every door of blessings, joy, happiness, prosperity, salvation and good thing shut against you are opened for you now in Jesus mighty name. Your life will attract mercy and favour and you will find grace in the sight of God and men. Your story will change for good. Almighty God will give you a new song, the Lord will allow something better to come out of your present situation. The prophetic power that operated in the valley of dry bones will re-unite you with your lost glory, helper and joy in Jesus name. Every opposition you have been encountering in the past is forming a chapter of your success story in Jesus mighty name. Declare with me: O Lord, help me never to give up because of the political and economic situations in our nation. I will make it because God is by my side. Good afternoon and do have a glorious and peaceful Happy weekend. 🙏.
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  • Gracious and Loving Father, in the hush of this moment, my heart reaches out to You in gratitude. You are the weaver of mercies, fresh with each daybreak, and my soul rests in the warmth of Your steadfast love. In the moments when I become ensnared by life's fleeting worries, guide me to the still waters of remembrance, where I can drink deeply from the well of Your past faithfulness.
    Amen.
    Gracious and Loving Father, in the hush of this moment, my heart reaches out to You in gratitude. You are the weaver of mercies, fresh with each daybreak, and my soul rests in the warmth of Your steadfast love. In the moments when I become ensnared by life's fleeting worries, guide me to the still waters of remembrance, where I can drink deeply from the well of Your past faithfulness. Amen.
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  • There is something l discovered in life , It's up and down
    There is something l discovered in life , It's up and down
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  • How to Show Love Without Words

    Actions Speak Louder Than Words

    Love is a language that goes beyond words. While verbal expressions are important, the most profound ways of showing love often lie in our actions. Sometimes, your gestures, attention, and thoughtfulness can speak volumes about your feelings, building a deeper connection with your partner. Here’s how you can express love without saying a single word.

    1. Be Present and Attentive

    One of the greatest gifts you can give your partner is your undivided attention. In a world filled with distractions, being present in the moment is a powerful act of love. Put down your phone, look into their eyes, and truly listen. When you show that you value their thoughts and emotions, it communicates care and respect more effectively than words ever could.

    2. Perform Small Acts of Kindness

    It’s the little things that count. Bringing them their favourite coffee, cooking a meal, or simply doing a chore they dislike can brighten their day. These acts of kindness show that you pay attention to their needs and want to make their life easier.

    3. Physical Touch

    Non-verbal communication through physical touch is a cornerstone of expressing love. A warm hug, holding hands, or a gentle pat on the back can convey comfort, security, and affection. These simple gestures remind your partner that you are there for them, offering support and love.

    4. Quality Time

    Spending quality time together strengthens the bond between you and your partner. Plan activities they enjoy, go for a walk or watch a movie together. By dedicating time to shared experiences, you show that their presence is a priority in your life.

    5. Thoughtful Surprises

    Surprises, big or small, are wonderful ways to express love. It could be as simple as leaving a handwritten note or as elaborate as planning a surprise date. These thoughtful gestures show that you’ve been thinking about them and want to make them feel special.

    6. Body Language

    Your body language speaks volumes. A loving glance, a soft smile, or even sitting close during a quiet moment can express feelings of love and comfort. Non-verbal cues are subtle but powerful ways to show how much you care.

    7. Support Their Dreams

    Encourage your partner’s passions and goals. Being their cheerleader and offering your support, whether it’s attending their events, helping them prepare, or simply showing interest, is a profound way to demonstrate your love. Your belief in their abilities can inspire confidence and strengthen your connection.

    8. Be Thoughtful and Observant

    Noticing the little things about your partner shows how much you care. Remember their preferences, pay attention to their mood, and anticipate their needs. For example, offering comfort when they’re stressed or celebrating their small achievements shows that you’re attuned to their life.

    9. Acts of Service

    Actions often speak louder than words, especially when it comes to love. Help them with a task, run an errand, or fix something around the house. These acts of service show your partner that you’re willing to put in the effort to make their life easier and happier.

    10. Respect Their Space

    Sometimes, love means giving space. Respect their boundaries and allow them time to recharge when needed. This shows that you value their individuality and understand their need for balance in the relationship.

    11. Express Gratitude

    Showing appreciation is a beautiful way to convey love. A genuine smile, a nod of acknowledgment, or a small token of gratitude can mean the world to your partner. Gratitude fosters positivity and strengthens emotional intimacy.

    12. Be Consistent

    Love is not just about grand gestures but also about consistent efforts. Small, daily acts of love build a foundation of trust and affection. Whether it’s making them a morning coffee or simply being there when they need you, consistency reassures your partner of your unwavering love.

    Final Thoughts

    Love is an art that doesn’t always require words. Through actions, attentiveness, and thoughtfulness, you can create a relationship that thrives on mutual respect and understanding.

    At the end of the day, love is about making your partner feel cherished, secure, and valued. Speak through your actions, and you’ll discover that the language of love is truly universal.
    How to Show Love Without Words Actions Speak Louder Than Words Love is a language that goes beyond words. While verbal expressions are important, the most profound ways of showing love often lie in our actions. Sometimes, your gestures, attention, and thoughtfulness can speak volumes about your feelings, building a deeper connection with your partner. Here’s how you can express love without saying a single word. 1. Be Present and Attentive One of the greatest gifts you can give your partner is your undivided attention. In a world filled with distractions, being present in the moment is a powerful act of love. Put down your phone, look into their eyes, and truly listen. When you show that you value their thoughts and emotions, it communicates care and respect more effectively than words ever could. 2. Perform Small Acts of Kindness It’s the little things that count. Bringing them their favourite coffee, cooking a meal, or simply doing a chore they dislike can brighten their day. These acts of kindness show that you pay attention to their needs and want to make their life easier. 3. Physical Touch Non-verbal communication through physical touch is a cornerstone of expressing love. A warm hug, holding hands, or a gentle pat on the back can convey comfort, security, and affection. These simple gestures remind your partner that you are there for them, offering support and love. 4. Quality Time Spending quality time together strengthens the bond between you and your partner. Plan activities they enjoy, go for a walk or watch a movie together. By dedicating time to shared experiences, you show that their presence is a priority in your life. 5. Thoughtful Surprises Surprises, big or small, are wonderful ways to express love. It could be as simple as leaving a handwritten note or as elaborate as planning a surprise date. These thoughtful gestures show that you’ve been thinking about them and want to make them feel special. 6. Body Language Your body language speaks volumes. A loving glance, a soft smile, or even sitting close during a quiet moment can express feelings of love and comfort. Non-verbal cues are subtle but powerful ways to show how much you care. 7. Support Their Dreams Encourage your partner’s passions and goals. Being their cheerleader and offering your support, whether it’s attending their events, helping them prepare, or simply showing interest, is a profound way to demonstrate your love. Your belief in their abilities can inspire confidence and strengthen your connection. 8. Be Thoughtful and Observant Noticing the little things about your partner shows how much you care. Remember their preferences, pay attention to their mood, and anticipate their needs. For example, offering comfort when they’re stressed or celebrating their small achievements shows that you’re attuned to their life. 9. Acts of Service Actions often speak louder than words, especially when it comes to love. Help them with a task, run an errand, or fix something around the house. These acts of service show your partner that you’re willing to put in the effort to make their life easier and happier. 10. Respect Their Space Sometimes, love means giving space. Respect their boundaries and allow them time to recharge when needed. This shows that you value their individuality and understand their need for balance in the relationship. 11. Express Gratitude Showing appreciation is a beautiful way to convey love. A genuine smile, a nod of acknowledgment, or a small token of gratitude can mean the world to your partner. Gratitude fosters positivity and strengthens emotional intimacy. 12. Be Consistent Love is not just about grand gestures but also about consistent efforts. Small, daily acts of love build a foundation of trust and affection. Whether it’s making them a morning coffee or simply being there when they need you, consistency reassures your partner of your unwavering love. Final Thoughts Love is an art that doesn’t always require words. Through actions, attentiveness, and thoughtfulness, you can create a relationship that thrives on mutual respect and understanding. At the end of the day, love is about making your partner feel cherished, secure, and valued. Speak through your actions, and you’ll discover that the language of love is truly universal.
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