I need some help here

Me and my partner have been married going on 5 years. We have a kid and children from previous relationships, we both have sacrificed alot for our kids and that includes our free time. We dont go out, drink, party anymore between either of us....its just the kids

We never have date nights as we dont have any family, we usually always do things together.

I have been for the past year in school to where i go away for three days out of the week sometimes twice a month, its paid through my work. Its not a holiday and includes studying the entire time. It created alot of resentment because "I" got to go out and be free, my partner works from home and made me going to school doable and i thank them for that. I am also at this time done with school and will not be doing this in the near future in any way

But again, outside of that i dont go anywhere or do anything for myself

Well since about March my partner dicided that they were going to work on themself, but it essentially meant im going out when you get home to go to the gym,friends, just out etc

Im just home the kids, ive made past complaints about the frequency, NOT what shes doing.....just that i didn't feel like it needed to be everyday

I got pushback and was accused of being controlling, but it seemed like she would atleast stay home a night or two atleast.

But here we are again, its everyday the gym, and free time is spent elsewhere and "its because you dont work from home and you dont understand"

Am i being unreasonable? Is it normal for yall's partners to just go out every night and tell you to deal with it? Why am i default for just being home every night alone? And why do i have to give a headsup if i ever need to do anything, or maybe something for myself? Im starting to get to the point of being resentful/lonely and dont want to do this anymore because i feel like there cant be a middle ground. I just get told that this is what im doing, and your going to have to deal with it, why cant we do things that are all inclusive as a family or try and figure out date nights?

And just to add something, we both are hands on with the kids, they do morning routines and i help get them ready. I pick the kids up at night and do night time routine with the partner OCASSIONALLY helping, we both do cooking cleaning etc.

One more edit we both get off at 5 im home by 530 after picking kids up

They'll be gone from
6-11
8-10
7-10
530-12

It varries from whatever they say they're going out doing, but i honestly feel like they jusy dont want to be home with me or the kids

Today in History - The Throne That Was Never Sat On

M.K.O. Abiola went to the street on June 11, 1994.

Not just any street, but Epetedo, the beating heart of Lagos Island, where dust rises with every footstep and the people speak truth without fear. He went not with an army, but with a mandate. Not with guns, but with courage.

It was the eve of the first anniversary of June 12, 1993, the day Abiola won Nigeria's freest and fairest presidential election. Running under the Social Democratic Party (SDP), he secured 58.36% of the votes, winning 20 out of 30 states and uniting a country divided by tribe, tongue, and faith.

Nigerians chose him.

The world watched and cheered.

But the military had other plans.

General Ibrahim Babangida, then Head of State, annulled the election without warning. He crushed the voice of the people with silence. Chaos followed. Students marched. Journalists fought censorship. Human rights lawyers resisted. Out of the fire came NADECO, a movement born to demand democracy.

Babangida, under pressure, stepped aside and installed an interim government led by Chief Ernest Shonekan. But it was a name without power. And by November 1993, General Sani Abacha swept in like a storm and took control by force.

The country held its breath.

But Abiola refused to vanish into the shadows.

On June 11, 1994, he rose again. In the streets of Epetedo, surrounded by the very people who gave him their votes, Abiola declared himself the democratically elected President of Nigeria.

That same evening, the regime struck.

Two hundred police vehicles stormed Lagos like thunder. Abiola was arrested, charged with treason, and locked away. The man with the loudest democratic mandate in Nigeria's history was silenced, not by the people, but by power.

He never came out alive.

Four years later, on July 7, 1998, just before his expected release, M.K.O. Abiola died in detention, under suspicious and bitter circumstances.

But what he stood for never died.

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A PASTOR'S BETRAYAL
PART 4
The house was too quiet.
Grace sat at the edge of the bed, her fingers tracing the rim of her morning coffee cup, the steam long gone. Michael had left early again—another "business meeting." But this time, something felt different. Her stomach twisted in knots, and no matter how hard she tried to shake it off, the feeling clung to her like a shadow.
She picked up her phone, scrolling mindlessly until a message notification popped up.
It was from an unknown number.
Her breath hitched as she opened it.
"Your husband and his secretary look so cozy together at the Silver Spoon Café. Thought you should know."
Attached was a photo—Michael sitting across from his young, beautiful secretary, their heads close together as they smiled over documents.
Grace’s hands trembled.
She didn’t remember driving to Michael’s office.
All she knew was the burning in her chest, the way her pulse roared in her ears. She burst through the doors, ignoring the startled receptionist, and marched straight to his office.
And there they were—Michael and her—standing close, the secretary laughing at something he said.
Grace saw red.
"Grace? What are you—" Michael started, his eyes widening as she stormed in.
"Who is she?!" Grace screamed, pointing at the secretary.
The young woman stepped back, her face paling. "Mrs. Thompson, I—"
"Grace, calm down!" Michael moved between them, his hands raised. "This isn’t what you think!"
"Then what is it?!" Her voice cracked, raw with betrayal. "Another business meeting? Another late night? How long has this been going on?!"
Michael’s jaw tightened. "Nothing is going on! We were just going over contracts!"
Grace let out a bitter laugh. "Contracts? Is that what you call it now?"
She lunged forward, shoving him hard. Michael stumbled back, shock flashing across his face.
"Grace, stop!"
But she couldn’t. The rage, the hurt, the months of loneliness—it all erupted. She grabbed the nearest thing—a glass paperweight—and hurled it at the wall. It shattered, the sound like a gunshot in the tense silence.
The secretary screamed, scrambling out of the room.
Michael grabbed Grace’s wrists, his grip firm. "Grace, enough! You’re acting crazy!"
"*Crazy?!" She wrenched free, tears streaming down her face. "You’ve been lying to me! You’ve been cheating on me!"
"I haven’t!" Michael’s voice broke. "Grace, please—just listen to me!"
But she didn’t want to listen.
She couldn’t.
The ride home was a blur.
Michael followed her, pleading the entire way, but Grace barely heard him. All she could hear was Pastor Gideon’s voice in her head:
"If you stay, you will die."
When they got home, the children were there—their three beautiful babies, their faces filled with confusion and fear as they watched their parents scream at each other.
"Daddy? Mommy?" little Sarah whispered, her eyes wide with tears.
Grace’s heart shattered.
But she couldn’t stop.
She packed her bags that night.
Michael begged on his knees, his voice broken. "Grace, please… Don’t do this. I love you. We love you."
The children cried, clinging to her legs. "Mommy, don’t go!"
Grace closed her eyes, her hands shaking as she zipped up her suitcase.
Pastor Gideon’s words echoed louder.
"God wants you free."
She turned away, walking out the door without looking back.
When she arrived at the church, Pastor Gideon welcomed her with open arms.
"Sister Grace," he said, his voice dripping with false warmth. "You’ve done the right thing. God is pleased."
He patted her back, his smile wide. "This is your new beginning."
Grace nodded, but deep down, beneath the numbness, a voice whispered:
What have I done?
That night, alone in the small apartment the pastor had arranged for her, Grace sat on the edge of an unfamiliar bed, staring at her phone.
There were 17 missed calls from Michael.
32 messages from the kids.
And one voicemail—Sarah’s tiny, broken voice:
"Mommy… please come home."
Grace pressed a hand to her mouth, choking back a sob.
For the first time, she wondered—had she made the biggest mistake of her life?
TO BE CONTINUED...

WE DIDN'T HAVE ENOUGH MONEY TO LAY THE FOUNDATION OF THE CATHEDRAL WHEN GOD INSTRUCTED US TO BUILD. - Pastor David Ibiyeomie

In a bid to encourage members to always walk by faith and not by sight, Pastor David Ibiyeomie of Salvation Ministries told the congregation on Sunday how the money in the Church account could not even lay the foundation of the Hand of God Cathedral when he received an instruction from God to start the project.

He further explained that it was faith that made him take steps towards the realization of the building project. He understood the fact that if God gave them the marching order to start, He would certainly make provisions for its accomplishment.

He explained further by saying, “without faith, you can't walk with God.” Those saying ‘seeing is believing’ cannot work with God because “faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen - Hebrews 11:1.” He further admonished believers never to use such statements. It is not of God, he remarked.

He concluded by saying, “in the Kingdom, you believe to see. You can't use Thomas’ faith ‘seeing to believe’ to get Abraham’s blessings. You don't have to see what God says before you believe; you have to believe to see.”

WE DIDN'T HAVE ENOUGH MONEY TO LAY THE FOUNDATION OF THE CATHEDRAL WHEN GOD INSTRUCTED US TO BUILD. - Pastor David Ibiyeomie

In a bid to encourage members to always walk by faith and not by sight, Pastor David Ibiyeomie of Salvation Ministries told the congregation on Sunday how the money in the Church account could not even lay the foundation of the Hand of God Cathedral when he received an instruction from God to start the project.

He further explained that it was faith that made him take steps towards the realization of the building project. He understood the fact that if God gave them the marching order to start, He would certainly make provisions for its accomplishment.

He explained further by saying, “without faith, you can't walk with God.” Those saying ‘seeing is believing’ cannot work with God because “faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen - Hebrews 11:1.” He further admonished believers never to use such statements. It is not of God, he remarked.

He concluded by saying, “in the Kingdom, you believe to see. You can't use Thomas’ faith ‘seeing to believe’ to get Abraham’s blessings. You don't have to see what God says before you believe; you have to believe to see.”

WE DIDN'T HAVE ENOUGH MONEY TO LAY THE FOUNDATION OF THE CATHEDRAL WHEN GOD INSTRUCTED US TO BUILD. - Pastor David Ibiyeomie

In a bid to encourage members to always walk by faith and not by sight, Pastor David Ibiyeomie of Salvation Ministries told the congregation on Sunday how the money in the Church account could not even lay the foundation of the Hand of God Cathedral when he received an instruction from God to start the project.

He further explained that it was faith that made him take steps towards the realization of the building project. He understood the fact that if God gave them the marching order to start, He would certainly make provisions for its accomplishment.

He explained further by saying, “without faith, you can't walk with God.” Those saying ‘seeing is believing’ cannot work with God because “faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen - Hebrews 11:1.” He further admonished believers never to use such statements. It is not of God, he remarked.

He concluded by saying, “in the Kingdom, you believe to see. You can't use Thomas’ faith ‘seeing to believe’ to get Abraham’s blessings. You don't have to see what God says before you believe; you have to believe to see.”

WE DIDN'T HAVE ENOUGH MONEY TO LAY THE FOUNDATION OF THE CATHEDRAL WHEN GOD INSTRUCTED US TO BUILD. - Pastor David Ibiyeomie

In a bid to encourage members to always walk by faith and not by sight, Pastor David Ibiyeomie of Salvation Ministries told the congregation on Sunday how the money in the Church account could not even lay the foundation of the Hand of God Cathedral when he received an instruction from God to start the project.

He further explained that it was faith that made him take steps towards the realization of the building project. He understood the fact that if God gave them the marching order to start, He would certainly make provisions for its accomplishment.

He explained further by saying, “without faith, you can't walk with God.” Those saying ‘seeing is believing’ cannot work with God because “faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen - Hebrews 11:1.” He further admonished believers never to use such statements. It is not of God, he remarked.

He concluded by saying, “in the Kingdom, you believe to see. You can't use Thomas’ faith ‘seeing to believe’ to get Abraham’s blessings. You don't have to see what God says before you believe; you have to believe to see.”

WE DIDN'T HAVE ENOUGH MONEY TO LAY THE FOUNDATION OF THE CATHEDRAL WHEN GOD INSTRUCTED US TO BUILD. - Pastor David Ibiyeomie

In a bid to encourage members to always walk by faith and not by sight, Pastor David Ibiyeomie of Salvation Ministries told the congregation on Sunday how the money in the Church account could not even lay the foundation of the Hand of God Cathedral when he received an instruction from God to start the project.

He further explained that it was faith that made him take steps towards the realization of the building project. He understood the fact that if God gave them the marching order to start, He would certainly make provisions for its accomplishment.

He explained further by saying, “without faith, you can't walk with God.” Those saying ‘seeing is believing’ cannot work with God because “faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen - Hebrews 11:1.” He further admonished believers never to use such statements. It is not of God, he remarked.

He concluded by saying, “in the Kingdom, you believe to see. You can't use Thomas’ faith ‘seeing to believe’ to get Abraham’s blessings. You don't have to see what God says before you believe; you have to believe to see.”

WE DIDN'T HAVE ENOUGH MONEY TO LAY THE FOUNDATION OF THE CATHEDRAL WHEN GOD INSTRUCTED US TO BUILD. - Pastor David Ibiyeomie

In a bid to encourage members to always walk by faith and not by sight, Pastor David Ibiyeomie of Salvation Ministries told the congregation on Sunday how the money in the Church account could not even lay the foundation of the Hand of God Cathedral when he received an instruction from God to start the project.

He further explained that it was faith that made him take steps towards the realization of the building project. He understood the fact that if God gave them the marching order to start, He would certainly make provisions for its accomplishment.

He explained further by saying, “without faith, you can't walk with God.” Those saying ‘seeing is believing’ cannot work with God because “faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen - Hebrews 11:1.” He further admonished believers never to use such statements. It is not of God, he remarked.

He concluded by saying, “in the Kingdom, you believe to see. You can't use Thomas’ faith ‘seeing to believe’ to get Abraham’s blessings. You don't have to see what God says before you believe; you have to believe to see.”

WE DIDN'T HAVE ENOUGH MONEY TO LAY THE FOUNDATION OF THE CATHEDRAL WHEN GOD INSTRUCTED US TO BUILD. - Pastor David Ibiyeomie

In a bid to encourage members to always walk by faith and not by sight, Pastor David Ibiyeomie of Salvation Ministries told the congregation on Sunday how the money in the Church account could not even lay the foundation of the Hand of God Cathedral when he received an instruction from God to start the project.

He further explained that it was faith that made him take steps towards the realization of the building project. He understood the fact that if God gave them the marching order to start, He would certainly make provisions for its accomplishment.

He explained further by saying, “without faith, you can't walk with God.” Those saying ‘seeing is believing’ cannot work with God because “faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen - Hebrews 11:1.” He further admonished believers never to use such statements. It is not of God, he remarked.

He concluded by saying, “in the Kingdom, you believe to see. You can't use Thomas’ faith ‘seeing to believe’ to get Abraham’s blessings. You don't have to see what God says before you believe; you have to believe to see.”

WE DIDN'T HAVE ENOUGH MONEY TO LAY THE FOUNDATION OF THE CATHEDRAL WHEN GOD INSTRUCTED US TO BUILD. - Pastor David Ibiyeomie

In a bid to encourage members to always walk by faith and not by sight, Pastor David Ibiyeomie of Salvation Ministries told the congregation on Sunday how the money in the Church account could not even lay the foundation of the Hand of God Cathedral when he received an instruction from God to start the project.

He further explained that it was faith that made him take steps towards the realization of the building project. He understood the fact that if God gave them the marching order to start, He would certainly make provisions for its accomplishment.

He explained further by saying, “without faith, you can't walk with God.” Those saying ‘seeing is believing’ cannot work with God because “faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen - Hebrews 11:1.” He further admonished believers never to use such statements. It is not of God, he remarked.

He concluded by saying, “in the Kingdom, you believe to see. You can't use Thomas’ faith ‘seeing to believe’ to get Abraham’s blessings. You don't have to see what God says before you believe; you have to believe to see.”