The Harsh Truths About MEN Nobody Wants to Admit.

1. Men are only loved based on what they provide.
A man without money, status, or value is invisible to society—even to his own family.

2. Men don’t get sympathy, only expectations.
A struggling man is mocked, not helped. The world doesn’t care about his pain—only his productivity.

3. If a man fails, he is on his own.
No safety net, no pity. A failed man is seen as useless, even by those who once praised him.

4. Men are only as good as their last achievement.
Your past success means nothing if you can’t maintain it. The moment you fall, you become irrelevant.

5. Nobody teaches men how to deal with emotions.
Society says “Be a man,” but never explains how to handle pain, stress, or heartbreak.

6. Men are judged by results, not effort.
Nobody cares how hard you try—if you don’t succeed, you’re just making excuses.

7. Men must build themselves from scratch.
No handouts, no shortcuts. A man must create his own value or be ignored.

8. Men’s problems are seen as complaints.
If a man speaks about his struggles, he’s called weak. If he stays silent, he suffers alone.

9. Men are replaceable.
In relationships, jobs, and even families—if a man can’t provide, he’s discarded like an old tool.

10. A man’s worth is always conditional.
No matter how much he loves, gives, or sacrifices, his value is always tied to what he can do.

This is the brutal reality. A man must level up, stay strong, and never expect handouts. Because in the end… Nobody is coming to save you.

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UKPABI ASIKA THE GREAT!

By Emeka Obasi

No individual did more for the Igbo after the genocidal Civil War than Ajie Ukpabi Asika, a First Class Economist produced by the University of Ibadan, who was appointed Administrator of East Central State in 1967. Strangely, those who should praise him only remember that he did not support Biafra.

Asika and his wife, Chinyere, returned from the United States with chains of University of California Los Angeles (UCLA) degrees and settled down to work at the University of Ibadan. By 1966, they had moved to Tanzania and later Zambia.

It took another Economist, Dr. Adebayo Adedeji, to recommend Ajie to Gowon through Col. Olu Obasanjo. He was the only civilian among the twelve new governors. Had Gowon appointed a Federal officer to administer the East, perhaps everything Biafra would have been completely destroyed.

Asika behaved like a statesman. He welcomed and rehabilitated all those that were on the Biafran side and put their ingenuity to good use. Those who fuelled inventions through Research And Production (RAP) got a new agency, Project Development Agency (PRODA) headed by one of the brains behind Ogbunigwe, Gordian Ezekwe.

The ECS cabinet had an array of achievers, carefully selected. There was Ukwu I. Ukwu, with PhD, Cantab. Samuel Ikoku, Economist, politician and University lecturer, Charles Abangwu, former Deputy Speaker, Eastern Region House of Assembly, Magnus Adiele, another University teacher and Dan Ibekwe, lawyer, former Federal minister, also made it.

Flora Nwapa, novelist and University administrator, joined Philip Nnaemeka Agu, a lawyer, Martin Elechi a former District Officer (DO), Dan Njemanze, another lawyer, Osita Okeke, Zackhaeus  Dibiaezue, and Anthony Ofo - Mogboh, to move the new state to greater heights. They were supported by Chu Okongwu, Vincent Aniago and Innocent Nwoga, among others.

What many did not know was that before the war ended, Asika moved swiftly to secure Igbo investments across the nation. He was successful in the West, in Kano, in Ilorin but Port Harcourt gave him so much headache. Rivers State governor, Alfred Papapreye Diette - Spiff, hardened his heart and supported what became known as Abandoned Property.

It was sad that Spiff who attended St. Joseph's College, Sasse Buea, Western Cameroon, did not consider men like Prof.Theodore Okeahialam and his brother, Heron, who also passed out from the same school, before him.

Heron was the Engineer behind Radio Biafra, who made the world believe that the studio was in Enugu all through the war. Fact is, he moved the station round. At a time, signals came from a palm tree in Otulu, Ahiara, Mbaise. Prof. Okeahialam did not only head the Biafran Hospital and Rehabilitation Centre in Libreviile, Gabon, he pioneered inventions.

Biafran doctors produced Kwashiorkor Mixture for malnourished children, a formula later adopted by the World Health Organisation. F. Udekwu and David Nwafor used fresh coconut as intravenous fluids to treat wounded soldiers. Nelly Obiayo separated Siamese twins. Humphrey Anyanwu did well with surgery.

In 1974, Anyanwu and Nwafor had jobs at the University of Nigeria Teaching Hospital (UNTH) Enugu. They performed two major heart surgeries with Egyptian turned Briton, Bagdi Yacoub.

Asika did not like the unforgiving spirit of Spiff. The Amanyanabo of Bonny, William Dappa Pepple, was exiled, for following Gen. Emeka Ojukwu to one of the Peace Meetings in Addis Ababa, in 1968. The king lived in Enugu. Ojukwu was worried but relief came when Asika found a place for Pepple in Aba, nearer home. He died there in 1972. Today his son, Asimini Dappa People III, sits on the throne as Perekule XI, Amanyanabo of Bonny.

Asika had the most efficient Civil Service in the country, that applied IBM computers through the Eastern Data Processing Centre, manned by Dr. Ofia Nwali and supervised by Ukwu I. Ukwu. Scholarships to Europe, America and other parts of Nigeria were awarded and handled perfectly. 

In Sports, Asika was excellent. Enugu Rangers remain the first Nigerian team to become double champions. This was achieved in 1974. That foundation also makes the Flying Antelopes the only club to have won the Challenge Cup three times consecutively.

East Central State Academicals lifted the Manuwa/ Adebajo Cup in 1971. East Central State Spartans grabbed soccer gold at the First National Sports Festival, Lagos 1973 and retained it in 1975. Rangers had won the first league, the Amachree Cup, although informally, in 1971.

All the players and managers of these teams were Biafran combatants. Coach Dan Anyiam, was Brigade Major of the 60 Brigade that fought gallantly in Oguta. Skipper Godwin Achebe was at the School of Infantry. Godwin Ogbueze was a teenage commando, just like Dominic Nwobodo. Patrick Ekeji moved from the Air Force to Army Signals. Emma Okala and Christian Chukwu, fought as well. Nwabueze Nwankwo was tough in the Mid - West.

Today's leaders would have distanced themselves from Biafrans who painted Asika in bad light. Ajie welcomed them with open arms and was the one who coined the phrase, No Victor , No Vanquished. He visited fellow governors, to be sure that harm did not befall returnee Ndigbo.

I got chatting recently with multi talented Obi Asika, Ajie's son who has continued from where his father stopped. The Junior Asika is into music, soccer, administration, name it. He said : "No Victor, No Vanquished was actually a book written by Ajie. He also negotiated General Amnesty for Biafran soldiers and kept almost everyone out of prison. There is a road named after him in Kano, and another in Ilorin, for his work of rehabilitating the Igbo, securing their property and giving them a way back. I celebrate him every day."

Some of the Biafran officers who were in detention beyond Asika's tenure, were set free in August 1975 by Murtala Mohammed. They included 1966 coup plotters, Humphrey Chukwuma, who remained in Biafran detention through out the war and Ganiyu Adeleke, who commanded the Biafran School of Infantry after he was injured in battle. Peter Adomokai, Aide de Camp to David Ejoor was an Instructor at the School of Infantry. There was also the soldier, Peter Odili. Both men were not in detention.
Benneth Ochei was also set free alongside, Ojukwu's aide, Kanayo Esinulo, who was whisked away from the Lagos Airport, on his way to Frankfurt, by security operatives, on August 23, 1973.

Prof. Ken Post who once lectured at the University of Ibadan told Esinulo that Asika "was one of the most brilliant students I ever taught in all my teaching career." Ajie founded the ECS Writers Workshop and loved Arts and Entertainment. At the First National Festival of Ars and Culture, his state emerged tops. Nkpokiti dancers were also spectacular, globally.

Born in Barkin Ladi and moulded at St. Patrick's College, Calabar and Edo College, Benin, the Umuezearoli, Onitsha man explored the world and brought his experience home. Asika married Chinyere, whose dad was the super public servant, Nathan Ejiogu of Egbu, Owerri. Her sister, Kema Chikwe, became a Federal minister. South - East governors need to be schooled about what Ajie Anthony Ukpabi Asika( Dona Meche ) did for the Geo Political Zone.

PLEASE SHARE TO OTHER PLATFORMS: For our SE Leaders attention and information. May history and posterity honor for the sake of our children.
REV UKANWA ULU

All I do is to kiddnap people’s children and demand for ransom and if you refused to pay I’ll kiilll them and selll their parts to Alhaji “A Woman Confessed

She said that she has kiddnappedd not less than 20 children and 10 people were able to settle with ransom while the rest of kids were sold by partss

We do come in the form of immunization agent just to study our next move and check families that have money before executing our kidnappingg jobs. I kidnappedd my friend’s kid who has been looking for a child for more than 15years and we later kiiilled the child even though they paid 5million for ransom but I went ahead and told my groups never to return the baby.

pls take care of your children during this coming holiday and we should be careful of those who come in for immunization 🙏🏽 please follow nwamama Austino

All I do is to kidnap people’s children and demand for ransom and if you refused to pay I’ll kiilll them and sell their parts to Alhaji “A Woman Confessed

She said that she has kidnapped not less than 20 children and 10 people were able to settle with ransom while the rest of kids were sold by parts

We do come in the form of immunization agent just to study our next move and check families that have money before executing our kidnapping jobs. I kidnapped my friend’s kid who has been looking for a child for more than 15years and we later kiiilled the child even though they paid 5million for ransom but I went ahead and told my groups never to return the baby.

Evils everywhere, pls take care of your children during this coming holiday and we should be careful of those who come in for immunization 🙏🏽

HOW TO BE POOR AND HOW TO GET RICH — The Choice is Yours
If after 4 years in a higher institution you’re still roaming the streets looking for a job, you need to hear this: you’ve failed—monumentally.
Let’s stop pampering mediocrity. We’re in a country where truth sounds like hate because too many people are emotionally allergic to accountability.
How do we explain that someone who studied Business Administration is now begging a secondary school dropout for job opportunities?
How do we have graduates of Agriculture going hungry, when food is gold?
Here's the bitter truth: poverty is not always a curse from the devil; often, it’s a system we’ve bought into with our mindset, our ego, and our excuses.
Let’s break this down:
1️⃣ Pride: The Graduate Mentality Trap
We want soft life. AC offices. Clean suits. Titles. But reality doesn’t pay you for your degree; it pays you for value.
Artisan jobs are dying. In 10 years, Nigeria may have no more plumbers, welders, painters—everyone is chasing office jobs. Yet, the ones creating generational wealth are those with tools in their hands and solutions in their heads.
Being a graduate shouldn’t stop you from picking up a skill. The world is changing, but are you?
2️⃣ Get-Rich-Quick Syndrome
Everyone wants to hammer, but no one wants to suffer.
There was a lady in my former church who kept disturbing me about venturing into tech because she heard I make good money. What she didn’t see were my 7 years of trials, the 2 years of no clients, the cancelled N2M deals, the sleepless nights, the rejections.
You want what people have, but can you handle what they went through?
Wealth takes time. 5 to 7 years of focused grind—minimum. Stop starting today and expecting harvest tomorrow. That’s not entrepreneurship; that’s fantasy.
3️⃣ Lack of Mentorship
We spend millions to learn how to drive. But who teaches us how to make money, live purposefully, or build wealth?
When Dr. Stephen Akintayo charges for mentorship, people cry scam. Yet they spend the same amount on phones, parties, and clothes. Poverty thrives where knowledge is undervalued.
Mentorship is not free—it demands money or service. But it shortens your journey by years. Find someone ahead of you and serve your way into wisdom.
4️⃣ The “Only Me” Mentality
We compete instead of collaborate. We want to outshine, not uplift. But the wealthiest communities—like the Jews—grow as a unit.
Africa needs to understand: teamwork will take you farther than talent.
5️⃣ Lack of Integrity
Our handshake is not worth a promise. We lie, we cheat, we scam—then pray for breakthrough.
We must return to honesty, accountability, and trust. You can’t build lasting wealth without a name people can vouch for.
6️⃣ The Mentality Problem
Survival Mentality: Just eating and breathing is not the goal of life.
Receiver’s Mentality: Always collecting, never creating.
Hunter’s Mentality: Eat today, die tomorrow. No long-term vision.
7️⃣ The Bandwagon Effect
You start what’s trending, not what’s purposeful. That’s why we have failed forex traders, half-baked tech bros, and abandoned POS kiosks everywhere.
Purpose is personal. You must find your lane, not just follow the noise.
8️⃣ False Priorities
We put all hope in:
God (without work)
Classroom education (without skills)
Government (without responsibility)
Faith without works is dead. Education without action is useless. Government without personal accountability is hopeless.
9️⃣ Mindset is Everything
Until your mind changes, your life can’t. You cannot carry a poor man’s mentality into a rich man’s future. Wealth starts from within.
Environment Shapes Destiny
Your location can limit your vision. Surroundings influence success. You can’t live in a dump and dream of a palace without mental relocation first.
Move. Change your crowd. Redesign your inputs.
Until you break these chains, you will remain exactly where you are: educated, frustrated, and broke.
The choice is yours.
Be poor. Or rise. Your future is not a prophecy; it’s a decision.

If this message stirred something in you, do this:

Like this post
Drop a comment that says “I choose wealth!”
Share with someone who needs this brutal truth
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Brewery I Built in Anambra Gives Thousands Jobs, Highest Taxpayer Compared to ‘Fun City’— Peter Obi Knocks Gov Soludo’s Project During Labour Party Governorship Campaign

I entered CBN and NNPC; both were filled with northerners.
And you wonder why the country is stagnant?

Graduates can’t find jobs, yet these organizations hand them out based on connections and tribe, not competence.
Many of them don’t even show up to work.

This country, Nawa!

From Vivian Nora

HOW TO BE POOR AND HOW TO GET RICH — The Choice is Yours
If after 4 years in a higher institution you’re still roaming the streets looking for a job, you need to hear this: you’ve failed—monumentally.
Let’s stop pampering mediocrity. We’re in a country where truth sounds like hate because too many people are emotionally allergic to accountability.
How do we explain that someone who studied Business Administration is now begging a secondary school dropout for job opportunities?
How do we have graduates of Agriculture going hungry, when food is gold?
Here's the bitter truth: poverty is not always a curse from the devil; often, it’s a system we’ve bought into with our mindset, our ego, and our excuses.
Let’s break this down:
1️⃣ Pride: The Graduate Mentality Trap
We want soft life. AC offices. Clean suits. Titles. But reality doesn’t pay you for your degree; it pays you for value.
Artisan jobs are dying. In 10 years, Nigeria may have no more plumbers, welders, painters—everyone is chasing office jobs. Yet, the ones creating generational wealth are those with tools in their hands and solutions in their heads.
Being a graduate shouldn’t stop you from picking up a skill. The world is changing, but are you?
2️⃣ Get-Rich-Quick Syndrome
Everyone wants to hammer, but no one wants to suffer.
There was a lady in my former church who kept disturbing me about venturing into tech because she heard I make good money. What she didn’t see were my 7 years of trials, the 2 years of no clients, the cancelled N2M deals, the sleepless nights, the rejections.
You want what people have, but can you handle what they went through?
Wealth takes time. 5 to 7 years of focused grind—minimum. Stop starting today and expecting harvest tomorrow. That’s not entrepreneurship; that’s fantasy.
3️⃣ Lack of Mentorship
We spend millions to learn how to drive. But who teaches us how to make money, live purposefully, or build wealth?
When Dr. Stephen Akintayo charges for mentorship, people cry scam. Yet they spend the same amount on phones, parties, and clothes. Poverty thrives where knowledge is undervalued.
Mentorship is not free—it demands money or service. But it shortens your journey by years. Find someone ahead of you and serve your way into wisdom.
4️⃣ The “Only Me” Mentality
We compete instead of collaborate. We want to outshine, not uplift. But the wealthiest communities—like the Jews—grow as a unit.
Africa needs to understand: teamwork will take you farther than talent.
5️⃣ Lack of Integrity
Our handshake is not worth a promise. We lie, we cheat, we scam—then pray for breakthrough.
We must return to honesty, accountability, and trust. You can’t build lasting wealth without a name people can vouch for.
6️⃣ The Mentality Problem
Survival Mentality: Just eating and breathing is not the goal of life.
Receiver’s Mentality: Always collecting, never creating.
Hunter’s Mentality: Eat today, die tomorrow. No long-term vision.
7️⃣ The Bandwagon Effect
You start what’s trending, not what’s purposeful. That’s why we have failed forex traders, half-baked tech bros, and abandoned POS kiosks everywhere.
Purpose is personal. You must find your lane, not just follow the noise.
8️⃣ False Priorities
We put all hope in:
God (without work)
Classroom education (without skills)
Government (without responsibility)
Faith without works is dead. Education without action is useless. Government without personal accountability is hopeless.
9️⃣ Mindset is Everything
Until your mind changes, your life can’t. You cannot carry a poor man’s mentality into a rich man’s future. Wealth starts from within.
Environment Shapes Destiny
Your location can limit your vision. Surroundings influence success. You can’t live in a dump and dream of a palace without mental relocation first.
Move. Change your crowd. Redesign your inputs.
Until you break these chains, you will remain exactly where you are: educated, frustrated, and broke.
The choice is yours.
Be poor. Or rise. Your future is not a prophecy; it’s a decision.

If this message stirred something in you, do this:

Like this post
Drop a comment that says “I choose wealth!”
Share with someone who needs this brutal truth
Follow me — Damilola Adewuyi — your personal and business development partner
Let’s walk this journey together. I share real truths, real strategies, and real steps for growth — no fluff, no gimmicks.

HOW TO BE POOR AND HOW TO GET RICH — The Choice is Yours
If after 4 years in a higher institution you’re still roaming the streets looking for a job, you need to hear this: you’ve failed—monumentally.
Let’s stop pampering mediocrity. We’re in a country where truth sounds like hate because too many people are emotionally allergic to accountability.
How do we explain that someone who studied Business Administration is now begging a secondary school dropout for job opportunities?
How do we have graduates of Agriculture going hungry, when food is gold?
Here's the bitter truth: poverty is not always a curse from the devil; often, it’s a system we’ve bought into with our mindset, our ego, and our excuses.
Let’s break this down:
1️⃣ Pride: The Graduate Mentality Trap
We want soft life. AC offices. Clean suits. Titles. But reality doesn’t pay you for your degree; it pays you for value.
Artisan jobs are dying. In 10 years, Nigeria may have no more plumbers, welders, painters—everyone is chasing office jobs. Yet, the ones creating generational wealth are those with tools in their hands and solutions in their heads.
Being a graduate shouldn’t stop you from picking up a skill. The world is changing, but are you?
2️⃣ Get-Rich-Quick Syndrome
Everyone wants to hammer, but no one wants to suffer.
There was a lady in my former church who kept disturbing me about venturing into tech because she heard I make good money. What she didn’t see were my 7 years of trials, the 2 years of no clients, the cancelled N2M deals, the sleepless nights, the rejections.
You want what people have, but can you handle what they went through?
Wealth takes time. 5 to 7 years of focused grind—minimum. Stop starting today and expecting harvest tomorrow. That’s not entrepreneurship; that’s fantasy.
3️⃣ Lack of Mentorship
We spend millions to learn how to drive. But who teaches us how to make money, live purposefully, or build wealth?
When Dr. Stephen Akintayo charges for mentorship, people cry scam. Yet they spend the same amount on phones, parties, and clothes. Poverty thrives where knowledge is undervalued.
Mentorship is not free—it demands money or service. But it shortens your journey by years. Find someone ahead of you and serve your way into wisdom.
4️⃣ The “Only Me” Mentality
We compete instead of collaborate. We want to outshine, not uplift. But the wealthiest communities—like the Jews—grow as a unit.
Africa needs to understand: teamwork will take you farther than talent.
5️⃣ Lack of Integrity
Our handshake is not worth a promise. We lie, we cheat, we scam—then pray for breakthrough.
We must return to honesty, accountability, and trust. You can’t build lasting wealth without a name people can vouch for.
6️⃣ The Mentality Problem
Survival Mentality: Just eating and breathing is not the goal of life.
Receiver’s Mentality: Always collecting, never creating.
Hunter’s Mentality: Eat today, die tomorrow. No long-term vision.
7️⃣ The Bandwagon Effect
You start what’s trending, not what’s purposeful. That’s why we have failed forex traders, half-baked tech bros, and abandoned POS kiosks everywhere.
Purpose is personal. You must find your lane, not just follow the noise.
8️⃣ False Priorities
We put all hope in:
God (without work)
Classroom education (without skills)
Government (without responsibility)
Faith without works is dead. Education without action is useless. Government without personal accountability is hopeless.
9️⃣ Mindset is Everything
Until your mind changes, your life can’t. You cannot carry a poor man’s mentality into a rich man’s future. Wealth starts from within.
Environment Shapes Destiny
Your location can limit your vision. Surroundings influence success. You can’t live in a dump and dream of a palace without mental relocation first.
Move. Change your crowd. Redesign your inputs.
Until you break these chains, you will remain exactly where you are: educated, frustrated, and broke.
The choice is yours.
Be poor. Or rise. Your future is not a prophecy; it’s a decision.

If this message stirred something in you, do this:

Like this post
Drop a comment that says “I choose wealth!”
Share with someone who needs this brutal truth
Follow me — Damilola Adewuyi — your personal and business development partner
Let’s walk this journey together. I share real truths, real strategies, and real steps for growth — no fluff, no gimmicks.

I started sleeping with D0GS at the age of 16. My name is Amanda, and this is my story. A story I wish I never told anyone, but I can’t keep hiding. Everyone needs to learn from my story.

If anyone told me that I would be sleeeping with dogs, just to make money. At the age of 16 I would not believe that, but it happened to me, and this was how I found myself in this situation.

I was born into a very poor family in lagos. when I say poor I mean very poor, my parents were struggling to eat including me, I was the only daughter and child.

My father was a security, he was paid a small amount. And my mother stayed at home with me. I stopped going to school because they couldn’t continue to pay me school fees.

Hunger was our fourth person in the family, it dealt with us like an army. But sadly my father died.

He died right at his work post, he could not bear it anymore. My mom cried and cried. I cried even more.

After my father was buried, my mother was not the same anymore. She felt sick and died too.

I became an orphan, my uncle took our small property, claiming he was the rightful owner. And I was left in the street of Lagos. Sleeping under the bridge, inside the gutter, just to survive.

Life was dealing with me. I suffer, in fact I did all kind of quick jobs like breaking firewood and many more. it couldn’t help me. Sometimes I pray for late parents to come and take me.

But all this things changed one evening. I was selling my last orange, ready to got back to sleep under the bridge again.

A black car came and parked in my front. It was raining that evening. A lady came out of the car. Her name was Cynthia, I thought she was coming to buy orange.

“Why are you sitting alone under the rain. It late already” she says politely.

I told her I have no where to go, I told her that sleep under the bridge. Then she offered to take me to her place, but I rejected, because Lagos was a scary place, you can’t trust nobody.

“Do not be afraid, come with me, am not a bad person” Cynthia says to me.

Then I followed her, she gave me food at the house, she bought new clothes for me. For ones I felt like paradise.

I was enjoying the good things of life now. But after a week. Cynthia came with a total different topic.

She sat me down and told me. “I have been good to you, but you need to starting making money just like I do, can you work ?” Cynthia says.

“Yes, i answered, “I can do anything for you”

Then Cynthia told me about the job. “They are going to pay you plenty money. You will become rich. They are my clients. They don’t like women, but they need the woman to play with their pet” Cynthia says.

“I didn’t understand at first. “Play with their pets? I asked.

“Yes play with their dogs, like satisfy their D0gs” Cynthia says clearly.

Immediately I dropped the juice I was drinking, pouring on the ground. Immediately I felt like I was sitting with the devil.

“Never ! Never Cynthia ! So this is how you make your money. I would never Sle-p with dogs just to make money” I scream at her.

To be continued.

Based on a true l¡fe story.