When you hear people speaking ill of others:

Always ask yourself why they feel the need to tell you.

Know that if they're doing it to them, they will do it to you.

Ask for the other side of the story. There's always another side.

Keep in mind that gossip/slander is a sin that has relational consequences.

Wonder why Satan deemed it important to get you to see this person in a negative light.

Don't just stand there passively. Either speak up or excuse yourself.

Remember, they're sowing a seed in someone else's garden that will eventually come up in their own.

Hope this made little sense?

On a more serious note no real man wants a lady with just a big bum bum...

We live in a generation where attention has been reduced to angles, filters, and how much body you can show. The louder the curves, the more people assume you’re winning. But let’s be real for a moment because behind the trends and temptations, the truth still stands tall.

No real man is looking for a woman with just a big bum bum.

Yes, a woman’s body may attract the eye, but it is her mind, her values, her character, and her essence that hold a man’s soul.

The internet may be flooded with men commenting “fire” emojis and heart eyes under BBL pictures, but when it’s time for real life, when it’s time to choose a wife, a mother, a business partner, a backbone, these same men go quiet on curves and start looking for substance.

Because here’s what they won’t post online:

They want a woman who has sense, not just shape.

They want a woman who can sit in a room with kings and speak with wisdom.

They want a woman who can raise children with values and discipline.

They want a woman who can manage a home, not just show off an outfit.

They want a woman who can lead a business when they are not there.

They want a woman who can multiply whatever she’s given not one who needs to be constantly maintained like a car with no engine.

This is the truth social media will not scream at you.

So whether you have the body or not, what really matters is: do you have value? Do you have strength of character? Can you think for yourself? Can you build something out of your life even when no one is clapping for you? Can you build a family, a vision, a legacy?

Because no real man is looking for a liability. Real men are looking for women who are whole, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. Not women who only offer their bodies but are empty in purpose and identity.

So while you’re chasing body goals, don’t forget to chase life goals.

Train your mind the same way you train your hips.

Build your value the same way you build your wardrobe.

Learn emotional intelligence the same way you learn makeup tutorials.

Because in the end, the world may celebrate your bum bum, but your destiny will rise or fall based on your substance.

You’re more than a body. You’re a builder. You’re a thinker. You’re a nurturer. You’re a world-shifter.

So rise beyond what they see.

Let your mind be sharper than your waistline.

Let your presence shake rooms not because of how you walk, but because of the wisdom you carry.

Because the kind of woman who changes generations doesn’t just have a bum bum, she has a brain and a spirit that cannot be ignored.
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Yours Inspiration,
Kathryn Esther Clement