A mind that has forgotten the past and the future, that is awake to the now, to the present, expresses the highest concentration of intelligence. It is alert, it is watchful, it is inspired.

The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.

"Your past might be heartbreaking, but if you trust GOD & the process, your begining can be ground-breaking."
K. Og

Do not brood over your past mistakes and failures as this will only fill your mind with grief, regret and depression. Do not repeat them in the future.

The only people you can't advice is a woman in love with his pastor or his man.those group of persons are very different to advice.

Never allow yourself to be defined by someone else's negative opinion of you. You are a person of destiny, you are equipped, you are talented, and you are creative. You have manifold potentials; discover them and fulfillment shall be yours! Everything you desire is yours if only you can understand YOU! The understanding of yourself is the foundation of living an outstanding life. Wake up!

Don't ever stop trying, learning, improving until the miracle happens; in the end, it is not the years in your life that count; it's the life in your years. So, don't complain about things you are not willing to change! What consumes your mind, controls your life! Take time to consciously see what you think about most of the time; that will give you a heads-up if you will make it in life.

Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you but by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you but by the way your respond. It’s not the load that breaks you down, it's the way you carry it! Change your mindset and your life changes! What you look at is not as important as what you see; guard your mind, it is the foundation to how far you can go!

Listen, let your past make you better, not bitter; don’t waste time living the life of others; be YOU!

Stay blessed

Modern Marriages Collapse Faster—Because They Come Late

Written by Enety Tazvivinga

Let’s talk about what nobody wants to admit:

The later a woman marries,
the harder she is to build with.

Because while the world praises “maturity” and “independence,”
real men know:

You don’t marry potential at its expiration date.

Let’s break it down:

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1. Youth Means Flexibility—Age Means Resistance

A young woman comes into marriage fluid.
She’s teachable. She’s open. She adapts.

Not because she’s weak—
But because she hasn’t been hardened by life yet.

At 19, she learns through love.
At 29, she only learns through trauma.

By 30?

She’s no longer learning.
She’s negotiating.

And now every instruction feels like control.
Every correction sounds like oppression.
Every standard gets labeled as “toxic.”

You can’t lead someone who thinks they’ve already arrived.

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2. Early Marriage Protects Fertility—And Your Future Bloodline

Science doesn’t lie.

The earlier she conceives,
the healthier her eggs.
The lower the risk of miscarriage, ADHD, and birth complications.

You don’t hear this in the media.
But even sperm damage can be offset by young, healthy eggs.

She’s not just your wife.

She’s the gatekeeper of your legacy.

And age is not kind to the gate.

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3. She’s Not Bringing a Clean Slate—She’s Bringing a Resume of Regret

By 30, most modern women have:

– 12+ exes
– 5+ heartbreaks
– 3 years of therapy
– A list of emotional triggers
– A soul tired of trusting men
– A past funded by men better than you—and worse

Now you walk in as the cleanup crew.
You marry her leftovers.
You inherit a wounded soul packaged in soft glam.

And no matter how loving you are?

She can’t bond with you.
Because her heart is still haunted.

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4. She Wasn’t Picked—She Settled

When a woman marries young,
she does so at her peak.

She was wanted.
Chosen.
Desirable.

And she sacrificed from the top of her value.

But when she marries late?

It’s not out of abundance.
It’s out of fatigue.

She’s not submitting.
She’s surrendering—because the streets stopped calling back.

And now you, the “good man,”
become her retirement plan.

Not her reward.

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5. She’s Not Building With You—She’s Billing You From Day One

She doesn’t know your story.
Didn’t sacrifice in your grind.
Doesn’t understand your foundation.

But she demands protection…
Provision…
And prenup-free access to your life’s work.

She’s not entering a partnership.
She’s entering an inheritance.

And if it collapses?

She takes half—and posts about "reclaiming her peace."

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6. Her History Is a Mystery—And You Pay the Price

Modern men are signing prenups not out of paranoia—
But survival.

You’re not marrying a blank page.
You’re marrying a woman with:

– Untold trauma
– Invisible scars
– High expectations
– No endurance
– And a legal system behind her

You can’t vet 15 years of dating history.

You’re walking into a maze with no map.
And when she taps out?

You get taxed for trusting too late.

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7. When a Woman Marries Too Late—She’s Already Emotionally Retired

You can’t spark loyalty in someone who’s seen too much.

You can’t teach femininity to a woman who wore masculinity for 12 years.

You can’t start fresh with someone whose past is a landfill of emotional damage.

Late marriage turns relationships into negotiations.
Not commitment.
Not sacrifice.
Just trade-offs.

She gives you what’s left.
Then sets an exit strategy.

And you?
You’re just the landing pad.

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Final Word: You Can’t Build a Kingdom on Expired Foundations

This is not hate.
It’s a warning.

Marry early.
Build while she's moldable.
Invest in someone who grows with you—not someone who's tired of failing elsewhere.

Because when you marry late?

You're not starting life.
You're inheriting her debt—emotional, financial, and spiritual.

And when she finally leaves?

She won’t feel guilt.

She’ll feel justified.

Because her happiness was always the goal.
Not your legacy.

WAS ERASED BY MY OWN SISTER
PART 5
The walls of the psychiatric hospital were cold, the air thick with the scent of antiseptic and despair. Nneka sat curled in a corner of her padded cell, her once-glossy skin now dull, her bright eyes hollow.
She had stopped screaming.
No one believed her when she told them she was Nneka Okoye, a successful businesswoman, a loving daughter, a woman about to marry the love of her life.
They called it "delusions of grandeur."
The drugs they forced into her veins made her thoughts slow, her words slurred. Some days, she couldn’t remember her own name.
But deep inside, buried beneath layers of medication and forced sedation, a spark of rage still burned.
"Ngozi…" she would whisper in the dark.
Her sister had stolen everything.
Her face.
Her name.
Her life.
And now, Nneka was nothing but a ghost in her own body.
Meanwhile, Ngozi—now living as Nneka—was drowning in luxury.
She had married Emeka in a lavish ceremony, smiling as he slid the ring onto her finger—the same ring that was meant for her sister.
But the thrill of deception was wearing off.
Ngozi had never been as smart as Nneka.
She couldn’t handle the business meetings, the investors, the pressure of running Naturé by Nneka. So, she did what she did best—she quit.
"I need a break," she told Emeka, shrugging. "Work is stressing me out."
Emeka frowned. The Nneka he knew would never abandon her dreams so easily.
But he said nothing.
Then, Ngozi stopped sending money to their parents.
"They’ll be fine," she scoffed when Emeka asked. "They have savings."
But Emeka knew the truth—Nneka had never neglected her family.
Ngozi spent her days shopping for designer bags and her nights clubbing with her new "rich friends."
She came home drunk, stumbling past Emeka as if he were furniture.
She ignored his texts, dismissed his concerns, and rolled her eyes when he tried to hold her.
"Why are you so clingy?" she snapped one night, pushing him away.
Emeka stood there, heart cracking.
This wasn’t the woman he fell in love with.
This wasn’t Nneka.
One evening, Emeka sat alone in their empty penthouse, staring at their wedding photo.
Nneka—no, Ngozi—was out again, probably laughing in some VIP section while he sat here like a fool.
He picked up his phone and dialed his best friend, Chike.
"I think… I made a mistake," Emeka whispered, voice breaking. "This isn’t the woman I proposed to. She’s changed. Or maybe… maybe I never really knew her."
Chike sighed. "Brother, I’ve been wanting to say this for months. The Nneka you married… she’s not the same Nneka you fell in love with."
Emeka closed his eyes.
He knew.
He just didn’t want to believe it.
Back in the asylum, Nneka lay on her thin mattress, staring at the ceiling.
She had learned to stay quiet. To obey. To pretend the drugs had won.
But behind her empty gaze, her mind was sharpening.
She watched.
She listened.
She planned.
Because one day…
One day, she would escape.
And when she did—
Ngozi would regret ever crossing her.
To Be Continued…

Today's Blessings

Today is a gift — a quiet reminder that life continues to unfold with moments of grace, growth, and gratitude. Even in its smallest details, today holds blessings worth noticing.

The morning light breaking through the clouds reminds us that each day brings new hope. The air we breathe, the strength in our bodies, the beating of our hearts — these are silent miracles we often overlook.

There's a blessing in connection: a kind word, a shared smile, the presence of loved ones, or even a stranger’s unexpected kindness. These small acts bring warmth to the soul.

There’s also a blessing in challenge — in the chance to learn, to rise, and to prove to ourselves that we are capable. Struggles can be stepping stones. They shape character and deepen appreciation.

And perhaps most importantly, there's the blessing of choice: to start again, to forgive, to dream, and to keep moving forward.

May we not rush past today without acknowledging these simple but profound gifts. Let us carry gratitude like a quiet anthem through the hours, seeing not just what we lack, but all that we’ve been given.

Today is blessed — and so are we.

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VOICE OF FAITH DAILY DEVOTIONAL

MONDAY 23RD JUNE 2025

FATHER I REFUSE SHAME/DISGRACE

Text : Jeremiah 3:24 KJV

For shame hath devoured the labour of our fathers from our youth; their flocks and their herds, their sons and their daughters.”

MESSAGE
One prayer I usually pray for myself is God don't allow me to see shame or disgrace.

Disgrace is made up of two words: ‘dis’ and ‘gracia’. ‘Dis’ means out of and ‘gracia’ means grace. So, the word disgrace means out of grace. Or rightly put in our modern English, it means loss of honor, loss of respect, loss of good name.

It can also mean to bring shame upon a person. The word shame in the Bible has so many aspects to it. Shame can come as an offence or as a consequence of sin to someone who has done something wrong and has been discovered.

Shame can come as a result of pride or when the reputation of a person has been injured. So, the result of being disgraced is shame. Shame also can come from God. In order to reprove sin, God can allow shame to come upon a person.

Say Lord, please don't allow me and my family to see shame in the name of Jesus.

SOURCES OF SHAME

The Bible makes us to understand that shame can come from God, it can come from satan, and can also come from man.

I Know a pastor who saw shame when a member gave the church he was privileged to be pastoring at that time one million naira for church project, but he diverted the said money for his personal use by acquiring a fairly used camry car.

But, just after a year he bought the car, the whole truth surfaced and he was sacked unceremoniously. I will like you to say again, “I reject every spirit of shame/ disgrace the enemies have assigned against me in the name of Jesus.”

Seeing yourself half dressed or completely naked regularly in the dream should not be treated with kids gloves.

Jeremiah 3: 24 says, “For shame hath devoured the labour of our fathers from our youth; their flocks and their herds, their sons and their daughters.” So, shame can devour the labour of a person.

There was this popular actress many years ago who was forced to leave the shores of Nigeria when her nude pictures was published in a popular newspaper in Nigeria.

This powerful emotion called shame is a great weapon in the hand of the enemy and he likes to use it on people and places. The terrible thing about it is that it hits people from the inside and destroys them internally. It could eat away the strength of the confidence of a person.

It can disable and amputate a person completely and make him ineffective in the service of the Lord. To be mighty in faith and in the Holy Spirit, you must confront the spirit of shame and defeat it.

There was this popular brother I know that had his wedding cancelled just 2 days before the wedding. He slept with his would be bride, and the bride got pregnant in the process.

In a bid to cover their shame; they aborted the pregnancy. So they felt everything has been covered. When the church hospital carried out their own pregnancy test, it was positive.

This brother denied of ever having any canal knowledge of the said sister. After, several tests the sister blood samples were still reading positive. Being a lawyer he threatened to sue the church for defamation of character.

But, the whole truth came out eventually sutfaced after much pressure on the sister. She then confessed to my then senior pastor that indeed the brother ate the forbidden fruit and got her pregnant.

They carried out an evacuation to cover up their tracks, but still the sisters blood sample still returned positive.

KINDS OF SHAME

1 Guilty shame: This happens when a person violates the law of decency and he is embarrassed.

2 Social shame: This kind of shame occurs when a person is embarrassed because he or she made a social blunder.

3 Innocent shame: This happens when a person is accused of an offence he is not guilty of. When somebody’s character is damaged without justifications

4 Public shame: This is embarrassment because of physical or social blunder.

5 Shame of discrimination: When a person feels mentally, socially or ethnically inferior to other persons.

6 Shame of inadequacy: That is when somebody feels inadequate.

7 Shame as a result of the gospel eg persecution.

The shame that comes from God can be handled with God. When we repents the Lord will forgive us and will remove the shame from us

But the shame that the enemy plans must be confronted and dealt with.

HOW TO BE A PERSON OF HONOR

& BE WISE; proverbs 3: 35 says, “The wise shall inherit glory but shame shall be the promotion of fools.” So foolish living and actions that are not. There are certain information that shouldn't be on your phone

& BE DILIGENT: Proverbs 10: 5 says, “He that gathereth in summer is a wise son: but he that sleepeth in a harvest is a son that causeth shame.”

Sleeping during the time of physical or spiritual harvest will bring disgrace. When others are struggling, and you just sit down and take no action, it means you are inviting disgrace upon your life.

& BE HUMBLE: Proverbs 11: 2 says, “When pride cometh, then cometh shame: but with the lonely is wisdom.”

The Bible says that pride brings shame. Proverbs 16: 18 says, “Pride goeth before destruction and a haughty spirit before a fall.”

& TRAIN UP YOUR CHILDREN: Proverbs 29: 15 says, “The rod and reproof give wisdom but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.” So, parents who allow their children to do what they like are preparing for shame.

When raising your children learn to call a spade a spade and not a farm tool.

A child you pamper today will tamper with your tomorrow.

&KEEP HIS COMMANDMENTS:. Genesis 3: 9 – 10: “And the Lord God called unto Adam and said unto him, Where art thou? And he said I heard thy voice in the garden and I was afraid because I was naked and I hid myself.”

Shame and nakedness could come from sin. Avoid actions that would amputate your good name and rubbish your character.

May shame and disgrace be far from us in Jesus name.

PRAYER POINT

Father, in the name of Jesus, please don't allow me to see shame in life or ministry

Victor Udomoh is the Lead Pastor, Ark of Royals Worship Center AKa Engraced Saints Assembly.

SEEDS OF DESTINY DAILY DEVOTIONAL GUIDE

BY DR PST PAUL ENENCHE
DATE: 23RD JUNE, 2025

TOPIC: LIFE IS A SEED

SCRIPTURE: Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. GALATIANS 6:7.

THOUGHT FOR THE DAY: Living is seeding.

It is a proven fact that when the purpose of life is not understood, abuse or disaster is inevitable. There are many people whose lives and destinies crashed because they did not understand the purpose of life. They lived anyhow and ended anyhow.

So, today, we are looking at one of the crucial facts of life that we must understand if we must live well and end well in this life and in eternity, and that is: The Fact that LIFE IS A SEED.

How we live today determines where we end tomorrow. Every action is a seed that is going to produce a harvest. The way you are living is the seed you are sowing. Living is seeding. Your relationship with your fellow human beings, your character and lifestyle are all seeds. And these seeds will produce their harvest in the future.

Beloved, note this: how you live in time determines where you end in eternity. When you lie against your neighbour or steal money, you sow a seed that you will reap in time and in eternity. When you step into someone’s home, push out the woman and marry the man, you are sowing seeds that will generate for you regrettable harvest in time and in eternity. When you fail a student because she refuses to compromise by giving you a bribe or sleeping with you, you are sowing a seed that you are going to reap in time and in eternity.

Beloved, life is a seed. Every time you do something good you are sowing a good seed. And every time you do something bad; you are sowing a bad seed. The question is, what seed are you sowing with your life now?

Remember this: Living is seeding.

ASSIGNMENT (S):
1. Always think about the consequences and implications of your action before taking it.

2. Ask God for mercy wherever you sowed a bad seed.

3. Live by the Word of God through His grace.

PRAYER: Lord, I ask for grace to please you in all I do. Help me to consistently sow the right seeds, Lord, in Jesus’ Name.

FOR FURTHER UNDERSTANDING, GET THIS MESSAGE: The Fact of Life

DAILY BIBLE READING: Psalm 136-138

QUOTE: If you are going to reign in this life as a king, one of the major ways you will do that is by the power of character and integrity. Culled from the Book, Who Are You by Dr Paul Enenche.

AMAZING FACT: Octopuses have three hearts and blue blood.

PROPHETIC DECLARATION/WORD: The Lord’s mercy deliver you from the consequences of the wrong seeds sown in the past in Jesus Name.