WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR WIFE REFUSES TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU
I hope am talking to mature people here.

1. PREPARE HER
Sometimes it is not that she does not want to make love to you but that all you have to do is prepare her with foreplay to get her in the mood

2. DO NOT FORCE HER
Do not force yourself on her in the name of demanding for your conjugal rights. Forcing an adult to have sex is demeaning and disrespectful

3. CHECK IF YOU HAVE BEEN HURTING HER EMOTIONS
If you have been hurting or ignoring her emotions, she will struggle to be sexually attracted to you. Women make love with their heart. If her heart is bruised, she will struggle to give you her body

4. CHECK IF LAST TIME YOU WERE TOO ROUGH ON HER
If last time you were too rough on her leaving her vagina, clitoris or nipples sore; she might be uncomfortable about letting you have her. Learn to be gentle

5. CHECK IF YOU HAVE UNADDRESSED ISSUES
If there are matters in your marriage that are not being concluded, intimacy will suffer. Stop ignoring the issues. The sooner you solve them the better

6. CHECK IF SHE SUSPECTS YOU OF CHEATING
If she knows of or suspects you are cheating, it will be a barrier between you two. If you have been cheating, stop it and win back her trust. If she suspects but it is not true, allay her fears and make her secure

7. CUDDLE HER
Sometimes this means more to her than love making. This goes a long way to show her she is not a sex object. This secures her and in doing so, she will enjoy making love with you

8. GAUGE HER MENSTRUATION CYCLE
Know your wife's monthly period cycle. Not every wife lies they are on their periods

9. FIND OUT IF SOMETHING IS STRESSING HER
Maybe there is something outside of your marriage that is disturbing her, maybe it is work issues, financial issues, her health, the children, her parents, a past trauma. Hear her out and show her that you are on her side.

WHY MEN DON’T LIKE TO MARRY ‘GOOD’ GIRLS.

Let’s talk. And let’s talk honestly.

You’ve heard it before — “I’m a good girl, I kept myself, I did everything right, yet he still didn’t choose me.”

Ouch.

See, this isn't just about good girls not getting married. It’s about understanding the unspoken codes that run beneath the surface of relationships — especially when it comes to love, attraction, and marriage.

Now let me make something clear: being a good girl is beautiful. It’s noble. It’s rare. It’s powerful. But sometimes, good girls carry a subtle sense of entitlement — that because they've followed the rules, love, marriage, and a good man are automatic rewards.

They’re not.

Some men don’t run from good girls because they’re “too good.” They run because:

1. The goodness is cold.

Many ‘good girls’ have been trained to be pure, but not warm. Modest, but not kind. Well-behaved, but not emotionally intelligent.

And the truth? Men crave connection, not just correctness.

2. They feel judged.

Some ‘good girls’ come across as superior — “I don’t do this, I don’t do that” — and unintentionally shame men who have made mistakes or who are still growing.

Nobody wants to marry their moral examiner.

3. No fun, no spark.

Let’s be honest — some good girls are boring. They’ve made life so serious, so “don’t-touch-me-I’m-holy,” that they forgot how to laugh, relax, or be human.

Marriage isn’t just a spiritual partnership; it’s also a friendship. A vibe.

4. They confuse silence for virtue.

Meekness isn’t the same as emotional repression. Some good girls haven’t found their voice, their opinions, their uniqueness.

Men aren’t looking for a statue; they want a soul.

Listen, my lady, don’t stop being good.

Don’t throw away your values.

But add wisdom to your goodness.

Add depth. Add laughter. Add soul. Be warm. Be fun. Be intelligent. Be yourself.

Because ‘good’ alone isn’t enough. Be whole.

I hope this makes sense to you.

**Why Men Need Self-Care (Before You Turn Into a Walking Plantain Chip)**  
1. **Stress is Real** – Between work, traffic, and Nigeria’s economy, your stress levels are higher than fuel prices. Self-care keeps you from snapping like a poorly charged phone.  
2. **You’re Not Indestructible** – That "strong man" mentality? Cool, but even Superman took breaks (and he’s fictional!).  
3. **Confidence Boost** – When you look good, you feel good. And no, "looking good" doesn’t mean just ironing your clothes… Smelling nice , shaving your hair and beards etc
hope you get the drift now.  🤷🏻‍♀️

Amad, Heaven, De Ligt - Man Utd Injury News and Return Dates Before Bournemouth and Athletic Bilbao

Manchester United are navigating a crucial phase in their season as they prepare for vital fixtures against Bournemouth and Athletic Bilbao, with several players recovering from injury setbacks. Here’s the latest injury update from Manchester Evening News as manager Ruben Amorim evaluates his squad.

De Ligt suffered an ankle injury in the match against Nottingham Forest. Although he stayed on the pitch until halftime, he hasn't played since. Amorim recently stated that while de Ligt is expected back before the season ends, a concrete return date remains undecided.

Ayden Heaven – Minor Injury

Heaven returned to the squad against Newcastle after missing three games, but a minor knock in training has kept him out of recent selections. The injury, caused by contact, is under review, and Amorim has not specified a return timeline.

Lisandro Martinez – Long-Term ACL Injury

Martinez remains sidelined due to a torn ACL suffered in February against Crystal Palace. He has undergone surgery and will miss the rest of the season. With a typical recovery period of six months, he is not expected back until August.

Toby Collyer – Leg Problem

Collyer is dealing with a leg injury. Although no official return date has been provided, Amorim assured supporters that the issue is not serious, and he could be available in the coming weeks.

Amad – Ankle Recovery

Amad was initially set to miss the remainder of the season after injuring his ankle. However, recent updates have shown signs of a possible return before the season wraps up. Amorim is hopeful he’ll be fit by May, and Amad himself has shared promising recovery updates on social media.

Joshua Zirkzee – Season-Ending Hamstring Injury


Zirkzee picked up a hamstring injury in the Newcastle game and has been ruled out for the rest of the season. Despite walking off unaided, the injury is serious enough to sideline him. He is now focused on returning in time for the next pre-season.

With key games approaching, including the showdown with Athletic Bilbao, United will be hoping for timely returns from key players like Amad and de Ligt to strengthen their push at the business end of the season.

He pursued me for a while for a date. I don’t know, but he always came around when I was busy, so I kept telling him no. One day, he came to my office. I hadn’t closed yet, but he sat in the lobby and waited until I closed so he could take me on a date.

I gave him 100/100 for effort. I was only going to see how the date would end so I could decide if he was worth it. He was humorous, he liked my kind of music, and the conversation was great. I think I was softening my stance until he had to show me something on his phone, and I saw his wallpaper—a voluptuous woman with a thick behind and in-your-face kind of *****.

It could have been just a wallpaper, but when I jokingly said, "This wallpaper of yours is crazy ooo," he answered, "You women are magic. This wallpaper cures my headache and depression." He burst out laughing. I could see the happiness in his eyes, but I had none of the things the woman on his screen had. You could call me flat, and you wouldn’t be wrong.

I said to myself, "If this is what cures his headache and depression, then what will I be able to cure with my flatness?"

When he proposed, I said no. He said, "I thought we were going somewhere?" I answered, "I'm sorry if I gave you the wrong hope."

I might have eventually agreed to date him, but I couldn’t ignore that wallpaper and its healing powers—powers I didn’t have.

INEC PLAN TO ALLOW PEOPLE WITHOUT PVC TO VOTE IN 2027 ELECTION. I HOPE IS NOT WHAT AM THINKING WILL HAPPEN.

*Let's keep reminding AMUDA OLALERE and his stooges.*
*We will always call his attention and that off his unrepentant, conscienceless apologists.*
*Nigeria has never had it this miserablly, hopelessly terrible.*
*When someone lies his way into power, the consequences will always be dire and catastrophic as been experienced today.*

25 THINGS TO DO WHEN ARRESTED AND ACCUSED OF A CRIME IN A NIGERIAN POLICE STATION

1. Stay calm and composed – Panic can make you say or do the wrong thing.

2. Ask for the reason for your arrest – The police must inform you why you're being arrested.

3. Request to see the arrest warrant if applicable – Especially for non-immediate arrests.

4. Identify the police officers involved – Take note of their names, ranks, and stations.

5. Inform someone you trust immediately – Let a relative, friend, or lawyer know where you are.

6. Insist on your right to remain silent – You are not obligated to answer questions without a lawyer.

7. Request to call your lawyer – You have the right to legal representation.

8. Be polite and respectful to officers – It reduces tension and avoids escalation.

9. Observe everything around you – Take mental note of the station, time, people, and treatment.

10. Demand to be charged or released within 24–48 hours – As per the Nigerian Constitution.

11. Ask for bail if the offence is bailable – Most offences are. Bail is a constitutional right.

12. Keep your personal items safe – Secure your phone, wallet, and other belongings.

13. Insist on a medical check-up if injured or sick – You have the right to medical care.

14. Record or write down your experience if possible – Especially any abuse or illegality.

15. Request a copy of any statement you make – It’s your right. Don't sign what you didn’t say.

16. Complain to the Divisional Police Officer (DPO) if maltreated – You can escalate within the station.

17. Contact a human rights or legal aid organization – Especially if your rights are being violated.

18. Be observant about any potential witnesses around – They might be helpful later.

19. Ask for the name and details of your case officer – For follow-up and accountability.

20. Stay truthful and consistent in what you say – Lies can complicate your case.

21. Request to know your offence classification (bailable or non-bailable) – This determines your next step.

22. Stay mentally strong and prayerful – It helps you stay alert and resilient.

23. Report any demand for bribes to higher authorities – You can also report anonymously later.

24. Request proper documentation for your detention or bail – Never leave without it.

25. Remain hopeful and proactive about your defence – Being accused isn’t the end.

25 THINGS NOT TO DO WHEN ARRESTED AND ACCUSED OF A CRIME IN A NIGERIAN POLICE STATION

1. Do not resist arrest violently – This could lead to additional charges or harm.

2. Do not argue aggressively with police officers – It could provoke abuse or further trouble.

3. Do not attempt to bribe a police officer – It’s a criminal offence and can be used against you.

4. Do not speak without thinking – Anything you say can be used against you.

5. Do not admit to a crime you didn’t commit – Even under pressure or threat.

6. Do not sign any statement you didn’t write or understand – Insist your lawyer is present.

7. Do not threaten the police or other detainees – It worsens your case.

8. Do not run or attempt escape – It could get you shot or lead to additional charges.

9. Do not disclose too much personal information – Especially to unknown people in custody.

10. Do not cry or beg excessively – It can make you appear guilty or weak.

11. Do not lie unnecessarily – Contradictions can destroy your defence.

12. Do not provoke others in the cell – Stay out of trouble with fellow detainees.

13. Do not destroy any documents or evidence – It’s a criminal offence.

14. Do not call too many people randomly – Call someone you trust, not everyone in your contact list.

15. Do not accept legal advice from just anyone – Only rely on a qualified lawyer.

16. Do not volunteer to settle “in-house” without legal advice – It could be a trap.

17. Do not post about your arrest on social media immediately – It can affect your case.

18. Do not insult or mock the police station or officers – It’s risky and unnecessary.

19. Do not carry drugs or weapons to the station – Even unintentionally, it’s a serious offence.

20. Do not try to run your mouth to show you “know people” – It can backfire.

21. Do not refuse bail terms without understanding them – Ask your lawyer to review first.

22. Do not let fear control you – Fear leads to poor decisions.

23. Do not allow unknown persons to stand as surety – Always use credible and known people.

24. Do not exaggerate or fabricate stories – Stick to the facts.

25. Do not forget to follow up on your case after release – Unattended cases can turn against you later.

THOUGHTFULNESS IS GODLINESS IN ACTION.

1. When you walk into a public building, do not turn the fan to face only you, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Philippians 2:4 – “Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.”
Wisdom: True love is thoughtful. Consideration makes shared spaces more peaceful and comfortable for everyone.

2. When you sit inside a public transport, do not spread your legs to occupy more space, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Romans 12:10 – “Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.”
Wisdom: Honor in action looks like giving room for others to feel respected.

3. When you’re at a public tap, do not waste water, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Proverbs 21:20 – “The wise store up choice food and olive oil, but fools gulp theirs down.”
Wisdom: Stewardship honors God. Use resources wisely with others in mind.

4. When you speak in a quiet space, do not shout, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Ecclesiastes 3:7 – “A time to be silent and a time to speak.”
Wisdom: Wisdom is knowing when to speak gently and quietly, respecting your environment.

5. When you're listening to music, do not blast it in public, consider others as well

Biblical Value: 1 Corinthians 10:24 – “No one should seek their own good, but the good of others.”
Wisdom: Your joy should not become another’s discomfort.

6. When you're on a queue, do not jump ahead, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Proverbs 11:1 – “Dishonest scales are an abomination to the Lord, but a just weight is His delight.”
Wisdom: Fairness is a form of righteousness. Respect order.

7. When you finish using the restroom, do not leave it dirty, consider others as well

Biblical Value: 1 Corinthians 14:40 – “Let all things be done decently and in order.”
Wisdom: Cleanliness is a reflection of orderliness and care for others.

8. When you eat in public, do not litter the area, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Genesis 2:15 – “...to tend and keep it.”
Wisdom: Caring for the environment is part of our God-given responsibility.

9. When you use shared power, do not overload it, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Matthew 7:12 – “Do to others what you would have them do to you.”
Wisdom: Shared resources require shared responsibility.

10. When you walk on a narrow path, do not block the way, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Romans 14:13 – “...make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in the way of a brother or sister.”
Wisdom: Create room for others to pass with ease.

11. When you speak in a group, do not dominate the conversation, consider others as well

Biblical Value: James 1:19 – “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak...”
Wisdom: Listening is a higher form of love.

12. When you’re in traffic, do not drive recklessly, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Titus 3:2 – “...be peaceable and considerate, and always gentle toward everyone.”
Wisdom: Drive with caution and courtesy—lives are involved.

13. When you visit someone’s home, do not overstay, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Proverbs 25:17 – “Seldom set foot in your neighbor’s house—too much of you, and they will hate you.”
Wisdom: Be a blessing, not a burden.

14. When you borrow something, do not return it damaged, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Psalm 37:21 – “The wicked borrow and do not repay...”
Wisdom: Integrity includes returning things better than you received them.

15. When you cook in a shared space, do not leave a mess, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Luke 16:10 – “Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much...”
Wisdom: Cleanliness reflects responsibility and care.

16. When you cough or sneeze, do not leave your mouth uncovered, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Leviticus 13:45-46 – Even in ancient times, containment of illness was seen as social responsibility.
Wisdom: Protect others as you would want to be protected.

17. When you enjoy free services, do not abuse them, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Proverbs 28:20 – “A faithful man will abound with blessings, but whoever hastens to be rich will not go unpunished.”
Wisdom: Respect and preserve what others provide generously.

18. When you sit in a waiting area, do not take more seats than you need, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Romans 12:3 – “...do not think of yourself more highly than you ought.”
Wisdom: Leave space for others—humility in action.

19. When you're in a discussion, do not speak rudely, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Colossians 4:6 – “Let your conversation be always full of grace...”
Wisdom: Politeness reveals godliness.

20. When you earn more, do not look down on others, consider others as well

Biblical Value: 1 Timothy 6:17 – “...do not be arrogant nor put your hope in wealth.”
Wisdom: Your success is not a license for pride but a platform for generosity.

21. When you get promoted, do not forget those who helped you, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Proverbs 3:27 – “Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due...”
Wisdom: Gratitude builds bridges, not walls.

22. When you laugh, do not mock others, consider their feelings as well

Biblical Value: Proverbs 17:5 – “Whoever mocks the poor shows contempt for their Maker...”
Wisdom: Joy is not meant to humiliate others.

23. When you pass by someone struggling, do not ignore them, consider helping

Biblical Value: Luke 10:33-34 – The Good Samaritan cared deeply.
Wisdom: Compassion is evidence of a godly heart.

24. When you’re using public Wi-Fi, do not download excessively, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Philippians 2:3 – “Do nothing out of selfish ambition...”
Wisdom: Fairness applies even in unseen things like internet use.

25. When you eat in shared spaces, do not take others’ food, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Exodus 20:15 – “You shall not steal.”
Wisdom: Respect boundaries and others' property.

26. When you serve food, do not serve yourself excessively, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Proverbs 23:1-2 – “...put a knife to your throat if you are given to gluttony.”
Wisdom: Moderation honors the community.

27. When you are privileged, do not boast, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Jeremiah 9:23-24 – “Let not the wise boast of their wisdom... but let the one who boasts boast about this: that they know Me...”
Wisdom: Humility reveals maturity.

28. When you win, do not belittle those who lost, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Romans 12:15 – “Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.”
Wisdom: Celebrate without pride. Winning with grace is noble.

29. When you’re strong, do not oppress the weak, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Proverbs 31:8-9 – “Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves...”
Wisdom: Strength is given to support, not suppress.

30. When you speak, do not forget kindness, consider others as well

Biblical Value: Proverbs 15:1 – “A gentle answer turns away wrath...”
Wisdom: Kind words soften hearts and open doors.

ENCOURAGEMENT

A better world doesn’t start with grand gestures—it begins with small decisions rooted in love and respect. The Bible teaches us that love “does not insist on its own way” (1 Corinthians 13:5). When we choose to consider others as well, we reflect the heart of Christ, who laid down His comfort for our sake. Thoughtfulness is godliness in action.
So let’s carry this truth daily: "Whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God" (1 Corinthians 10:31)—and that includes how we treat one another.

*GOVERNMENT OF IMO STATE*

*PRESS RELEASE*

*Uzodimma okays clampdown on commercial vehicles drivers operating with tinted glasses*

*Governor Hope Uzodimma has approved the clamp down on all tinted vehicles used for commercial activities in the State following reports of the use of such vehicles, mainly buses, to perpetrate criminal activities around Imo State.*

*Consequently, all bus drivers operating in the State with such vehicles have been given 72 hours within which to remove their tinted glasses or face full weight of the law.*

*Of late, intelligence revealed that most of the commercial vehicles, particularly the commercial buses with tinted glasses, were deployed for criminal activities, such as kidnapping, armed robbery, hit and run, among others, within the State.*

*Accordingly, the Governor has advised the security agencies to collaborate with certain government officials to ensure that the menace caused by the use of commercial buses with tinted glasses is stopped forthwith, and the defaulters legally brought to book if they fail to comply with the directive after three days of grace.*

*Oguwike Nwachuku*
*Chief Press Secretary/* *Special Adviser, Media to the Governor*
*April 23, 2025.*

To him that is connected to the living there is hope