Thank you so much for the wonderful gift. I really loved it. I will always keep it with me. I appreciate your thoughtfulness.

BENEFITS OF OBSERVATION SKILLS

How can you maximise your time in everything you do? By having clarity of purpose, you can learn every minute of the day when you have defined how each hour will be used strategically. We all have different purposes for creation, so the key observation you might be looking for could be quite different from mine. For example, an artist may use their observation skills to notice nuances in shadows and light at various times of the day. They might look for details that could improve their artistic talent and then think about how to incorporate those into their art. Isaac Newton was fascinated by the apple that dropped on his head. After much contemplation and using his observation skills, he derived the three laws of motion that explain the cause and effect created by the movement of energy and material mass.

This explains that nothing moves without material force unless there is an applied action. Sometimes, mundane parts of life, like household chores and even engaging in the Uncle Sam system, require us to sell our time to an employer for a wage. However, we know this is not the reason we were created, and yet, with intense focus, we must prioritize our observation skills using our willpower while finishing the tasks set before us. These tasks are merely intermediaries as we transition from employment to self-employment, using our skills and purpose for creation as the ultimate reason for waking each day, to add value to that gift, even in the mundanity.

First, you need to clearly define your purpose. How can you make each hour work towards that goal? For example, you might sell your hours to others in exchange for money until you have enough to work for yourself, so that your time truly becomes your own. You must develop a strategy to apply high-yielding principles that can improve your ability to serve those who benefit from your gift, which must be clearly identified. Different parts of the day can be used to maximise your potential—reading, writing, listening, and conversation are all equal components, each with its own logic that can be maximised through observation. Have you ever become an observer of yourself without judgment, simply noticing how well you engage in each activity, recognising where your strengths and weaknesses lie? Sometimes we are good at one part but weaker in others. They all have different logic.

Listening requires 110% focus. Have you ever noticed you were thinking of something else when you were meant to be listening? Therefore, the time you thought you were converting into added value has been completely wasted. Listening is a skill that can be developed to be strong, like writing or reading. When we listen, we need to shift from our own point of view to truly engage with the other person’s perspective and understand. I try to broaden my thinking. I do not dismiss information just because it comes from someone whose fundamental views oppose mine. For example, I am a lover of truth, not religion. First, we must define religion from truth. Religion is a set of rituals that someone practices, e.g., churchgoing, prayer, and reading religious texts. At the same time, all of those are good; they are simply behaviours that one does. However, all religions have other rituals, such as praying five times a day and observing the months they believe the prophet has announced as holy. Others engage in chanting or meditation. You can find many rituals attached to a belief system. Yet, many of those do not lead to the father.

Yet, when saying something profound, you can observe whether you are open-minded enough to look beyond a person's religious worldview. They may have uncovered universal truths that apply to everyone, regardless of their faith. Another point you might notice is that they are fully committed to a worldview that, just as much as we confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, serves as the foundation for our entire belief system. Their thinking might start from a different perspective—one that is the first building block of their understanding of life, which is someone's worldview. There is a significant difference between the worldview of the kingdom of God and that of many traditional Christians.

The first point is that the pulpit ministry has become so exalted that Sunday tradition has turned into a way of life for many Christians. However, beyond gathering, the rest of their week is spent serving the Uncle Sam system to earn money and pay their bills. This has become so normalised that it would be difficult for people to see any alternative. Jesus said there are only two gods; while it is true that money answers all things and could solve every problem, money has many voices attached to it. It tells us to go here or there and can dictate where it is spent. It demands obedience, and unless we understand the laws associated with it, it will control us rather than us controlling it. Money is not meant to be spent; it is meant to be retained, multiplied, and invested.

That is why many people sell their labour for a wage. However, since many only earn enough to make ends meet, they are often trapped in a perpetual cycle of working to build someone else's vision. This is a catastrophe in light of God’s word, because to whom we give ourselves is our master. It has been subtly woven into our thinking since childhood—to go to school, get an education, join the workforce, and sell our lives to it. How can we serve God if that is our philosophy? We must discover our God-given purpose and find a way to live for that purpose instead of selling our lives to the world system. Many structures support this, including the pulpit ministry with one man who has discovered his calling and is multiplying that gift. Meanwhile, the rest of the church is held back from reclaiming all that the thief has stolen—from politics to education—because we are not walking according to the priorities and principles Jesus gave us as instructions, which are based on truth, not a set of religious rituals.

Jesus said, “Go into all the world and teach them to observe all that I have taught you.” I have been observing people from different religions who do not openly declare their faith; you must listen carefully to discover it. Still, they teach principles that can change lives and even use God's word to support these principles, but they do not openly confess Jesus Christ as Lord. They have millions of followers who are being discipled by them. However, the most critical part—the foundation from which all their teachings are built—is deeply flawed and deviates from the truth. This deception is so subtle that it schools people into a worldview containing powerful principles from God's kingdom according to our original nature. Still, it ultimately leads people to permanent separation from God because the root is corrupt.

The truth is what everyone desires, but because people have been mentally conditioned by their environment, how the truth is told, even if it is in error, aligns with foreign beliefs that have entered the psyche and have persisted for many generations, shaping how they see the world. Still, we must recognise that this is a lie, and while we sit in churches every week for our spiritual fix to solve our problems, countless others will be separated from God because we did not follow the instructions of grace and truth that Jesus left for us. You alone are created from something that I do not have the same capacity for because of your unique path of preparation and God's design for your life. The light is created for darkness; it is the only thing that will uproot and remove every voice that opposes Jesus as God. Unless you manifest that in the world, nothing can change, and a whole people group that God created you for will perish, for which we are answerable.

We focus too much on the wrong things, like church attendance, giving your tithe, and pastors want their followers to be faithful because of this. But actually, the one who should be our master of our finances, our way of life, and everything we do is the captain of our faith, Jesus Christ. We were created for a calling in the world; that’s how our Monday to Friday lives should be lived in accordance with His will. If we don’t make His will our priority, it will always come second to our work. We need to live our lives to the fullest by following God's ways laid out in truthful principles. The key to this is in observing. In the Cambridge dictionary, observing means watching carefully how something happens or how someone does something, especially to learn more about it. We need to reflect on what Jesus means by observing everything He has taught us.

Love is the highest gift you can give a man

*Men: Women Are Indispensable.*

The role of women in shaping human evolution and society can not be overstated.

Women hold a significant and indispensable role in every aspect of society. From the home to the workplace, from human evolution to the future generations, and from the sciences, law, fashion, business, technology, or entertainment world to everyday life, women have made invaluable contributions that have shaped our world today.

A woman is the full circle. Within her is the power to create, nurture, and transform. Without women, without our mothers, we would not be here. They are not just part of the story – they are the story.

A virtuous woman's price is far above ANY CURRENCY. That's why men who find it difficult to manage a woman hardly make it in good health and otherwise. Women were created to create, support,and mitigate. Men who don't utilize these natural gifts in women are bound to fail.

If you want something said, ask a man, but if you want something done, ask a woman. That's why men who aligned with their partners are more meticulous and achieve their goals faster with minimal mistakes and failures. Because a woman who understand the problems of running a home can engage in any problem-solving conversation.

In the family unit, women have been the unsung heroes. They play a vital role as caregivers, nurturers, and role models. They are often the glue that holds the family together, providing love, support, and guidance to their children and partners.

Women are not only responsible for the physical well-being of their families but also for their emotional progress, guidance, and mental health in the home. They are the ones who instill values, teach morals, and shape the character of the next generation. Because they're naturally close to the kids and stay more with them.

The best protection any woman can have… is courage. That's why when you lift up women, you lift up families and communities along. Injustice against women is crime against families and entire humanity.
Happy International Women's Day.

*Men: Women Are Indispensable.*

The role of women in shaping human evolution and society can not be overstated.

Women hold a significant and indispensable role in every aspect of society. From the home to the workplace, from human evolution to the future generations, and from the sciences, law, fashion, business, technology, or entertainment world to everyday life, women have made invaluable contributions that have shaped our world today.

A woman is the full circle. Within her is the power to create, nurture, and transform. Without women, without our mothers, we would not be here. They are not just part of the story – they are the story.

A virtuous woman's price is far above ANY CURRENCY. That's why men who find it difficult to manage a woman hardly make it in good health and otherwise. Women were created to create, support,and mitigate. Men who don't utilize these natural gifts in women are bound to fail.

If you want something said, ask a man, but if you want something done, ask a woman. That's why men who aligned with their partners are more meticulous and achieve their goals faster with minimal mistakes and failures. Because a woman who understand the problems of running a home can engage in any problem-solving conversation.

In the family unit, women have been the unsung heroes. They play a vital role as caregivers, nurturers, and role models. They are often the glue that holds the family together, providing love, support, and guidance to their children and partners.

Women are not only responsible for the physical well-being of their families but also for their emotional progress, guidance, and mental health in the home. They are the ones who instill values, teach morals, and shape the character of the next generation. Because they're naturally close to the kids and stay more with them.

The best protection any woman can have… is courage. That's why when you lift up women, you lift up families and communities along. Injustice against women is crime against families and entire humanity.
Happy International Women's Day.

*IF YOU HAVEN'T BEEN DOING THIS , PLEASE START TODAY*
Dr. John Saka, thank you for attending my dad's wake. Always remember this, sir: you killed my father.

These were the exact words David used to open his appreciation speech during his father's wake. The room fell into a deafening silence and every guest held their breath in disbelief. St. Bernard's Old Students’ members, including Dr. Saka was visibly shocked. The weight of those words hit hard and the confusion on Dr. Saka’s face was evident.

For fifteen long seconds, the silence in the room was unbearable, each person wrestling with their own questions: How? Why? What happened?

David broke the silence, continuing with his speech:
It is true that God gives life and takes it away but sometimes, people—like Judas—play a tragic role in how death occurs. My father's trust and respect for Dr. Saka, who happened to be one of his best friends, led to his early grave. My dad didn't need your mourning today. He needed you to honour him while he was still alive by answering his calls. This is my father’s phone.

David held up the phone for everyone to see.
The record of his call logs and WhatsApp messages is right here. Over the last eight months, my father called you 32 times. You answered only four times, each time promising to call back. On WhatsApp, he sent you 84 messages. You replied to only 22. Out of those, 16 were nothing more than 'Amen' in response to his monthly prayers and greetings. Out of the remaining six, on February 2nd of this year, you wrote: 'I'm not in the country; I will see you when I'm back in two weeks.' You never responded again until June 7, when he sent you birthday wishes and reminded you of your promise to see him. Your response was, Thanks, my friend, I appreciate it.

My father, trusting your medical expertise, held onto the hope that you would help him. On June 12, after reaching out to you, he told you he was very sick and needed your professional advice. You read the message that same day, yet you did not reply until July 21, when he messaged you again, saying, 'John, I'm dying. Your response? 'Sorry, it is been a busy week. Let us see what happens next week.
That 'next week' became two months. When my father sent his last message on September 2, asking why you were ignoring him, you replied: 'Sorry, my friend, I hardly have time for myself these days.' Six days later, my father died.

David’s voice trembled as he continued, "Dr. Saka, my father trusted you more than any other doctor. He believed you cared enough to give him the best advice. He stopped taking his medications, waiting for you to fulfil your promise to see him in February. Instead of telling him that you couldn’t be available, you kept promising later.' He waited for seven months. I know all this because I was the one typing the texts on his behalf. Every day, he would ask, 'Did John send a message?' On the morning he died, he said, 'I made a mistake trusting John, but why didn’t he help?' My father never got an answer to that question, but maybe, Dr. Saka, you can answer to others who may need your help in the future.
Thank you for coming today, though it feels like a belated honour.

At this point, David turned to the audience and asked:
As a doctor, how many of your family members, colleagues and old classmates have you reached out to, inquiring about their health without them asking?
As a lawyer, how many of your family members, colleagues and old classmates have you offered pro bono services to?
As a professional, how many of your family, colleagues and old classmates have you helped for free? As a wealthy person whom God has blessed in so many ways, how many poor and poverty ridden people have you stretched your hands of gift to help out of their financial predicament most especially at this trying period of our National economic hardship? As working class people with mobility, how have you helped your surbordinates to ease their transportation challenges to office or ameliorate their sufferings for food subsidy?
How have you positively impacted people's lives without expecting anything in return as gratification? Let us search our minds and make mends.

David paused and added, If you haven't been doing this, please start today. Surprise people with help. It brightens and elongates life.
Tears flowed down Dr. Saka’s face, and many in the hall wept as well.

LESSONS FROM THIS STORY

1.Never ignore calls or messages from friends, classmates, colleagues, or family.
2.Don't assume you know why someone is reaching out to you. You may be wrong and may not understand their need.
3.Remember that God is the true helper; we are simply messengers.
4.Be humble enough to admit when you can’t help.
5.Do not keep anyone waiting for help if you can not deliver it.
6.Help others when you can—it is a privilege, not an obligation.
7.Always remember, no one is irreplaceable or indisposable.
8.We are all always busy sometimes and having challenges of our own.

Let us not be the cause of someone’s despair, or worse, their early death. You may not be able to save everyone but failing to respond when you could have, might send someone to their grave. Reach out. Help when you can. You never know how much of a difference you can make in someone's life.

Be inspired.

*Sleeping is a natural part of life, but waking up each day is a gift of grace and mercy.*

*Have 🫵 you taken a moment to acknowledge your Creator and offer gratitude this morning?*

*Good morning, esteemed leaders. May your day be filled with purpose, success, and abundant blessings!*

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I WAS JUST HUNGRY — A Cry from The Traps Of Life

Someone shared this heartbreaking image of a little mouse caught in a trap.

Its tiny eyes were swollen with tears.

Its paw was crushed. Blood stained the wooden floor beneath it. Yet, what caught my heart wasn’t the pain or the blood—but the words written beside it: "I’m not a dangerous animal and I won’t hurt you. I was just hungry."

It took me back—way back to my early years in Alagbado , Lagos State.

There was a young boy in our compound named Chima. He was always dirty, always sneaking into kitchens when no one was looking.

At least once a week, someone would shout, “That Chima don carry my garri again oh!”

I remember how we mocked him. Called him “thief.”

Some adults would beat him up. One woman even tied him to a tree once, under the hot sun, for taking a piece of fried fish.

But what we didn’t know—what we never even asked—was that Chima was just hungry.

His mother had died when he was six. His father, a drunk, barely returned home with enough money to buy a sachet of pure water. Most nights, Chima and his younger sister slept on empty stomachs.

So, he learned to steal to survive. He learned to beg, to sneak, to be smart.

And while the world saw a thief, what he truly was… was a boy in pain.

Now, years later, I see this mouse crying in a trap and I see Chima’s face.

I see the countless boys and girls in our streets.

I see the bus conductors who shout angrily—not because they enjoy it, but because life has never been kind.

I see the prostitutes in Allen Avenue , the young cult boys in Agege,

The jobless graduates walking the streets of Lagos and Abuja,

The countless prisoners in cells not because they’re wicked—but because they were just hungry..

Hunger isn’t always about food.

Some people are hungry for love.
Some are hungry for peace.
Some are hungry for hope.
Some are just hungry to be noticed—to be seen as human.

But what does society do?

We set traps.

We judge before asking questions.
We condemn before listening.
We punish without understanding.

And sadly, sometimes, even the Church—yes, the place meant for healing—becomes a trap too..

A brother falls into sin and we throw him out. A sister comes pregnant and we push her to the back. But have we ever stopped to ask: Why did she fall? What hunger was she trying to feed?

Beloved, this world is full of "mice"—innocent souls trapped not because they wanted to destroy anything, but because they were just trying to survive.

That boy who stole your phone may have lost both parents.

That girl in makeup and tight jeans may be the breadwinner of her family.

That man who sleeps under the bridge may once have been a promising young graduate—until life dealt him a bad card.

Let me ask you sincerely:

How many people have you judged lately without understanding their hunger?

How many "mice" have you set traps for in your heart—silently condemning them because their scars were too messy for your clean world?

The Bible says in Proverbs 21:13, “Whoso stoppeth his ears at the cry of the poor, he also shall cry himself, but shall not be heard.”

Every soul you ignore, every cry you silence, every pain you mock—you’re setting a trap for your own day of hunger.

My dear friend, life is deeper than appearances.

Sometimes, all a person needs is a listening ear, a plate of food, a kind word, or even just a smile.

Don’t be too quick to condemn.
Don’t let your heart become a trap.

Choose mercy.
Choose kindness.
Choose love.

Do you know that, the small mouse in that image... Is....

That’s someone in your street today.
That’s a child in your church.
That’s your neighbour.
That could be you tomorrow.

Know that not everyone who falls is evil. Some were just hungry. Find out how you can be of help instead of being a judge.

#HungerEndsWhereCaringBegins
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Edited by Pst Imagbenikaro God'sgift Osayamen

The gifted ones are made to pass through challenges before they complete their mission.

THE BETRAYAL
© Grace O.O
Part 10
They spent the day talking about the future; their expectations and other plans. James took her home when it was getting late.

"Take care of yourself my love". He said fondly.

"I will try. Call me when you get home".

He watched as she retreated into the compound and entered the house before he left. When he got home, he called her and informed her about his safe ride. After talking for almost an hour, the lovers baded each other goodnight.

***
James took her to see his parents the following weekend. They boarded a flight from Ibadan to Abuja where the family residence was.

When they arrived at the Bakare's residence, Serena was awed although she wasn't surprised based on the magnitude of their wealth. Servants approached the duo and helped with the luggage.

"Gosh, I'm so nervous right now. What do I do when I see your parents?". James chuckled and pulled her into an embrace.

"You will be fine, sweetie. I'd be there beside you holding your hands. You have nothing to fear". He assured her.

James led her into the mansion, his hand on her back. He asked for his parents from the workers and was told that they were upstairs.

"Let's wait for them. I'm sure they're having their usual afternoon nap". He wanted to continue but stopped when he heard footsteps. Serena rose to her feet when she sighted James's parents descending the staircase.

"Who do we have here?". His mother said excitedly. James walked up to her and prostrated before his parents.

"Good afternoon Dad and Mom".

"How are you, son?". His father raised him and patted him on the back.

"I've been well, Dad. Trust you're doing great?".

"Yes". His gaze shifted to Serena who quickly went on her knees.

"Good afternoon sir. Good afternoon ma'am".

"My dear, how are you?". Mrs Bakare asked.

"I'm good ma'am. Trust you're doing well ma?".

"I am very good my dear". She looked at James who understood the message being conveyed.

"Dad, Mom, here's Serena Johnson. She's my fiancee". He introduced her.

"Wow! She's very beautiful. You did well, son". Chief Bakare turned to Serena and helped her to her feet.

"You're welcome to the family, Serena".

"Thank you sir. I got you a gift sir and ma". She brought out two packages from her bag and gave them each to the older couple.

"Wow! How did you know my favorite wine?". Chief Bakare grinned.

"Well, it's one of the best quality of wine so I just bought it. I never knew it was your favorite and I'm glad you like it sir".

"This gown is really giving the African vibes. To think that it's from one of my favorite clothing brand". Mrs Bakare said as she checked out the dress.

"It's classy and has good quality. You do have a good taste for quality". Chief Bakare complimented Serena.

"Coming from you sir, I take it as a compliment". She said, smiling nervously.

"I'm sure you both are famished. I already asked the maids to prepare your room so you can go and freshen up". Mrs Bakare said and winked at James.

"Thank you Mom. That's so thoughtful of you". He winked back and led Serena upstairs to the room.

"What do you think?". Chief Bakare faced his wife when they were out of sight.

"They're an excellent match. She looks smart and intelligent. She's also beautiful. I like her already".

"I like her too. I just hope she's not in the relationship for his money. I can't watch my son have another heartbreak".

"Well, I think they're good. He's already proposed to her, I saw the ring on her finger". Mrs Bakare said.

"If you say so. We need to start making preparations then".

After an hour, the young couple came downstairs for lunch. Serena was surprised at the magnitude of food served. There was different kinds of food like jollof rice, spaghetti and drinks. She wondered if there was a feast.

"Princess, feel at home. You can choose any kind of food you want". Mrs Bakare said.

"Thank you Mommy".

The older couple dined on pounded yam and vegetable soup while the young couple feasted on jollof rice.

"How about your parents? When do we get to meet them?". Chief Bakare asked.

"They're doing well sir. Both of them reside at Ikeja. They wanted to know when you would be ready". Serena replied.

"That's fine. James, make sure you see her parents next weekend. We need to start making preparations for your wedding. Just tell us how you want it to be; extravagant, moderate or low-key". Chief Bakare told them.

"Oh Dad, thanks a lot. We'd get back to you soon". James replied.

"Serena, what do you do for a living?". Mrs Bakare asked.

"I work as a lawyer at a private firm".

"Oh, so you're a lawyer?".

"Yes ma'am".

"That's good, princess".

They continued their discussion after lunch. Serena liked their joviality and the bond between the older couple. One look at them and one would see the love in their eyes.

"I wish for the kind of love between your parents. It's so pure. I love that they are happy together". Serena told James when they were alone.

"I would give you more, my princess". He replied.

They went to the garden in the mansion and sat down on a swing, watching the twilight. They remained there till late in the night, watching the twinkling stars in the sky.
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To be continued...

Parents, you are role models to your children. Therefore, keep in mind that your children are watching everything you do.

Planning committee, hope you've picked the wedding date and dress code?

#_pen_of_grace

HOW TO TALK TO YOUR MAN ABOUT A SENSITIVE ISSUE

We sometimes complain that the men don't want to talk or listen. Here's some things that could help..

WATCH YOUR TONE
When upset or frustrated, your tone could easily become sharp, harsh, condescending and full of coldness. A man doesn't like engaging anyone with such a tone. Approach him with peace and the issue will be resolved in peace

TIMING
Straight after work is not the time for a deep talk. One is mentally and physically tired. Let him relax first, put his feet up and approach the subject at a good time

WATCH YOUR EYES
Men get repelled by condescending and mean eyes. I'm sure you would too

DON'T ENGAGE HIM WHEN HE IS DRUNK
If your man is they type that gets intoxicated, don't bother yourself to talk serious issues. Wait till he is sober to have a meaningful talk

DON'T CONFRONT HIM IN FRONT OF YOUR CHILD(REN)
Infront of the kids be cordial, smile, show unity and when it's just you and him, then talk about the issue

DON'T ACCUSE HIM FALSELY
Some women do this. However, this is the easiest way to make him feel attacked and to break the delicate fabric of trust between you two. Before you jump into conclusions, ask him questions politely. Talk with facts. Don't interrogate, politely ask.

DON'T CAUSE A SCENE
A man loses respect for a woman who causes a scene in public or in front of family or friends

SOOTHE HIM
If you want to introduce a topic that has been bothering you, hold on to it. Prepare him his favourite meal, do things that make him feel good. While he is in a good mood, lovingly introduce the issue for discussion

BE IN CONTROL OF YOUR EMOTIONS
If the issue is heavy, be prepared for a conversation that will be heavy on your heart but remain calm and collected. Being frantic and delirious will not aid your cause.

NO INSULTS
Watch your tongue. Keep calm. Insulting him or parading his weaknesses and past mistakes will complicate things. You need him to know you are on the same team

DON'T INTRODUCE OTHER PEOPLE'S OPINIONS
Don't tell him things like 'Even my mum thinks you should...', 'My friend Kajwang who is a man thinks we should...", "Zamira says her husband..." Don't show him you talk about your personal issues with outsiders. Don't show him you value other people's opinion more than his. Don't show him your motivation is based on comparing you two with other couples

BOOST HIS EGO A TAD ;)
Appreciate him more than you criticize him. If you want a man to grow in doing good, praise him for the good he does big and small. When you make him feel like a hero each time he pleases you, he will love pleasing you and will listen moreBest gifts for your loved ones

DON'T BOY HIM
Don't talk down at him. He should never feel disrespected by the woman he has committed to. He hates it when you baby-sit him

DON'T TALK AT HIM
Talk with him. Give him time to speak, don't run your mouth. It should be a two way conversation, not an order

TALK AFTER MAKING LOVE
You can choose to talk about the issue after making love. At that time, both of you are feeling most in love. Talk intimately and peacefully about the issue, he is so receptive to all you say at that timeBest gifts for your loved ones

TAKE HIM ON A DATE
Or you can take him to a place outside home where he will be more conscious of his demeanour in public. An outside setting also breaks the monotony of home. Talk about the issue over a date

DON'T MAKE HIM FEEL UNEASY
Men get unsettled by the words 'We need to talk'. Ease off the pressure by not putting him on the hot seat

DON'T PUSH HIM
Don't pressure him to conclude the issue. If he needs time to think through what you have talked with him about, give him time. Sometimes a man needs to arrange his thoughts in his "me" time. You have had ample time to think about the issue, probably more time than him

BE FLEXIBLE
Perhaps after you talk, he might not see things your way or the outcome may not be as you anticipated. Don't have a fixed mind, you two have to come to a joint agreement. Some times also you will need to exercise patience
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Important things to remember when you are married or in a serious relationship...✍🏽

Don’t ever assume your partner feels loved.

Date nights are a must.
Doesn’t matter if you go out, or stay in.

Talking openly about what you want to change in your relationship is important.

Learn each others love language. Best gifts for your loved ones
We all don’t perceive love the same way.

Go to bed mad sometimes.
Don’t force a resolution.
Sleeping on it does help.

When you get into a fight, don’t just say “I’m sorry”. Say what you are sorry for, and how you will react differently next time.

It will get boring sometimes. Best gifts for your loved ones
Every couple goes through the “boring” stage.
It’s normal.
It will fade.
This is the time in your relationship you will have to put the most effort in.

Some days you will have to pull more weight than your partner, and vice versa.

It’s important to check in on each other’s mental health.

It’s okay to go to couples counselling.
It helps.
It doesn’t mean you two are ending, or failing.

Talk about money.
Talk about your financial goals.
Let your partner know what you expect from them, and vice versa.

Turn off the phones an hour before bedtime and just talk to each other.

Ask questions like

“What do you need to see more of from me?”
“How can we understand each other better?”

And most importantly, be kind to each other.

Love each other. Best gifts for your loved ones

Fight for each other.

Remember, love is never easy, and it’s one hell of a ride.

But damn, is it ever beautiful, and worth it..
➥𝐼𝑓 𝑖𝑡'𝑠 ℎ𝑒𝑙𝑝𝑓𝑢𝑙 𝑝𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑠𝑒 & 𝑠ℎ𝑎𝑟𝑒>