3 Battles Every Lady Must Win to Succeed in Relationships

There are 3 core battles every lady must conquer if she’s going to win in love. Not just any kind of love, but intentional, godly, healthy kind of love that leads to peace, not pain.

1. The Battle Against Low Self-Esteem

It starts with you. Not with a man. Not with a proposal. Not even with relationship. YOU.

The way you see yourself determines the love you think you deserve. We choose the love we think we deserve.

A lady with low self-esteem will overlook red flags just to be chosen. She’ll keep quiet when she should speak up. She’ll tolerate the bare minimum and be so grateful that it was given.

And the scary part?
She’ll think it’s her fault when things go wrong and try to fix relationships that isn't good for her.

Loving yourself means learning to receive love that matches your value, not your w0unds. It’s looking in the mirror and saying, “I am enough, with or without a man.”

And most of all, it’s knowing that being single is better than being mistreated.

2. The Battle Against Comparison

You scroll through Facebook and IG and see her. The soft life girl. The ring. The candlelight dinner. The captions: “My peace.” “The Odogwu of my life.” “The one that spoils me s!lly.”

And just like that, you feel behind. You start questioning your worth. You wonder if there’s something wrong with you.

You wonder why your own husband can't take you on vacation. You wonder why your own man doesn't pamper you like the other lady’s man.

Always remember that for every post that you see, you are not seeing the full picture of things. You only see what the person wants you to see.

Comparison is the stealer of joy. It forces you not to be content, and makes you underappreciate what you have because your eyes are on what you don't have.

Many ladies compare themselves with others. There is this hidden competition that makes you want to compare your man, possessions, marriage, and even life with others.

Even the Bible says that people who compare themselves with others are not wise. Your story and journey is different. Stop comparing.

3. The Battle Against Deception

The d£vil doesn’t come in red horns. He comes in fine suits, sweet words, and deep scriptures.

Deception is one of the biggest traps in modern dating. Many ladies fall, not because they’re weak, but because they want to believe the best. They are also driven by fantasy and this makes the lady an easy targ£t.

You meet a man who says all the right things:
“I’ve been praying for a woman like you…”
“I’m not like those other guys…”
“I’m ready for marriage…”

But talk is cheap. Character is not. Deception often hides behind charm, but if you will pay attention to character, you will be saved.

That’s why emotional intelligence and spiritual discernment are non-negotiable. You must test the spirit, not just the vibe you feel. You must question the patterns, not just the potential.

So sis, win these three battles not for a man, but for you. Because when you win within, the external will match up.

"I WANT TO CLEAR THE AIR!
TRAORE CAME TO ME AFTER HE HAS CHOSEN A PART OF DESTINY FOR HIS COUNTRY. I ONLY STEPPED IN AS A BIG BROTHER TO GUIDE HIS DREAMS"

-Russian Presido and Point 1, Vladmir Putin clears the air on the majority report of Russia pressing the Traore active buttons.

"I got all it takes to spread my seed across the world as a Superpower but never have Russia used dominance against anyone.

I am a gentle giant who is more concerned in fixing Russia to be the place of all dreams, Russia has no time to pocknose into selfish activities.

After my son Traore set the parts of government in his country straight by making a personal choice that will lead her to her destiny, Traore called me.

The first thing he said was; greetings mr President! Teach Burkina Faso what you and China did that propelled you into Greatness!

At that moment, i saluted his bravery, outspokenness, confidence, and charisma.

Last i found such guts and smartness were from the times of Ojukwu of Nigeria and Thomas Sankara.

I am a big brother, when a young brother cries over to me for help, I will always Help!

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LAGOS POLICE SPREADING FAKE NEWS IN FAILED BID TO COVER ITS ATROCIOUS FRAME-UP OF QUADRI ALABI.

Our attention has been drawn to a false and provocative statement issued by the Lagos State Police Command in which the Command unsuccessfully attempted to mislead the public on the fabricated case they initiated against Quadri Alabi.

The statement is not only laughable, it is ridiculous. It is embarrassing to see the police spread disinformation and fake news about an innocent Nigerian child.

Nigerians will note that in our previous statements, we disclosed that our client was abducted by two ‘Area Boys’ named Lege and Baba Waris while he was on his way home from work and dumped at the Amukoko Divisional Police Station.

These same Area Boys and their cohorts have been been harassing our client since 2023 in their effort to extort “their share” of the donations made to him after he stood in front of the convoy of Mr. Peter Obi.

In its statement, the police claimed that Quadri was arrested in connection with street fighting.

They also claimed that some properties were damaged, and that some persons were also robbed. According to the police, Quadri was identified by some people in the community and by the victims.

First, we wish to restate that Quadri is not 18 years old as mischievously parroted by the police. He is 17 as contained in his birth certificate and attested to by his mother.

He was born on the 29th day of September, 2007.

Second, Quadri was not involved in street fighting and did not rob anyone, he also did not damage anyone’s property.

Third, there was no time that our client was identified by any victim of the alleged crimes. The police should tell the public when and where the identification was done and the method used.

How was Quadri identified by the alleged victims when no identification parade was conducted as required by law, given that the alleged offences were said to have been committed at about 10pm?

Fourth, the police in their statement said that our client was arrested, but they failed to state who exactly arrested him and the place he was arrested. Their silence on these key points is quite revealing.

Sixth, the so-called casemates of Quadri are adults who are not known to him. The police failed to disclose the relationship or connection between Quadri and the four adults who were remanded along with him.

We should also state for the records that the police had detained Quadri for about a week in the police cell before unlawfully taking him before a Magistrate for remand.

It is the law that once the permissible constitutional limit for detaining a suspect has passed, a subsequent order of remand cannot cure the infringement.

It is preposterous that despite the Legal Advice issued by the Learned Director of Public Prosecutions (DPP), Lagos State exonerating Quadri, and his subsequent discharge by the Court, the Lagos State Police Command rather than exude remorse, has chosen the ignoble path of doubling down on its acts of perfidy, shamelessness, lawlessness, and utter contempt for justice and the truth.

We condemn this gross act of recklessness and irresponsibility by the police.

By taking this path, the Nigeria Police Force is reminding the country that it is very far from redemption.

We shall meet the Commissioner of Police, CP Olohundare Moshood Jimoh, the DPO of Amukoko CSP Olaniran Ismaila O., the IPO Inspector Odigbe Samuel, and others in the court in the coming days to seek redress and adequate compensation for Quadri.

We will also file a formal complaint with the Police Service Commission against the lawless DPO of Amukoko.

Nigeria is our country, we will not allow agents of impunity to get away with such abominable oppression of a Nigerian child.

INIBEHE EFFIONG, ESQ.
19th April, 2025.

Inviting you all to the lord's chosen church this coming weekend for a great Easther program 19th and 20th of this month, come and be blessed.

“Earlier, while I was doing music, I was still actively playing football. Hoping that if music doesn’t work, football will work. I was also hoping that someone will notice my great footballing skills and take me abroad to play. But, I was always having injuries. Sometimes when we were booked for a show, we’ll not be able to go because I’ll be limping from injury I got from football. My partner PRESH will be very angry with me. You know, we used to be a duo called KCPresh.

“One day Presh called me and said, KC, you need to choose between football or music. You can’t combine both of them. It won’t work. It was difficult, but I chose music. And I don’t regret it. Many of my footballer friends back in the day, couldn’t make it beyond the Ajegunle hood where we grew up, despite their great skills.

“Football in Nigeria is great luck and connection. You may be very talented, but you may not be able to make it beyond your village, that’s the fact. Maybe, if I had chosen football over music, I wouldn’t be the KCee I am today.” — KCee

The desire to peppêr or show off to your ex only works if they are still interested in you.

Before some individuals end or walk out of a relationship or marriage, they may have exhausted every love they feel for you.

They may have endured immense pain, emotional trauma, and chosen silence over drama.

They may have concealed their thoughts and kept their pains to themselves.

They may have experienced situations that have made them see the part of you they can’t forget.

So, it's not every ex who is interested in whatever you are doing.
Some just want their peace.

Some have unloved you and you are just a random person to them.

Not everyone who breaks up or gets divorced wants to get back together especially when they left because of abúse, be it physically, verbally or emotionally

#Lekwa princess ijeoma ✍🏾
#TheVoice

Two days ago we celebrated mother's day, come to think of it who is a mother?

A mother is someone who nurtures, cares for, and provides love and support to a child. This can be biological, adoptive, or even in a chosen family dynamic. A mother isn’t just defined by giving birth but by the role she plays in a child's life—offering guidance, protection, and unconditional love.

Characteristics of a mother

A mother is often characterized by a mix of emotional, psychological, and practical qualities. While every mother is unique, some common characteristics include:

1. Unconditional Love – A mother’s love is deep, unwavering, and not based on conditions. She cares for her children regardless of their flaws.

2. Nurturing Nature – She provides emotional and physical support, ensuring her children feel safe, loved, and cared for.

3. Patience – Raising children requires immense patience, from teaching life lessons to handling tantrums.

4. Selflessness – A mother often puts her child’s needs before her own, sacrificing time, sleep, and personal desires for their well-being.

5. Strength and Resilience – She remains strong through challenges, whether emotional, financial, or personal, to support her family.

6. Guidance and Wisdom – A mother imparts life lessons, values, and knowledge, helping her children navigate life’s ups and downs.

7. Protectiveness – She instinctively protects her child from harm, whether emotional or physical.

8. Compassion and Empathy – Understanding her child’s feelings and struggles, she provides comfort and reassurance.

9. Dedication and Hard Work – Whether she’s a stay-at-home mom, a working mother, or balancing both, she is committed to providing a better life for her child.

10. Forgiveness – Even when children make mistakes, a mother forgives and continues to support them.

While these characteristics are common, motherhood looks different for everyone. Some mothers may express love through actions rather than words, while others may be more emotional.

What do you think defines a mother best?

Let's have your opinion on this

Sabbath, Lord's Day, etc

The question of which day to worship, Sunday or Saturday, often arises among Christians. While the Jewish tradition emphasizes the observance of Shabbat, Christians tend to prioritize weekly corporate worship. For Jews, worship is a daily practice, with lengthy prayers offered three times a day. On Shabbat, Jews engage in worship activities that differ from their daily routine, but the primary focus is on ceasing from creative work. This concept of resting one day a week is not as prominent in Christian practice, where emphasis is placed on worship itself (click here). However, Jesus' words about the Sabbath being made for man provide insight into the Jewish context. The seven-day week, established by the God of Israel, applies to both Christians and Jews, regardless of the specific day chosen for corporate worship. This discussion opens the door to further exploration of the topic (click here).

God doesn’t call the qualified; He qualifies the called. #ChosenByGrace

God doesn’t call the qualified; He qualifies the called. #ChosenByGrace