“CAN TWO PEOPLE BE IN LOVE AND STILL BE INCOMPATIBLE?”

Two people can be madly in love, light up when they see each other, finish each other's sentences, can't seem to stay away from one another, and yet behind the smiles and chemistry, there's tension. Arguments that don’t get resolved. Deep needs that remain unmet, and over time, love alone doesn’t seem to be enough to hold them together.

This is because love is a feeling. It’s powerful, emotional, and sometimes irrational. It's what draws you in, makes your heart race, and convinces you this is the one.

But compatibility? That’s the everyday stuff. It’s how well your values, life goals, communication styles, beliefs, and habits align. It’s what determines whether two people can actually do life together peacefully and productively.

You can love someone deeply and still struggle to communicate effectively with them.

You can feel butterflies and still clash when it comes to handling money, raising kids, spirituality, or dealing with conflict.
Here are Signs of Incompatibility Despite Love
You love spending time together but argue about everything that matters.

Your goals and life visions are constantly pulling you in opposite directions.

You feel unheard, unseen, or unvalued despite the affection.

You're always trying to “fix” or “change” each other instead of accepting one another.

It’s painful. Because it creates a confusing emotional space—“If we love each other this much, shouldn’t it be enough?” But relationships aren't just about feelings; they’re about functioning well together over time.

Many people stay in unhealthy or chaotic relationships simply because they are in love. But love alone won’t resolve deep incompatibilities. It won’t change someone’s core values or lifestyle choices.

This is because love isn't always enough to build a stable, and fulfilling relationship.

So, understanding this truth helps you to make wiser decisions—whether it’s walking away or choosing to work intentionally on your differences. Because in the end, the goal isn’t just to fall in love—it’s to stay in love, grow together, and enjoy peace while doing life side by side.

Victor Osimhen after agreeing to join Manchester United:

"I'm making this move to Manchester United not just because I want to, but because I believe the club truly needs me. It's a big step, and I'm ready for the challenge. At the same time, I can’t overlook the love and support Galatasaray has shown me. Since arriving at the club, I’ve felt a level of affection and appreciation that I haven't experienced elsewhere. Other clubs have shown me love, yes, but the connection I’ve had with Galatasaray has been truly special."

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A MILLIONAIRESS HIRED A YOUNG MAN TO TEND HER GARDEN, BUT SHE NEVER IMAGINED WHO HE TRULY WAS

Autumn winds carried fallen leaves across the pathways, swirling them into playful patterns. Victoria stood near the window, gazing thoughtfully at her neglected garden. Over the years, it had become an unruly maze of tangled shrubs and towering grass—somewhere between a forgotten woodland and an abandoned lot.

“We really need to do something,” she murmured, speaking more to herself than anyone else.

She powered up her laptop and opened her inbox. A message from Elena Sergeyevna—a former acquaintance from the business world—caught her eye. Elena spoke glowingly of a young gardener: “Kirill is a true expert. In just a few months, he completely revived my garden, returning it to its former splendor.”

Victoria considered it. The estate had been hers for three years, ever since she resolved to start fresh. Yet the garden remained a project she continued to postpone.

Her thoughts drifted toward an old photo frame still resting on the shelf. The image showed her and Alexey—young, joyful, newly back from their honeymoon. She hesitated, then flipped the frame facedown. “No more dwelling on the past,” she told herself firmly.

Fifteen years had passed since Alexey vanished—without explanation, without a trace. Victoria still recalled every detail of that morning. He had risen early, as usual, kissed her on the cheek, and said, “I’ll be late tonight. Don’t wait for dinner.”

Those were the last words he ever spoke to her. He never returned. She had been desperate at first, frantically calling friends and acquaintances, yet no one had any answers. It was as if Alexey had disappeared into thin air—no clues, no sign of where he had gone. At times, it felt like he had never truly existed at all.

Later, a lawyer delivered divorce papers. Alexey hadn’t even met her in person. It took Victoria years to realize how little she had actually known about him. He had entered her life suddenly, won her heart with charm, and showered her with affection. But whenever conversation turned to his past, he skillfully evaded the topic with lighthearted jokes. She, blinded by love, had missed all the warning signs.

A phone call interrupted her thoughts. It was Elena Sergeyevna, checking in about the gardener. “Yes, have him come tomorrow at ten,” Victoria replied after a brief pause.

The next morning, she waited in her home office. At precisely ten o’clock, the doorbell rang.

A young man stood at the entrance—tall, well-built, with a confident stance and an observant gaze.

“Hello, I’m Kirill. Elena Sergeyevna mentioned you were looking for a gardener?” he said with a polite nod.

Victoria led him through the grounds, detailing the work that needed to be done. Kirill moved with deliberate precision, carefully surveying each corner, making notes in a small notebook, and asking thoughtful, technical questions.

“There’s a lot to tackle, but nothing too difficult. In two or three months, we can get everything into pristine condition,” he concluded after their walk.

His certainty was reassuring, and Victoria felt confident in her choice. They settled on the arrangements, and Kirill began work the following morning.

From her office window, she often found herself watching him. There was something captivating about the way he worked—every motion deliberate, without waste or urgency. It was as if he had an innate connection to nature, understanding exactly how to nurture it.

Gradually, the garden started to regain its former charm. The tangled weeds disappeared, paths took shape, and unruly hedges gave way to well-tended flowerbeds. Kirill worked tirelessly from dawn until dusk, pausing only briefly for lunch. Over time, Victoria grew accustomed to his constant presence. They occasionally chatted—discussing plants, the weather, literature. Kirill wasn’t just skilled; he had a natural gift for conversation.

Still, something about him sparked a quiet unease in Victoria…

THE DANGEROUS & COSTLY MISTAKES THAT THE MAJORITY OF GEN Zs' ARE MAKING
TODAY

Let’s be honest — Gen Z is bold, intelligent, creative, and filled with untapped potential. But greatness requires wisdom, discipline, and intentional living. If these mistakes go unchecked, they can sabotage futures before they even begin.

Let’s dive in.

1. LIVING FOR THE INTERNET, NOT FOR IMPACT;

Mistake: Chasing trends instead of transformation.

Wisdom:
In a digital age, it’s tempting to measure worth by likes, followers, and viral moments. But the internet has a short memory. What it remembers are those who made a difference, not those who made noise. Purpose outlives popularity. Build a life that leaves footprints, not just impressions.

Key Thought:
Legacy matters more than likes.

2. MOCKING THE PROCESS, BUT DESIRING THE RESULT;

Mistake: Entitlement without effort.

Wisdom:
You can’t harvest where you haven’t sown. Many want a millionaire lifestyle without embracing a laborer’s discipline. Mocking the hustle while coveting the reward is a self-inflicted curse. Every result you admire was born in hidden, hard places. Embrace the grind — it’s the gate to greatness.

Key Thought:
Desire must be matched by discipline.

3. REPLACING HARD WORK WITH AESTHETICS;

Mistake: Valuing appearance over substance.

Wisdom:
Looking wealthy is not being wealthy. Flaunting lifestyles you haven’t earned is deception to self and others. Clothes, cars, and curated feeds can’t cover empty bank accounts and shallow legacies. Invest your time in developing skills, building assets, and adding value. Substance sustains — aesthetics fade.

Key Thought:
Image fades, value endures.

4. PRIORITIZING FUN OVER FOUNDATION;

Mistake: Sacrificing tomorrow for temporary thrills.

Wisdom:
Youth is a gift, but what you do with it is your offering to the future. Fun has its place, but when pleasure takes priority over preparation, destruction is near. Lay a solid foundation now — in character, skills, relationships, and spiritual depth. Fun without foresight is fatal.

Key Thought:
Your future is the harvest of today’s habits.

5. THINKING YOU STILL HAVE TIME;

Mistake: Delaying destiny.

Wisdom:
Time waits for no one. While you hesitate, someone else your age is already leading, building, and shaping history. Starting early is an advantage, not a burden. Greatness isn’t scheduled for the future — it begins the moment you decide to grow. Don’t wait for the ‘perfect time.’ It doesn’t exist.

Key Thought:
The earlier you start, the stronger you finish.

6. TALKING MORE THAN DOING;

Mistake: Replacing execution with inspiration.

Wisdom:
Inspiration is everywhere, but action is rare. The gap between your dreams and your reality is called discipline. Stop being a motivational addict and start being a transformational leader. Speak less, do more. Let your results be louder than your quotes.

Key Thought:
Execution outperforms excitement.

7. RUNNING FROM CORRECTION;

Mistake: Canceling accountability.

Wisdom:
Correction is not rejection; it’s protection. Those who tell you uncomfortable truths are your true allies. Surrounding yourself with only those who applaud you is the fastest road to destruction. Value mentors, accept rebuke, and welcome growth conversations. Pride resists correction — wisdom craves it.

Key Thought:
Correction today saves catastrophe tomorrow.

8. CONFUSING ATTENTION FOR AFFECTION;

Mistake: Seeking applause over authentic connection.

Wisdom:
The culture rewards clout-chasing, but attention is shallow currency. Don’t dress, speak, or live for applause while starving for meaning. Real affection is built on character, trust, and value — not viral trends. Pursue depth over display. Attention fades fast; authentic relationships last.

Key Thought:
Be known for who you are, not just what you show.

9. BELIEVING YOU’RE TOO YOUNG TO FALL;

Mistake: Assuming immunity because of early success.

Wisdom:
Success without humility is a ticking time bomb. No one is untouchable. Pride blinds, and it always precedes a fall. Stay teachable, stay grounded. Let your head bow as your platform rises. Arrogance disqualifies faster than ignorance.

Key Thought:
Success unmanaged is a silent threat.

10. SLEEPING ON YOUR GIFTS;

Mistake: Letting fear bury potential.

Wisdom:
Talent unused is purpose wasted. The world doesn’t need another copy, it needs the original you. Stop hiding behind fear, perfectionism, or excuses. Wake up your gifts. Refuse to be buried with your greatness still locked inside you.

Key Thought:
Unused potential is a tragedy.

FINAL CHARGE TO GEN Z;

You are the future, but only if you survive the present. Refuse to let laziness, entitlement, pride, or fear sabotage your destiny. The world is watching — but more importantly, your generation is counting on you.

Rise with wisdom. Build with intention. Lead with humility.

Your future isn’t promised, it’s prepared. Start now.

Ladies, understand this clearly: men pursue women for two main reasons — sex and love. But here’s the reality that’s often overlooked. Most men do not marry for sex, and they do not marry solely for love. Men marry for stability.

Let me break this down. A man can love you with all his heart and still not marry you. He can enjoy your company, share intimate moments, and even spend years with you without ever making you his wife. But the moment he encounters a woman who brings stability into his life — true, undeniable stability — he will marry her.

And when I say stability, I’m talking about peace of mind.
I’ve heard men confess, “I love her, but I don’t think I can spend the rest of my life with her.”
Why? Because love alone is not enough. Sex is not enough. Men are visionaries when it comes to marriage. They don’t fantasize about wedding dresses, flower arrangements, or the color scheme of the big day. Instead, they ask themselves essential questions: Can this woman build a home with me? Can she nurture me and our future children? Can she give me the peace of mind I crave?

Men run from discomfort. They avoid chaos. This is exactly why a man can stay with a woman for years without commitment, and then meet another woman and marry her within a month. It’s not about how long you’ve known him — it’s about the comfort and calm she brings to his life.

Sex is pleasure. Love is affection. But respect — respect is stability. And stability is what ultimately leads a man to say, “This is the woman I want to build my life with. This is my wife.”

So ladies, don’t just aim to be loved or desired — aim to be a woman of peace. Aim to be the calm in his storm, the stability in his vision, the respect in his heart. Because when a man finds peace with you, he finds his forever in you.

This is your reminder that the love you want exists, and it doesn’t come with begging.

There’s a kind of love that doesn’t leave you questioning if you’re too much.

It doesn’t leave you doing everything alone. It doesn’t make you beg for help, or affection, or to be noticed. It meets you where you are, and stays.

So, wait for him.

Wait for the man who doesn’t let you carry the weight of everything on your own.

Wait for the man who sees when you’re tired without you even having to say it out loud.

Wait for the man that will carry you to bed when you fall asleep on the couch.

Wait for the man who will stay up with you and your scary thoughts, while the rest of the world is sleeping.

Wait for the man who will always kiss you at 6 am when he’s leaving for work.

Wait for the man who makes you crack a smile, even when you’re so annoyed with him.

Wait for the man who sees your mental health going back down, and pushes you to do things for yourself.

Wait for the man who wants to know your love language, and will put the effort into learning about it.

Wait for the man who is secure in himself, so he always pushes you to be yourself.

Wait for the man who doesn’t have an issue saying “I’m sorry, I should have handled that better..”

Wait for the man who cuddles you, and it makes you so feel safe, that you never want to let go.

Wait for the man that you would be proud of, if you’re daughter was with him.

Wait for the man who doesn’t like scary movies, but will stay up watching them with you because he knows you love them.

Wait for the man who has to fall asleep touching you, even if it’s just his feet.

Wait for the man who goes out with his friends, but calls to check in just to say he misses you.

Wait for the man who is so tired from working all day, but comes home with energy, and can instantly switch in to dad/husband mode.

Wait for the man who will sit on the same side of the booth as you at a restaurant, just to be closer to you.

Wait for the man who always does what he says he’s going to do.

Wait for the man who will drive the long road trips, because highways give you anxiety.

Wait for the man who doesn’t complete you.
Wait for the man that inspires you to complete yourself, with his support and guidance.

Wait for the man, who you think may not exist, because you are “asking for too much”.

When you wait for the right man, you will realize, you were never asking for too much.

When you wait for the right man, he will make all of the arguments and rough days, feel like just small bumps along the road.

When you wait for the right man, he will show you how warm, safe, and beautiful love really is.

27 REASONS YOUR WIFE DOESNT ENJOY MAKING LOVE TO YOU...

1. You go too deep too fast.
2. You don't know how to kiss!
3. You squeeze her bre@sts instead of fondling them
4. You bite her n1pples instead of teasing them.
5. You only grind her V, you don't rock it from different angles.
6. You don't know how to flirt before making love.
7. You are very stingy.
8. You don't assist with house chores when she is stressed out.
9. You don't dash her money for her personal enjoyment.
10. You don't call her name in a sweet, affectionate, romantic, sexy way.
11. You don't look into her eyeballs and tell her she is the sweetest human you have ever tasted.
12. You don't praise her b√ttocks.
13. You don't salute her br£asts.
14. You don't pay homage to her v∆gina!
15. You don't lavish her with attention when she speaks to you.
16. You don't flaunt her shamelessly and carry her with pride.
17. You don't carry her matter on top of your head!
18. You don't respect her boundaries.
19. You have sex like a hungry lion instead of make love like a sweet, gentle lamb with the tempo of a strong horse!
20. You don't know how to get her wet, yearning, desiring and craving for you before you even lay hands on her.
21. You haven't read my book SEX SWEET SEX that teaches you how to enjoy maximum sexual pleasure with your wife.
22. You didn't read my book: PASSIONATE LOVE MAKING FOR NEW BEGINNERS while preparing for wedding.
23. You don't know how to locate her G sp0t and give her the deepest, highest, toe curling, heaven touching 0rhasm of her life!
24. You don't know how to take her out on romantic date nights.
25. You don't know how to call her during the day just to hear her sweet, soft, angelic voice...
26. You don't pay bills, in fact, you have been owing electricity bull since last year December!
27. You don't send money to her account to surprise her from time to time.

And lots more!

Why do so many men find it difficult doing sweet things to their wives?

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If You Make It Too Comfortable for Her to Love You—You’ll Never Know If She Does.

Because comfort hides character. And ease erases effort.

Let’s stop acting naive.

She didn’t love you.
She loved how easy it was to be with you.

You brought the car.
You picked the bills.
You paid the rent.
You moved her into the good life.

And now you’re surprised she vanished when things got hard?

She didn’t change.
You just never made her prove anything to begin with.

Because if you make it too comfortable for her to love you,
you’ll never know if she actually does.

1. You Should Have Hidden Your Hand—Not Played It All at Once

You showed her your wallet before you saw her heart.
You revealed your status before you saw her substance.

You led with lifestyle, not leadership.
You were busy trying to win her… while she was watching if someone better was coming.

You didn’t date her.
You sponsored her.

And when the lifestyle paused,
so did the affection.

2. Every Woman Is Sweet in Soft Life—Wait Until the Pressure Hits

She cooked.
She cleaned.
She moaned like a lovebird.
But that was before rent was due, and your business dipped.

Now she sighs every time you talk.
Now “you’ve changed.”
Now she “needs space.”

She didn’t lose feelings.
She lost benefits.

She was never tested, never strained, never asked to choose you without comfort.
So when real life entered—she exited.

3. If You Want Loyalty, Create Conditions That Reveal It

Say no.
Delay gratification.
Hold back your resources.
Slow down the rewards.

Let her meet the man—not the gifts.
Let her see the work—not just the wins.

If she only claps when you’re balling,
she’s not your wife.
She’s your fan.

And fans don’t stay when the performance ends.

4. You’re Playing by the Heart—She’s Learning from the Pros

You’re out here thinking,
“If I love her enough, she’ll stay.”

But she’s studying the algorithm.
Learning from TikTok therapists, divorced aunties, and girls who say:
“Never settle.”
“If he slips—dip.”
“Upgrade, don’t wait.”

You’re loving from the chest.
She’s planning with her checklist.

You’re thinking about forever.
She’s thinking about her next option.

You’re loyal.
She’s strategic.

And if you pause, she’ll replace you—before you even finish explaining yourself.

5. The Substitute Strategy Works Because Every New Man Overperforms

She knows:
Every new man starts with his best self.
New man = new effort = new benefits.

So why should she struggle with a man in “grind mode”
when a fresh suitor is flying her out by Thursday?

Why endure…
when substitution brings faster results?

She’s not in it for the process.
She’s in it for the payoff.

6. Her Circle Is the Whispering Wind Behind the Exit

You think she’s just “overthinking.”
No, she’s being influenced.

By friends who already left.
By single mothers who want her free.
By social media stars who preach quitting over building.

“Girl, you too fine to be suffering.”
“He’s not your only option.”
“You deserve soft life.”

Now your hard-working hands look like punishment.
Your discipline looks like control.
Your vision feels like a burden.

She’s no longer yours—
she’s theirs.

7. Her Loyalty Is Built on Lifestyle, Not Love

You gave her the best.
Now she can’t even manage the average.

You brought her up from struggle—
Now she calls that struggle “toxic.”

You turned her life around—
Now she sees you as the bare minimum.

She never wanted to grow with you.
She just wanted to benefit from your elevation.

And once the stream dries up,
so does the “I love you.”

8. She Doesn’t Want the Builder—She Wants the Finished Product

She’s not waiting for the house to be complete.
She wants the mansion, furnished, scented, and photo-ready.

If your money isn’t loud,
if your life isn’t soft,
if your timing isn’t perfect—

She’s gone.

And when you finally make it,
she’ll return as a “changed woman.”

But brother, don’t fall for the remix of what already failed the first audition.

Final Truth: You Thought You Were Her Blessing—She Saw You as a Bridge

You gave her ease.
She gave you attitude.
You gave her stability.
She gave you silence.

Because you made it too easy.
Too sweet.
Too convenient.

And in a world where options are endless,
easy love is easily replaced.

Final Word to Men:

Discipline yourself.
Slow down your yes.
Don’t offer the palace before you test the peasant.

Make her show up when the lights are off.
Make her prove herself when there’s nothing to post.
Make her stay when the world says she should leave.

Because if she can’t endure pressure,
she doesn’t deserve the palace.

And if she’s only sweet when it’s easy,
she’s a luxury guest—not a life partner.

Let the comments fly.
We’ve all got a story.

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#TestHerFirst
#SacrificeVsSubstitute
#ModernWomen
#BuildSmart

Some women will go their entire lifetime and never experience the meaning of actual true love.
It's even slightly depressing to think that most people will never understand how powerful this picture actually is.
This gentleman is a prime example of how men should be treating their partner with every day that passes.
We unfortunately live in a generation with men who have no idea what it takes to be a real man.
Let me give you a couple examples of a real man ......
A real man asks about your day and genuinely cares about the answer.
A real man respects your boundaries and never forces you to anything you're not ready to do.
He makes time for you and takes that time to learn and understand who you are as a person.
A real man consistently shows you the definition of effort with every day that passes.
He will call you randomly throughout the day just to check on you and your mental health.
A real man is undeniably committed to you and looks for new ways to fall in love with you with every day that passes.
He makes protecting your heart a number one priority.
A real man never makes permanent decisions based on temporary emotions.
He never confuses you on where you stand in his life.
A real man apologizes when he is wrong and stays true to his character.
He doesn't mind hurting other people's feeling to protect yours.
A real man gives you affection without sexual expectation.
A real man refuses to entertain any women that isn't you.
He has genuine intentions with you from day one and shows you how it truly feels to be a priority rather an option.
A real man will help you heal from the trauma that nobody apologized for.
A real man values you and would never put themselves in a position to lose you.
Take my advice and wait for the man that never let's you fall asleep at night questioning your own self-worth.
~ Cody Bret

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Every man wishes he had a good woman, but what he doesn't realize is that good women with kind hearts have real emotions.

They feel deeply, love passionately, and are extremely affectionate and loyal.

Because of their tender hearts, they can easily become frustrated, upset, or emotional. However, they will love you with all their heart and soul.

They might be moody, but you can be sure that they will offer a love that is hard to find anywhere else.

18 COSTLY MISTAKES THAT HUSBANDS MAKE

1. WORKING SO HARD AT YOUR JOB/BUSINESS BUT NOT IN YOUR MARRIAGE
Men, your company, your career, and your business are growing and flourishing because you lead them; your marriage will grow and flourish when you lead it and dedicate time to it.

2. THINKING THAT FLIRTING WITH OTHER WOMEN IS NOT CHEATING
You may not physically sleep with other women, but emotionally cheating is also unfaithfulness. Receiving nude images and having phone intimacy with other women is also cheating. Talking suggestively and attracting temptations is also cheating. If you are a flirt, flirt with your wife. If you claim your wife is too rigid, treat her well, and she will respond to your kinky ways. She also wants intimate pleasure and to feel wanted.

3. BEING GENEROUS OUTSIDE AND STINGY AT HOME
Don't be the husband who quickly says yes when other people ask for help, for your time and your money, but stingy to your wife and child/children. Your family comes first. Don't go to harambees contributing large sums, helping out people because you want to have a good public image yet to your family you deprive and deny.

4. THINKING THAT SHOWING LOVE IS AN UNMANLY THING
When you were dating and courting, you were romantic and thoughtful; but now that you are married, you wrongly think showing love is beneath you. If you truly love your wife, tell her, she needs to hear it. Warm her heart. Romance her. Date your wife. Her being a wife doesn't mean she doesn't need to feel loved. Real men show their love. God is a loving God. If God doesn't find showing love as something beneath Him, who are you to shun showing affection yet you are created in the image of God?

5. THROWING MONEY AND GIFTS AT PROBLEMS
When your wife and kids get concerned about you spending much time away from home, when you are told you are not doing what you are supposed to; change, improve. Don't throw money and gifts at them to silence them. They want your time and presence, not lifeless things.

6. ADMIRING OTHER WOMEN MORE THAN YOUR WIFE
If you find other women better looking than your wife, work on your wife. Nourish her with compliments, buy her clothes you think she'd look good in, take her shopping, pamper her, love her up till she glows. Go to the gym with her. Jog with her.

7. WASTING YOUR FAMILY MONEY ON MEANINGLESS THINGS
Stop wasting your family money on alcohol, drugs, prostitutes, strippers, and addictions. Invest that money in your family, the future of your child/children. Even if you are a super wealthy man, you can find other ways to have fun that contributes positively to your family life. You can channel your money into more honorable things like supporting your parents, your siblings, the less fortunate, and the needs of society. You don't have to be unfaithful and reckless just because you have lots of money.

8. JUSTIFYING PORNOGRAPHY
Pornography is lusting after other women on videos and images. This is actually cheating because you are desiring other women, not your wife. This also lays the ground for future acts of unfaithfulness. Because you see no harm in desiring strange women on videos and pictures, soon you will see no harm in desiring women in the streets, at work, in your neighborhood; then you might actually sleep with another woman.

9. THINKING THAT BEING THE HEAD OF THE FAMILY MEANS BEING A DICTATOR
This is what makes some husbands beat up their wives, abuse them, sit on them, and hinder their progress. Your wife is not your junior but your partner, she is one with you. Hurting her is hurting you. She is not your competitor, celebrate her progress. Being head doesn't mean your word is law or that you treat your wife as a slave. In fact, because you are the head you should serve more, give more and humble yourself to make sure your wife and child/children are doing well.

10. IGNORING YOUR WIFE'S ADVICE
Don't hide things from your wife. Engage her in making family decisions, you are stronger when you move as a team. Your wife has sharp instincts and she will help you navigate through life's issues.

11. BEING TOO PROUD TO SAY SORRY OR TO LISTEN
You are capable of doing wrong, and when you do wrong, admit it. Problems don't get solved when you deny them. You are not perfect. Learn to say sorry to your wife and child/children. By refusing to say sorry, you are showing your wife you are insensitive and that will hurt her and damage the mood at home. Sometimes all a woman needs is for you to say, "I am sorry." Be open to learning and being corrected. Far too many men are ruining their homes because of pride.

12. ABANDONING YOUR SPIRITUAL ROLE
You are to lead your family, even spiritually. Don't neglect this role and leave it for your wife alone. Your wife needs your prayers, she needs you to walk with her in God. Your child/children need to see you living for God, praying, and teaching them about God. You say you want a Godly household, well, be an actively Godly husband and father.

13. TAKING YOUR JOB TITLE HOME
Whether you are a C.E.O, Manager, Director, or an award-winning professional, once you get home or are with your wife and family, put away your title. Play your role as husband and father. Don't treat your wife and children like subordinates, lording over them. The home is a place of love, not a place for orders, restrictions, pressure, and intimidation.

14. HIDING YOUR FAILURES
In case things don't go well, you get fired, you get retrenched, or you make a bad decision; share it with your wife, don't hide it trying to project a fake image of 'everything is alright'. Your wife is there for you, she will walk with you. Share with her your weaknesses and failures. Love will always win.

15. WORRYING MORE ABOUT WHAT YOUR MALE FRIENDS OR PARENTS THINK THAN PLEASING YOUR FAMILY
Don't let your friends or parents run your marriage. Don't let your friends negatively influence you by mocking you that you are being sat on by your wife or wrongly advise you to be tough on your wife just to prove you are man enough. A true friend is a friend to your marriage. Your parents might mean well but might drive a wedge between you and your wife. You left your father and mother to be one with your wife. Defend your home.

16. BEING INTIMATELY SELFISH
Your wife has intimate needs too. Don't just seek your own gratification and then sleep or leave her unsatisfied. Fulfill her physically. Kiss her, touch her, embrace her, massage her, stimulate her, explore her body, evoke her passion, make her tremble, give her every sensual pleasure. She is devoted to you, and no other can fulfill this role like you can. Make sure she's fulfilled, and she'll reciprocate. Your responsibility is to arouse her and satisfy her intimately. A passionately engaged wife is a content wife and fosters a harmonious home. Make love to her.

17. LETTING HER BE THE PARENT ALONE
When she gets pregnant, don't abandon her. Walk with her as she carries your child. After birth, be proactive in teaching, mentoring, and guiding your child/children. Stop the nonsense of when the child does wrong, the child is your wife's; when the child does well, you are a proud father.

18. FAILING TO PREPARE YOUR CHILD/CHILDREN FOR YOUR SUCCESSION
When you start a business, involve your child/children. Let your wife know of your properties, assets, and ventures. Prepare your children's future. Write a will. Share information, don't keep things in the dark. Too much unnecessary confusion plagues families because of lack of preparation in your marriage.