You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, deserve your love and affection.

THINGS SEX DOESN'T DO.

1) Sex doesn't Strengthen a Relationship.

A Relationship that is weak is weak not because there is no sex in it, but because there is no LOVE (affection, attention), COMMUNICATION and COMMITMENT in it..

"Sex is not Love"

Adequate daily Communication, giving Attention to each other (hanging out, spending time together) and showing Affection (speaking each other's love language) for each other strengthens Relationships.

2) Sex doesn't Spice up a Relationship

Eti "let's spice our relationship with sex"

A Relationship is boring not because of a lack of Sex, but because of a lack of purpose, fun, friendship and excitement in the individual and cooperate lives of those in it.

3) Sex doesn't Prove Love

"if you love me, prove it"

Sex is not a way you prove your love for anyone, especially someone you're not married to, in fact, abstinence is a better proof of love than sex.

Your ability to wait is a proof of true LOVE than your inability to wait which is rather a proof of LUST.

A Person can have sex with you and not love you.

4) Sex doesn't Keep a Relationship

"I don't want to lose him"

You can give him/her sex and they'll will still dump you tomorrow, I counsel victims of this daily.

Even with good sex, MARRIAGES still break down everyday, talk less of a relationship.

What keeps a relationship is LOVE, RESPECT, CHARACTER, and COMMITMENT.

5) Sex doesn't Prove that you're a mature adult

"We're matured adults, let's do it."

When did sex become the sign of matured adults?.

Immature and irresponsible teenagers have sex everyday, does that make them adults?

Sex doesn't mean you're matured, rather you prove your maturity by discipline and self control.

Sex Has its Time

Wait, in the right season, na you go tire..

Keep sex out of your Relationship and build a solid foundation for your Marriage.
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WAYS TO SHOW YOUR HUSBAND THAT YOU CARE AND LOVE HIM PRACTICALLY


1. Ask How His Day Was—and Really Listen. Show genuine interest in what’s happening in his life. Let him know you care about both the big and small things.

2. Give Him Your Undivided Attention. Put your phone down when you're talking. Eye contact and presence matter more than people often realize.

3. Respect His Opinions. Even if you disagree, value his perspective. Letting him be heard shows you care about who he is—not just what he does.

4. Tell him "I love you" regularly—and genuinely. Words carry power, especially when they're sincere.

5. Compliment Him Sincerely. Notice the good—his looks, his effort, his sense of humor, how he parents, or how he treats others—and say it aloud.

6. Covering him in prayer. No one knows him better than you do. Speak a blessing to him. Declare his greatness. To break a home, the head of the family gets attacked; he needs you to watch his back

7. Speak Well of Him to Others. Show respect when he’s not around. Uplifting him in front of family, friends, or coworkers builds trust and honor.

8. Cook His Favorite Meal. Food is love for many people. Surprise him with something he loves—even better if it’s homemade.

9. Initiate Regular love making with him. Affection and desire are powerful ways to connect. Let him know you still want and love him. S€xual activity communicates love and connection to a man.

10. Be faithful. Don't let him worry about the thought of you in the arms of another man. Responsible men value faithfulness; faithfulness to a man communicates loyalty

11. Initiate Physical Affection. Hold hands, hug him unexpectedly, or cuddle. Touch is a powerful expression of love and reassurance.

12. Surprise Him. A small gift, a random act of kindness, or an impromptu date night can brighten his whole week.

13. Appreciating him more than you complain. Notice and thank him for the everyday things he does—whether it's fixing something, going to work, or making you laugh. Say “Thank You” Often. Gratitude is one of the clearest ways to show care. Don't let the little things go unnoticed.Be the woman who sees his growth and effort as he strives to be better; not the woman keeping a score of the few times he falls and who makes him never forget his mistakes

14. Support His Goals. Encourage his dreams and interests, even if they’re different from yours. Be his cheerleader in public and private. Lift him up when he doubts himself. Let him hear that you believe in him and his potential.

15. Make sure he comes home to peace, not drama or quarrels or harsh questions the moment he enters the house. Does your man feel at home at home?

16. Add value financially. Whether by contributing to the financial earnings of the family or helping in managing the family finances well if he is the sole bread winner

17. Warn him with love when he is walking into fire. Problem is, some wives don't warn with love, they judge with bitterness. Speak to him with respect

18. Be His Safe Place. Offer comfort and understanding when he’s stressed or struggling. Let him be vulnerable without fear of judgement

19. Celebrate His Wins. Whether it’s a promotion, finishing a project, or just getting through a tough week—recognize his victories.

20. Speak His Love Language. Whether it’s acts of service, words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, or gifts—speak in the way he feels love most.

You will not fail in marriage in Jesus' name

SEX
Sex in marriage can be a beautiful way to connect with your partner on a deep level. It's a way to show love, affection, and intimacy. Communication is key to a healthy and fulfilling sex life in marriage. Couples should prioritize mutual respect, trust, and understanding to create a strong bond.

Some benefits of a healthy sex life in marriage include:

- Emotional intimacy and connection
- Physical and mental well-being
- Strengthened relationship bond
- Increased trust and communication

Every couple is unique, and what works for one may not work for another. Prioritizing open communication and mutual respect can help couples navigate their sex life in a way that works for them.

Dear Parents and Teachers: A Heartfelt Plea on Behalf of Our Daughters…. By Esomnofu Chidiebube Ifechukwu

If you are a parent—especially of a girl child—please, I beg you, take special care. I am not in any way suggesting that boys don’t deserve our attention; they absolutely do. But let’s be honest: female children mature faster—emotionally, physically, and mentally. And because of that, they often face unique vulnerabilities at a much earlier age.

I’ve been teaching for over a decade now, and from my earliest years in the classroom, especially in senior secondary school, I observed something deeply troubling. You walk into a class, full of passion and commitment, ready to teach mathematics or any subject—and then, midway into your explanation on indices or algebra, a hand goes up. But instead of a question related to the topic, you hear:

“Sir, I like your trousers.”
“You look handsome today.”
“Are you married?”
“How old are you?”

These are not academic questions. They are signs. Signs that these children are at a sensitive stage of self-discovery. Their minds are searching for validation, attention, affection—even if they don’t understand it fully. And without the right guidance, they may seek it in the wrong places.

That is why parents must be vigilant—not overbearing, but intentionally present. Don’t just buy clothes, pay fees, and think your job is done. Talk to your daughters. Guide them. Warn them. Watch them. Be their safe space.

And to my fellow male teachers, I speak with a heavy heart: not every compliment is an invitation. Not every glance is a green light. You are not just a teacher of subjects—you are a teacher of values. Be disciplined. Be responsible. These girls are not temptations; they are someone’s daughter, someone’s hope, someone’s entire world. Please, don’t be the one who ruins that world.

If we fail to mentor these girls with integrity, we risk handing them over to a world that will not be as merciful. Let us raise them with wisdom, not leave them to figure life out through regret.

Because when a girl child stumbles—especially due to the silence or failure of the adults around her—the scars often last a lifetime.

Please, let’s do better. For our daughters. For our conscience. For the future.

MUST READ: Phone Rules For Couples

PHONE USE RULES FOR COUPLES:

1. Don't make a habit of putting your phone on silent mode or turning it off each time you're with your partner. It makes you look like you are hiding something

2. Save your partner's phone number using a special title like "Hubby", "Love", "Wife", "Sweetie". Or save using a title plus the official name. Using the official name only makes your partner look like just the other contacts on your phone

3. Answer your partner's phone call with loving affectionate words like "Hi love", and "Hey honey". How a conversation starts determines how it flows. If you start warm, you two will enjoy talking with each other on the phone

4. End the talk on a high. Say "I love you", say a joke, a compliment, a warm phrase before you hang up. Hang up with a smile

5. It is OK to chat with friends online. But never chat with another person more than you chat with your partner

6. If you will be busy, notify your partner you will not be able to pick up calls or reply to texts promptly. Inform your partner what you will be doing and approximately for how long. This prepares your partner and brings peace because your partner will not feel ignored

7. Flirting on phone is good but only flirt with your partner

8. Tell off people who try to flirt with you, entice you, and charm you on phone. Let them know that you are taken

9. Take lots of photos and videos together to capture moments. You will need those pics and videos in the future as you look back
MUST READ: Phone Rules For Couples
MUST READ: Phone Rules For Couples

10. When you go out on dates, keep the phone away, and minimize phone use so that you focus on each other

11. Don't make a habit of walking away from your partner to answer phone calls. Your partner will perceive you are hiding something or having an affair. Love is about perception

12. After the date and you don't live together; man, call her up and check on her, tell her you got home safe; lady, send him a text, thanking him for a wonderful time

13. Unless it's an emergency when you can't reach your partner and you probably know he/she is at work or doing something; don't keep calling and texting desperately. You will only look like a nag to your partner and that will make your partner detest phone contact with you. Relax, your partner will see your missed call and text

14. When you see a missed call or text from your partner, please call back or reply as soon as you can. Put your partner at ease

15. Save your partner's phone number as an emergency number to be contacted in case something happens to you and your phone is locked

16. Avoid fights and arguments over the phone, they are difficult to manage and leave a bad feeling when you hang up, thus negatively affecting how you two relate. Talk about serious issues that are volatile face to face

17. When your partner offends you or you two aggravate each other, never refuse to pick up your partner's phone call. That only makes matters worse. Keep the line of communication open so that you work things out. If you can't talk at the moment you are hurting, just pick up the call and say "I can't talk right now" and your partner will understand

18. Inform your partner when and why you need to turn off your phone when you two are apart. Keep your partner from worrying

19. When you two are having fun together, it is good to celebrate your love online but don't post too much about your love life. Some things are best kept private. The world doesn't have to know every detail of how you love each other

20. When you two are having problems, don't vent about your partner directly or indirectly on your social media posts

21. Don't let your partner get news about you from social media like your online friends. Tell the news to your partner first, and then post it online

22. If your partner tries calling you but your line is engaged, explain who you were talking to. If someone calls you when you're with your partner, say who it was. Transparency and clarity enhance trust

23. Remember it is your role to communicate. None of you should feel he/she is forcing a conversation or is doing much of the talking. Communication takes two

24. Put away the phone when your partner needs your undivided attention, especially in the bedroom. Don't be intimate, holding your phone, more than you hold your partner

Phone use can affect your relationship/marriage negatively or positively. Be smart as you use your smartphone.

You are either stressfully waiting for something - more money, security, affection - or you are living from your deep heart, opening as the entire moment, and giving what you most deeply desire to give, without waiting.

*DEAR LADIES, TRUTH ABOUT DATING MARRIED MEN!!*

Dating a married man may feel exciting. It may look easy. He maybe spending on you but behind closed doors, it’s a path full of pain, secrets, and stolen moments.

Dear Ladies,
No matter what life may throw back at you, never you find happiness in another woman's pain.
A marriage that is built on another woman's tears will never stand.

Don't be an instrument that ends another woman’s happiness.

TRUTH ABOUT DATING MARRIED MEN!!

1. The only thing he wants is sex. He comes and goes back home to his wife.

2.He is never going to leave his wife for you

3. You are most likely not the only one.

4.After using you he will move on to someone else.

5.He doesn't owe you anything.

6.Getting pregnant on purpose won't trap him; his kids are at home with his wife.

7. His money and property is for him and his family, you only get the small changes.

8. You will never be part of his future.

9. You’ll live in silence.
No public affection. No open love. You hide while he lives two lives.

10. You’ll never be his priority
His wife, his children, his home—they come first. You’re an option, not a commitment.

NOTE:
Sister, You may destroy another woman’s home
And one day, you might be in her shoes.

A struggling young man is better than a married man.
A home built on another woman's tears won't stand.
Look for your own Husband and stop tearing another woman's marriage apart.

Maybe you’re not just horny—you’re starved for human touch, affection, intimacy, passion, and fluid communication, followed by an orgasmic release. Your soul craves more than physical connection; it’s hungry for mental stimulation, non-sexual affection, comforting conversations, and pure transparency.
What you truly desire is a soulful bond where masculine and feminine energy intertwine seamlessly. It’s not just about someone penetrating your body; it’s about someone who touches your soul, ignites your spirit, and sees you completely.
The soul always knows what it wants—and it won’t settle for less than the depth and fulfillment it deserves.

*DEAR LADIES, TRUTH ABOUT DATING MARRIED MEN!!

Dating a married man may feel exciting. It may look easy. He maybe spending on you but behind closed doors, it’s a path full of pain, secrets, and stolen moments.

Dear Ladies,
No matter what life may throw back at you, never you find happiness in another woman's pain.
A marriage that is built on another woman's tears will never stand.

Don't be an instrument that ends another woman’s happiness.

TRUTH ABOUT DATING MARRIED MEN!!

1. The only thing he wants is sex. He comes and goes back home to his wife.

2.He is never going to leave his wife for you

3. You are most likely not the only one.

4.After using you he will move on to someone else.

5.He doesn't owe you anything.

6.Getting pregnant on purpose won't trap him; his kids are at home with his wife.

7. His money and property is for him and his family, you only get the small changes.

8. You will never be part of his future.

9. You’ll live in silence.
No public affection. No open love. You hide while he lives two lives.

10. You’ll never be his priority
His wife, his children, his home—they come first. You’re an option, not a commitment.

NOTE:
Sister, You may destroy another woman’s home
And one day, you might be in her shoes.

A struggling young man is better than a married man.
A home built on another woman's tears won't stand.
Look for your own Husband and stop tearing another woman's marriage apart.

It is a sign of immaturity when you say yes to a man immediately after he asks you out.
But do you know what's even more immature?
Saying no, not because you don’t like him, not because he's not your type, and not because you're uncertain but because someone somewhere on the internet told you, “Never say yes too soon.”
We now live in a generation where relationships are sabotaged before they even begin not by incompatibility or lack of love, but by the fear of looking too available.
Too many women have been fed the idea that being “hard to get” is the only way to protect their worth. You hear things like: “Don’t pick up his calls too fast,” “Don’t reply to his messages quickly,”
“Make him chase you for months,” “You’re the prize let him suffer for you.” And somehow, this has become a badge of maturity.
But here's the truth that you don't like to hear...
There is a huge difference between being valuable and being emotionally manipulative. You are not expensive because you are hard to reach. You are valuable because of who you are, your mindset, your growth, your character, your peace, your purpose, and your vision.
Maturity is not about delaying the obvious.
It’s knowing when something good has come to you and being confident enough to embrace it. If you’ve met someone you connect with, someone whose values align with yours, someone you can build with... why punish them for showing up right?
Why make them chase you for months just to prove you're “not easy”?
Some ladies have lost the love of their lives to unnecessary delays and performance-based dating. They knew the man was right. They had peace. But the fear of looking “too available” made them miss out on something beautiful.
Who gave us this mindset?
Who told us that a woman is only valuable when she plays hard to get?
Let’s tell ourselves the truth. Emotional maturity is knowing what you want and having the courage to walk toward it, not run from it hoping the other person will chase you to prove something. You are not the prize because you say no. You are the prize because of what you bring into a relationship... Love, growth, stability, vision, purpose, peace, and more.
Ladies, your worth is not proven by how long you make a man suffer.
You don’t need to pretend you’re uninterested just to appear powerful. If you like him and he likes you, and you both are emotionally, spiritually, and mentally ready, then be honest with yourself. Be wise, but don’t be manipulative.
There’s a difference between discernment and delay tactics. There’s a difference between guarding your heart and hiding your heart out of fear.
Stop letting other people’s failed stories shape your success story.
You are not “just another lady.” But remember, you don’t prove that by withholding affection, you prove it by showing up fully, intentionally, and maturely when love finds you.
You are not weak because you say yes.
You are wise because you say yes with clarity.
Let’s normalize healthy, emotionally intelligent relationships not games that end up with both people confused and heartbroken.
I hope this helps you make the right decision.

DON'T FRIENDZONE YOUR SPOUSE

1. Never stop flirting with your spouse

2. Never stop kissing your spouse

3. Husband, never stop touching her butt

4. Wife, never stop playing with his penis

5. Never sleep in different rooms in the same house or same hotel

6. Never tell your spouse, "You don't have to know"

7. Never deliberately hide your nakedness from your spouse

8. Never deny your spouse sex or use sex as a weapon

9. Never treat your spouse as you do your friends. Your spouse is most special

10. Never joke with your spouse in a manner that sounds insulting to your spouse

11. Never deliberately hide things from your spouse

12. Never go a day without saying something loving to your spouse

13. Husband, never stop checking out her breasts and clit with desire

14. Wife, never stop being sexually playful with your spouse

15. Never stop calling your spouse affectionate names like "My love", "Darling", "Honey"

16. Never stop dating your spouse

Don't make your spouse feel friendzoned. This is marriage, not friendship. Your spouse is your special, sexy companion