When Love Feels Dangerous
By Işık Abla
There are moments in the healing journey when even love feels unsafe.
Not because love itself is the enemy—but because we’ve been shaped by a version of it that hurt us.
When you’ve been abused, silenced, controlled, or punished in the name of “love,”
your nervous system starts to brace for pain… even when kindness shows up. You want to control your heart so it won’t hurt again. But in this process of self protection, you harden your heart to God’s love through the right people He sent to your path.
But here is truth:
Real love doesn’t flinch at your scars. True love is not afraid of your weaknesses. Real love doesn’t need you to be perfect before you’re worthy of care.
Whether it comes through friends, mentors, family, or divine appointments—
true love shows up with eyes of compassion and a heart that stays.
You are not “too much” for the right person.
You are not too passionate, too tender, too deep, or too intense.
You are exactly enough for what God designed you to carry.
So breathe.
Your history is not a disqualification—it’s a testimony.
Your survival is not a sign of brokenness—it’s evidence of glory.
Let safe love find you. Don’t dread it. Let God heal you through the people He sends. And let your heart learn again that not every hand that reaches for you comes to take.
God is getting ready to break your walls down. Jesus is thinning the veil that separates you from His gift of love.
Prayer:
My Heavenly Father, I surrender the places where love has felt like a threat. I invite You to heal my expectations, soothe my fear, and surround me with those who carry Your love well. I am not too much—I am a miracle in motion. Amen.