10 COMPATIBILITY TESTS TO TAKE BEFORE SAYING "YES" IN A RELATIONSHIP Too many people enter relationships without doing the necessary background checks or asking the right questions—only to end up hurt, frustrated, or broken. Don’t be in love with someone who is not aligned with your future. Before emotions carry you away, take these 10 compatibility tests seriously. 1. 📍Spiritual Compatibility Can you both walk together spiritually? (Amos 3:3) Are you on the same page in your beliefs, convictions, and spiritual goals? If one is on fi-re for God and the other is lukewarm or carnal, it’s a red flag. Look beyond church attendance—check their fruit and character. Watch out: Pretenders exist—those who fake spiritual fervor to win your heart. Ask: Do they honor God genuinely? Do your convictions align? 2. 📍Purpose Compatibility Do your life purposes complement each other? If you’re called to missions and they dislike outreach, it won’t work. If you dream of writing books and they believe it's a waste of time, your visions will clash. Purpose-driven couples encourage each other to thrive. Know your calling first before attaching your heart. 3. 📍Genotype Compatibility Love is not enough—wisdom saves lives. Before emotions go deep, check your genotype. AA is safe with anyone, but AS + AS is a no-go. Don’t wait until love blinds you before finding out the facts. Faith is not a replacement for sense. Let God guide you and also apply your God-given wisdom 4. 📍Intellectual Compatibility Can you have deep, meaningful conversations? If you can’t discuss life issues, faith, purpose, or current affairs without getting lost, marriage will be dull. You need a thinking partner, not just a pretty face. Talk about values, parenting, $-ex, marriage roles, life goals. 5. 📍Emotional Compatibility Do your emotions align or clash? If your moods are always in conflict, or one is highly sensitive while the other is emotionally unavailable, expect frequent misunderstandings. Check: Do you feel emotionally safe? Does your temperament complement theirs? Do you feel heard and valued? 6. 📍Financial Compatibility Money doesn’t sustain love, but its mismanagement can destr0y it. If you’re both spenders with no saving culture, the future will be rough. One must either be financially wise or both must grow together in money management. Talk about saving, budgeting, giving, and long-term financial goals. 7. 📍Physical Compatibility Yes, physical attraction matters—but don’t make it the only thing that matters. You’ll be waking up to that face for decades. Are you genuinely attracted to them? Are you proud of their look or always wishing they looked different? Reminder: Looks fade. Character stays. Don't trade a future for a figure. 8. 📍Communication Compatibility Can you both talk things through calmly and respectfully? Some people fight dirty. Others shut down completely. In marriage, communication is your lifeline. Compatibility here determines how you resolve conflicts. Ask: Can we express our thoughts without shouting or walking away? 9. 📍Family and Cultural Compatibility Do your backgrounds clash or blend well? Different upbringing, tribe, or family expectations can create friction. Love them, but don’t ignore family pressure or cultural values. Talk about in-laws, traditions, roles, and expectations. Will they allow you to thrive or force you into a mold? 10. 📍$-exual and Moral Compatibility Do your values on $ex, purity, and morality align? If one wants to keep things pure before marriage and the other pushes boundaries, there's a major mismatch. Don’t assume they’ll change later. Discuss expectations around $ex, fidelity, and moral standards. Finally, don’t ignore red flags because of butterflies. Don’t assume love will fix what compatibility can't. Marriage is long; don't start wrong. Pray. Think. Discern. Talk. Investigate. 🙏 May your relationship be a blessing, not a burden. May your marriage bring heaven to earth.