“My Money is My Money, But His Money is Our Money?” 💔 A Danger0us Mindset in Marriage Ladies, let's talk. 👇 That line might sound funny on social media, but in real life, it’s one of the quickest ways to break trust, fuel resentment, and hinder progress in your marriage. As a marriage counselor, let me help you reset your mindset and set your marriage up for success. 💯 ✅ 1. Marriage is a Covenant, Not a Competition 🌹 Once you say "I do," you are no longer two individuals — you are one team. That means resources, time, energy, and money should no longer be viewed as “mine vs. yours” but ours. ✅ 2. Your Money is Family Money 🌹 Whether the husband earns it or the wife does, it belongs to the home, not to one person. Money should be pooled together to meet family needs, pursue shared goals, and build legacy. 🧩 Teamwork in finances equals peace in the home. ✅ 3. Stop Misusing 1 Timothy 5 🌹 Many wrongly use 1 Timothy 5:8 to say men must be sole providers. But context matters! That chapter talks about supporting widows, not setting financial roles in marriage. Verse 16 even says: “If any man or woman has widows... let them relieve them...” 💡 Conclusion: Provision isn’t gender-specific — it’s about responsibility, not roles. ✅ 4. Scripture Over Culture 🌹 Culture may say “only the man must provide”, but the Bible never says the man must be the sole provider. 🔍 Proverbs 31 paints a picture of a resourceful, industrious woman involved in: 📍Agriculture 📍Trading and exporting 📍Fashion and textiles 📍Charity work 👑 She was married and still actively contributed financially. ✅ 5. Marriage is a Financial Partnership 🌹 You and your spouse should: 📍Set shared financial goals 📍Create a joint budget 📍Discuss big purchases 📍Sacrifice for one another when needed Sometimes, the wife will delay her wants so her husband can meet a need, and vice versa. This is not weakness — this is love and wisdom. ✅ 6. Ladies, Adjust Your Mindset 🌹 Stop seeing yourself as a financial observer. You are not a guest in your marriage — you are a co-builder. 🚫 “I’m just helping him” ✅ “We’re building this life together” God did not create Eve to be idle — He created her to be a helper suitable. That includes emotional, spiritual, and financial help. ✅ 7. Be a Woman of Value, Not Just Expense 🌹 You can be wealthy. You can provide. You can start a business, own property, fund dreams, sponsor others, and bless your home. 🌱 You are not just a helpmate — you are a force for financial progress. 🙏🏾 Final Word: Marriage thrives where selfishness d!es. Drop the “my money vs. his money” mindset. Pick up the “our home, our wealth, our future” mindset. 💖 God is for your marriage, and you will not fail in Jesus’ name. 🔁 Share this with every married couple and young woman you know. 📌 Follow us for more Biblical marriage truths: