Hello everyone,I will appreciate some advice please
I need advice as a working mom to a one-year-old. Currently, my mother is helping me take care of the baby. My husband and I have been married for five years and initially split all our expenses, from rent to groceries, 50/50. I earn about $4,000 more than he does. When we decided to have a baby, my husband was also starting a business with friends. He mentioned that it would be beneficial for our future and needed a $30,000 investment. I agreed, and while I was nine months pregnant, he took out a loan to invest.
As the business required more money, he took out additional loans without consulting me. I took maternity leave and had very little savings, while he provided minimal financial support because his money was tied up in the business. At the same time, he continued sending money to his family, including his unemployed brother.
After my maternity leave, our relationship deteriorated due to his lack of financial and emotional support. We began to argue continuously, particularly about my desire to have my mother help me as I found my mother-in-law unhelpful during my time at their home. My postpartum sensitivity amplified every little conflict, and my husband, who has anger issues, often reacted defensively instead of listening to my concerns.
Things reached a breaking point after returning to Qatar, where our arguments escalated over trivial matters. I refrained from involving my mother to avoid giving my husband further reasons to blame her. In the midst of this turmoil, I discovered he had been on dating apps and even caught him on a date with another girl while our baby was ten months old. He showed no remorse and instead blamed me for our problems.
Feeling increasingly isolated and emotionally unsupported, I decided to move out. Even during our separation, he initially shared half of the baby expenses, which included diapers, formula, and baby food. However, since I moved out, he has stopped contributing entirely. I now manage everything on my own—house rent, groceries, and all baby-related costs—while he comes up with excuses, claiming he needs counseling before he can share expenses.
On our baby’s birthday, he came to visit, begging to see the baby and brought a cake. I thought this might indicate a change in his behavior. I sent him pictures, which he shared with his family and friends. However, after a temporary ceasefire, he went back to ignoring any discussions about financial support. He cited the need for counseling again, but I could sense he wasn’t putting in any real effort.
I've even arranged private counseling, but after a date change, I forgot to inform him. When I did tell him, he accused me of lying. Now, again this month, he refuses to contribute to the baby’s expenses.
I don’t want to pursue a divorce; it’s a significant decision for me, considering how much I’ve invested emotionally and physically in our relationship. I feel overwhelmed and helpless, struggling to manage everything financially on my own. I have asked him to at least take responsibility for half of the baby’s expenses, but he insists that I need to come to counseling first.
There’s so much more to this story, but I'm reaching out to see if anyone knows how I can claim maintenance for our baby without going through a divorce. I live separately with my mother and baby, and I had hoped that he would change and offer real support instead of hollow words. However, I can't shake the feeling that his gestures, even on our child's birthday, were merely for appearances.
Thank you for any guidance you can provide.
I need advice as a working mom to a one-year-old. Currently, my mother is helping me take care of the baby. My husband and I have been married for five years and initially split all our expenses, from rent to groceries, 50/50. I earn about $4,000 more than he does. When we decided to have a baby, my husband was also starting a business with friends. He mentioned that it would be beneficial for our future and needed a $30,000 investment. I agreed, and while I was nine months pregnant, he took out a loan to invest.
As the business required more money, he took out additional loans without consulting me. I took maternity leave and had very little savings, while he provided minimal financial support because his money was tied up in the business. At the same time, he continued sending money to his family, including his unemployed brother.
After my maternity leave, our relationship deteriorated due to his lack of financial and emotional support. We began to argue continuously, particularly about my desire to have my mother help me as I found my mother-in-law unhelpful during my time at their home. My postpartum sensitivity amplified every little conflict, and my husband, who has anger issues, often reacted defensively instead of listening to my concerns.
Things reached a breaking point after returning to Qatar, where our arguments escalated over trivial matters. I refrained from involving my mother to avoid giving my husband further reasons to blame her. In the midst of this turmoil, I discovered he had been on dating apps and even caught him on a date with another girl while our baby was ten months old. He showed no remorse and instead blamed me for our problems.
Feeling increasingly isolated and emotionally unsupported, I decided to move out. Even during our separation, he initially shared half of the baby expenses, which included diapers, formula, and baby food. However, since I moved out, he has stopped contributing entirely. I now manage everything on my own—house rent, groceries, and all baby-related costs—while he comes up with excuses, claiming he needs counseling before he can share expenses.
On our baby’s birthday, he came to visit, begging to see the baby and brought a cake. I thought this might indicate a change in his behavior. I sent him pictures, which he shared with his family and friends. However, after a temporary ceasefire, he went back to ignoring any discussions about financial support. He cited the need for counseling again, but I could sense he wasn’t putting in any real effort.
I've even arranged private counseling, but after a date change, I forgot to inform him. When I did tell him, he accused me of lying. Now, again this month, he refuses to contribute to the baby’s expenses.
I don’t want to pursue a divorce; it’s a significant decision for me, considering how much I’ve invested emotionally and physically in our relationship. I feel overwhelmed and helpless, struggling to manage everything financially on my own. I have asked him to at least take responsibility for half of the baby’s expenses, but he insists that I need to come to counseling first.
There’s so much more to this story, but I'm reaching out to see if anyone knows how I can claim maintenance for our baby without going through a divorce. I live separately with my mother and baby, and I had hoped that he would change and offer real support instead of hollow words. However, I can't shake the feeling that his gestures, even on our child's birthday, were merely for appearances.
Thank you for any guidance you can provide.
Hello everyone,I will appreciate some advice please
I need advice as a working mom to a one-year-old. Currently, my mother is helping me take care of the baby. My husband and I have been married for five years and initially split all our expenses, from rent to groceries, 50/50. I earn about $4,000 more than he does. When we decided to have a baby, my husband was also starting a business with friends. He mentioned that it would be beneficial for our future and needed a $30,000 investment. I agreed, and while I was nine months pregnant, he took out a loan to invest.
As the business required more money, he took out additional loans without consulting me. I took maternity leave and had very little savings, while he provided minimal financial support because his money was tied up in the business. At the same time, he continued sending money to his family, including his unemployed brother.
After my maternity leave, our relationship deteriorated due to his lack of financial and emotional support. We began to argue continuously, particularly about my desire to have my mother help me as I found my mother-in-law unhelpful during my time at their home. My postpartum sensitivity amplified every little conflict, and my husband, who has anger issues, often reacted defensively instead of listening to my concerns.
Things reached a breaking point after returning to Qatar, where our arguments escalated over trivial matters. I refrained from involving my mother to avoid giving my husband further reasons to blame her. In the midst of this turmoil, I discovered he had been on dating apps and even caught him on a date with another girl while our baby was ten months old. He showed no remorse and instead blamed me for our problems.
Feeling increasingly isolated and emotionally unsupported, I decided to move out. Even during our separation, he initially shared half of the baby expenses, which included diapers, formula, and baby food. However, since I moved out, he has stopped contributing entirely. I now manage everything on my own—house rent, groceries, and all baby-related costs—while he comes up with excuses, claiming he needs counseling before he can share expenses.
On our baby’s birthday, he came to visit, begging to see the baby and brought a cake. I thought this might indicate a change in his behavior. I sent him pictures, which he shared with his family and friends. However, after a temporary ceasefire, he went back to ignoring any discussions about financial support. He cited the need for counseling again, but I could sense he wasn’t putting in any real effort.
I've even arranged private counseling, but after a date change, I forgot to inform him. When I did tell him, he accused me of lying. Now, again this month, he refuses to contribute to the baby’s expenses.
I don’t want to pursue a divorce; it’s a significant decision for me, considering how much I’ve invested emotionally and physically in our relationship. I feel overwhelmed and helpless, struggling to manage everything financially on my own. I have asked him to at least take responsibility for half of the baby’s expenses, but he insists that I need to come to counseling first.
There’s so much more to this story, but I'm reaching out to see if anyone knows how I can claim maintenance for our baby without going through a divorce. I live separately with my mother and baby, and I had hoped that he would change and offer real support instead of hollow words. However, I can't shake the feeling that his gestures, even on our child's birthday, were merely for appearances.
Thank you for any guidance you can provide.
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