So my significant other & I are getting married this summer.
A small back story, his mom/step dad is a drunk & chain smoke in the home. In the 8 years we have been together they have never been over to see any of our homes, or the one we purchased.
They don’t see our kids one biological not his but he’s her dad. Our son was born a year ago and they tried once unannounced to show up and got told no.
Now that we are trying to plan he said he wants to have them there but I don’t. And I’m not sure how to bring this up. Yes it’s his mother but I am also a mother to my kids who we don’t allow absent people/ people who aren’t actively interested in the kids or our lives.
We are having a small wedding my parents & grandparents & a handleful of close friends. As we feel we don’t need a big wedding it’s about us as a family.
I guess I’m just not sure how to bring this up.