My husband’s “life stamina” bothers me. He can’t seem to keep up and maintain with everything life demands. He complains about being overweight, but never does anything to change it. He says he’s always tired but won’t do anything to fix it besides drinking several coffees a day. He hates how he hasn’t gotten where he wanted to be in life at this point, but never goal sets.

I’ve tried the “you change and maybe he’ll join you”, i work out M-F for a year now, i goal set and take daily steps to work towards them. Its hard but having an enjoyable life is worth the work. I have hypertension at 33 & i’ve taken steps to try to figure out why.

He complains to me & I am just sick of hearing it, knowing he doesn’t do anything to change. It’s classic self sabotage. Any advice?