I need some advice please… ****Edititing***** to add, i do not bring this all up to her. She knows how i feel about that's that. I dont make her feel bad all the time. We dont talk about It. I come from a family of addicts and lost a sibling to addiction. I know this Isnt the same. I am more so asking for help with myself. To help ME stop obsessing over It and how i can work on letting it go******* I’ve been with my girlfriend for 16 months now. When we first met I had told her I wasn’t ok with smoking or vaping. She vaped and she said she was planning on quitting. I guess it’s my fault for getting into it knowing she did it. I have 3 kids. I have asked her not to do it in front of my children. She actually stopped doing it in front of me as well all together. We do not live together. However, I have found new vapes around often so I know she’s still doing it and I feel like every time she leaves a room that is why. I understand this isn’t the worst issue to have in a relationship, but I can’t let it go. I obsessed about it and fixate on her not quitting. How do I let it go? I just have a strong hatred for nicotine 😔, addiction all together really. I just can’t help but wonder if I’m self sabotaging by constantly thinking about it and getting upset over it. We have a great relationship otherwise. We are 40 and she also does have asthma as well. Does anyone have any advice for me? Thank you in advance