The wrong man vs the right man.

The wrong man will make you feel like you have to handle everything on your own.

It's like you have no other choice but to be reliant on yourself.

He will drain you, make you question your worth, and teach you that relying on someone is a risk you can’t afford to take.

But the right man will recognize your strength, and even though he knows just how strong and independent you may be, he still wants to tackle life with you as a team.

He will show up and never stand in front of you or behind you .... but he will always stand beside you.

He will help you carry the weight that is meant to be carried and he will never just say that "he is there for you".

He will prove it with his actions with each and every day that passes.

A real relationship isn’t about one person struggling while the other takes full responsibility of everything in their life.

It’s about coming together as one and working as a team at the same time.

A man’s role isn’t just to be "there" but it's to be present at all times, it’s to lead, to create security, and to always be consistent with you.

Because a woman feeds off the energy of the man she’s pursuing life with.

If he’s unstable, inconsistent, or unsure, she will never feel like she's in a safe place.

But when he shows up as a leader, as a protector, as someone who brings peace rather than chaos, she will naturally respond with softness, trust, and love.

Always remember that the right man sets the tone and the right woman will multiply it.

~ Cody Bret

WHY YOUR SALARY IS NEVER ENOUGH?

“Expenses always rise to match income.”
That’s Parkinson’s Law.
And it’s silently sabotaging millions of good people every payday.

You used to survive on $300.
Then you got a raise to $500. Suddenly, your life demands $500… plus $50 in debt.

You didn’t upgrade your investments.
You upgraded your wardrobe, the car you drive, the neighborhood you stay, your DSTV bouquet and your taste.

So now…
You’re earning more, but feeling poorer.
You’ve got a better phone, but no emergency fund. You live in a better flat, but can’t survive two months without a salary.

That’s the trap.
The more money you earn, the more your lifestyle expands to swallow it.

Parkinson’s Law turns your salary from seed into smoke. The key word is 'salary'. Conditions surrounding the salary embed a very dangerous mindset.

- You MUST fight lifestyle inflation. Upon getting a raise, don't change anything in your life, rather save 100% of the extra for one year.

- it's ok, if suddenly you look like the poorest at your workplace, but begin to lend workmates money collecting interest (20% minimum). Look for people with problems and help them. Teach everyone depend on you for emergencies. You will be surprised that soon, your boss's name will also be in your books inspite of his/her big paycheck. He/she has suddenly become your servant.

- being among people who think a certain way can be your greatest blessing. Make sure the entire company raise finds its way to your pocket. Never feel bad doing this because you are actually helping them.

- then start a second side hustle quietly and begin making money. Ensure that your side hustle doesn't affect your work. In the meantime, you MUST master delayed gratification.

Do you see that every time your salary increases, you have two choices?
1. Look richer.
2. Become wealthier.

One is for likes.
The other is for legacy.

Don’t let Parkinson’s Law keep you broke with a bigger paycheck. Beat it by planting your salary, not spending your harvest before it grows.

Be wiser than your appetite.

#Your network creates your networth
#SalaryIsSeed

When a woman replaces you with peace—not another man—you can be sure it’s truly over. That’s the part so many misses. They see her silence and think she’s just confused, that her distance is only temporary, that she’s simply being emotional and will come back when the storm passes. But what they don’t realize is this: when a woman starts craving peace more than your presence, you’ve already lost her.
She’s not searching for someone else to save her. She’s not rebounding—she’s recovering. She’s not hoping to make you jealous—she’s quietly, powerfully, making herself whole again. The most unstoppable version of a woman is the one who no longer needs to be heard, fixed, or fought for—because she’s finally found safety in her own space.
It’s not that she didn’t love you. In fact, she loved you so deeply that she forgot to love herself. She showed up, stood by you, and gave you grace you didn’t even realize you needed. But eventually, she grew tired—tired of begging for the bare minimum, tired of questioning her worth, tired of feeling like loving you meant losing pieces of herself.
So now, she’s exchanged chaos for clarity. Arguments for quiet mornings. Anxiety for deep, steady breaths. That constant feeling of walking on eggshells has been replaced with a sanctuary she’s built for her own peace. There are no loud exits, no dramatic goodbyes—just a gentle, resolute absence. Because when a woman truly heals, she doesn’t chase closure—she becomes it.
Another man could have been forgiven. She could have competed, cried, or pleaded. But when peace walks in and takes your place, understand that her soul has already moved on—and where she’s going, you’re simply not invited.
To every woman who has chosen herself, who has chosen peace over pain, and healing over chaos—your strength is a quiet revolution. Your journey is proof that sometimes the bravest thing you can do is walk away and build a life that feels like home inside your own heart.

Whatever makes you happy, so long as they are pure and you hurt no one, do them.

When a whale dies, life begins.
It sounds strange, but a dead whale sinking to the ocean floor creates one of the most incredible ecosystems on Earth.
What’s a “whale fall”?
That’s the name for what happens when a whale’s body sinks deep into the sea. But instead of disappearing, it becomes a feast for life.
An underwater city rises
Hagfish and sharks arrive first to strip the flesh.
Crabs and worms move in next.
Then bacteria and rare deep-sea species build a thriving community.
This process can last 50 to 100 years.
From death comes diversity
A single whale fall can support over 100 different species, some found nowhere else on Earth.
The deep sea never wastes
In the cold, dark depths, a dead whale isn’t the end. It’s a new beginning.
This is also one of the reasons everything you see isn't for food. Some are just in the ocean for the purpose of clearing It

Let love meet logic. "I love you" is fantastic but you need food and a place to rest your head.

This type of girl.
She’s the type of girl to wipe her tears after an argument and smile at you.
She the type of girl who attempts a new recipe because she is excited for you to try it.
She’s the type of girl who doesn’t tell you about her day because she cares more about yours.
She's the type of girl who will jump on the bed with you in a hotel room and eat snacks with you while watching hallmark movies.
She’s the type of girl who gets worried when you don’t answer your phone.
She’s the type of girl that no matter how much you push her away she’s always there for you at the end of the day.
She's the type of girl who asks about your day and genuinely cares about the answer.
She the type of girl who wants to throw blankets and pillows in the back of a truck and watch the stars with you on a cool summer night.
She's the type of girl who would rather cuddle on the couch with you while watching the notebook and drinking some wine, rather than going to a party.
She's the type of girl who will hold your head in her lap and run her fingers through your hair while she looks down at you and thinks to herself how lucky she truly is.
Do me a favor and if you have a girl in your life that does these things ..... never take her for granted because if she ever decides to move on ...
Trust me when I say this ... She isn’t coming back.

Every man hopes to have a good woman by his side, but many don’t realize that women with genuine hearts come with real, powerful emotions. They feel everything deeply, love with intensity, and give their whole heart to the people they care about. A good woman is loyal to the core, but her tender heart means she can also become frustrated, hurt, or emotional when something doesn’t feel right. This isn’t a sign of weakness. it’s simply because she cares so deeply. Sure, she might have her moody days, but one thing is certain: when a good woman loves you, it’s a rare, precious kind of love. It’s a love you won’t find anywhere else. Value it.

When someone tells you to get home safe, stay warm, have a good day, or sleep well, I hope you understand what they're really saying is, 'I love you.'" (Unknown)
Yes, when someone tells you to "get home safe," the unspoken words resonate far deeper than a simple expression of concern. It's a whispered prayer for your well-being, a silent wish for your protection woven into the fabric of their everyday language.
"Stay warm," "have a good day," "sleep well"—these seemingly mundane phrases transform into profound declarations of love, a gentle reminder that you are held in the heart of another.
They are tiny anchors in the vast sea of life, tethering you to the warmth of human connection, offering solace in the knowledge that you are cherished, that your safety and happiness matter. These simple words, spoken with genuine care, are a testament to the power of unspoken affection, a quiet affirmation that you are loved, deeply and unconditionally.

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Sometimes you find a song that makes you cry for reasons you can't name. The melody uncovers things you've hidden even from yourself. Music is a gentle thief, stealing the weight from your chest." (R.M. Drake)
When the Music Knows Before You Do...
Sometimes, without warning, a song begins—and before the second verse, your eyes are wet.
You don’t know why.
You weren’t feeling sad.
You weren’t reaching for healing.
But something in the melody finds you.
There are notes that know your story better than you do. Harmonies that slip past your defenses, reach into the locked boxes inside you, and gently open what you swore you buried. A certain lyric echoes through your chest like it’s been waiting years to be heard. You don’t understand all the reasons why, and maybe you never will—but something inside you loosens.
Music has a quiet way of asking you to feel what you've avoided. Not with force, but with grace. It doesn’t demand that you explain or solve anything. It just sits with you, wraps around your soul, and says, "It’s okay to feel this now. It’s safe to let it out."
Sometimes, a song doesn’t just play through your speakers—it plays through your soul.
It steals the ache you didn’t have words for.
It reminds you of someone you miss, or a version of yourself you left behind.
It gives shape to your sorrow and wings to your joy.
You don't need to understand every tear.
You just need to let them fall.
Because sometimes the music is the only one who truly knows what your heart has been trying to say.

FACE REALITY BEFORE IT RUINS YOU.
Nobody cares about your inner beauty at first glance.
You walk into a room, and they’ve already sized you up.
Too fat? Too tired-looking? Unkempt? Next.
“Don’t judge a book by its cover” sounds cute—until you realize life is a marketplace, and you are the packaging.
You think your weight doesn’t matter?
It does.
Not because society is fair—because society is predictable.
Fit people get hired faster.
Attractive people get more help, more trust, more yes.
Clean skin, good posture, glowing energy? It screams discipline. It screams value.
You’re over here crying about rejection, but you don’t even look like someone who takes care of themselves.
You think your “good heart” will carry you.
Sweetheart, this is not a Disney movie. This is Lagos. Or life.
Go to the gym? Yes.
But before that—fix your plate.
Weight is lost in the kitchen, not in the overpriced treadmill.
And no, “self-love” is not an excuse to stay inflamed, breathless, and always tired.
You want doors to open?
Make the mirror your ally.
Turn your body into a weapon.
Look like someone who deserves better.

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Being single for a long time can shift your entire perspective. At first, the silence may feel unfamiliar, even lonely—but over time, it becomes sacred. You learn to enjoy your own company, to trust your own rhythms, and to build a life that feels whole without needing someone else to complete it. The peace that comes from not compromising yourself, not constantly explaining your heart, becomes something you fiercely protect.
And maybe that’s why the idea of loving again feels more like a threat than a promise. It’s not about bitterness or fear—it’s about finally understanding the value of your own space, your own calm. You've tasted the kind of stillness that doesn’t depend on anyone, and it's made you question whether chaos, even in the name of love, is worth disturbing that. Maybe, just maybe, being only you is not just enough—it’s everything.

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THE MOST EXPENSIVE BURDEN A MAN CAN CARRY: A BROKE WOMAN

Let’s settle this like men.

1️⃣ A broke woman is not a partner — she’s a financial liability.
The only thing she consistently brings to the table is sex. And truth is — you can get that cheaper, with zero emotional chaos, from a street corner than the toxic, expensive ride you're on now.

2️⃣ If her only source of income is her private parts and your wallet — you’re not a boyfriend, you’re a business plan.
While you’re catching feelings and breaking your back to keep her afloat, she’s running a quiet hustle where YOU are the product.

3️⃣ Remove your money and watch the 'love' vanish.
Stop funding her hair, nails, rent, data, and see how fast those midnight “I miss you” texts disappear. That ‘love’ was a lease — and payment just expired.

4️⃣ A woman who can’t fund her own survival is an irresponsible adult, not a partner.
If she can’t handle her rent, bills, or upkeep — what makes you think she can build a future with you? She’s searching for a sponsor, not a soulmate.

5️⃣ Love without financial independence is modern slavery.
You’ll stay trapped in a toxic cycle of guilt-tripping, fake affection, and sex used as a bargaining chip. Every argument will end with “you don’t care” just because you won’t finance nonsense.

6️⃣ Stop feeling guilty for refusing to carry dead weight.
You’re not a charity organization. You’re a man with a destiny, a purpose, and standards. A broke, entitled woman will drag you into financial ruin while smiling in selfies.

7️⃣ The fastest way to know a woman’s true intentions? Cut off the money.
No dates. No transfers. No surprise airtime. Watch how she moves when you’re ‘financially unavailable.’ 9 out of 10 will ghost.

8️⃣ Men don’t go broke chasing dreams — they go broke chasing broke women.
You’ll wreck your savings, lose your focus, and mortgage your future trying to maintain a woman who contributes nothing but attitude and entitlement.

9️⃣ The right woman multiplies your peace, your money, and your mission.
The wrong one multiplies your debts, your drama, and your regrets. Choose wisely.

Don’t confuse sex for value.
Millions of women can spread their legs. Few can build legacies. Discipline yourself to know the damn difference.

FINAL WARNING
Brother — your time, energy, and money are weapons.
Spend them like a king.
A broke woman will drain your pockets, delay your destiny, and derail your progress.

If she can’t solve her own problems, she’s got no business being in your life.
Clear your circle. Guard your crown. Build your empire.

Stop sponsoring liabilities.
Start building legacies.

Thank God for today

Yes I'm

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What is going on please

PEOPLE ARE ALWAYS LOOKING FOR WHO TO BLAME, THAT IS WHY THEY REMAIN IN THE SAME PLACE

THERE IS NO ONE IN MY FAMILY THAT GAVE ME A DIME FOR THIS MINISTRY TO START

- Bishop David Oyedepo

While speaking on UNVEILING THE EVER WINNING WEAPON OF WISDOM, Bishop Oyedepo charged the congregation to avoid blaming anyone for the outcomes of their lives. He said "You are absolutely responsible for the outcome of your life. I caught it. No one to blame. People have people to blame, that is why they remain in the same place. 'If not that my uncle is a very ****** man, can I be like this now?' 'That my cousin is a devil. He is in UK and I am here. He is not sending me anything.' Church Gist. Do you know what he is going through where he is? 'My mother is my problem. If she had money and I went abroad like that other person, will I be like this now?' Sell your mother and travel abroad. People just keep looking for who to blame."

He furthered buttressed his point with this illustration, "When you point one finger at any man who is troubling you, there are three pointing at you. So even if the man doesn't trouble me and I still trouble myself, I am still going to be a failure. You can't cause me more than 25 per cent of my troubles. 75 per cent of my troubles are my own. A man's enemies are the people of his own household. You are your problem, it is not your background. Church Gist. You have joined another family, a family of Jesus. Your background has no more reference. Wake up my friend. There is no one in my family that put a dime for this ministry to start. Not one. They were not even privileged to know because they can discourage me. The closest to me that knew only found out on the day of Commissioning. I told them it is 9:00am that morning. You have counted so much on this ephemerals, that you miss the substance. You can't have God's backing and be backward."