What do we learn from this saga? There is a thin line between friendship and enmity. Relationships can be fluid. Especially political ones. So, restrain your mouth even when you are excited. Reveal a lot, but do not say what can be used to destroy you. This is especially true about friendships based on interests. When the interests evaporate, the friendship will also dissipate.

In fact, any so-called friendship based on a mutual hatred for a common enemy is not a friendship. At best, you are comrades. The friendship will only last as long as the mutual enemy exists. The so-called friendship will collapse once that person dies, is defeated, or makes an alliance with one or both of you.

That is why you should be careful in politics. Friends today can be enemies tomorrow. And today's enemies could be your best friends in the future. Be rigid with your interests. Be flexible with your friendship. If a tree is not flexible, it will be uprooted by a rainstorm.

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Day 5 of Salary Detox Challenge: Say No to Impulse.

About 10 years ago, our current Group General Manager was still working as my PA. One afternoon, One investment opportunity came and I asked her a simple question:

“Have you saved up to a million naira for investment?”

She looked at me and told me frankly that she hadn’t even saved half of that. So I sat her down, not to judge her, but to help her find the leak.

I advised her to thoroughly go through her expenses, one by one, and what she found out shocked both of us.

She was a hard worker, a high performer… but her bank account didn’t reflect her effort.

Why did i say that? Impulse buying.

She would walk into supermarkets without a list, buying whatever caught her eye just because there was money in her account.

She would scroll online and buy anything that looked “fine” or trendy, whether she needed it or not.

She gave money emotionally to anyone who asked, as if she alone could solve everybody’s problems.

And she always believed in her mind that you dont have to worry, the next salary is coming.

That mindset was eating deep into her future and she never noticed it.

So I gave her a new order,

Never enter a supermarket or any market environment without a written list.

Told her to sell the things she bought but never used.

And adviced her to stick to a monthly budget and save up 50% of her salary for investment if she was too hungry to succeed. Also, to stop giving out money emotionally.

That was her turning point. And today? She leads an entire group. She didn’t just stop impulse buying, she started building wealth and modelling it intentionally.

So today's Challenge, you too must face the spirit of impulse that’s eating your future.

Say NO to anything not in your budget.
Say NO to emotions at checkout.
Say NO to "I feel like it."

Please, say no to impulse and fix the leak, then say YES to discipline and to your future.

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*What to Have Before You Become a Wife *

Dear Single Lady, i know you're Preparing for a beautiful future, and marriage is one of those beautiful journey of life you desire.

But before stepping into it, it's important you prepare— not just with wedding plans, but with the right mindset, habits, and heart. Wedding is not marriage, and marriage is not a day experience.

So before you become a wife; Have

1. A Strong Relationship with Yourself

Know who you are. Understand your values, your dreams, and your emotions.

Self-love and self-respect lay the foundation for a healthy relationship with someone else.

Don't expect a man to fully love and respect you when you don't love and respect yourself or you're still confused about yourself.

Know what you can do and what you can't do. The flaws you can manage in a man, and the toxic habits you can't endure.

2. Emotional Maturity

Can you handle disagreements without losing control? Can you forgive, communicate, and listen to your man with love?

In as much as you're willing to be a submissive wife, understand that You won't always agree with your husband.
There will be days of misunderstanding. There will days where you don't feel like talking to him. And there will be days when you'll look at him with a bombastic side eyes and feel like shouting ontop of your voice— at him. So start learning Conflict Resolution Skills.

Learn Good Communication Skills too.

Marriage requires honest, gentle, and respectful conversations. So you must Learn how to address a man.

Start Practicing how to express yourself clearly and calmly, even when things get tough.

Develop good manner of approach and speech. Learn how to resolve issues with calmness and respect instead of anger or silence.

A peaceful home is not a home without problems, it's a home where problems are handled with wisdom.

3. Financial Wisdom

You don't need to be rich, but it's wise you learn how to manage money, budget, save, and spend wisely. Marriage involves sharing responsibilities, and finances are a big part of that.

You may not have money in your pocket now, but have a brain that can generate millions. Don't be empty physically and mentally.

Imagine you meet a man who's ready to help you grow, what do you have that he can use to establish you

Don't wait for a man to come into your life and start building your from scratch. Have something— physically or mentally, or both.

Don't sit down lazying around— believing you'll get any man or thing you want because you're beautiful. Your power doesn't lie in your beauty/body— it lies in your BRAIN. Feed your brain!

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4. A Clear Vision and Purpose for Life

What kind of life do you want to build? What are your priorities— faith, career, children, purpose?

Do you want to raise worldly children or Godly children? Do you want a marriage centered in Christ or Crisis? Do you want to be a career wife or a house wife?

It's very important to know where you're headed in life so you can choose a man who shares and supports that vision.

Don't be the type of lady who just want to want to birth kid, eat and sleep.

If all you're concerned about as a lady is trending things and fashion, you may get frustrated when you enter marriage and your expectations are not been met.

Luxuries are good, but have a vision and a purpose that can birth impacts. Impacts generates money, and money brings comfort.


5. Sound Marital Knowledge

You want to get married without knowing anything about marriage?

In as much as there will be some shocking discoveries you'll experience inside marriage, you still have to equip yourself well to some extent.

You don't prepare for battle in the battlefield, you prepare ahead of it.

You want marriage. You want to answer a 'wife' . You want to be a mother. But you haven't read upto 5 positive books that teaches about healthy marriage, becoming a wife of value, and a fulfilled mother. You don't even study God's standard for marriage— your bible.

All you do is to go on dates, then come back home and watch movies. Keep playing

Even when you prepare yourself, the practical aspect of marriage will still give you some shocks. Now imagine what will happen if you don't equip yourself at all ?

Show me a man who is going for war without arming himself, and I'll show you a man who has made up his mind to be k!!led even before he gets to the warfront.

Marriage is not a play. Get the right Knowledge as much as you can.

6. Healing from Past Wounds

Unresolved pain from your past relationships or childhood can cause problems later in your marriage.

Please Take time to heal, forgive, and let go of your past relationship hurts before planning of getting married.

Don't carry what your Ex did to you into marriage and start pun!shing your husband with it. You may de$tɍoy your marriage.

Find peace first. A peaceful heart makes room for love to grow.

7. The Right Community

Surround yourself with wise women— married, single, and older— who can guide you, pray with you, and give sound advice. You'll need them before and after marriage.

Stay away from feminist if you truly want to enjoy your marriage.

Anyone who advises you to equal yourself to your man doesn't mean well for you. Avoid them.


8. A Lifestyle of Responsibility

Can you take care of your home, your health, your work, and your spiritual life without being pushed?

Marriage doesn't magically make people responsible, you carry your habits into it and it amplifies them.
Start building them now— the right habits.

Start learning how to cook, keep the home neat, take care of kids.

9. Hobbies and Passions

In preparing to become a wife, You have to learn to trust God's timing. But while you wait, grow.

Don't lose yourself because you're waiting for marriage. Explore your talents, pursue passions, build a meaningful life outside of your relationship. Work on yourself, build your dreams, and enjoy your season.

When you're a well-rounded woman, you'll bring joy, depth, and beauty into your home.

10. A Prayer Life

Marriage will challenge your emotions, your faith, your patience, and your strength— and that's why you must start now to build your relationship with God.

A praying woman builds her home in wisdom. So Start now! Make prayer your anchor, not your backup plan.

A kneeling woman is a winning woman!


Dear unmarried lady, Marriage won't fix your life, it will add to it. So build a life you love— then share it with a man who truly values it.

Building yourself means you don't expect your man to complete you— you're already whole.

So as a single lady, you must understand that becoming a wife is not just about finding the right man, it's about becoming the right woman.

A wife is not just a title, it's a calling, and preparation is key.

Don't just sit and be waiting to be chosen— Prepare yourself too to choose wisely, to love deeply, and to thrive in your marriage, not just survive in it.

Marriage is meant to be ENJOYED , not to be ENDURED .

You are worth the wait. PEACE!

*27 WAYS TO BUILD A HAPPY AND LONG LASTING MARRIAGE *

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Marriage is a beautiful and fulfilling relationship that requires commitment, love, and sacrifice.

No matter what culture you belong to, what religion you believe, what society, level of wealth, or era you live in – one thing common to all people is that they want to be "happy", especially in their marriages.

What Should you do?

1. Love the person you married, not the person you hoped you married. Accept your spouse totally. You cannot love a man/woman you do not accept. Stop comparing your spouse with anyone, he or she can never be somebody else. Until you accept your spouse, you can't get the best out of your marriage

2. Understand each other. No marriage succeeds without understanding. Learn to know one another as best as you can. Understand you are not the same and may never be. Respect that you are both individuals. Get to know each other strengths and weaknesses. Strengthen each other's weaknesses.

3. Be quick to forgive and quicker to apologize. Love forgives. Learn to accept apology. Freely forgive your spouse’s past, present and future offenses. Never refer to his/her past mistakes. Never go to bed with anger or unsettled quarrel. Marriage is two forgivers living together.

4. Ask your spouse, "What can I do for you today?" every single day.

5. Never talk bad about your spouse to other people. Protect him or her and always keep his or her name safe. Fight for each other, not with each other.

6. Have lots of s*x. Enjoy S*x with your spouse. Never withhold s*x as a punishment.

7. Keep the word "divorce" out of your vocabulary. Remember your vows. Review them on a regular basis.

8. Provide for the needs of your spouse and children. Never be stingy to your spouse. Care for his/her needs. Be generous to him/her. Pay your children’s school fees promptly and regularly. Marriage is not 50/50. It's 100/100. Give yourself entirely, and don't hold back. Men, Be sensitive to your wife’s needs. Spend money to beautify her.

9. Be faithful to your spouse. Being unfaithful is the easiest way to completely ruin your marriage. Adultery kills.

10. Understand and learn each other's love language. Either it can be words, gifts, touch, actions, etc. If it is words, then frequently tell your spouse you love and appreciate him/ her. If it is action: regularly do things that they appreciate: either take the garbage out, wash the dishes, cook the food, wash the car, etc
Spoil each other. Keep track of the things your spouse loves and buy them for him or her.

11. Communication is the key to a relationship. Talk like friends and lovers. Don’t make your spouse guess what you are thinking or feeling. Don't expect him/her to read your mind. You should feel free to discuss all things without fear.

12. Always listen attentively to your spouse. Switch off your phone or television, shut down your computer or iPad and newspapers, books and magazine should be closed. The greatest communication skill you can develop is the listening skill. Be quiet and patient while he/she is speaking, when he/she is done, you can express your opinion. Look straight into his/her eyes when he is talking to you or when you’re talking to him. This will make him/her feel that you are interested in what he/she wants to say.

13. Love, respect and courtesy are basic ingredients of happy married life. Give them generously to your spouse. Show your spouse how much you love, care and appreciate him/her regularly. Say, "I love you," every single day.

14. Be honest and show sincere appreciation. Appreciate each other. Show your spouse appreciation for the little things. Be thankful and say so!!! Find something that you appreciate about your spouse and say thank you.

15. Surprise each other with lovely gifts, kiss and s*x.
Kiss passionately. Hold hands. Cuddle. Make physical affection a priority in your marriage.

16. Make quality time for each other. Keep dating each other. Put your marriage and spouse before your children. Play together. Never lose your sense of humor. Make your spouse your best friend.

17. Share everything...no secrets between you. Be open with your spouse.

18. Be polite and courteous to each other. Saying thank you, please and I am sorry.

19. Get rid of bad habits. Don’t do those things your spouse hates. Don’t do things that hurt him/her. Develop a godly character. Don’t create a hostile environment for your spouse. Focus on making your spouse happy. The best way to improve your relationship is to improve yourself.

20. Always be honest to your partner. Lying never gets you anywhere

21. Aim to do something at least once per week together. It does not matter what, even if it is to eat together, bath together, watch movies together, read books together and share light conversation

22. Do NOT look at other marriages and covet. No marriage is prefect. Remember, the grass is not greener on the other side. You will still have to maintain, mow and weed that side too!

23. Work at your marriage. If you ever lack motivation for your marriage and feel like the flame has gone dead. Just try to imagine yourself without your spouse. Talk to anyone who has lost their soul mate and they'll tell you that they will give anything to have back that special someone.

Remember, it is your marriage and you have come this far. Make the best of it. Pledge to yourself that you will do your part and try your best. Remember that you chose your spouse for forever.

24. All issues need to have a solution and be resolved at the time of the conversation. Finish what you start otherwise things just hang in the balance,which leads to future problems.

25. Don't make mountains out of mole hills. Don't waste your time fighting over little things. It's not worth it. Let small things go.

26. Don't broadcast your problems to everyone else. If you need to talk to someone about it, other than your spouse, get a therapist.

27. Above all: Serve God together, Pray together & Pray for one another. Pray for your spouse daily in your personal prayers. Be specific. Talk to God about his or her challenges and trials, and ask Him what you can do to be a better spouse.

You will not fail in your marriage in Jesus name

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