A few of the greatest lessons I have learned in life:

EVERYONE has an opinion.  NONE of them are right.

Being able to listen to all and believe NONE is a skill.  Truth works on its own time.  Otherwise, everyone would know it—which simply isn’t the case.

You have two ears and one mouth, therefore, listen twice as much as you talk.  You will grow wiser, faster.

The foolish young are idealistic know-it-alls whilst the wise elders are simply more practical.

Don't kid yourself.  But don't lose your inner child either.

Imagination is the creation-station relation.

The music you listen to is the soundtrack of your life.

Love is in the little things.

Fear is a projection of what is not KNOWN.

The heart reigns supreme when it is no longer foolish.

One who thinks themselves wise has a long way yet to go.  The road to wisdom has no end in sight.

What was noble yesterday has become nefarious today.  Nobility has a short life which requires continual renewal.

Where one fears to tread, someone has already traveled.  There is an example for every impossibility.

Bravery is earned through courageous choices. 

Freedom is an attitude.

Abuse is “inverted tolerance” of what you put up with in yourself.

Defeat is always optional.

"Why" is what you ask yourself.  "Who, what, when, where and how" is what you ask others.

Time is merely motion.  You don’t live BY it, you MAKE it.

A sharp tongue is equal only to a dull wit.

Unpleasant people are only required until you develop intolerance.

The law of thirds states that 1/3 of people (anything) are good, 1/3 are neutral and 1/3 are evil.  Who can say "I am all three at once!"?

Beauty is only eye deep.

Love is a series of the smallest actions, the tiniest notices and the realest moves.

I have many more hours in a day than most.  To rise early is an investment in your SELF.  It always pays over-time.

Freedom didn’t come until I lost control (the external world).  Then I found the power I was looking for (the internal world).
 
The sum of your human experience is where all elements meet.  The ground and the air.  The shore of water and earth.  The sunlight and your skin.  The mind and your heart.

The heart is the muscle of the mind.

Soul is something you develop over time.  It has no truer or greater expression than what makes YOU - unique to all else.

I do not OWN myself; I AM MY SELF.

To live YOUR purpose is to live ON PURPOSE.....

Having you in my life completes me! Thank you for being such a wonderful wife to me. I cannot imagine life without you! Thank you sweetheart!

Thank you very much to my husband! Our children are also proud to have you as their father. You are simply amazing! We love you and thank you for everything! Thanks Sweetheart!

I will be forever thankful to God for giving me a wonderful husband like you! Thanks for making me complete! I really love you from the bottom of my heart!

LAW AND ORDER

Boundaries are created by law and order they are synonymous with each other and what the whole earth is founded on from the laws of gravity the oceans and the dry grounds separated from each other the physical expanse of the atmosphere and water environments that contain lifeforms that need specific temperatures to thrive such as the polar bear and even fruits and vegetables will only grow in soil in the right temperature they are even only matured in the season set for them which is guided by time. A baby cannot be produced unless two material mater of egg and sperm meet a foal takes three years to form from inception.

Without fixed laws guarding the success of all these facets of life within time and space it would not produce the desired result needed for each environment. We can not climb 60 thousand feet on foot and survive as that is the natural law that oxygen is not as accessible this far from the earth. If we ate something that is not fit for human consumption but was designed for another purpose such as a solvent that removes paint we would surely die if we did not have oxygen to be viable on this planet the body could not survive but after that the sprit goes back to where it started from to god which is another environment that even has a new set of laws that we have access to the throne room of grace by the blood of Jesus which is a primary law of salvation of acceptance of him and all he has done by making him lord and savior of our life while we are still in the flesh we become born again.

Its activating faith which is completely separate from doubt it has boundaries. Even love is defined by what it is not it is not self seeking its binary opposite is selflessness it does not behave rudely that means love is polite it does not rejoice in iniquity but rejoices in the truth its like defining black from white. The road rules that create law and order make it functional that keeps pedestrians and drivers of vehicles safe by the law of give way that is written into the consciousness of every citizen by ensuring they have qualified by passing the test that gave them legal permission to drive on the roads. The laws of marriage that one husband shall be faithful to one wife is foundational to trust and make marriages successful. Oil cannot mix with water because the substance will not permit it to make purple you must have red and blue pigment. Even property laws that determine the boundaries of ownership and what is expected of you is written in legal terms those laws are ideas that have created boundaries.

The amount of tax you pay is relevant to what you earn and redistribution of taxes is set by the politics of the lands that determine the allocation of resources which is dependent on who is governing that has that legal authority even the kingdom of heaven had to obey certain laws for legal requirements to win back the right to have access on the earth and human life . Yet all the law and the prophets is fulfilled by love yet love itself has boundaries by defining what love is and what love is not if the formular is exact love never fails. We have so many problems on this earth and if we got down to the root of every violation of boundaries we will find that it is always going against the law of love. This is why we should always spend time meditating on the meaning of all the dimensions of love and to inculcate them into our patterns. It is a way of thinking and living but love has boundaries by its definitions think of how god fashioned the earth he focused on different parts of its creation by separating he made something new that is a principle for life by the laws we apply to every facet of life determines how we shape life.

Just as the ocean does not go onto dry land is like the boundaries we set love does not give access to everything it is defined by the law of difference God gave Adam and eve instruction he said till the land and keep it rebellion to that instruction would create disorder because principles of truth bring order he said do not eat of the fruit they ate in their heart before they ate physically because they were dominated by an outside thing. Our no and our yes must be firm to keep the land of our life that is what creates law and order is boundaries. If the stop sign is determined for the ocean so is our no stopping what must not have access and our yes gives permission by the agreements we make. We are sovereign when we walk in freedom according to boundaries truth has boundaries you do not open the door to a lion because you know it is dangerous this is why truth is foundational for life . Truth is multifaceted by defining what truth is we define what it is not truth and love are synonyms just as law and order are the same as boundaries.

That is why we can point to the stars and differentiate them from the night sky or the day because we can see physically what it is and what it is not. But just as a diamond glistens multiple colors when it catches different lights yet it is one though we see colors of different appearances as it is turned is like the truth it is not just black and white except all the colour of the light are absent of black. Your eyes do not get oxygen from your body but from the atmosphere because the eyes are the part of the body that does not have blood vessels otherwise we couldn’t see it would interfere with the retina that is another biological law that create functionality of an eye . If those laws were not set in place we would not have vision . The deeper we go with everything we research we will find that its functionality comes by law and order so truth has boundaries the law of love is the greatest of all. Love never fails.

Written by Rochelle White

Immediately after my wedding, barely a few weeks in, someone I knew called and said he had sent a monetary gift for me through a close friend of mine. My heart leaped — because at that point, I was swimming in debt from the wedding.

I called my friend. He confirmed receiving the money.

I thanked him and sent my account details immediately.

But he shocked me.

He said,

“I won’t send the money to you.”

I laughed — thinking it was a joke. But he was dead serious.

“I won't send it until you’re ready to collect what I bought with it,” he added.

I was confused.

I called and called. He kept repeating the same thing. His tone got cold, almost dismissive. It hurt me more than I can explain.

I called the person who had sent the money, told him what my friend was doing. He seemed surprised but told me to reach out to my friend again.

I was furious. I decided to cut both of them off.

A few days passed. Then one night, my friend called again. I ignored it.

He called again. And again. My phone rang until it felt like it would vibrate off the table.

I switched it off.

He kept calling for days. Eventually, I blocked him — on calls, on chats, on life. I told myself: He betrayed me. He stole from me.

Six months later, I felt the weight of the silence. I realized how much I missed him — my friend, my brother.

So I went to his house.

They told me he had moved.

Gone.

No one knew where he went. No forwarding address. No explanation.

I was angry all over again.
I concluded he had run away with the money. That he had played me.

Even though I had moved on from the money, the betrayal began to rot inside me again like an old wound reopened.

Three years later.

I was stuck in Lagos traffic, heading to the Island.

I saw someone on the other lane.

Something about the posture, the shape of his head, the way he tilted slightly to the right.

But… he was in a wheelchair.

I told myself,

“It can’t be him. He wasn’t like that before.”

Still, I begged the driver to stop. My heart was pounding as I crossed the road.

I walked closer. He turned.

It was him.

My friend.

In a wheelchair.

Before I could speak, he wheeled toward me and hugged me.

No hesitation. No resentment. Just warmth. And pain.

I stood there, stunned. My mouth dry. My hands weak. I had rehearsed this day in my head, where I’d scream at him, call him a thief, ask if karma crippled him. But I said nothing.

Then he pulled a backpack from behind his chair. Slowly, he brought out a faded blue file.

He handed it to me.

I opened it — and inside were land documents.

And pictures of an uncompleted building.

My eyes scanned the papers.

It was my name written all over the documents.

Not his.

Not his wife’s.

Mine.

“I didn’t want you to waste the money Aunty sent on clearing wedding debts,”

he said quietly.

“So I bought land in your name... so you could become a landlord like me.”

My hands trembled.

My lips quivered.

I dropped to the floor right there on the roadside and began to cry.

He sat quietly in his chair. His face was tired. His eyes sunken.

“You insulted me,” he said calmly. “You insulted my wife too. You called us thieves. But it was her idea. The night we tried to call you… I had just been in an accident. I was lying in the back of a tricycle, bleeding, and told her to call you.”

He paused.

“You didn’t pick.”

I cried harder.

“When my wife died in the hospital… I called again. That’s when I found out you had blocked me. You blocked me everywhere.”

There were no tears in his eyes. Just silence. And truth.

“I never stole from you. I am not your enemy. I was trying to protect your future. But money… money will always reveal how deep the love truly runs.”

He turned and wheeled away.

A cab stopped.

He got in and left.

Just like that.

I’ve never stepped foot in that house he built in my name.

I can’t.

Not until I see him again.

Not until I hold him and say the words I never said.

I’m sorry.

Please… don’t be quick to assume people have ghosted you.

Don’t jump to conclusions.

Sometimes, the silence is a scream for help you ignored.

Sometimes, the person you thought betrayed you was the one holding your future in their hands.
Sometimes, people disappear not to rob you — but because **life hit them harder than they could bear.

Before you block someone forever — ask them why.

You never know the battles they were silently fighting… for you.

The End.

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I know you think it’s totally unnecessary to say thank you to a friend but I want you to know I mean it from the bottom of my heart. You are the one genuine person whom I can rely on. You are my best friend. Thanks for being there for me.

There is never a time or place for true love. It happens accidentally, in a heartbeat, in a single flashing, throbbing moment

Keep your heart open to dreams. For as long as there’s dream, there is hope and as long as there is hope, there is joy in living.