My mother confessed to me that the man who I thought was my uncle all my life was actually my brother, my elder brother.

Charles is my son, My first son; Your Brother!. My mother confessed to me.

How do you mean mom? What do you mean? How is that possible? I asked my mother. It's a long story Ayochidi, I will tell you all about it, but now I just have to get out of here and go confront Chief Okoye. My mother said to me.

How are you going to do that? I asked my mother. I will figure something out. She replied me. Mom, why you are figuring something out, I need to know how come Uncle Charles is my brother. Does he even know that you are his mother? I asked my mother. But instead I saw tears coming out of her eyes. He doesn't. My mother replied.

Why is everything about my family fvvcked up this bad. Why is everything difficult? I yelled at my mother.

Calm down. Ayochidi. Olivia said to me. The warden is monitoring my behavior.

Should I even believe that you are my mother? I asked my mother. Ayochidi the warden is looking at you. Calm down. Olivia said to me.

I'm your mother. Joyce said to me. I can't believe that. At this point I need a DNA test. I can't believe what ever word that comes out of your mouth. You have no difference with Angela or even Chief Okoye, All you guys do is lie upon lie. I don't even know who to believe anymore. I said.

Is everything alright here? The warden came and asked me. I nodded to yes. Everything is alright. Joyce said.

Everything is not alright. I'm out of here. I said as I left the prison.

Ayochidi I think you are overreacting, I mean your mother must have a reason for hiding the identity of Charles all this time. Olivia said to me.

She has no right, No one does. I won't blame you because you ain't in my shoes right now. I said to Olivia.

In your shoes? Really Ayochidi. Your shoes? I'm wearing the same exact shoes as you are, my life is in danger why because of I Love You. All because I care about you and here you are telling me about shoes? Shoes? Really? Shoes!. Olivia said and angrily went into the car.

At that point I realized I fvvcked up, But at the same time I was too angry apologize. I went into the car and Olivia didn't speak to me. She faced her side of the glass as I drove.

We drove back to Jide's house, Jide saw how angry Olivia is as she went upstairs to her room.

What happened? Jide asked me. Nothing just girls problem. Have you been able to track down Chief Okoye? I asked Jide. We are still working on that. Jide said.

It's seems like you are delaying, you are slowing down. You just have found and fished him out by now. I said to Jide. If it was that easy why don't you fish him out yourself Ayochidi? Guy don't shift your relationship problems to me. I don't know what is going on between you and your girl but I think you should go and apologize. Jide said to me.

At first I was reluctant. But Jide left me to go meet his boys. After few minutes of standing alone, I finally went upstairs to meet Olivia.

I saw she was sitted on the bed still angry as I came in.

"I'm sorry for what I said, I shouldn't have said what I said. I'm wrong. Forgive me babe. I said to Olivia. Ayochidi what you said is wrong. I have been through this struggle, this war with you from day one, And gaslighting me like that isn't fair. Olivia said.

I'm sorry my love. It won't happen again. I said as I went close and kissed Olivia. The kiss followed an intense romance. We ended up making out and sleeping off.

We were sleeping off when Jide came into the room tapping me to wake up. Ayochidi wake up. Jide said and immediately I sprung up.

Come to the living room. Jide said. And immediately I followed Jide to the living room and then Olivia came down after.

It was a TV news. Chief Okoye was found déad in an abandoned building and the culprit was found seriously injured.

When the image of the culprit appeared on the screen, I was shocked. My mother was the culprit. She was rushed to the hospital.

How did she escape from Prison?

Your shares is my biggest motivation to continue.

To Be Continued...

Title: Promise 30.

SIGNS THAT HE WILL MAKE A GOOD HUSBAND:

1. "HE HAS A GOOD RELATIONSHIP WITH HIS ADMIRABLE DAD"

If his dad is a good husband and father and he looks up to his dad, chances are he will be like his dad

2. "HE SEPARATES HIMSELF FROM BAD EXAMPLES"

If his father was absent in his life or his father did things he is ashamed of, he grows up forgiving his dad, respecting his dad but also not wanting to be like his dad

3. "HE MENTORS AND TEACHES MEN YOUNGER THAN HIM"

A man who mentors others pushes himself to always be a good example

4. "HE IS NOT SWAYED BY PUBLIC PRESSURE"

In marriage, many men mess up their families because of following trends, pressure to please friends or wanting to project a certain image to fit in society

5. "HIS CLOSE MALE FRIENDS ARE OF GOOD REPUTE"

Look at the company he keeps close; that will indicate the caliber of man he is

6. "HE TREATS EVERY WOMAN WITH RESPECT"

Be suspicious of a man who treats his woman well but treats other women like crap; soon, he will treat his woman like crap

7. "HE IS GOOD WITH CHILDREN EVEN THOSE NOT HIS"

How he values and is responsible with other people's children prepares himself to value his own

8. "HE IS PROTECTIVE OF HIS NAME"

A man who upholds his name will keep a good character, after all, the wife and children will carry his name

9. "MARRIAGE IS HIS IDEA TOO"

Many men are forced into marriage, either because the woman got pregnant or the woman pressured him to propose to her after they dated for so long. Is it his idea to marry you lady, or is it only yours? A man who willfully pursues a woman to marry her and is the one excited about marriage will almost certainly make sure he lives up to being a good husband. Where a man takes himself he performs well and gives his all

10. "HE LIVED AN HONOURABLE LIFE AS A SINGLE MAN"

A single man who lives in a manner that shows he is keeping and preparing himself for that one special woman will make a good husband. To him, being a husband is a big deal

11. "HE TREATS THE LADY WELL AS THEY DATE"

A man who acts like a faithful husband even before he marries the woman will make a good husband. But if he is insulting her, cheating on her, rejecting her and taking her for granted when they are dating; he will most likely insult her, cheat on her, reject her and take her for granted when married

12. "HE TREATS HIS MOTHER WITH LOVE AND RESPECT”

A man who appreciates his mother will appreciate his wife

13. "HE LOVES GOD"

Marriage is God's idea. A man who wants to engage in this idea led by the Creator of this idea will strive to please God. The more a man loves God, the more he loves his wife

14. "HE SEES THE WOMAN AS AN EQUAL PARTNER"

This kind of man will not dictate or lord over the woman, it will not always be his way, he will consult his wife, learn from her and teach her too

15. "HE IS HER BEST FRIEND"

Lady, if he is not only your lover but your best friend too, he will be a best friend till the end.; best friends are real with each other, honest, loyal, fun, thoughtful. Take away the romance and things that lovers do, are you and him best friends?

16. "HE USES HIS PAST TO LEARN"

Maybe he messed up in his past relationships, or his past relationships taught him alot. If he paid attention to the lessons learned, he will be a wise husband

17. "HE IS DISCIPLINED"

A man who has control over himself will make a good husband. He is not given to addictions. How can a man lead a family, if he cannot lead himself?

May such man be your portion.

God bless you.

Good evening my followers
God bless you all

Pls follow peace with others

*GOSPEL REFLECTION: Rejecting the evil one*
_June 4, 2025_

_“I gave them your word, and the world hated them, because they do not belong to the world any more than I belong to the world. I do not ask that you take them out of the world but that you keep them from the Evil One.” (John 17:14–15)_

Unfortunately, the evil one is real. He is the highest of the fallen angels who retain their natural spiritual power given them at their creation. God created all angelic creatures with the purpose of serving His holy will. The Scripture reveals that there are nine levels or “choirs” to which these angelic creatures belong. Among the fallen angels, the highest of them directs the others, and he is traditionally given the name Lucifer or “the devil.”

One of the natural spiritual powers that these fallen angelic creatures retain is the power of influence and suggestive thought. They were created to be messengers of God’s truth to us; but, in their fallen state, they seek to communicate confusion and lies instead. Therefore, it is very helpful to understand the way the evil one and the other fallen angels communicate to us so that we can reject their lies and listen only to the voice of God.

In his rules for the discernment of spirits, Saint Ignatius of Loyola explains that when a person is going “from mortal sin to mortal sin,” the evil one and the other demons continually propose to their imagination the “apparent pleasures” and “sensual delights” that they obtain from their sin as a way of keeping them firmly controlled by that sin. However, when a person is “intensely cleansing their sins and rising from good to better,” the evil one and the other demons act in a contrary way. They will “bite, sadden and put obstacles, disquieting with false reasons, that one may not go on” in their pursuit of holiness. God and the good angels will act in the opposite way. For those immersed in sin, God and the good angels will use “the opposite method, pricking them and biting their consciences through the process of reason” so as to draw them away from sin. And when a person is, in fact, growing in holiness, God and the good angels will “give courage and strength, consolations, tears, inspirations and quiet, easing, and putting away all obstacles, that one may go on in well doing” (See mycatholic.life/ignatius).

These spiritual lessons on the discernment of spirits are of great value and will assist you on your daily struggle with sin and your daily pursuit of holiness. Understanding the deceptions of the evil one and discerning the promptings of grace given by God bring clarity to our daily lives and direction to all of our actions. The good news that is revealed by the Scripture passage above is that our Lord is fully aware of the working of the evil one, has prayed for you and will assist you as you seek to combat these lies and deceptions in your life.

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*Reflect,* today, upon the importance of learning how to discern both the voice of God and the lies of the evil one. Work to discern the voice of God so that you may follow Him more faithfully. And seek to discern the lies of the evil one so that you will not be influenced by him and can directly reject him. Commit yourself to a more rigorous discernment of these spiritual experiences in your life and allow this prayer of Jesus to direct you into His holy will.

*PRAYER:*
_My all-powerful Lord, You have conquered the evil one and provide all the grace I need to overcome his lies and deceptions. Open my mind to discern Your voice and give clarity to the voice of the evil one so that I may choose You with my whole heart and reject all that the evil one tries to say to me. Jesus, I trust in You._

The Danger of Comparing Your Marriage to Social Media
Social media often gives us a romanticized version of reality. Perfect vacations, surprise proposals, anniversary gifts — it all looks beautiful. But behind every perfect post, there could be hidden struggles, years of hard work, or even turmoil.
Comparing your relationship to what you see online can breed discontent. You begin to measure love by what is seen, not what is felt. You forget the private victories you and your partner have overcome. You forget the value of your shared journey.
Relationships aren't built in photo filters. They're built in sacrifice, late-night talks, forgiveness, and compromise. When you compare, you diminish the realness of your love and chase a fantasy that doesn't exist.
Remember, real love is not always picture-perfect. It’s in the quiet mornings, the inside jokes, the shared responsibilities, and the unwavering support during hard times. Don’t trade authentic connection for staged perfection.
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TWELVE WAYS A GUEST SPEAKER CAN MANIFEST PRIDE AGAINST THE HOST WITHOUT KNOWING:

As a guest speaker, never do the following. It is a display of pride against your host.

1. Rejecting the Economy ticket that was given to you, insisting it must be business class. If that is their level, you can upgrade it yourself.

2. Rejecting the car, they came to pick you up with from the airport. You came to help the work, not to destroy the work.

3. Rejecting the best hotel they have in the town, insisting you must go to the nearest city to look for a better hotel. Are you not a mountain visiting pastor? See it, as you going to pray in the mountain. You know what you have in your mind when rejecting the hotel provided for you.

4. Refusing to stand when everyone is standing to receive the set man of the house to the altar. If the congregation is standing for their pastor, you should also stand. It helps the house to also accept you.

5. Disregarding the focus of the meeting. Hearing God asking you to change the focus. It is unethical to do that.

6. Walking away from the church, when you feel the set man has taken too much time on the altar. He is in charge, he should be allowed to present you to the people in whatever a way, he feels is okay. He decides to kill the meeting, don't help him to bury it. Find a way to manage it.

7. Preaching without recognizing the set man and his wife. It is not your style. But you must do it. It is the approach of all guest speakers that are well trained.

8. Using the set man to do illustrations that appear degrading. Like asking him to lift up his hands for illustration. Any other man in church can be used for that.

9. Using the church of your host to compare the one you pastor, in the area you are doing better. There is no need for that.

10. Referring to your host without his official titles. You know he is an Apostle by Ordination, you went and called him Pastor. And you kept calling him a Pastor.

11. Seating on the official chair of your host, against the seating arrangement they gave to you.

12. Refusing the honorarium they gave you, insisting that you are bigger than that money.

All of the above are elements of pride and arrogance.

If you are given to any of them repent.

Let's discuss.

Be blessed

Bishop Irabor Wisdom.

TWELVE WAYS A GUEST SPEAKER CAN MANIFEST PRIDE AGAINST THE HOST WITHOUT KNOWING:

As a guest speaker, never do the following. It is a display of pride against your host.

1. Rejecting the Economy ticket that was given to you, insisting it must be business class. If that is their level, you can upgrade it yourself.

2. Rejecting the car, they came to pick you up with from the airport. You came to help the work, not to destroy the work.

3. Rejecting the best hotel they have in the town, insisting you must go to the nearest city to look for a better hotel. Are you not a mountain visiting pastor? See it, as you going to pray in the mountain. You know what you have in your mind when rejecting the hotel provided for you.

4. Refusing to stand when everyone is standing to receive the set man of the house to the altar. If the congregation is standing for their pastor, you should also stand. It helps the house to also accept you.

5. Disregarding the focus of the meeting. Hearing God asking you to change the focus. It is unethical to do that.

6. Walking away from the church, when you feel the set man has taken too much time on the altar. He is in charge, he should be allowed to present you to the people in whatever a way, he feels is okay. He decides to kill the meeting, don't help him to bury it. Find a way to manage it.

7. Preaching without recognizing the set man and his wife. It is not your style. But you must do it. It is the approach of all guest speakers that are well trained.

8. Using the set man to do illustrations that appear degrading. Like asking him to lift up his hands for illustration. Any other man in church can be used for that.

9. Using the church of your host to compare the one you pastor, in the area you are doing better. There is no need for that.

10. Referring to your host without his official titles. You know he is an Apostle by Ordination, you went and called him Pastor. And you kept calling him a Pastor.

11. Seating on the official chair of your host, against the seating arrangement they gave to you.

12. Refusing the honorarium they gave you, insisting that you are bigger than that money.

All of the above are elements of pride and arrogance.

If you are given to any of them repent.

Let's discuss.

Be blessed

Bishop Irabor Wisdom.

TWELVE WAYS A GUEST SPEAKER CAN MANIFEST PRIDE AGAINST THE HOST WITHOUT KNOWING:

As a guest speaker, never do the following. It is a display of pride against your host.

1. Rejecting the Economy ticket that was given to you, insisting it must be business class. If that is their level, you can upgrade it yourself.

2. Rejecting the car, they came to pick you up with from the airport. You came to help the work, not to destroy the work.

3. Rejecting the best hotel they have in the town, insisting you must go to the nearest city to look for a better hotel. Are you not a mountain visiting pastor? See it, as you going to pray in the mountain. You know what you have in your mind when rejecting the hotel provided for you.

4. Refusing to stand when everyone is standing to receive the set man of the house to the altar. If the congregation is standing for their pastor, you should also stand. It helps the house to also accept you.

5. Disregarding the focus of the meeting. Hearing God asking you to change the focus. It is unethical to do that.

6. Walking away from the church, when you feel the set man has taken too much time on the altar. He is in charge, he should be allowed to present you to the people in whatever a way, he feels is okay. He decides to kill the meeting, don't help him to bury it. Find a way to manage it.

7. Preaching without recognizing the set man and his wife. It is not your style. But you must do it. It is the approach of all guest speakers that are well trained.

8. Using the set man to do illustrations that appear degrading. Like asking him to lift up his hands for illustration. Any other man in church can be used for that.

9. Using the church of your host to compare the one you pastor, in the area you are doing better. There is no need for that.

10. Referring to your host without his official titles. You know he is an Apostle by Ordination, you went and called him Pastor. And you kept calling him a Pastor.

11. Seating on the official chair of your host, against the seating arrangement they gave to you.

12. Refusing the honorarium they gave you, insisting that you are bigger than that money.

All of the above are elements of pride and arrogance.

If you are given to any of them repent.

Let's discuss.

Be blessed

Bishop Irabor Wisdom.

TWELVE WAYS A GUEST SPEAKER CAN MANIFEST PRIDE AGAINST THE HOST WITHOUT KNOWING:

As a guest speaker, never do the following. It is a display of pride against your host.

1. Rejecting the Economy ticket that was given to you, insisting it must be business class. If that is their level, you can upgrade it yourself.

2. Rejecting the car, they came to pick you up with from the airport. You came to help the work, not to destroy the work.

3. Rejecting the best hotel they have in the town, insisting you must go to the nearest city to look for a better hotel. Are you not a mountain visiting pastor? See it, as you going to pray in the mountain. You know what you have in your mind when rejecting the hotel provided for you.

4. Refusing to stand when everyone is standing to receive the set man of the house to the altar. If the congregation is standing for their pastor, you should also stand. It helps the house to also accept you.

5. Disregarding the focus of the meeting. Hearing God asking you to change the focus. It is unethical to do that.

6. Walking away from the church, when you feel the set man has taken too much time on the altar. He is in charge, he should be allowed to present you to the people in whatever a way, he feels is okay. He decides to kill the meeting, don't help him to bury it. Find a way to manage it.

7. Preaching without recognizing the set man and his wife. It is not your style. But you must do it. It is the approach of all guest speakers that are well trained.

8. Using the set man to do illustrations that appear degrading. Like asking him to lift up his hands for illustration. Any other man in church can be used for that.

9. Using the church of your host to compare the one you pastor, in the area you are doing better. There is no need for that.

10. Referring to your host without his official titles. You know he is an Apostle by Ordination, you went and called him Pastor. And you kept calling him a Pastor.

11. Seating on the official chair of your host, against the seating arrangement they gave to you.

12. Refusing the honorarium they gave you, insisting that you are bigger than that money.

All of the above are elements of pride and arrogance.

If you are given to any of them repent.

Let's discuss.

Be blessed

Bishop Irabor Wisdom.

TWELVE WAYS A GUEST SPEAKER CAN MANIFEST PRIDE AGAINST THE HOST WITHOUT KNOWING:

As a guest speaker, never do the following. It is a display of pride against your host.

1. Rejecting the Economy ticket that was given to you, insisting it must be business class. If that is their level, you can upgrade it yourself.

2. Rejecting the car, they came to pick you up with from the airport. You came to help the work, not to destroy the work.

3. Rejecting the best hotel they have in the town, insisting you must go to the nearest city to look for a better hotel. Are you not a mountain visiting pastor? See it, as you going to pray in the mountain. You know what you have in your mind when rejecting the hotel provided for you.

4. Refusing to stand when everyone is standing to receive the set man of the house to the altar. If the congregation is standing for their pastor, you should also stand. It helps the house to also accept you.

5. Disregarding the focus of the meeting. Hearing God asking you to change the focus. It is unethical to do that.

6. Walking away from the church, when you feel the set man has taken too much time on the altar. He is in charge, he should be allowed to present you to the people in whatever a way, he feels is okay. He decides to kill the meeting, don't help him to bury it. Find a way to manage it.

7. Preaching without recognizing the set man and his wife. It is not your style. But you must do it. It is the approach of all guest speakers that are well trained.

8. Using the set man to do illustrations that appear degrading. Like asking him to lift up his hands for illustration. Any other man in church can be used for that.

9. Using the church of your host to compare the one you pastor, in the area you are doing better. There is no need for that.

10. Referring to your host without his official titles. You know he is an Apostle by Ordination, you went and called him Pastor. And you kept calling him a Pastor.

11. Seating on the official chair of your host, against the seating arrangement they gave to you.

12. Refusing the honorarium they gave you, insisting that you are bigger than that money.

All of the above are elements of pride and arrogance.

If you are given to any of them repent.

Let's discuss.

Be blessed

Bishop Irabor Wisdom.

TWELVE WAYS A GUEST SPEAKER CAN MANIFEST PRIDE AGAINST THE HOST WITHOUT KNOWING:

As a guest speaker, never do the following. It is a display of pride against your host.

1. Rejecting the Economy ticket that was given to you, insisting it must be business class. If that is their level, you can upgrade it yourself.

2. Rejecting the car, they came to pick you up with from the airport. You came to help the work, not to destroy the work.

3. Rejecting the best hotel they have in the town, insisting you must go to the nearest city to look for a better hotel. Are you not a mountain visiting pastor? See it, as you going to pray in the mountain. You know what you have in your mind when rejecting the hotel provided for you.

4. Refusing to stand when everyone is standing to receive the set man of the house to the altar. If the congregation is standing for their pastor, you should also stand. It helps the house to also accept you.

5. Disregarding the focus of the meeting. Hearing God asking you to change the focus. It is unethical to do that.

6. Walking away from the church, when you feel the set man has taken too much time on the altar. He is in charge, he should be allowed to present you to the people in whatever a way, he feels is okay. He decides to kill the meeting, don't help him to bury it. Find a way to manage it.

7. Preaching without recognizing the set man and his wife. It is not your style. But you must do it. It is the approach of all guest speakers that are well trained.

8. Using the set man to do illustrations that appear degrading. Like asking him to lift up his hands for illustration. Any other man in church can be used for that.

9. Using the church of your host to compare the one you pastor, in the area you are doing better. There is no need for that.

10. Referring to your host without his official titles. You know he is an Apostle by Ordination, you went and called him Pastor. And you kept calling him a Pastor.

11. Seating on the official chair of your host, against the seating arrangement they gave to you.

12. Refusing the honorarium they gave you, insisting that you are bigger than that money.

All of the above are elements of pride and arrogance.

If you are given to any of them repent.

Let's discuss.

Be blessed

Bishop Irabor Wisdom.