“You are not matured if you have not allowed a man to press your breast as a lady.”

These were the exact words you used that day.
And at that moment, I realized…

I wasn’t having a conversation with a bad person, I was having a conversation with someone who had been badly taught.

Because somewhere along the line, We started confusing exposure with maturity. We started dressing wounds like they were trophies.

We started calling pain 'experience' and bondage 'freedom'.

How did we get here?...

Where girls are told that sex equals power,

And boys are told that control equals manhood?

We live in a time where if you haven’t lost your virginity by a certain age, they say you’re either lying or lacking.

Where if you’re still “clean,”
They ask you, “What are you waiting for?"

They say...

“If you don’t sleep with him, he’ll leave you.”

“If you don’t show your skin, no one will notice you.”

“If you don’t bend your values, you’ll never rise.”

“If you don’t join them, you’ll be left behind.”

“If you haven’t had a heartbreak, you’re still a baby.”

“If you don’t have a sugar daddy, you’re wasting your beauty.”

Lies.

Beautifully packaged, widely accepted lies.

Maturity is not in the loss of innocence. It is in the preservation of purpose. It is in knowing who you are, and having the strength to protect it.

Being mature is not about how much of your body someone has touched. It’s about how much of your soul you’ve refused to sell.

It’s about boundaries. It’s about self-respect. It’s about not needing to test fire to know that it burns.

You’re not more mature because you’ve had sex.
You’re not more respected because you’ve “done what grown-ups do.” You’re not more of a woman because someone has “pressed your breast.”
And you’re definitely not more of a man because you’ve broken hearts.

Real maturity is when you can say no and still walk away with your head high. When you know what you’re worth and refuse to let your value be measured in bedroom statistics.

Let this be clear...
You don’t have to experience shame to prove your strength. You don’t have to taste regret to understand your worth. You don’t have to be broken to become beautiful.

To every girl reading this:
You are enough even if you’ve never been touched.
You are mature even if you’ve never compromised.
And to the one who has made mistakes, You are not your past.

So next time they tell you, “You’re not mature if you haven’t...” Smile.
And tell them, “I’m not in a rush to ruin what I was called to protect.”

Your value is not defined by what the world claps for. It’s defined by what you refuse to lose even when no one is watching.

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