Ladies, please hear this with your whole heart: you have to make sure you end up with a man who is secure enough within himself to let you shine. I’m talking about a man who isn’t intimidated by your confidence, your ambition, your beauty, your presence, or the way people naturally gravitate toward you. A man who sees your light and instead of trying to dim it, he fans the flame. Because let’s be honest—there are men out here who love everything about you until they realize you’re not easily controlled. Until they see that you’re confident, talented, outspoken, and that you walk into a room and command attention without even trying. And instead of being proud to stand beside you, instead of thinking “that’s my woman,” they start trying to clip your wings. They make slick comments, throw subtle shade, act extra cold around your wins, or try to “humble” you when you’re just being yourself. And let’s be clear: that’s not love. That’s insecurity. A healthy man? A healed man? A real man? He doesn’t feel the need to shrink you so he can feel bigger. He’s not in competition with you. He doesn’t get jealous of your shine—he celebrates it. He pours into you, hypes you up, reminds you of who you are on the days you forget. He knows your power and stands next to it, not in front of it trying to block the light. He understands that your glow doesn’t take anything away from him—it adds to the partnership. That’s the kind of man you build with. So stay far, far away from any man who feels it’s his “duty” to keep you humble. You don’t need to be brought down a notch—you need to be uplifted, appreciated, and loved with full acceptance of who you are and who you’re still becoming. The man who’s for you will never be threatened by your shine—he’ll be too busy being in awe of it. Choose someone who claps for you in rooms you’re not even in. Choose someone who sees your light and adds to it, not someone who sees it and tries to pull the blinds shut. That’s real partnership. That’s love that doesn’t come with ego attached. 💕