Good evening N.D,
Pls post it for me. I am so lonely, it’s been four years and counting since my husband and I separated, we don’t see ourselves anymore, except it is anything that has to do with the kids. He comes around, plays with them and leaves money for them. He takes good care of them and through that, I also get some profit but he won’t touch me nor even discuss anything tangible with me and then he leaves. It’s been four years and counting since a man touched me, I won’t lie. I haven’t been intimate for the past for years. Not even a pin has entered me. I’ve been struggling. I sometimes have to apply robb there so the heat would sooth me to sleep.
I am not an old woman. I’m just 41. I feel so lonely sometimes, I need a man but I want my husband to divorce me first but he won’t. He won’t divorce me. He has left me in a confused state. I don’t know whether he would want us back ever again or that’s just it.
Anytime I call his family for us to solve this issue, he would find reasons to postpone it. I’m just here taking care of his children while he does what he wants. It’s a taboo that we would cheat on the men we are married to so I don’t want to do it.
I’ve asked him several times to grant me divorce so I can move on but he won’t. We didn’t get here because I wanted us to, we got here because of his infidelity. He slept with my sister (my uncles daughter) and got her pregnant. I found out within the same period that he had impregnated another woman outside. When I confronted him, he said he was polygamous.
So I left out of anger, with the hope of divorcing him. It’s been over four years and I’ve not had the divorce. I’m just alone and struggling to be happy. What do I do? Should I just move on and never give him a chance?