*What to Have Before You Become a Wife📌 👇* Dear Single Lady, i know you're Preparing for a beautiful future, and marriage is one of those beautiful journey of life you desire. But before stepping into it, it's important you prepare— not just with wedding plans, but with the right mindset, habits, and heart. Wedding is not marriage, and marriage is not a day experience. So before you become a wife; Have 1. A Strong Relationship with Yourself Know who you are. Understand your values, your dreams, and your emotions. Self-love and self-respect lay the foundation for a healthy relationship with someone else. Don't expect a man to fully love and respect you when you don't love and respect yourself or you're still confused about yourself. Know what you can do and what you can't do. The flaws you can manage in a man, and the toxic habits you can't endure. 2. Emotional Maturity Can you handle disagreements without losing control? Can you forgive, communicate, and listen to your man with love? In as much as you're willing to be a submissive wife, understand that You won't always agree with your husband. There will be days of misunderstanding. There will days where you don't feel like talking to him. And there will be days when you'll look at him with a bombastic side eyes and feel like shouting ontop of your voice— at him. So start learning Conflict Resolution Skills. Learn Good Communication Skills too. Marriage requires honest, gentle, and respectful conversations. So you must Learn how to address a man. Start Practicing how to express yourself clearly and calmly, even when things get tough. Develop good manner of approach and speech. Learn how to resolve issues with calmness and respect instead of anger or silence. A peaceful home is not a home without problems, it's a home where problems are handled with wisdom. 3. Financial Wisdom You don't need to be rich, but it's wise you learn how to manage money, budget, save, and spend wisely. Marriage involves sharing responsibilities, and finances are a big part of that. You may not have money in your pocket now, but have a brain that can generate millions. Don't be empty physically and mentally. Imagine you meet a man who's ready to help you grow, what do you have that he can use to establish you❓ Don't wait for a man to come into your life and start building your from scratch. Have something— physically or mentally, or both. Don't sit down lazying around— believing you'll get any man or thing you want because you're beautiful. Your power doesn't lie in your beauty/body— it lies in your BRAIN. Feed your brain! • 4. A Clear Vision and Purpose for Life What kind of life do you want to build? What are your priorities— faith, career, children, purpose? Do you want to raise worldly children or Godly children? Do you want a marriage centered in Christ or Crisis? Do you want to be a career wife or a house wife? It's very important to know where you're headed in life so you can choose a man who shares and supports that vision. Don't be the type of lady who just want to want to birth kid, eat and sleep. If all you're concerned about as a lady is trending things and fashion, you may get frustrated when you enter marriage and your expectations are not been met. Luxuries are good, but have a vision and a purpose that can birth impacts. Impacts generates money, and money brings comfort. 5. Sound Marital Knowledge You want to get married without knowing anything about marriage? In as much as there will be some shocking discoveries you'll experience inside marriage, you still have to equip yourself well to some extent. You don't prepare for battle in the battlefield, you prepare ahead of it. You want marriage. You want to answer a 'wife' . You want to be a mother. But you haven't read upto 5 positive books that teaches about healthy marriage, becoming a wife of value, and a fulfilled mother. You don't even study God's standard for marriage— your bible. All you do is to go on dates, then come back home and watch movies. Keep playing 🙄 Even when you prepare yourself, the practical aspect of marriage will still give you some shocks. Now imagine what will happen if you don't equip yourself at all ? Show me a man who is going for war without arming himself, and I'll show you a man who has made up his mind to be k!!led even before he gets to the warfront. Marriage is not a play. Get the right Knowledge as much as you can. 6. Healing from Past Wounds Unresolved pain from your past relationships or childhood can cause problems later in your marriage. Please Take time to heal, forgive, and let go of your past relationship hurts before planning of getting married. Don't carry what your Ex did to you into marriage and start pun!shing your husband with it. You may de$tɍoy your marriage. Find peace first. A peaceful heart makes room for love to grow. 7. The Right Community Surround yourself with wise women— married, single, and older— who can guide you, pray with you, and give sound advice. You'll need them before and after marriage. Stay away from feminist if you truly want to enjoy your marriage. Anyone who advises you to equal yourself to your man doesn't mean well for you. Avoid them. 8. A Lifestyle of Responsibility Can you take care of your home, your health, your work, and your spiritual life without being pushed? Marriage doesn't magically make people responsible, you carry your habits into it and it amplifies them. Start building them now— the right habits. Start learning how to cook, keep the home neat, take care of kids. 9. Hobbies and Passions In preparing to become a wife, You have to learn to trust God's timing. But while you wait, grow. Don't lose yourself because you're waiting for marriage. Explore your talents, pursue passions, build a meaningful life outside of your relationship. Work on yourself, build your dreams, and enjoy your season. When you're a well-rounded woman, you'll bring joy, depth, and beauty into your home. 10. A Prayer Life Marriage will challenge your emotions, your faith, your patience, and your strength— and that's why you must start now to build your relationship with God. A praying woman builds her home in wisdom. So Start now! Make prayer your anchor, not your backup plan. A kneeling woman is a winning woman! Dear unmarried lady, Marriage won't fix your life, it will add to it. So build a life you love— then share it with a man who truly values it. Building yourself means you don't expect your man to complete you— you're already whole. So as a single lady, you must understand that becoming a wife is not just about finding the right man, it's about becoming the right woman. A wife is not just a title, it's a calling, and preparation is key. Don't just sit and be waiting to be chosen— Prepare yourself too to choose wisely, to love deeply, and to thrive in your marriage, not just survive in it. Marriage is meant to be ENJOYED ✅, not to be ENDURED ❌. You are worth the wait. PEACE!🕊️