Who are you in bed?

Have you ever wondered what sexual archetype you identify with, and what it says about your preferences when it comes to getting down and dirty? This is important to know, because thus you will finally discover if you and your partner are compatible. Because the truth is many couples out there are sexually dysfunctional – in a lot of cases, someone has to sacrifice their pleasure for the sake of their partner’s.

But how important is a sexual personality to one’s overall satisfaction between the sheets? Very, if studies are to be believed. Personality traits are important determinants of our sexuality and sexual health. They help establish an ideal lifetime sexual partner, an individual’s involvement in casual sex, infidelity, sexual orientation, homophobic attitudes, symptoms of sexual dysfunction, sexual risk-taking, sexual harassment, and sexually-aggressive behaviour.

In fact, studies have identified various sexual preference archetypes—the dominant, the submissive, the repressed, the entitled, and the martyr. I believe that every person shares a bit of all of these sexual preference archetypes but has one that they identify with. But the problem is many men and women don’t know what they want. Reading erotica and speaking with intimate health advisors are ways to discover the sexual options, and if they identify with them.

And if you want to better understand yourself in bed and thus enrich and improve your performance, check out my program, Bigger and Deeper, which tackles issues that are of interest to any man who wants to be satisfied with his performance.

The number one dating mistake men make and how to avoid it

Here’s a story for you: Many moons ago, guy friend of mine got his first girlfriend. Even though he was just law student, barely getting by, he proceeded to spend a lot of money on the girl in just one short, whirlwind of a month, blowing through expensive wines at restaurants and other unnecessary gifts.

Though he did get to sleep with her several times in that short time span, she left him for another guy. My friend was heartbroken for months afterward, not to mention that he had to get a part-time job to replenish his bank account.

Sound familiar? Are you frustrated when you don’t get a girl to like you, after all the money you’ve spent? Well, here’s the thing: you’re operating on a false assumption. Money spent doesn’t necessarily equal adoration or sex.