He pursued me for a while for a date. I don’t know, but he always came around when I was busy, so I kept telling him no. One day, he came to my office. I hadn’t closed yet, but he sat in the lobby and waited until I closed so he could take me on a date.

I gave him 100/100 for effort. I was only going to see how the date would end so I could decide if he was worth it. He was humorous, he liked my kind of music, and the conversation was great. I think I was softening my stance until he had to show me something on his phone, and I saw his wallpaper—a voluptuous woman with a thick behind and in-your-face kind of *****.

It could have been just a wallpaper, but when I jokingly said, "This wallpaper of yours is crazy ooo," he answered, "You women are magic. This wallpaper cures my headache and depression." He burst out laughing. I could see the happiness in his eyes, but I had none of the things the woman on his screen had. You could call me flat, and you wouldn’t be wrong.

I said to myself, "If this is what cures his headache and depression, then what will I be able to cure with my flatness?"

When he proposed, I said no. He said, "I thought we were going somewhere?" I answered, "I'm sorry if I gave you the wrong hope."

I might have eventually agreed to date him, but I couldn’t ignore that wallpaper and its healing powers—powers I didn’t have.

Sometimes the most powerful medicine is:
• A boiled egg.
• A walk in the sun.
• A deep breath.
• Silence.
• And saying no without explaining.

Healing isn’t always complex.
Sometimes, it’s just choosing yourself quietly… and consistently.

Still I Rise.....- A Note to Me

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I am allowed to feel deeply, but I will not let pain define me.

I am worthy of love and support that comes without conditions.

My presence is powerful. My spirit is resilient. My journey is sacred.

Even when I'm misunderstood, I will not dim my light to fit in.

What I give to others, I also deserve—kindness, care, and grace.

I am not alone, even when the room feels empty. My strength is with me.

I choose to rise above the noise and reclaim my peace.

My tears are not weakness. They are healing. They are release.

I walk through fire and still carry the scent of hope.

No matter how many times I fall, I will always rise—stronger, wiser, braver.

Stop calling it:

“My diabetes”
“My ulcer”
“My erectile dysfunction”
“My fatty liver”
“My arthritis”

It’s not your own.
You didn’t buy it.
Don’t claim it.

The moment you start calling it “mine,”
you give it room to stay.

Detachment is the first step to healing.
Don’t bond with what you’re supposed to beat.

VISION

INTRODUCTION

Vision is the revelation of God’s purpose and plan for a person, a people, a generation, or even an entire nation. It is not ambition. It is not wishful thinking. It is not mere goal-setting. Vision is divine direction birthed by divine encounter. According to Habakkuk 2:2-3 (NKJV): “Write the vision and make it plain on tablets, that he may run who reads it. For the vision is yet for an appointed time; But at the end it will speak, and it will not lie. Though it tarries, wait for it; Because it will surely come, it will not tarry.” This reveals a key truth: NO TRUE VISION SPEAKS AT THE BEGINNING; IT ONLY SPEAKS AT THE END.

WHAT IS VISION?

Vision is the spiritual insight into God’s intended outcome for a life. It is not self-initiated but God-initiated. It is the mental and spiritual picture of your future that propels you with energy, courage, and resilience. Vision is what gives life direction, focus, and purpose. Without it, people live by reaction instead of intention. Proverbs 29:18 (KJV) says, “Where there is no vision, the people perish.”

True vision is born out of divine fellowship. It is not created in the boardroom but received in the secret place. Vision is not what you want to do for God, but what God wants to do through you. It is the blueprint of heaven deposited in your spirit, commanding your alignment and action.

KEY FACTS ABOUT VISION

1. TRUE VISION SPEAKS AT THE END, NOT AT THE BEGINNING

When vision first arrives, it often looks ordinary, confusing, or even unrealistic. It rarely comes with applause or clarity. In fact, it often invites criticism, mockery, and rejection. Just like Joseph’s dreams, vision is usually ridiculed before it is respected. In the beginning, it may appear dormant or unachievable. But in the end, it speaks loudly and clearly. Vision is validated by manifestation, not excitement.

2. VISION REQUIRES PROCESSING

Before vision speaks, it processes. The one who receives vision must be processed to match the weight of what God has revealed. Moses had the vision to deliver Israel, but spent 40 years in the wilderness being prepared. Paul encountered Jesus and then spent years in Arabia being equipped. God will never place a heavy vision on an unprocessed vessel. Between revelation and manifestation is preparation.

3. VISION THRIVES ON CHARACTER, NOT JUST CHARISMA

It is not enough to carry power gifts like prophecy, tongues, healing, or discernment. These are important but not sufficient for the fulfillment of vision. The gifts may attract attention, but it is the fruit of the Spirit that sustains destiny. According to Galatians 5:22-23, the fruits of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control are the attributes that preserve the vessel and stabilize the journey.

Many have received genuine visions from God but failed in character and collapsed in the process. Patience and long-suffering are especially critical because vision is a marathon, not a sprint. Without endurance, discouragement will abort destiny.

4. VISION REQUIRES TIME AND SEASONAL DISCERNMENT

Vision is time-sensitive. No matter how accurate a vision is, if you try to manifest it outside of divine timing, it will fail. The power of vision lies in alignment with God’s schedule. Ecclesiastes 3:1 says, “To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.” Misjudging seasons leads to premature exposure and failure.

Vision must be walked out step by step, stage by stage. Just as a baby must crawl before walking, vision must mature before manifestation. Each season comes with its test. There is a season of silence, of rejection, of formation, and of visibility. You must discern them all.

5. VISION ATTRACTS ADVERSITY

Every true vision will face opposition. In fact, opposition is one of the strongest validations that your vision is divine. Satan will not fight what is not a threat. Nehemiah’s vision to rebuild the walls of Jerusalem was opposed from every side. Jesus' mission was challenged from infancy to the cross. If your vision is truly of God, expect resistance—but also expect divine backing.

Opposition is not a sign of failure but a test of commitment. Many faint in the day of adversity because their strength is small. Visionaries must be battle-tested, able to withstand storms, delays, betrayals, and discouragement.

6. VISION REQUIRES DISCIPLINE AND FOCUS

Distraction is one of the deadliest enemies of vision. Many start strong but lose focus. Like Peter walking on water, they allow the winds of life to shift their eyes from the Master to the mess. Vision demands saying no to many good things to stay with the God-thing.

It also requires the discipline of time, resources, and relationships. Not every opportunity is a divine instruction. You must guard your heart, your circle, and your energy. Vision flourishes in environments of purity and clarity.

7. VISION REQUIRES COURAGE AND RESILIENCE

Vision will often demand that you walk alone. The early stages of vision may require loneliness, rejection, and misunderstanding. Noah built an ark with no rain in sight. Abraham walked to an unknown land. These men were sustained by vision, not applause.

If you cannot endure the loneliness of vision, you will never enjoy the reward of vision. You must believe what God told you even when no one else sees it. Hebrews 10:36 says, “You have need of patience, that, after you have done the will of God, you might receive the promise.”

8. VISION SEEKS TRANSFORMATION, NOT JUST ATTRACTION

A true vision will not just aim to make you popular or successful; it will aim to make others better, to improve society, and to advance God’s kingdom. Vision is bigger than self. It is redemptive. It serves others. It adds value. If your vision doesn’t stretch beyond you, it is ambition, not vision.

STAGES OF A VISION

1. REVELATION – God reveals His purpose.

2. INSTRUCTION – Specific steps are given.

3. SEPARATION – You are separated from what limits you.

4. PREPARATION – You are trained and refined.

5. OPPOSITION – You are tested and resisted.

6. MANIFESTATION – Vision begins to produce fruit.

7. MULTIPLICATION – Vision spreads and multiplies in others.

QUALITIES OF A VISIONARY

Sensitive to divine instructions

Emotionally stable and spiritually rooted

Bold in the face of opposition

Willing to endure delays and rejections

Able to discern seasons and transitions

Passionate about impact, not applause

Willing to submit to process and authority

Consistent in faith, regardless of results

CONCLUSION

Vision is not a one-time encounter—it is a lifelong journey. It is God's plan being worked out through your life in stages. Vision is fragile in the beginning but becomes powerful at the end. The end speaks, not the beginning. It is not how it looks now, but how it will be when God is done.

Don’t abort your vision because of delay. Don’t discard it because of opposition. Don’t disobey because of pressure. What God has shown you will come to pass—if you stay faithful.

Ecclesiastes 7:8 (NIV) says, “The end of a matter is better than its beginning, and patience is better than pride.” Vision is not about speed, but about staying in sync with God. Those who wait on the Lord will not be ashamed. The vision will speak—at the end.

DON'T MARRY FOR LOVE, IT'S A SCAM, YOU WILL LOOSE

If You Marry for Love—You Are A Loser.

Marriage is not romance. It’s a strategic investment.

Let’s stop deceiving ourselves.

Love is not enough.

Romance won’t sustain you.

And marriage built on feelings will collapse under pressure.

Because marriage isn’t an emotional experiment.

It’s a power move.

1. Feelings Fade—Structure Stays

You’re happy today. Great.

But what happens when money gets tight?

What happens when you lose your job?

What happens when she wakes up and says, “I’m not in love anymore”?

If your marriage was built on butterflies, expect it to collapse once the wind changes.

Love is a spark. But marriage needs fuel.

Vision. Structure. Alignment. Sacrifice. Strategy.

2. If You’re 70 and You Marry 30—Your Household Is 50

Let’s talk logic.

You’re wise. She’s fresh.

But instead of raising your stock, she drops the average.

You’re thinking legacy—she’s thinking TikTok.

You’re building wealth—she’s building “influencer reels.”

(She’s not even ready to build it into a media business.)

You’ve seen war—she’s crying because you forgot to comment on her new selfie.

And now you’re stuck in a marriage that drags you backward.

Because you married vibes—not vision.

3. Marriage Is a Merger—Not a Movie

When two become one, it’s not about hugs and kisses.

It’s about merging empires. Consolidating influence.

Combining assets. Multiplying momentum.

Even the Bible said:

“One will chase a thousand, two will chase ten thousand.”

But what if the “two” is a liability?

What if she’s chasing dopamine instead of purpose?

What if she’s more obsessed with matching pajamas than matching values?

Now, you’re running with dead weight.

Fighting alone. Providing alone. Planning alone.

And she’s somewhere saying,
“I don’t like forcing things.”

4. Modern Girls Don’t Grind—They Ghost

Let’s be real.

Many modern women want:

• Love with no labor
• Comfort with no contribution
• Leadership with no loyalty

She wants a soft life—but won’t lift a finger.

She’s jobless, but has high taste.

She’s broke, but her demands come in six figures.

She says you’re stressing her mental health—because you asked about her career goals.

Try to build with her, and she’ll say,
“This isn’t flowing naturally. I need space.”

5.Her Submission Is a “Maybe”

Her obligations are “Optional”

Today’s woman wants:

• To reply when she feels like
• To submit if the vibe is right
• To bear children only when convenient
• To pause the relationship if she’s “not in the mood”

Any hint of hardship, she’s gone.

Any serious talk, she’s “emotionally unavailable.”

Any call for accountability, she’s “being controlled.”

And if you dare lead with firmness?

She’ll tell Twitter you’re a narcissist.

6. Dysfunction Is the New Normal

Many modern girls were raised in chaos.

Divorced parents. Absent fathers.

Traumatized mothers.

And instead of healing, they brought that chaos into dating.

So when you show up with purpose and structure?

She calls it “too much.”

She wants a soft man who’s strong.

A rich man who’s humble.

A loyal man who doesn’t ask questions.

She wants everything—but gives almost nothing.

So Here’s the Brutal Truth:

Marriage is a system.

If you don’t build it with strategy, it will collapse in drama.

Stop marrying for butterflies.

Start marrying for alignment.

For values. For vision.

Pick a partner who multiplies your purpose—not one who multiplies your pain.

Because at the end of the day…

It’s not who makes your heart skip.

It’s who helps you finish the race.

Marry wisely.

Remember—when it finally comes to a divorce, obligations are enforceable by law, but no one can compel her to keep loving you and riding your joystick that’s insisting she’s the best rider it has ever seen.

Speak with wisdom in the comments, I will like to have your opinions.

#marriage
#modernrelationships
#masculinity

Message Title: The Healing Power of Jesus' Resurrection

Ministering: Pastor Mrs Faith Oyedepo

Healing is a universal need of life, and it cuts across three realms of human life: the spirit, the soul and the body.

Jesus was battered, bruised and beaten for your sake, and His resurrection was ordained to deliver your healing, health and wholeness. - Isa. 53:5, 2 Pet. 2:24.

Sickness is not your friend; it is your enemy!

The healing power of Christ’s resurrection infuses life and takes away sickness.

The resurrection power of Jesus is your escape route from the hold of the trap of sinfulness.

No matter the affliction you came with today, the resurrection power of Jesus has an answer to it.

Wholeness is your portion and henceforth, you shall no longer be denied of it!

What is in the Healing Power of Jesus?

1. The power to quicken your mortal body. - Rom. 8:11, Acts 3:2

2. It induces life in the dying parts of your body. - John 6:63'

3. It is the answer to all human affliction. - Acts. 4:33

4. It terminates every oppression of the devil. Eph 1:19

5. It empowers believers to live healthily. - John 14:19.

How To Receive Your Healing

1. Receive Christ as the Healer. - John 3:3

2. Believe in the finished works of Christ on the cross. - John 19:30

3. Believe in the quickening and resurrection power of Jesus. - John 11:40.

4. Believe the Word concerning your healing, health wholeness. - Ps. 107:20

5. Declare your healing boldly.

6. Act in the reality of your healing by taking practical steps. - Matt. 27:52.

YOU DON’T HAVE A SEX PROBLEM — YOU HAVE A SELF-CONTROL PROBLEM

It’s not about women… It’s about the war in your own mind

Let’s settle this once and for all:

Sex is not your enemy. Women are not your downfall.
Your real problem is you can’t tell yourself “NO” — and mean it.

You don’t have a lust problem.
You don’t have a girlfriend problem.
You have a discipline problem.

And here’s how it’s destroying your life quietly — while you think it’s just “normal behavior”…

1. You chase women, but you don’t chase purpose.
You know how to text her non-stop…
But you can’t stay focused on your goals for 3 straight hours.
You have energy for sweet words…
But no energy for self-improvement, study, or money-making.

That’s not a sex issue.
That’s weak self-leadership.

2. You can delay pleasure with money — but not with women.
You’ll save up to buy a phone.
You’ll wait 3 months to get a new sneaker.
But you can’t even say “no” to your body when it starts calling.
You’re financially wise… but sexually foolish.
And that imbalance is killing your power.

3. You know it’s wrong — but you do it anyway.
You feel guilty after sleeping with her.
You regret it after you masturbate.
You swear it won’t happen again…
But two nights later, you’re back at it.
That’s not just habit — that’s a lack of control.

4. You’re ruled by urges, not purpose.
You wake up with ideas…
But by noon, you’re back in her DMs.
You had plans…
But her body made you forget all of them.
You can’t dominate the world if you can’t even dominate yourself.

5. You call it love — but you’re just addicted to lust.
You don’t love her. You love what she makes you feel.
You love the ego boost. The fantasy. The temporary escape.
And because you can’t detach,
You stay stuck in toxic cycles that waste your time and kill your growth.

6. You ask God for help — but you never say no to temptation.
You pray. You cry. You fast.
But when she texts “come over,”
You forget all your anointing.
It’s not about prayers — it’s about principle.
Until you discipline your body, you’ll keep falling in the same trap.

7. Your energy is leaking through your cravings.
Every time you chase sex instead of your calling,
You give away your power, your time, your strength.
And it’s why your dreams feel dry.
Because you keep watering women, not your goals.

8. You can't sit in silence without craving pleasure.
You get bored, you want sex.
You get stressed, you want sex.
You get lonely, you want sex.
You’ve made sex your medicine — and now you’re hooked.
You don’t need more sex. You need more purpose.

9. You train your brain to give up easily.
Every climax without discipline tells your mind:
“Instant reward is better than long-term success.”
So you stop grinding. You stop building. You start cutting corners.
All because you trained yourself to quit when things get hard — and chase what feels easy.

10. You’re not addicted to her — you’re addicted to escaping yourself.
Sex is your way of avoiding the uncomfortable truth:
That you’re not where you want to be in life…
So you hide in a woman’s body instead of fixing your own journey.

Bro, hear this clearly:

You don’t need more women.
You don’t need another round.
You don’t need late-night texts or temporary highs.

You need control. You need mastery. You need silence, structure, and standards.

Because a man who can’t say no to his urges
Will say yes to every distraction — and miss his destiny.

If you’re tired of watching sex ruin your power,
Tired of starting over every month,
Tired of feeling weak behind closed doors…

Type “CONTROL” below.
And let’s remind more men:
Sex isn’t the devil. Lack of self-control is.
Share this. The healing starts with the truth.

If You Marry for Love—You Lose. Marriage Is Not Romance. It’s a Strategic Investment.

Let’s stop deceiving ourselves.

Love is not enough.

Romance won’t sustain you.

And marriage built on feelings will collapse under pressure.

Because marriage isn’t an emotional experiment.

It’s a power move.

1. Feelings Fade—Structure Stays

You’re happy today. Great.

But what happens when money gets tight?

What happens when you lose your job?

What happens when she wakes up and says, “I’m not in love anymore”?

If your marriage was built on butterflies, expect it to collapse once the wind changes.

Love is a spark. But marriage needs fuel.

Vision. Structure. Alignment. Sacrifice. Strategy.

2. If You’re 70 and You Marry 30—Your Household Is 50

Let’s talk logic.

You’re wise. She’s fresh.

But instead of raising your stock, she drops the average.

You’re thinking legacy—she’s thinking TikTok.

You’re building wealth—she’s building “influencer reels.”

(She’s not even ready to build it into a media business.)

You’ve seen war—she’s crying because you forgot to comment on her new selfie.

And now you’re stuck in a marriage that drags you backward.

Because you married vibes—not vision.

3. Marriage Is a Merger—Not a Movie

When two become one, it’s not about hugs and kisses.

It’s about merging empires. Consolidating influence.

Combining assets. Multiplying momentum.

Even the Bible said:

“One will chase a thousand, two will chase ten thousand.”

But what if the “two” is a liability?

What if she’s chasing dopamine instead of purpose?

What if she’s more obsessed with matching pajamas than matching values?

Now, you’re running with dead weight.

Fighting alone. Providing alone. Planning alone.

And she’s somewhere saying,
“I don’t like forcing things.”

4. Modern Girls Don’t Grind—They Ghost

Let’s be real.

Many modern women want:

• Love with no labor
• Comfort with no contribution
• Leadership with no loyalty

She wants a soft life—but won’t lift a finger.

She’s jobless, but has high taste.

She’s broke, but her demands come in six figures.

She says you’re stressing her mental health—because you asked about her career goals.

Try to build with her, and she’ll say,
“This isn’t flowing naturally. I need space.”

5.Her Submission Is a “Maybe”

Her obligations are “Optional”

Today’s woman wants:

• To reply when she feels like
• To submit if the vibe is right
• To bear children only when convenient
• To pause the relationship if she’s “not in the mood”

Any hint of hardship, she’s gone.

Any serious talk, she’s “emotionally unavailable.”

Any call for accountability, she’s “being controlled.”

And if you dare lead with firmness?

She’ll tell Twitter you’re a narcissist.

6. Dysfunction Is the New Normal

Many modern girls were raised in chaos.

Divorced parents. Absent fathers.

Traumatized mothers.

And instead of healing, they brought that chaos into dating.

So when you show up with purpose and structure?

She calls it “too much.”

She wants a soft man who’s strong.

A rich man who’s humble.

A loyal man who doesn’t ask questions.

She wants everything—but gives almost nothing.

So Here’s the Brutal Truth:

Marriage is a system.

If you don’t build it with strategy, it will collapse in drama.

Stop marrying for butterflies.

Start marrying for alignment.

For values. For vision.

Pick a partner who multiplies your purpose—not one who multiplies your pain.

Because at the end of the day…

It’s not who makes your heart skip.

It’s who helps you finish the race.

Marry wisely.

Remember—when it finally comes to a divorce, obligations are enforceable by law, but no one can compel her to keep loving you and riding your joystick that’s insisting she’s the best rider it has ever seen.

Speak with wisdom in the comments, I will like to have your opinions.

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Losing a dog can be just as emotionally challenging as losing a human loved one.

Research has shown that the grief experienced after a pet's death mirrors that of human loss.

One study from the University of Michigan found that 85.7% of people who lost a pet experienced grief symptoms, with a significant number still feeling the impact months later.

This deep sorrow is rooted in the strong bond shared between humans and dogs. Dogs provide unconditional love, companionship, and structure in daily life, and their absence creates a void that can be hard to fill.

Psychologists explain that pet owners are not just mourning the loss of an animal but also the loss of a consistent, loving presence.

Unfortunately, society often downplays the pain of pet loss, making many owners feel their grief is less valid.

Recognizing and supporting this type of grief is essential for healing.

Affirm with me

I am worthy of love, success, and happiness.
My body is strong, my mind is focused, and my heart is at peace.
I move with grace and confidence, knowing that everything I need is already within me.
I release fear, embrace healing, and welcome growth.
Divine guidance lights my path, and I trust the timing of my life.
I am rooted in purpose, surrounded by love, and aligned with peace."

This plate is proof that healing is not punishment.

You want to flex?

Flex like this:

-Sweet potatoes for energy

-Liver and gizzard for strong blood and bedroom confidence

-Colourful veggies to repair your gut

-Cucumber-ginger drink to flush your system (not your account)

But no…

You will carry seed oil, fruit juice, biscuits, and call it “enjoyment.”

Your ancestors didn’t fight for independence so you can spend your money on diabetes and ulcer.

Be guided.

Your next grocery list should look like this plate.

Extract - Doctor of the Future