10 WAYS TO AVOID CHEATING ON YOUR PARTNER

Over the past week, issues about cheating has been on discus. People are discussing and arguing about the best way to treat their cheating partners. Some said, to divorce, others said, to cheat back and some are of the opinion that forgiveness is the best option.

There's a saying that, "Prevention is better and cheaper than cure". So, it's better to avoid and prevent cheating on your partner than to start looking for a way to handle cheating.

Many people have cheated on their partners unintentionally. They don't want to cheat but they fell into it unintentionally because they were careless and failed to be on the lookout.

1. Decide That You Will Not Cheat

Until you decide to do or not do something, you haven't started. Decision is the starting point of all achievements. Without decision nothing can be done. So, you must make this decision.

Even before you marry, you will have to make this decision that you are not going to cheat on your partner no matter what. Daniel in the land of Babylon purposed in his heart, he decided that he won't defile himself with the king's food. So, you too must decide not to cheat on your partner(Daniel 1:8).

2. Shut Your Eyes

After you got married or entered a relationship, you will keep seeing people more beautiful, handsome, richer, endowed and romantic than your partner and if your eyes are still open, the chances are high that you will cheat.

As a guy, shut your eyes against any other lady than your woman. As a lady, shut your eyes off every other man. King David saw a man's wife bathing and he lost all his senses. He slept with the woman and even kill the woman's husband! Close your eyes and look away(see 2 Sam 11:1-12; Job 31:1)

3. Avoid Sharing Your Problems With The Opposite Sex For Pity And Sympathy.

When I was in the village, there was this woman that was an expert in sharing her problems with the aim of securing pity and sympathy from people and as well as cash. Whenever you see her, expect one complain or another.

So, avoid sharing your problems with others especially the opposite sex for pity or sympathy. If it's not solution you're looking for, avoid the sharing stuff. Problems have a way of bonding people. You will become emotionally entangled.

4. Avoid Too Much Play With The Opposite Sex

Cheating doesn't just happen, it starts little by little. Little play here and little play with the opposite sex and before you know it, emotions are developing to the point it becomes uncontrollable.

Playing with the opposite sex while you're married or have a partner that you are in a relationship with is like when a lion and a goat is playing. You know what that means. Oga, that girl that whenever you see her, chemical reaction begins to take place in your body, the early you avoid her the better, the same is applicable to you, madam. You can't walk on fire and won't get burnt!

5. Limit Communication With The Opposite Sex

Communication is the blood of relationship, without communication relationship suffers. Communication fosters intimacy and understanding in a relationship. It keeps the fire burning.

So, limit communication with the opposite sex. When you don't have something really important to discus, avoid all those unnecessary discussions. It will lead to something else.

6. Be Committed And Devoted To Your Partner

When you're committed and devoted to something, you will have little or no time for something else, it will take your time, energy and resources. So, be committed and devoted to your partner.

When you're committed and devoted to your partner, you will have little or no time for someone else, you'll have time for your partner. Be Committed and devoted.

7. Think About The Consequences

As a married woman, what do you think will happen if your husband should catch you while you're sleeping with another man? Ask yourself the same question as a man, what will happen if your woman should catch you cheating on her? Think about it.

Also, think about the effect your cheating will have on your partner. Think about how heartbroken, devastated and traumatized your partner will be. Think about the lost of trust and confidence your partner will have for you.

Cheating can end your marriage. It can make your partner to commit suicide. You will lose the trust, love and confidence of your partner. Does cheating really worth all these? Think about it.

8. Avoid The Company Of Those That Don't Value Fidelity.

Proverbs 13:20 says that, when you follow the wise, you'll become wise and when you will follow fools, you shall be destroyed. Who you follow determines what follows you. Who you company with determines what accompanies you.

So, avoid the company of those that are not faithful to their partners, avoid those that don't respect their marital vows and and the sacredness of marriage. It's just a matter of time before you join them. Bad company corrupts good character.

9. Value What You Have

When you don't value what you have, you will treat and abuse it. When you don't have value and respect for your partner, you will cheat on the person. What you value, you cherish, guide, protect and care for.

If you value your partner, you will cherish him or her, you will care about his or her feelings. Place a premium value on your partner.

10. Love Your Partner

Love is a strong force that can either compel you to do or not to do something. When you truly love your partner, you won't like to cheat on him or her. The love will constrain you from doing such(see 2 Corinthians 5:14-15).

Remember : Let me stop here. If really you are serious about being a faithful partner, with these 10 points you are good to go. God bless us all.

The Silent Cry: The Real Dangers of Abortion

Intro: A True-Like Story That Happens Every Day

Ama was only 19, in her second year at the university. Bright. Ambitious. Full of dreams.
But life doesn’t always go as planned.

She found out she was pregnant. The father? A guy who had already moved on. Family? She feared the shame. Friends? Most encouraged her to "just take it out and move on."

So one quiet afternoon, Ama walked into a backstreet clinic—no signboard, no license, just a promise of quick results. She came out with a heavy heart, bleeding… not just physically but emotionally and spiritually.

Days later, Ama collapsed in her hostel. The infection had spread. Her womb was damaged. Her dreams of ever carrying a child again? Gone.

This is not just Ama’s story. It is the story of thousands of young women across Ghana and Africa. Some survive. Some don’t. Most carry the scars forever.

What Is Abortion?

Abortion is the deliberate termination of a pregnancy before the baby can survive outside the womb.
While some abortions are carried out under strict medical guidance due to life-threatening complications, unsafe abortions—especially those done secretly, by untrained persons, or in unsanitary places—pose deadly risks.

Dangers of Abortion (Especially Unsafe or Repeated)

1. Physical Health Risks

Severe bleeding (hemorrhage): Can lead to death if untreated.

Infections: Unsanitary tools or poor hygiene can introduce bacteria that damage reproductive organs or cause sepsis (blood poisoning).

Womb perforation: Instruments can tear the uterus, leading to long-term complications or emergency surgery.

Infertility: Damage to the womb or fallopian tubes can result in permanent infertility.

Organ damage: Unsafe procedures can harm nearby organs like the bladder or intestines.

2. Mental and Emotional Trauma

Depression, guilt, and regret are common.

Post-Abortion Syndrome: A condition similar to PTSD, marked by anxiety, nightmares, emotional numbness, and self-blame.

3. Social and Spiritual Consequences

Emotional distance from partners or family.

Isolation due to fear or stigma.

Spiritual guilt or disconnection for those with strong religious values.

Common Myths That Push Women Toward Abortion

“It’s just a small problem, take it out.”
→ No. Pregnancy involves two lives: the mother and the child.

“Abortion is safer than giving birth.”
→ Only when done legally and under medical care. Unsafe abortions kill more women than childbirth in many places.

“You can’t get pregnant again after just one abortion.”
→ Many women have faced infertility after a single poorly done abortion.

What Should You Do Instead?

Talk to a health professional: Seek counseling and support services.

Look into adoption: Many families are looking to adopt children.

Educate yourself: Know your body, understand protection, and make informed decisions.

Join support groups: You're not alone. There are safe spaces to help you make the best decision.

The Way Forward for Ghana and Africa

We need more education—not judgment.
We need safe spaces, not silence.
We need men to take responsibility, not escape it.
We need communities to empower, not shame.
Let’s protect our women, our daughters, and our sisters from the trap of unsafe abortions.

FLIRTING WITH AN OVER-RELIGIOUS SISTER BE LIKE...

(Phone Conversation)

Brother Joseph:
Hey baby, what's up?

Sister Grace:
Excuse me?! My name is Sister Grace, not baby!
Is “baby” in the Bible?
Did Abraham ever call Sarah baby?
Did Joseph call Mary baby boo?
Brother Joseph, that name is too worldly, not heavenly!
I thought you were born again? I'm disappointed

Brother Joseph:
Okay o... Sister Grace, how are you?

Sister Grace:
Psalm 28:7!
"The Lord is my strength and my shield!"
I'm more than a conqueror! Any devil that tries me will drop d€ad!
(Proceeds to blast in tongues)

Brother Joseph:
Eyy! Okay oo... What are you doing right now?

Sister Grace:
I'm cooking to the glory of God!
This rice and stew is fully dedicated to the Lord. All glory to Him.

Brother Joseph:
Wow! Should I come help you?

Sister Grace:
God forbid!
I can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me!
He is my ever-present help in the kitchen!

Brother Joseph:
Hmm okay... At least let me come after you're done, so you can serve me

Sister Grace:
I only serve the Living God, not man!
As for me and my house, we shall serve the Lord — Joshua 24:15

Brother Joseph:
This one na holy hotness o! Okay... what are you wearing right now?

Sister Grace:
If you were truly spiritual, you'd already know!
I'm wearing the FULL ARMOR OF GOD!
No weapon formed against me shall prosper!

Brother Joseph:
Chai! This is too much. I give up!

Sister Grace:
Ha! If you give up so easily, then you're not my divinely ordained husband.

---

Me:
This sister fit remain single till rapture o!
My sister, calm down small! We know you love Jesus, but give Bro Joseph a chance

Talking tartiest in football

𝐅𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐥𝐞𝐬𝐬! 🙏🏼🏼

Lord, thank You that I don’t have to
fight in my own strength. When I feel
weary, remind me that Your power is
made perfect in my weakness. Help
me to stand boldly in faith, to stay
grounded in Your promises, & to
keep moving forward even when the
pressure rises. Cover me w/ courage.
Wrap me in peace. And remind me,
You’ve already won! Amen ✞

𝗗𝗲𝗰𝗹𝗮𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻:
I will not fold under pressure. I am
armed with truth, surrounded by
grace, and filled with unshakable
faith.

𝗦𝘁𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗳𝗶𝗿𝗺 🙌

Good morning my fellow billionaires

*WISDOM TIPS FOR SINGLES AND MARRIED...!*

1. Wedding is a day but marriage is a lifetime.

2. A stingy man who is single will still be stingy when married.

3. Silence can never be misquoted.

4. If you want what no one ever had, you must do what no one ever did.

5. When God wants to bless you, He puts a person in your life. When Satan wants to destroy someone, he puts a person in his life.

6. It's better to be single and alone than to be married to the wrong person.

7. Avoid a contentious woman.

8. Three kinds of men to avoid:

a. A hot tempered man.
b. A womanizer.
c. A drunkard.

9. Marrying a comedian does not guarantee a happy marriage.

10. Marry someone of similar religious beliefs.

11. Three words that echo peace in a marriage:

a. I love you .
b. I am sorry.
c. Thank you.

12. Don't waste your time meditating or dwelling on your singleness. It won't last forever. Be happy and get busy with your life.

13. Cohabitation is a recipe for marital failure.

14. Masturbation is can affect your marriage negatively.

15. Marriage without friendship is like a sky without the sun.

16. If you rush into marriage, you may end up with someone who will bury your destiny.

17. Why you marry is as important as who you marry.

18. Much happiness in life depends on your marital choice.

19. A man and women need wisdom in choosing who to marry.

20. Do not place your priority on good looks; no woman is ugly, she just needs rebranding.

May you not fail in Marriage...!

GOD BLESS YOU

Title: She Rides Shotgun: Marked for death by unrelenting enemies, a newly released ex-con must protect his estranged 11-year-old daughter at all costs. Starring: Taron Egerton, Rob Yang.

great is the lord and greatly to be praised

25 THINGS A WOMAN SHOULD SAY TO HER HUSBAND WITHOUT FEELING SHY.

1. Honey, let's make love...

2. Here are my free days...ovulation days...We can have r@w $€x as much as possible on days I'm free without getting pregnant (if you are using natural family planning method).

3. I need more money...
4. I don't like the way you chat with your ex...
5. I just sent some money to your account for you to enjoy yourself this weekend...
6. Pray for me...
7. Send more money to your mum...
8. I'm not comfortable with the way you touch ladies/give them too much attention...
9. Let's pray over this...
10. Kiss me...
11. I love how you make l0ve to me....
12. I love your p£nis...
13. You are so handsome...
14. Thanks for working hard to take care if us...
15. Your sacrifice for our well being is beyond measure...you always amaze me...
16. Your $exy body turns me on...
17. You are such a man of wisdom! The Solomon of my life...
18. I love you...
19. Can you please, help me wash my panties...(when you are sick, tired, stressed and has no one else to help)
20. Thank you for asking me to marry you...
21. No man can ever catch my attention as you do...
22. You are the best of all male species the good Lord ever created...
23. You rock my world...
24. God bless your mother for giving birth to such a great man like you...
25. I love your mum...

Oh my God, please bless the works of our hands

Title: NOW YOU SEE ME _NOW YOU DON'T. The Four Horsemen and a new generation of illusionists try to bring down a worldwide criminal network. Starting: Dave Franco, Morgan Freeman, Mark Ruffalo

Always have the power to make your own decisions

A cheating husband wanted to find out if
his wife knew about his unfaithfulness to her.

One night he asked her

“Darling, can a woman know if her
husband is cheating on her?”

She replied

“Yes of course”

Surprised and with his heart fast beating in a most uncomfortable way he asked

“But how will she know?”

“Well” said his wife “There are many ways....

If she keep finding hotel receipts in his
pocket each time she take his clothes to the laundry and lipstick mark on his shirt, if he keep coming home late nights” etc

He breathed a sigh of relief because none of this applied to him.

The following morning, he was ready to go to work but couldn't find his car key where he normally kept it,

“Honey, did you please see my car key?”

“Yes” replied his wife “Junior was playing with it so I kept it in the drawer” he went to the drawer, open it and found the car key but something else were there too, many hotel receipts, same hotel he normally take his women to, he couldn't believe it,

“My wife has found all these hotel receipts in my pockets, how on earth have I been careless with this receipts?

I can't believe she knew about my unfaithfulness to her yet kept quiet, my God I am done”.

Hurriedly and shamefully without saying 'Bye' to his wife he left the house.

At the office he couldn't concentrate on his work,

“I have been fooling around thinking my wife never knew about my relationships with other women”.

He decided to text his wife and apologize but just then his phone rang, his wife was calling, as he picked up the phone, the worst happened.

END OF PART 1

Sadly there's no part 2 and nothing
happened, I was just bored and decided to write this🥹

IMPORTANCE OF SAYING SORRY IN A RELATIONSHIP AND MARRIAGE WHEN YOU ARE WRONG

Apologizing is an essential part of maintaining a healthy, strong, and resilient relationship or marriage. It serves as a bridge to healing, restoring trust, and building a deeper connection with your partner. Here’s why saying sorry is so important:

WHY APOLOGIZE?

1. Acknowledges hurt or wrongdoing
An apology signals that you recognize the pain or harm caused by your actions, showing that you care about how your partner feels.

2. Shows empathy and understanding
It reflects an understanding of your partner's perspective and emotions, demonstrating that you value their feelings.

3. Diffuses tension and conflict
Apologizing helps to de-escalate difficult situations, calming emotions and clearing the air for healthy communication.

4. Rebuilds trust and credibility
A sincere apology demonstrates your willingness to take responsibility for your actions, which helps rebuild lost trust and re-establish credibility in your relationship.

5. Demonstrates accountability and responsibility
Apologizing shows you are accountable for your actions, accepting responsibility rather than deflecting blame.

6. Encourages forgiveness and healing
Saying sorry opens the door to forgiveness, allowing both partners to move forward and heal together.

7. Strengthens communication and intimacy
Apologizing fosters open, honest conversations, deepening emotional intimacy and mutual understanding.

8. Sets a positive example for conflict resolution
By apologizing, you teach the importance of humility, reconciliation, and healthy conflict resolution to others, especially children or those observing your relationship.

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BENEFITS OF APOLOGIZING

1. Reduces stress and anxiety
Apologies clear the air, easing emotional tension and creating a more peaceful environment.

2. Increases feelings of love and affection
A heartfelt apology can rekindle affection, making your partner feel valued and loved, even after a disagreement.

3. Improves communication and understanding
Apologizing encourages open dialogue and helps both partners understand each other better, leading to stronger communication.

4. Enhances relationship satisfaction
Relationships where apologies are given sincerely are more likely to be fulfilling and positive.

5. Encourages personal growth and self-awareness
Apologizing invites self-reflection, allowing both partners to learn from their mistakes and grow individually and together.

6. Fosters a culture of respect and empathy
By apologizing, you reinforce a culture where mutual respect and empathy thrive, making the relationship a safe space for both partners.

7. Helps to avoid resentment and anger
Avoiding the “silent treatment” or holding grudges, a genuine apology helps to prevent negative emotions from building up over time.

8. Promotes a healthier and happier relationship
Relationships that feature regular, honest apologies are healthier and more likely to be enduring because they are rooted in love and respect.

HOW TO APOLOGIZE EFFECTIVELY
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1. Use the "3 Rs" of apology: Regret, Responsibility, and Remedy
Regret the hurt caused, take responsibility for your actions, and suggest a remedy for moving forward.

2. Be sincere and genuine in your apology
Authenticity is key. A half-hearted apology can often do more harm than good.

3. Listen actively to your partner's concerns
Give your partner space to express their feelings and truly listen without interrupting or defending yourself.

4. Validate your partner's feelings and experiences
Acknowledge that your partner's feelings are valid, even if you didn’t intend to hurt them.

5. Offer a specific solution or plan for change
Demonstrate your commitment to improving by offering a clear solution or changes you’ll make moving forward.

6. Follow through on your commitments
An apology is only meaningful if it’s backed up by action. Ensure that you take steps to avoid repeating the same mistake.

7. Show empathy and understanding
Show that you truly understand how your actions have impacted your partner, not just in words but in actions as well.

8. Be patient and open to feedback
Healing takes time. Be patient with your partner and open to hearing how they feel, even if it takes time to forgive.

TIPS FOR MEN

1. Swallow your pride and admit fault
It takes strength to admit when you’re wrong. Let go of your ego to foster a deeper connection.

2. Use "I" statements to take ownership
Phrases like “I am sorry for…” rather than “You made me do…” put the responsibility on you.

3. Avoid making excuses or justifying
Resist the urge to explain away the mistake. Just apologize and focus on your partner’s feelings.

4. Show vulnerability and emotional intelligence
Being open about your emotions builds trust and shows that you care about your partner's feelings.

5. Be willing to make amends
Your partner should feel that your apology is sincere, so be prepared to make real changes if necessary.



TIPS FOR WOMEN

1. Communicate clearly and assertively
Share your feelings honestly and directly, avoiding passive-aggressive behavior or withholding.

2. Specify what you need from your partner
Let your partner know what will help resolve the issue or what you need moving forward.

3. Avoid being critical or judgmental
Offer a soft, loving approach when addressing the issue, rather than criticizing or pointing fingers.

4. Show appreciation for your partner's apology
When your partner apologizes, acknowledge their effort and express gratitude for their sincerity.

5. Encourage open and honest communication
Foster a space where both partners can freely express their feelings without fear of judgment.

WHEN TO APOLOGIZE

1. After a conflict or argument
Don’t wait for too long to apologize. Address the issue as soon as possible to prevent lingering resentment.

2. When you've hurt or offended your partner
If your words or actions have caused pain, it’s important to recognize that and apologize immediately.

3. When you've made a mistake or error
A simple acknowledgment that you were wrong goes a long way in healing wounds.

4. When you've broken a promise or commitment
If you’ve failed to keep your word, apologize and demonstrate that you can be trusted moving forward.

5. When you've disregarded your partner's feelings
Apologizing when you’ve been insensitive shows respect for your partner's emotional well-being.

Saying sorry isn’t just about saying words; it’s about understanding, acknowledging, and healing. By apologizing effectively, you strengthen your relationship, deepen trust, and build a stronger foundation for the future.

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𝗚𝗼𝗱 𝘄𝗶𝗻𝘀!

She didn’t come this far to fold.
Faith got her here. God’s taking
her further.
She’s been through battles the
world never saw…
Fought on her knees, prayed
through the pain, and still stood
tall with bandaids and boldness.

Because when God writes your
story, the fight may be fierce,
but the victory is sure. She’s not
backing down. She’s rising up.

Spoiler alert: God wins—and so
does she.

𝗦𝗼 𝗸𝗲𝗲𝗽 𝗳𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗴𝗼𝗼𝗱 𝗳𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗼𝗳
𝗳𝗮𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗽𝗿𝗲𝗰𝗶𝗼𝘂𝘀 𝗼𝗻𝗲! 𝗗𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝗴𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝘂𝗽!

.Marry a man with a provider mindset.
Not just someone with money.
But someone who is responsible.
Someone who leads with love, not pride.

A provider doesn’t mean rich.
It means reliable.
It means he shows up before you ask.
It means he pays attention to what you need without reminders.

He doesn’t need a luxury car or a big house.
He needs character.
The kind of heart that makes you feel safe mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.

A real man provides more than just money.
He provides peace.
He provides stability.
He protects your heart and respects your mind.

He listens.
He stays consistent.
He doesn’t leave you wondering where you stand.

His actions speak even when he’s quiet.

Emotional maturity is rare but it’s more valuable than anything money can buy.
Because a man who is grounded emotionally will create a home within you.
A place where you can be soft.
Where you can breathe, feel heard, and feel seen.

Love should not be a warzone.
It should feel like rest.
Like you are finally somewhere safe.

You deserve a man who doesn’t just take care of the bills
but takes care of your soul.

A man who gives you time, not silence.
Effort, not excuses.
Consistency, not confusion.

The right man will provide peace, presence, and protection.
And that… is everything.

*WHEN LOVE CORRECTS YOU, IT'S A GIFT — NOT AN ATTACK*



In every relationship, there comes a moment when your partner sees something you might not — a habit, an attitude, or a silence that’s hurting you both.

Love isn’t just about sweet words or happy moments. Sometimes love shows up as correction — a wake-up call, a mirror reflecting what you need to see, even if it’s hard.

A caring partner might say:
“You’ve changed — what’s really going on?”
“That friend isn’t good for your peace.”
“You’re working too much and missing us.”
“This silence between us is growing — we need to talk.”

It’s natural to feel hurt or defensive when corrected. But ask yourself:
If your partner can’t tell you the truth, who will?
If you always defend your pride, how can love grow?

Healthy relationships aren’t about control or criticism — they’re about accountability and care.
Being corrected doesn’t mean you’re less loved. It means your partner wants the best for you — and for the life you’re building together.

If you only accept comfort and avoid correction, you risk staying stuck in patterns that quietly destroy love.
If you always want to be right, you might end up alone.

So next time your partner points out something hard, listen with your heart, not just your ears.
They aren’t trying to change you — they’re trying to protect what you both cherish.

Remember: Let love guide you. Let pride rest. Let growth begin together.. God bless us all. Please don't go without reacting

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_*THE BEST WAY TO BE A FATHER:*_



1. BE THERE
The biggest failure as a man is having a child and rejecting that child, abdicating your responsibility as a father, being quick to have sex and quicker to run away when pregnancy comes. Too many children are hurting because of a father who is alive but has disowned them, it makes the child grow feeling unwanted and unloved, it dents the child's self esteem and some become adults with a constant feeling of rejection. If you have a child, be there; no matter how bad things are between you and the mother of the child- be there; you owe it to your young one.

2. TELL YOUR DAUGHTER SHE IS BEAUTIFUL
The first man to compliment a girl should be her father, the first man to take note of her beauty should be her dad. A girl should grow up convinced she is beautiful and feeling like a king's princess that even when boys and men try to woo her saying she's beautiful she responds "I know, dad has been telling me that for years". Too many girls fall for preying men because they are desperately looking for affection, they have daddy issues and had no encounter with a male figure who genuinely loved them before the preying men noticed their ***** and hips; so they fall prey to men who use compliments and give attention as a carrot to lure to a trap that leads to hurt.

3. MODEL MANHOOD TO THE SONS
A boy comes into the world as a naive student who will absorb what the male figures around him teach. He can be taught the right way to be a man or be misled. He learns how to treat females whether good or bad from the men around him. He should learn proper manhood from the father. The father should model how best to treat and respect females, how to love as a man, how to work, how to provide, how to be a man of integrity. This learning should be in the form of loving mentorship, too many men grow up with an absent father, too many grow up with a father who puts too much pressure on the poor boy inorder to win daddy's approval that they grow up frustrated and angry at the world because their transition from boy to man was cruel and made to be a test to win a nod than a smooth mentorship process. Too many boys are left to find their way and in so doing will make many mistakes and end up half-grown boys in men's bodies.

4. EAT WITH YOUR FAMILY
Food brings people together, one of the greatest show of security to a child is when the dad makes time to share meals.

5. BE THE SPIRITUAL LEADER
The father should be the High Priest. He should lead the child/ children towards living a Godly life, he should be seen praying, reading God's word, living out a Godly life, loving. The child should be given a Godly foundation that will shape a stable future and the father should be seen submitting to the God who gave the child life and who makes parenthood possible.

6. LISTEN
A child with a father who loves to listen grows in confidence. When a child feels he/she can tell daddy anything, no battle will intimidate the child. Sometimes you don't have to say much, just sit back and pay attention. The first need of love is to be listened to, to be treated like how you feel and what you have to say is important.

7. GIVE ADVICE
A father should be there to offer counsel whether solicited or not. Children cry for direction. As a father, be involved in the process of the seeking of answers. Be open about your mistakes (no lying you used to get straight A's in school), your childhood, your lessons and your expectations of the child. Give advice not as a dictator whose word is final lest you isolate yourself from the child because the child can do what you ask yet fear and despise you; but help the child understand why you are insisting on your way, help the child understand your reasons, train your child to think through solutions; this way, he/ she will grow up with the self-sufficient capacity of making sound and wise decisions.

8. BE PRESENT
The father's presence should be felt, too many fathers have left parenting to the wife. The best test of love is the giving of time, do not fail this test.

9. REFRAIN FROM THROWING MONEY AT THE PROBLEM
No matter how rich you are, fatherhood is not done by throwing money at issues. When your child complains of your absence, when problems arise, when dealing with your child becomes a handful and you feel you have no time; don't use money to silence or appease the child. Fatherhood is a hands on approach, it will not be easy but its fruits are sweet. Don't escape through your ATM. Material things can contain a child for a while, but soon the child will look around and see empty things but no love from dad.

10. SHOW UP
Make daddy appearances; show up at your child's sports day, birthday, parent's day, graduation or any other special day. Make random visits to what your child cares alot about even if for a few minutes. Meet your child's friends briefly, let your child feel daddy's loving eyes are watching over me. An employee feels special when the boss makes a random visit to smile at the employee's work, a citizen feels special when The President makes a surprise visit to greet the citizen, a child feels special when daddy makes a loving phonecall or shows up to demonstrate he cares.

11. BE A SUPER HERO
Be strength to your child, the rock that is a shelter, the refuge and defender to your child. The attributes of God the Heavenly Father, model them as an earthly father.

12. CAST A VISION
With your wife, cast a vision for your family. Define what you expect from your child because children love living up to a target. Make the vision and values that should govern your family plain and simple for the child to live by. Your role is to show leadership.

13. STAY FOCUSED
Casting a vision is not enough, you must not abandon ship. The man is the one who proposes to a woman for marriage, he initiates the formation of a family, but too many men let down the family they themselves initiated. They start having affairs, wasting time and money on women and being distracted by meaningless pursuits as their children suffer. Don't let go of the steering wheel, drive your family car its full course.

14. BE A SUCCESS STORY,
SUCCEED AS A MAN successed as a professional, succeed in life, shine in society. Children love to brag about their dad, be the best man in your child/ children's eyes, the one to grow up to be like. Let it be an honor to carry your name as a surname.

15. LOVE THE MOTHER
Your wife acquires a new position when you have children, she is not just your wife but the mother of your children. Your child/ children love both of you the same and the desire of a child is to see mum and dad in love working as a team. A child should grow up with the demonstration of how true love looks like from mum and dad.