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*Why Do People Who Care a lot get hurt the most*

Get answered today, and know where to change and where to improve on during your association with people!!!

*Part 1 .*

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Caring individuals might get hurt due to their vulnerability, empathy, high expectations, and selflessness. These traits can make them more sensitive to others' emotions and experiences.

Let's dive deeper into why caring people might get hurt:

*Vulnerability*:

1. *Openness*: Caring people tend to be open and receptive to others, which can make them more vulnerable to emotional pain.
2. *Trust*: They often trust others easily, which can lead to hurt when that trust is broken.
3. *Emotional investment*: Caring individuals invest emotionally in relationships, making them more susceptible to emotional hurt.

*Empathy*:

1. *Feeling others' pain*: Caring people can deeply feel others' emotions, including pain and suffering.
2. *Compassion fatigue*: Constantly empathizing with others can lead to emotional exhaustion.
3. *Blurred boundaries*: Empathetic individuals might struggle to set boundaries, leading to emotional overload.

*High expectations*:

1. *Idealism*: Caring people often have high ideals about relationships and people.
2. *Disappointment*: When reality doesn't meet these expectations, they might feel disappointed or hurt.
3. *Self-blame*: They might blame themselves for not meeting their own expectations.

*Selflessness*:

1. *Prioritizing others*: Caring individuals often prioritize others' needs over their own.
2. *Burnout*: Constantly putting others first can lead to emotional burnout.
3. *Lack of self-care*: Neglecting their own needs can make them more vulnerable to hurt.

These factors can contribute to caring people getting hurt. However, it's essential to remember that being caring and empathetic are valuable traits that can also bring great rewards and connections.

*Part 2*

*Why do good People marry "bad" ones:*

1. *Attraction to confidence*: Good men or women might be drawn to confident, outgoing partners, even if they have a "bad" reputation.
2. *Desire to help or fix*: Some good men may feel a strong desire to help or fix someone they perceive as needing care or support.
3. *Unconscious patterns*: Unconscious patterns or past experiences might lead good men to seek out relationships with women who fit a certain pattern, even if it's not healthy.
4. *Complexity of human relationships*: Relationships involve many factors, and individuals can be complex and multifaceted.

*Part 3*

Here are some strategies for caring people to minimize hurt and disappointment:

*Set boundaries*:

1. *Learn to say no*: Establish healthy limits to protect your emotional energy.
2. *Prioritize self-care*: Make time for activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul.
3. *Communicate needs*: Express your expectations and needs clearly to others.

*Practice self-awareness*:

1. *Recognize patterns*: Identify situations or people that consistently lead to hurt or disappointment.
2. *Understand your emotions*: Develop emotional intelligence to better navigate complex feelings.
3. *Develop self-compassion*: Treat yourself with kindness and understanding when faced with challenges.

*Cultivate healthy relationships*:

1. *Surround yourself with positivity*: Spend time with people who support and uplift you.
2. *Foster mutual respect*: Build relationships based on mutual understanding, trust, and respect.
3. *Let go of toxic relationships*: Distance yourself from people who consistently cause harm or stress.

*Manage expectations*:

1. *Be realistic*: Understand that people and relationships are imperfect.
2. *Focus on the present*: Appreciate the current moment and don't overemphasize future expectations.
3. *Practice gratitude*: Focus on the positive aspects of your relationships and life.

*Develop emotional resilience*:

1. *Learn from experiences*: Grow from challenges and use them as opportunities for personal growth.
2. *Practice mindfulness*: Stay present and focused on the current moment.
3. *Seek support*: Reach out to trusted friends, family, or professionals when needed.

By implementing these strategies, caring people can reduce their risk of getting hurt and cultivate more fulfilling relationships.

Hope now you understand where to work on dear and create your own peace.


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*CHILD DISCIPLINE*

There is a big lie going around today.Some parents say, “I don’t want my child to suffer like I did.”They say it with pride.They think it sounds like love.But they don’t know they are slowly destroying that child.

Because of that mindset, they refuse to correct the child.They don’t give the child chores.They don’t say “No.”They don’t allow the child to face consequences.
They say, “Let him rest, he’s just a child.”They say, “Let her enjoy life, she’s still young.”But they are not helping that child.
They are damaging the child.

If your child cannot sweep the house, how will they keep their own home clean tomorrow?If your child cannot wash plate, how will they survive when they leave your house?If your child cannot say “Good morning” to elders, how will they work with people in the office?
If your child cannot accept correction, how will they handle marriage or leadership?

The world is tough.Life is not always sweet.You will not always get what you want.
There will be days of pain.
There will be days of rejection.There will be moments of “No.”

So if your child cannot hear “No” now, what will happen when life says “No” to them tomorrow?They will break.They will fall.They will run away.Some will even commit suicide because they were never taught how to handle pressure.

Discipline is not wickedness.Correction is not hate.Chores are not punishment.They are training.They are tools.
They are preparation for life.

Your child must know how to clean, how to greet, how to wait, how to apologize, how to handle anger, how to respect people, and how to do hard things without complaining.

Don't make your child soft in the name of love.
Don't make your child lazy in the name of protection.
Don't remove discipline and expect them to succeed.
Don't raise them like kings and queens with no wisdom.

One day, you will grow old.
You will need your child to stand strong.
But if you didn’t train them, they will fall.
And both of you will suffer for it.

So stop saying, “I don’t want my child to suffer like I did.”
Let your new statement be, “I want my child to be stronger than I was.”
And that strength must start with discipline.
It must start with training.
It must start with responsibility.
It must start with you.

*27 WAYS TO BUILD A HAPPY AND LONG LASTING MARRIAGE *

*Marriage is a beautiful and fulfilling relationship that requires commitment, love, and sacrifice.*

No matter what culture you belong to, what religion you believe, what society, level of wealth, or era you live in – one thing common to all people is that they want to be "happy", especially in their marriages.

What Should you do?

1. Love the person you married, not the person you hoped you married. Accept your spouse totally. You cannot love a man/woman you do not accept. Stop comparing your spouse with anyone, he or she can never be somebody else. Until you accept your spouse, you can't get the best out of your marriage

2. Understand each other. No marriage succeeds without understanding. Learn to know one another as best as you can. Understand you are not the same and may never be. Respect that you are both individuals. Get to know each other strengths and weaknesses. Strengthen each other's weaknesses.

3. Be quick to forgive and quicker to apologize. Love forgives. Learn to accept apology. Freely forgive your spouse’s past, present and future offenses. Never refer to his/her past mistakes. Never go to bed with anger or unsettled quarrel. Marriage is two forgivers living together.

4. Ask your spouse, "What can I do for you today?" every single day.

5. Never talk bad about your spouse to other people. Protect him or her and always keep his or her name safe. Fight for each other, not with each other.

6. Have lots of s*x. Enjoy S*x with your spouse. Never withhold s*x as a punishment.

7. Keep the word "divorce" out of your vocabulary. Remember your vows. Review them on a regular basis.

8. Provide for the needs of your spouse and children. Never be stingy to your spouse. Care for his/her needs. Be generous to him/her. Pay your children’s school fees promptly and regularly. Marriage is not 50/50. It's 100/100. Give yourself entirely, and don't hold back. Men, Be sensitive to your wife’s needs. Spend money to beautify her.

9. Be faithful to your spouse. Being unfaithful is the easiest way to completely ruin your marriage. Adultery kills.

10. Understand and learn each other's love language. Either it can be words, gifts, touch, actions, etc. If it is words, then frequently tell your spouse you love and appreciate him/ her. If it is action: regularly do things that they appreciate: either take the garbage out, wash the dishes, cook the food, wash the car, etc
Spoil each other. Keep track of the things your spouse loves and buy them for him or her.

11. Communication is the key to a relationship. Talk like friends and lovers. Don’t make your spouse guess what you are thinking or feeling. Don't expect him/her to read your mind. You should feel free to discuss all things without fear.

12. Always listen attentively to your spouse. Switch off your phone or television, shut down your computer or iPad and newspapers, books and magazine should be closed. The greatest communication skill you can develop is the listening skill. Be quiet and patient while he/she is speaking, when he/she is done, you can express your opinion. Look straight into his/her eyes when he is talking to you or when you’re talking to him. This will make him/her feel that you are interested in what he/she wants to say.

13. Love, respect and courtesy are basic ingredients of happy married life. Give them generously to your spouse. Show your spouse how much you love, care and appreciate him/her regularly. Say, "I love you," every single day.

14. Be honest and show sincere appreciation. Appreciate each other. Show your spouse appreciation for the little things. Be thankful and say so!!! Find something that you appreciate about your spouse and say thank you.

15. Surprise each other with lovely gifts, kiss and s*x.
Kiss passionately. Hold hands. Cuddle. Make physical affection a priority in your marriage.

16. Make quality time for each other. Keep dating each other. Put your marriage and spouse before your children. Play together. Never lose your sense of humor. Make your spouse your best friend.

17. Share everything...no secrets between you. Be open with your spouse.

18. Be polite and courteous to each other. Saying thank you, please and I am sorry.

19. Get rid of bad habits. Don’t do those things your spouse hates. Don’t do things that hurt him/her. Develop a godly character. Don’t create a hostile environment for your spouse. Focus on making your spouse happy. The best way to improve your relationship is to improve yourself.

20. Always be honest to your partner. Lying never gets you anywhere

21. Aim to do something at least once per week together. It does not matter what, even if it is to eat together, bath together, watch movies together, read books together and share light conversation

22. Do NOT look at other marriages and covet. No marriage is prefect. Remember, the grass is not greener on the other side. You will still have to maintain, mow and weed that side too!

23. Work at your marriage. If you ever lack motivation for your marriage and feel like the flame has gone dead. Just try to imagine yourself without your spouse. Talk to anyone who has lost their soul mate and they'll tell you that they will give anything to have back that special someone.

Remember, it is your marriage and you have come this far. Make the best of it. Pledge to yourself that you will do your part and try your best. Remember that you chose your spouse for forever.

24. All issues need to have a solution and be resolved at the time of the conversation. Finish what you start otherwise things just hang in the balance,which leads to future problems.

25. Don't make mountains out of mole hills. Don't waste your time fighting over little things. It's not worth it. Let small things go.

26. Don't broadcast your problems to everyone else. If you need to talk to someone about it, other than your spouse, get a therapist.

27. Above all: Serve God together, Pray together & Pray for one another. Pray for your spouse daily in your personal prayers. Be specific. Talk to God about his or her challenges and trials, and ask Him what you can do to be a better spouse.

You will not fail in your marriage in Jesus name

Kindly share..

*27 WAYS TO BUILD A HAPPY AND LONG LASTING MARRIAGE *

*Marriage is a beautiful and fulfilling relationship that requires commitment, love, and sacrifice.*

No matter what culture you belong to, what religion you believe, what society, level of wealth, or era you live in – one thing common to all people is that they want to be "happy", especially in their marriages.

What Should you do?

1. Love the person you married, not the person you hoped you married. Accept your spouse totally. You cannot love a man/woman you do not accept. Stop comparing your spouse with anyone, he or she can never be somebody else. Until you accept your spouse, you can't get the best out of your marriage

2. Understand each other. No marriage succeeds without understanding. Learn to know one another as best as you can. Understand you are not the same and may never be. Respect that you are both individuals. Get to know each other strengths and weaknesses. Strengthen each other's weaknesses.

3. Be quick to forgive and quicker to apologize. Love forgives. Learn to accept apology. Freely forgive your spouse’s past, present and future offenses. Never refer to his/her past mistakes. Never go to bed with anger or unsettled quarrel. Marriage is two forgivers living together.

4. Ask your spouse, "What can I do for you today?" every single day.

5. Never talk bad about your spouse to other people. Protect him or her and always keep his or her name safe. Fight for each other, not with each other.

6. Have lots of s*x. Enjoy S*x with your spouse. Never withhold s*x as a punishment.

7. Keep the word "divorce" out of your vocabulary. Remember your vows. Review them on a regular basis.

8. Provide for the needs of your spouse and children. Never be stingy to your spouse. Care for his/her needs. Be generous to him/her. Pay your children’s school fees promptly and regularly. Marriage is not 50/50. It's 100/100. Give yourself entirely, and don't hold back. Men, Be sensitive to your wife’s needs. Spend money to beautify her.

9. Be faithful to your spouse. Being unfaithful is the easiest way to completely ruin your marriage. Adultery kills.

10. Understand and learn each other's love language. Either it can be words, gifts, touch, actions, etc. If it is words, then frequently tell your spouse you love and appreciate him/ her. If it is action: regularly do things that they appreciate: either take the garbage out, wash the dishes, cook the food, wash the car, etc
Spoil each other. Keep track of the things your spouse loves and buy them for him or her.

11. Communication is the key to a relationship. Talk like friends and lovers. Don’t make your spouse guess what you are thinking or feeling. Don't expect him/her to read your mind. You should feel free to discuss all things without fear.

12. Always listen attentively to your spouse. Switch off your phone or television, shut down your computer or iPad and newspapers, books and magazine should be closed. The greatest communication skill you can develop is the listening skill. Be quiet and patient while he/she is speaking, when he/she is done, you can express your opinion. Look straight into his/her eyes when he is talking to you or when you’re talking to him. This will make him/her feel that you are interested in what he/she wants to say.

13. Love, respect and courtesy are basic ingredients of happy married life. Give them generously to your spouse. Show your spouse how much you love, care and appreciate him/her regularly. Say, "I love you," every single day.

14. Be honest and show sincere appreciation. Appreciate each other. Show your spouse appreciation for the little things. Be thankful and say so!!! Find something that you appreciate about your spouse and say thank you.

15. Surprise each other with lovely gifts, kiss and s*x.
Kiss passionately. Hold hands. Cuddle. Make physical affection a priority in your marriage.

16. Make quality time for each other. Keep dating each other. Put your marriage and spouse before your children. Play together. Never lose your sense of humor. Make your spouse your best friend.

17. Share everything...no secrets between you. Be open with your spouse.

18. Be polite and courteous to each other. Saying thank you, please and I am sorry.

19. Get rid of bad habits. Don’t do those things your spouse hates. Don’t do things that hurt him/her. Develop a godly character. Don’t create a hostile environment for your spouse. Focus on making your spouse happy. The best way to improve your relationship is to improve yourself.

20. Always be honest to your partner. Lying never gets you anywhere

21. Aim to do something at least once per week together. It does not matter what, even if it is to eat together, bath together, watch movies together, read books together and share light conversation

22. Do NOT look at other marriages and covet. No marriage is prefect. Remember, the grass is not greener on the other side. You will still have to maintain, mow and weed that side too!

23. Work at your marriage. If you ever lack motivation for your marriage and feel like the flame has gone dead. Just try to imagine yourself without your spouse. Talk to anyone who has lost their soul mate and they'll tell you that they will give anything to have back that special someone.

Remember, it is your marriage and you have come this far. Make the best of it. Pledge to yourself that you will do your part and try your best. Remember that you chose your spouse for forever.

24. All issues need to have a solution and be resolved at the time of the conversation. Finish what you start otherwise things just hang in the balance,which leads to future problems.

25. Don't make mountains out of mole hills. Don't waste your time fighting over little things. It's not worth it. Let small things go.

26. Don't broadcast your problems to everyone else. If you need to talk to someone about it, other than your spouse, get a therapist.

27. Above all: Serve God together, Pray together & Pray for one another. Pray for your spouse daily in your personal prayers. Be specific. Talk to God about his or her challenges and trials, and ask Him what you can do to be a better spouse.

You will not fail in your marriage in Jesus name

Kindly share..

I really don’t like a private relationship. I find it strange to not love your partner out loud. No posts, no flirting in the comments, you don’t like or repost their stuff. Little stuff like that. I don’t know, I just don’t like that.

Title: I Wish You All The Best.
A high school junior comes out as nonbinary and is thrown out of their family's home. With nowhere else to turn, they move in with their estranged older sister and her husband. Starring: Corey Fogelmanis, Cole Sprouse.

My love for you runs so deep
that sometimes it overwhelms me.
I get jealous, not because I don’t trust you,
but because I care so much.
I worry about losing you,
not because you’ve given me a reason to,
but because the thought of life without you is unbearable.
I get angry,
not out of frustration,
but because my heart feels everything so intensely when it comes to you.
Every emotion I feel is rooted in how much
I love you, how much I need you.
You are my everything,
and I can’t imagine a world where we’re not together.
Losing you is not an option,
because my heart belongs to you,
now and always.
➥𝐼𝑓 𝑖𝑡'𝑠 ℎ𝑒𝑙𝑝𝑓𝑢𝑙 𝑝𝑙𝑒𝑎𝑠𝑒 𝑟𝑒𝑎𝑐𝑡 & 𝑠ℎ𝑎𝑟𝑒⇅
.
.
.
#youaremylife

*Speak of your upbringing—*
*not to dwell, but to reveal.*
*You are not your past,*
*but its whispers can be heard*
*in how you love,*
*how you pull away,*
*how you stay.*
*Let them know where you come from,*
*so they understand*
*where your silence,* *strength, or softness was born.*

Be with someone who has a provider mindset.

It's not just about money; it's about showing effort, care, and making sure you're okay. When a man loves you, he won't wait for you to ask. He'll take action because your happiness matters to him.

You'll notice it in the small things. He'll check on you, show up when you need him, and make your life easier, not harder. It's not about control; it's about caring and being there for you.

Real love feels safe and generous. You deserve someone who loves seeing you happy. Don't settle for less, you deserve better.

#this #LoveAdvice #love

IMPORTANCE OF SAYING SORRY IN A RELATIONSHIP AND MARRIAGE WHEN YOU ARE WRONG

Apologizing is an essential part of maintaining a healthy, strong, and resilient relationship or marriage. It serves as a bridge to healing, restoring trust, and building a deeper connection with your partner. Here’s why saying sorry is so important:

WHY APOLOGIZE?

1. Acknowledges hurt or wrongdoing
An apology signals that you recognize the pain or harm caused by your actions, showing that you care about how your partner feels.

2. Shows empathy and understanding
It reflects an understanding of your partner's perspective and emotions, demonstrating that you value their feelings.

3. Diffuses tension and conflict
Apologizing helps to de-escalate difficult situations, calming emotions and clearing the air for healthy communication.

4. Rebuilds trust and credibility
A sincere apology demonstrates your willingness to take responsibility for your actions, which helps rebuild lost trust and re-establish credibility in your relationship.

5. Demonstrates accountability and responsibility
Apologizing shows you are accountable for your actions, accepting responsibility rather than deflecting blame.

6. Encourages forgiveness and healing
Saying sorry opens the door to forgiveness, allowing both partners to move forward and heal together.

7. Strengthens communication and intimacy
Apologizing fosters open, honest conversations, deepening emotional intimacy and mutual understanding.

8. Sets a positive example for conflict resolution
By apologizing, you teach the importance of humility, reconciliation, and healthy conflict resolution to others, especially children or those observing your relationship.

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BENEFITS OF APOLOGIZING

1. Reduces stress and anxiety
Apologies clear the air, easing emotional tension and creating a more peaceful environment.

2. Increases feelings of love and affection
A heartfelt apology can rekindle affection, making your partner feel valued and loved, even after a disagreement.

3. Improves communication and understanding
Apologizing encourages open dialogue and helps both partners understand each other better, leading to stronger communication.

4. Enhances relationship satisfaction
Relationships where apologies are given sincerely are more likely to be fulfilling and positive.

5. Encourages personal growth and self-awareness
Apologizing invites self-reflection, allowing both partners to learn from their mistakes and grow individually and together.

6. Fosters a culture of respect and empathy
By apologizing, you reinforce a culture where mutual respect and empathy thrive, making the relationship a safe space for both partners.

7. Helps to avoid resentment and anger
Avoiding the “silent treatment” or holding grudges, a genuine apology helps to prevent negative emotions from building up over time.

8. Promotes a healthier and happier relationship
Relationships that feature regular, honest apologies are healthier and more likely to be enduring because they are rooted in love and respect.

HOW TO APOLOGIZE EFFECTIVELY
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1. Use the "3 Rs" of apology: Regret, Responsibility, and Remedy
Regret the hurt caused, take responsibility for your actions, and suggest a remedy for moving forward.

2. Be sincere and genuine in your apology
Authenticity is key. A half-hearted apology can often do more harm than good.

3. Listen actively to your partner's concerns
Give your partner space to express their feelings and truly listen without interrupting or defending yourself.

4. Validate your partner's feelings and experiences
Acknowledge that your partner's feelings are valid, even if you didn’t intend to hurt them.

5. Offer a specific solution or plan for change
Demonstrate your commitment to improving by offering a clear solution or changes you’ll make moving forward.

6. Follow through on your commitments
An apology is only meaningful if it’s backed up by action. Ensure that you take steps to avoid repeating the same mistake.

7. Show empathy and understanding
Show that you truly understand how your actions have impacted your partner, not just in words but in actions as well.

8. Be patient and open to feedback
Healing takes time. Be patient with your partner and open to hearing how they feel, even if it takes time to forgive.

TIPS FOR MEN

1. Swallow your pride and admit fault
It takes strength to admit when you’re wrong. Let go of your ego to foster a deeper connection.

2. Use "I" statements to take ownership
Phrases like “I am sorry for…” rather than “You made me do…” put the responsibility on you.

3. Avoid making excuses or justifying
Resist the urge to explain away the mistake. Just apologize and focus on your partner’s feelings.

4. Show vulnerability and emotional intelligence
Being open about your emotions builds trust and shows that you care about your partner's feelings.

5. Be willing to make amends
Your partner should feel that your apology is sincere, so be prepared to make real changes if necessary.



TIPS FOR WOMEN

1. Communicate clearly and assertively
Share your feelings honestly and directly, avoiding passive-aggressive behavior or withholding.

2. Specify what you need from your partner
Let your partner know what will help resolve the issue or what you need moving forward.

3. Avoid being critical or judgmental
Offer a soft, loving approach when addressing the issue, rather than criticizing or pointing fingers.

4. Show appreciation for your partner's apology
When your partner apologizes, acknowledge their effort and express gratitude for their sincerity.

5. Encourage open and honest communication
Foster a space where both partners can freely express their feelings without fear of judgment.

WHEN TO APOLOGIZE

1. After a conflict or argument
Don’t wait for too long to apologize. Address the issue as soon as possible to prevent lingering resentment.

2. When you've hurt or offended your partner
If your words or actions have caused pain, it’s important to recognize that and apologize immediately.

3. When you've made a mistake or error
A simple acknowledgment that you were wrong goes a long way in healing wounds.

4. When you've broken a promise or commitment
If you’ve failed to keep your word, apologize and demonstrate that you can be trusted moving forward.

5. When you've disregarded your partner's feelings
Apologizing when you’ve been insensitive shows respect for your partner's emotional well-being.

Saying sorry isn’t just about saying words; it’s about understanding, acknowledging, and healing. By apologizing effectively, you strengthen your relationship, deepen trust, and build a stronger foundation for the future.

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