W0men usually say “I stood by him when he had nothing” “I dated him when he was broke” but never we started dating when we both had nothing. Acting like the broke guy wasn’t her best option at that point in time, like she had a choice? Like she was doing better? It cracks me up a lot.

That statement is actually manipulative if you ask me. You’d think they were giving these men cash or they were doing better financially at that point. The same broke guy was sorting bills for her from time to time out of the struggle and not the other way round. The same broke guy is expected to make it big to pull her up and get her a better life. But you was there when he had nothing? Nah you both had nothing, and he did you a favor.

In conclusion, a w0man dating you when you were broke doesn’t automatically make her a good w0man, til she proves she is based on the values she brings to the table.

Don’t let any w0man manipulate her way through your heart, or guilt trip you into keeping her even when she doesn’t deserve to be kept. Stay guided.

W0men will tell you “I don’t like calls, text me instead”, “I don’t like chatting, typing is stressful”, “don’t call me after 7pm, I don’t do late calls” and then call the guy they like around 10pm, talk for 2hours+, hoping he doesn’t drop the call, type textbooks in the DM of the guy they like and even get aired, they’d still double-text that guy.

They only set standards for men they don’t like, but you are too blinded to see that she doesn’t like you, so you continue to add unnecessary pressure and get disrespected more.

Open your eyes, and choose mutual connection in this 2025.

Life is truly t0ugh, but remember, it wouldn’t make sense without challenges.

Keep pushing forward—your resilience and ruggedness will always see you through.

Don't place me on a pedestal, ain't your role model!

Akwa Ibomite we're